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Q: Those who sell them declare that they are 100% natural and safe, but seriously...who trusts them? Of course they wouldn t say it if they were dangerous.
What is your opinion? If combined with really hard exercise and really healthy nutrition are they safe? If I am about to buy them, I ll ask a doctor first but I want peoples personal opinions.

I don't think they're safe because they might do something to your liver. There's this tea from Japan though that burns your fat but you're gonna get one huge stomache ache! PLUS! If many people can workout or eat healthy to loose fat, so can you -.- don't cheat! Maybe you just need to ask the doctor about like a regime.

Q: this is really gross im not going to lie. My vaginal area has been giving off a really bad odor since yesterday. Im not dirty i shower everyday and i dont have sex with dirty people, im a virgin. Not only does it give off realy bad odors but it leaves stains in my underware that are slightly yellow mostly white and a little bit gewey and clumpy. I will be completely honest becasue i need someone help on this i i was fingered by my boyfriend yesterday and i think it might be becasue of that but hes not dirty and im not either. Whats wrong why am i producng this and how do i stop it from happening? Please help me and thank you

It didn't happen because of your boyfriend. Discharge comes naturally to girls after they started their period and is always happening. It's just to clean out your system. If it bugs you about the underwear, wear a panty liner and as for the smell, you can use perfume. Your skin is pretty sensitive in that area so don't spray it but like on the bottom of your underwear (on the outside of it).

Q: i am way to upsessed with my appearance it is starting to ruin my life i cant go 30 minutes without looking in a mirror and when i do im always depressed because i am so ugly but no one thinks that but me i mean all my friends say i am really pretty and i have alot of guys that like me but i never seems to get that i am pretty through my mind because there is always someone prettier that gets all the attention and it makes me feel really ugly i feel ugly all the time i don't know what my problem is but i think i got a real upsetting depression problem or something what can i do to get over how i look and how my face looks and stuff please help me i have struggled with these problems for about 2 years and i can tell that everyone notices this problem what can i do to get over my appearance

Many girl feel that way so don't worry =)
I don't know if this might help you but one of my friends said:
"There will always be someone who's uglier than YOU"

Q: If that gay guy adds me (and/or his friends) to msn you're soooo dead ;)

btw , please try and do your best deleting my p.s. part or the entire q&a for that matter

Main reason is that here in holland there are quite some ppl that are very interested in my msn. So with my knees on this icecold floor i ask you to do something about it

thanx

Paul

Okie Paul! =) I'll ask the administrater about it

Q: Ok Im a 15 year old male. My sister and mom think Im gay. Imagine your own mother telling you that. I'm def not gay I know me better than everyone else. Even my best fruend austin which knows me the most even more than my family knows im straight, My sister says I think like austin, you guys are always together. However, arent best friends supposed to hang out. This is coming from my own mother, well atleas thats what my sister told me what do I say to them when they say that?????/ I know Im not gay?

Well if it's your sister telling you that your mom said it, than it's probably not true. And anyway, like you said, noone knows their sexuality than you =)

Scare your sister by hanging pictures of girls in bikinis on your wall and when your sister walks in, make you and your friend talk about the girl's curves and stuff to gross her out, works every time 0_^

Q: Hello Hitomi ,

Been a while since i spoke to you ,
just saw the link to your column was in my favorites ;).

I have a dilemma , actually , its no longer a dilemma as i had to make a decision right away. But i'd just like to get your opinion on this matter.

Last week was my first week as assistent-teacher , I work with kids now from the age of 9 - 12 at an elementry school.
Most of these kids are very nice , only the boys in my group are a bit troubled(they demand most attention).

The case :

Last thursday , right after school , a student (i'll call him X )comes back in the classroom right after the teacher is gone. I was still in the classroom as i had to clean a thing or two. X might have been a bit frustrated because the teacher and X had been argueing earlier.
X says to me, "What a fucking bitch" , about his teacher.

What i did is , i said to X that he really can't say that about anyone , especially not a teacher.
And i called the teacher who was right outside the classroom, i told X to tell the teacher what he just said and it ended with X getting punished for what he said( he had to stay after school ).

Please give me your opinion on this matter ,

thanx in advance ,

xx Paul

ps. my msn is hacked now :x , forgot what your msn was again , if you wanna add me , add : ashkate_10@hotmail.com ( old back-up msn ) .

Wow congrats on your job =)

Well I think it's normal for students to call their teacher a bitch because many students in my school does..I guess it's ok as long as it doesn't reach their teacher because it slightly calms them down when they call them a name.

For X, I think you should've let him go because I'm sure he had trouble from the fight with the teacher plus you made him stay with the teacher longer so he might be hating on him. If he broke something though, then you should call the teacher.

=) Just a warning to stay away from the moody kid for a while, I would!

Q: Does anyone know any Asian (Indian/Chinese/Korean/Japanese/Spanish/French/German/etc) punk musicians?

um I'm not sure what punk is like but these are rock:

Japanese:
dir en grey
plastic tree
antic cafe
malice mizer
gackt
ALICE NINE! My fav!

Chinese:
Cherry Boom
Jay Chou
F4 (um..kinda soft)
Huang Yi Da

korean:
The Trax
BoA (a lil)

um..that's all I have in my head at the moment..

Q: why are some breasts bigger than others, what part of it grows? why do others grow bigger than others?

does anyone know.

p.s. yes im flat chested

Oh my god what a funny question LOL

Well some get it from genes, and some are because of different race. One you already might know might be surgery. And when you're pregnet your breasts will get bigger and might stay that way after (like how you might stay fat after you have a baby even though you were skinney before).

Don't worry, I'm flat chested too! =) Be proud! It's less pain when someone accidently throws a ball at that place during gym time.

Q: Okay, Beyonce lost 22 pounds in 14 days by using this diet consisting of lemon juice, water, maple syrup, and cayenne pepper. And Jared Leto (30 Seconds to mars) lost 20 pounds in 10 days by the means of this diet as well. And one of my cousins tried this diet and she lost 18 pounds in 10 days.
I'm guessing that since my cousin tried this diet, it works. Has anyone tried or heard of thie fast/diet? I really want to try it. But how can you manage to live just off that and plain water and nothing else for ten days without fainting or something?

DON'T TRY IT! That's a special diet for celebs only to loose weight fast for a movie but they gain it back as soon as they're done with the movie role. Even Beyonce warned others about it in this site: http://entertainment1.sympatico.msn.ca/Celebs/Bang/ContentPosting.aspx?newsitemid=BSBS40903&feedname=BANG&show=False&number=0&showbyline=False&subtitle=&detect=&abc=abc

Don't cheat! Beauty can take a lot of work for people and you shouldn't cheat by cutting out food! You should be able to be skinney and still eat healthy!

Q: I have a bad odor from my vaginal areas I have not had sex and I wear liners and sprays but they dont seem to help is something wrong with my body?

That's normal because it's part of puberty. By health suggestions, you should wash that area regularly with soap when you're in the shower. I don't know what the advisers mean by spray but if it's a perfume or something, NOT a good idea!

Q: Long thing cut in half. I'm 14/f and I'm bi and I'm not out of the closet and I'm not planning to come out of the closet anytime soon. I have a lot of gay/bi friends and I love them to death and I don't mind. They're out and they're carefree and don't give crap about what others say. But all good things have the iffy side. Some of my friends are homophobes, my family is a huge homophobe, and the school..80% is homophobic. It's really hard to get along with people now that I'm in high school. Some people tend to tease me because I have so many nonstraight friends. One time a group of guys that make fun of me and my bff--who is gay--on the bus rammed me with their shoulders on purpose because I was friends with gay guys. Some people won't even talk to me. And it's really getting hard to keep up this little image where I look perfectly find and don't mind as long as I have my friends. I don't know what to do about that.

And also, one of my gay friends always goes "You're the only straight person in our group. We need to turn you bi" And I don't know what I'm suppose to say. I just laugh it off. But I'm already bi and I can't risk telling them because I feel intiminated and they're really gossip-y so heh no way. Some people ask if I'm bi also because I have so many gay/bi friends. ANd I don't want to say no but I have to or else it gets iffier.

So my questions are: what do I do with the school people situation and what do I say with the "be bi"/"Are you bi" statements said to me?

HA this is the exact same thing going on with MY best friend! here's what I would do about the school situation (if I was brave): I'd get up and defend her and myself no matter how many friends he has(make fun of him saying that you could be more bi and get more girlfriends and boyfriends you could ever get than him if you have to).

And if they are your friends, they'll understand you about being bi. Say that you don't show it and not as open about it than they are- no offense. Maybe you should refraise that sentence instead of saying it exactly cuz i couldn't find a say of refraising that without sounding offensive.

Forgive me for thsi advice because this question is totally different from questions that I usually answered and I answered this one because it's so similar to my friend's.

=) Hope I helped!

Q: do blind people have dreams??

yes..

Q: hey well i need some major help...
im think im kinda fat and i wanna lose weight like 20 pounds!as fast as possible but i dont know how! i tried eating less and i walk to school everyday (as a way of excercise) and somtimes i go on bike rides i dont know it seems like im not losing weight does anyone else have some simple or easy way on how to lose weight at all???

sincerely
wanna lose weight!!

You should excercise first thing when you wake up, maybe jog around your room or house, and doing knee ups because excercising first thing will help your metabolism (digesting system work faster so it digests quicker). Then eat a healthy breakfast. Thanks to the morning excercise, it'll be digested fast so you'd loose some pounds AND you get energy for the day!

Eat healthy food, make sure to look in the nutrition chart. Don't snack a lot either. You should snack only 3 times a day. After that, do NOT eat after 7. This will give your stomache a lot of time to digest eevrything for a long time.

And the number one thing, drink A LOT of water! =) If you're obsese than instead of stop eating at 7, maybe change it to 9 to make it easier and then go down to 7 gardually to make it easier.

And go easy! Don't push things to fast! Things like these take a little time. =) Hoped I helped!

Q: I get horrible cramps during my period and it hurts so much i almost cry. and i almost cant do anything that involves moving. what can i do so it doesnt hurt as much? it still hurts when i take Midol.

Well it IS your stomache emptying..I take this pill suscribed by my doctor and the pain goes right away! Eating banana helps and drinking a lot of water =)

You shouldn't take tylenol and Advil and stuff because it's for stomache pain but this isn't really a stomache pain..

Q: Im really sick with a cold today and I feel GROSS so I thought itd be lovely to take a bath. I want some ideas of ways to have a really, good relaxing bath. I also want to have my own spa for a day :] like nails, any ideas please? oh, and I would LOVE any homemade facial mask ideas! like with fruits. etc. thanks

First of all, it's not good to take a bath if you're REALLY sick because it could make you more sick. I don't remmeber how it does though..yeha that probably won't make you beleive me but really it does! As for a facial mask,you could mix pure lime juice with milk and boil then put on your face when it's not so hot. I heard it works great! Hope you feel better!

Q: lately the past like 3 times i've gotten my period (i've only had it like 4 or 5 times though) it's been like REALLY heavy, and lasts like a week. it's sooo annoying, especially in school.. and it is always getting on my underwear and ugh it's just bad. what should i do?! how can i make it shorter and lighterrrr. ugh i have it now and it's really bad. in school i always feel like it's going through my pants and everyone can see it :( what should i do?!

I heard that if you drink a lot of water somehow it makes it really lighter and not a lot comes out, it works for me but everyone's different

Q: Hey.I wonder if u can help me...My armpit stink very bad.When I sit next to people,i feel very bad,and I think because of that and people are trying to avoid me..Can u give me a hint on what to do please?

Thanks !

If deoderant doesn't work for you than that's ok because some people sweat a lot there so it's pretty useless to wear it if it's gonna get washed out.

You should use an Anti-Perspirant(preferably Certain Dri because it's the best but cheapest too plus you don't need a prescription from the Doctor!).

They block the sweat holes on your armpits so no sweat comes out =)If you use Certain Dri it's very good because you wear it before you go to sleep (make sure to wash your arm pits a few minutes before you wear it on because your armpits must be dry) and it'll make your whole day smell good! You can wear deoderant in the morning also if you feel like it's not enough. =) Good luck!

Q: I'm on something like house arrest and I just need some ideas of things I can do home alone. More like things I can do home alone when video games, tv, computer, and the phone get boring. Any ideas would be really appreciated. Thanks.

I agree that the guy who answered before me is an asshole (but some questions he answered were slightly humour..I might add him) and shouldn't answer serious questions with dumb jokes! He's nto very mature for a 22 year old but that's probably because he has no life..
My advice is to excercise because you can neevr get bored with that and watching movies is great! If you were a girl I'd give you so much more things but I don't think many girls get house arrest..

Q: I have dandruff. I tried using head and shoulders shampoo but it didn't really work. Any tips? I don't like how it shows up on my clothes and stuff. I take a shower every day.

It's probably because dead skin on your head is shedding but it's normal because it can happen frequently around the folds of your nose and the eyebrow areas (may redden there but not on the scalp). If your scalp didn't shed dead skin, you'd have a thick scalp by now. You can try using the shampoos and things other people have listed below but everyone's scalp is different so don't be disapointed if the product doesn't work.
Make sure to get enough fatty acids because they help the itching and eat a diet consisting of 50 to 75% raw foods.
You could make a home remedy of 8 teaspoons of organic peanut oil to the juice of half a lemon in your hair to 5-10 mins before you shampoo. You can also try washin your hair with vinegar and water instead of plain water. Use 1/4 of vinegar to 1 quart of water.
Tell me if I helped!

Q: ok this is gonna sound like really gross but is it normal to get a pimple on your butt once in awhile? cause i have one and it really hurts when i sit down. any advice to get rid of it? thanks. and yeah i know its really grosss.

I don't think you can get a pimple on your butt..I think you're mistaking it for a boil. Sorry but I don't know anything about boils you can search the web or ask your doctor about it though.

bio

After a two year hiatus I am back! I've been on this site since 2006 and things have changed far more greatly since my bright days in my younger years. I've battled with anxiety and depression and I've gotten through it. My life is merely a survival story itself and now I simply want to help others, being grateful for everything I have and simply because I CAN.

Hello you can call me Hitomi^-^
Being a nurse is my passion so feel free to ask me anything and I will try my best

I'll answer every question personally given to me, if you're serious about it.

I am of faith but will not preach in my answers unless the person who is asking for advice is very obvious of being of faith.

Sometimes it is not about getting through the obstacle, but to stay positive within it. Sometimes you are placed somewhere dark so that you can shine to others even brighter!