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What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
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Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
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Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
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'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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Hi, I'm fifteen and female. Like most girls, I have a guy best friend, he has been my friend since 3rd grade, I am now in 10th grade as is he. He's my everything, I got to him with every single problem and he helps me and everything is fine if I handle it the way he tells me. I think I can honestly say he knows everything about me, I talk to him on the phone, I text him practically every night, but we don't hang out outside of school, I know you're probably thinking "if your best friends, why are you only together in school?" I don't really know the answer to that. He is in three of my periods in school, first one is band, the other lunch and the last, history. His guy friends are in band so we don't talk to each other then. In lunch, I bring him his favorite pack of crackers because he loves them, he always smiles and is happy when I have them for him. Then, there's history, I suck in that class and he always helps me, I could text him at 11.3o on a school night to ask for help on the homework and he will answer me. He's just the best. He makes me happy. He used to like a girl that did not treat him right and I did not like her one bit, after things cooled down between them I told him I didn't like her and he said "I really appreciate you looking out for me. We're only friends now, I'm over her." and I was sooo happy. Everyone in my high school says he likes me. My closest friends they can tell just in the way he looks at me, you can see in the eyes when they're looking at someone they really care about. He normally never starts conversations but in the last few we've had, he started them. He plays songs on his guitar for me when I'm sad because he knows I like that but he's still to afraid to sing in front of me. He also writes songs on his guitar, he sent me one and it's about knowing that these 2 people were meant to be together, it was adorable, I asked him who it was about and he said he writes his songs about his friends because nothing ever happens in his life. He tells me some things he doesn't even tell his guy best friend about his brother. He wears one of my fun bandz rubber band animals, he said he wears it all the time, even in front of his guy friends and that says a lot, even though the night before he was going on and on about how much he hates bracelets. I also got him to go to a dance, after about 20 texts of me saying I really want him there, he came and sat at my table with me and his friends. Lastly, he kinda suffers with low confidence and such so he can get kind of depressed, he has this girl who likes him a lot but he didn't have the heart to tell her that he doesn't feel the same so he had me do it. What does that mean? Did he want me to know for sure that he doesn't like her? So, do you think he likes me? Thanks! (link)
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Okay first of all, him telling you to tell the girl that he didn't feel the same way about her is not an indication that he likes you or a way for telling you that he likes you, it just sounds to me like he's a really kind person, so he didn't want to hurt the girl by telling her personally.
Second of all, you two sound like really good friends, and you sound like your pretty tight and close together, but nothing of what you said gives an indication to whether he might like you or not, cause it might be just actions that best friends do, and i mean, you've known each other for so long, so he's so used to you ,and you share everything together and stuff, so you became like a one person. But i can't tell you if he has feelings for you or not, and all you can do is to wait and see, if he has feelings he'll show more obvious signs or he'll tell you, but for now, you can't ask him or hint around, cause if he's not feeling anything, then that might cause problems in your friendship.
Third of all, even if he likes you, do you like him? I mean do you have feelings for him as a date? or Is it just because you think he might like you, so the excitement makes you start to think that you might like him back? cause sometimes when you get together, you start feeling that things changed, and you start missing when you were friends and you think that you were better off as friends. So its not really easy, its a change, cause if things don't work out, and you try to get back as just being friends, it might be complicated then.
Just stop over thinking about it, and let things happen when their time comes to happen, and if your meant to be together, you will be, let things fall to place on their own, and for now, continue to be happy with such an amazing friend like him, such a friend doesn't exist everyday, he sounds pretty great and he sounds like he really cares for you, so don't lose him.
Hope i helped, if you need any other help, please be free to contact me. Best of luck.
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There is this kid in my english class who is super sexy. He has a formspring and on it, it says he had sex with his girlfriend and he cheated on her. Now, they broke up but I think they're trying to work it out. In the meantime, though, he decided to flirt around, he is such a big flirt and seeming as I'm the only girl at my english table out of four people, he flirts a lot. He'll make jokes about our teacher to make me laugh and when I laugh, he'll look at me like he likes watching me smile. Or he'll flip the pages in my book to another story when I'm not looking just so I touch his hand or something. He'll also ask me to help him on things he doesn't understand and after quizzes he'll ask me what I put down for a question he doesn't get. He always starts conversation, I never start it first because I have the thought of him being a horrible player in my mind. What's funny to me is me, him, and his ex are all in the same engligh class, so don't you think he would be spending most of the time with her seeming as they're trying to work things out. I'll see him in the hallways and he'll look at me, smile, then wave and I just melt but I can't like him unless he proves he will have more respect for me. Anyways, that's another story. Do you think he likes me? I know it's not a lot and I'm sorry but that's all I could think of now. Thanks! (link)
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Hey,
To be completely honest, he sounds like a total player and a flirt and is just fooling around and having fun, and i mean, if he really did love his girlfriend, then he would've been upset about the breakup and trying hard to fix things instead of flirting with someone else, which is you, in the same class. And hey, if he could cheat on one girl once, then he has the capability to cheat in any other relationship he gets involved in. And yes it shows he never had respect to his old girlfriend, so that doesn't make you trust him that he'll have respect to you.
I'm not gonna tell you that he's a bad person, he's just a player and many guys just want to have fun, not actually love and be committed, so you should just talk to him normally, be friends with him, joke around every once in a while, but don't get close and don't get involved with him, just act diplomatic from a distance, and don't lead him on to ask you out, or don't give him the impression that yes there could be something between you.
And i know he's one of those sexy guys who just make you unable to resist, and they make you melt all over, and just wanna be with them, and be so blinded to see that they're just playing around with you, so i really hope that the advice you get here would convince you to see that he is just really playing around, and that you should not attempt to be with him.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck.
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Hey, so im not over wieght i look like im in shape but im not!!!! i want to be as healthy as i can be but im really lazy im willing to give a effort now to reach a goal and be more heathy any pointers like what to eat and when or what to do..? ps. i ma a vegatarian :p 16/f (link)
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I think its best for you to consult a diet doctor, some of them are really good, and he'll provide you with a plan to follow, and he'll take in consideration the fact that your vegetarian, and any other factor that might affect you following a healthy diet.
Otherwise, you can quit junk food and fast food restaurants, and eat vegetables and fruits and boiled eggs, and maybe you could go for a run every morning, maybe exercise regularly, go to the gym on weekends.
It'll be hard at first and you won't be used to it, but you'll adapt by time, and usually the doctor includes a day off from the plan in your diet, and he allows you to eat junk and stuff, cause a bit of sugar is good for you every once in a while hehe
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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So for most of my life I've been fat. I just kept gaining weight. Fortunately, I've finally mastered the art of maintain my weight and at least not gaining any more. I'm 16, female, 5'3" and my weight on any given day is between 194-200lbs. I honestly wouldn't care much if I hadn't found out i'm prediabetic. I really don't want to get diabetes so I'm looking for some advice on how to eat better, exercise more, and just lose all this extra weight. I'm a busy person and I don't have a lot of time in my day so please keep that in mind but I'd like to los weight as fast as possible.
Also, I have some issues with motivating myself. Any advice on how I can make myself stick to a plan would also be appreciated. (link)
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Well I think you should consult a doctor, like book an appointment with a good diet doctor, and he'll give you a diet plan, and once you follow up with him regularly, you'll have a reason to be motivated, cause you'd have to follow the plan to achieve a certain goal in losing a certain number of pounds till your next session.
Try also to wake up everyday from early and go for a run or even a walk, and try to go to the gym on your day off. Quit junk food or any carbohydrates, try to eat healthy only, like vegetables and fruits and eggs and stuff.
And these things really work, and many people do lose weight if they are really committed to doing this, just try to push yourself a little, cause you'll like the outcome :D
Other than that, your beautiful the way you are :D Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me.Best of luck!
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my best friend is going to a school dance with my crush, but only as friends. He likes her, but she does not know her feelings towards him. I really like this guy, but i don't want to hurt my best friend either, what should i do... p.s. i need an answer FAST! thanks!!
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Well, maybe your friend has feelings for him too, but she just hasn't told you, and maybe they are going as friends, but she's secretly hoping that he would have feelings for her too and that he would open up and tell her.
You know, i don't know if your that type of person, but sometimes, when both you and your friend like the same guy,you mostly just let go of him for her, and maybe thats what you should do. I mean, he's not the last guy, and i'm sure there are plenty more better ones than him. Cause if you tell your friend that you have feelings for him and that you don't want her going with him, maybe she has feelings for him too, so she wouldn't let go, and then you'd just mess up things in your friendship. And hey, why haven't you shared your feelings about the guy with your friend, i mean if she's your best friend and all, or does she know that he's your crush? If she does know, then thats really low, but from your words, i don't think she does.
And hey, maybe things wouldn't work out between them, maybe once they got to know each other, they wouldn't actually like each other, maybe they'd just be friends. But you can't make a move now with the guy till you know that there is nothing between him and your friend.
And sometimes when you get closer to someone, you don't feel the same way like you did when you knew them from a distance, maybe he's not that nice, you don't really know him. So maybe things wouldn't have even worked out.
Let things follow to place on their own, and do not try to do anything or talk to either of them about it. Just accept it, what happened happened, and maybe next time you should tell your friend that you have a crush on a guy, cause i'm sure if you had told her earlier, she would've never gone with him if she really was a good friend, so she wouldn't hurt you.
Hope i helped, if you need to talk more or if there are any other updates, please be free to contact me.
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im almost 15 my bf is 15 and he's nervous about showing me his penis he says it's small i told him i love him for him i want to please him and do more like give him a handjob but hes insecure how do i get him more confident? how big does a guys penis get? (link)
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Well, the only way to make him more confident is for you to actually see it and tell him that its okay and that you like it and you think the size is not a problem. So just talk to him more about it, tell him that you don't care for the size or for how it looks, and that your sure it will be okay, and that you like him for who he is, and try to convince him to show it to you, try to turn him on, like when your in the middle of kissing or something, try to like open his zipper and pull it out or something, you know, to lead him on to showing it to you, and tell him that its gonna be okay and stuff.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me.
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okay, so me and this guy that i really like were kind of a thing and he really cared about me but we werent going out or anything. but then he got in a fight with another guy that liked me becasue the other guy told him he wanted me so the guy i was with blew up at him. and then i didnt think he would get realllly mad at me.. but i went out on a date with the guy that wants me. and the guy i was with got really upset and now he isnt talking to me. idk what to do. ive said i was sorry a million times. i didnt even do anything with the guy but hes still really upset about it and isnt talking im so confused (link)
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Well, to be completely honest, he's kind of right and he should be upset,because i mean, why would you do that? why would you go out with the guy that you don't like ,but just cause he likes you and wants you, you go out with him? What about the other one , and the thing you have?
The guy that you really like obviously likes you back, and maybe yes you weren't officially dating ,but its obvious by his actions that he treated you like his girlfriend, and that thing may have been an actual big thing for him, and he even went to the extent of standing up and defending you and blowing up in the other guy's face cause he got so jealous that some other guy could want you and take you away from him, and then you came along and you actually did go out with the guy, after what the other guy did for you.
Its confusing for you i know, cause your probably not sure of your feelings towards either guys, and no you don't like the first guy, cause if you really did, you would've never went out with the other one. I think you have no feelings for either guys, and your just having a good time, and treating them as good friends, and thats not a bad thing, but the thing is, that they didn't know that, and they don't get that, so what you did wrong here is that you didn't make yourself clear at what you wanted and at what you were interested in, you gave both the feeling that you liked them and had a thing for them. But thats not the way it works.
So the solution here to this problem, you'll have to figure it out, cause its something to do with how you feel. Do you really have feelings for either one? Do you really like one of them with the real meaning of like? Which one do you want as a lover, and the other as a friend? And whatever you figure out, you have to make it clear to each one of them. And saying sorry won't make it, its practically hurting someone's feelings, and he probably really liked you and did all this for you and then you just went off and with the same guy he blew up at. And you can't tell him just to be friends ,or to have your 'thing' together back, cause for him it wasn't a thing, it was him really liking you. So if you feel the same way, apologize and tell him how you feel, and let go off the other guy and tell the first guy that you left the other one, and even if he doesn't respond immediately,he'll come back to you if he really does like you.
Hope i helped, please be free to contact me if you need any other help.
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Okay,im gonna make this short because its 1:oo in the morning but I really have to get some advice on this problem that i have.so lets begin.My ex bf have been trying to get back with me and its really starting to annoy me.He have screwed up with me so many times in the past and I juss cant take him back.But let me share with you the things he have done so you can get a better understanding of the type of person he is.First he cheated on me with his then ex girlfriend and then he left me for her.Then he started dating one of my closest friend..yeah that hurted like hell.But to make things worse i recently found out that he have also been running game to two more of my good friends.Can you say dog?! So lately I have been talking to a friend that him and i both share but they were friends first.And sum of you mite have guessed that I have fallin for this guy.I really like him and we have the best conversations.Im not a heartless girl and I dont like to hurt people on purpose but thats exactly whats gonna happen if i dont admitt my feelings. Should I tell my ex that im feeling his friend now? or should i just keep my feelings to myself? Do I give in to the dude who have hurted me so many times before or should i start fresh with someone that I really like? Help you guys becuase I really dont know what to do...
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Okay first of all, its definitely No to getting back with your ex, cause he seems pretty much like a big a-hole and he so doesn't care about you or love you, and the only reason he might be getting back with you is cause he's free at the moment, or is bored, or wants some fun. And if you do get back with him, then you'd be stooping your dignity and respect pretty low. He hurt you really bad, and you gave him many chances, and he wasted them all. Maybe him dating your friends is not intentional, i mean, he might not intentionally be dating them to hurt you, they might just be the people he knows, which happen to be your friends, so he keeps falling for them or fooling around with them, you know, just dating your whole circle of friends, he doesn't mean to throw it in your face or anything.
About you and the other guy, i think that your ex hurt you too much for you to even consider his feelings when you date his friend, i know it sounds like your pretty much doing the same thing which you are complaining about him doing with your friends, but i mean, it doesn't have to be pay back or anything, its just that you've fallen for this person and he happens to be a mutual friend between you. And you know what, you don't even have to tell him that you have feelings for his friend, just tell him that your not interested anymore to be with him, cause he hurt you too much, and i mean, if he wasted all those chances you've given him, then its possible that he'd waste much more.
So just completely ignore him, i don't even know why you still talk to him or direct any words to him or care about how he'll feel or what he'll think about you when you date his friend, cause right now, your supposed to have broken up with him and you don't wanna have anything to do with him, so its as if you don't even know him, and that friend of his is just a person you met and you fell for.
But hey, make sure that this friend feels the same way about you, and i'm sure he knows that you were dating his friend (your ex) so i hope that doesn't cause problems or anything, cause he is his good friend and all.
So basically, move on, live your life, and completely ignore him, cause i mean, how come he can go around dating every single one of your friends and treating you like crap and cheating on you and acting like, oh my god, such an a-hole, and then how come you can't do the same thing? Move on, date whoever you want, his friend or his brother, its your business, and he has no right to tell you otherwise.
Hope i helped, please be free to contact me if you need anything else.
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my boyfriend (18) broke up with me (17) about 3 weeks ago. he did this because he had feelings for another girl..who was only 15. at the time he was talking to her he didnt know she was 15, he thought she was older. when he found out how young she was, he stopped talking to her.
i was pretty upset when he broke up with me, but he said he did it because he was confused, and the last thing he wanted to do was cheat on me, and in the end he ended up with nothing and regreted it all.
i snuck out tonight to see him and ended up having sex with him again. he said he was still confused but there might be a chance of us getting back together. i havent been able to concentrate on anything since he broke up with me, and i really want to be with him. i forgive him and want to take him back. should i be this forgiving?, or end it once and for all. i think he was using me tonight, which kills me, but i would do it again for sure..if i did break it off for good...i dont know how i would ever get over him... (link)
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Her being 15 or any other older age is not significant here, i mean, if she wasn't 15, and if she was older, he would have left you and started seeing her, its the concept in general that he broke up with you to be with someone else, no matter who this person is or how old is she. It doesn't make him any better or less wrong that he stopped talking to her when he found out about her age. And about him ending up all alone and regretting everything is exactly what he deserved, cause he hurt you and left you just like that.
About the sex part, i know how it can be hard to let go of it, especially if the sex is good and stuff, and you still have feelings for him and care about him,but these feelings make you blind to accept that he hurt you and since he let you go once, he could do it twice and thrice and as many times as you would stoop down your dignity and respect and still forgive him and take him back. So don't take him back, and i mean, why are you even having sex with him if he isn't your boyfriend anymore? I mean, if you lead him on and show him that its okay to have sex while your not dating, then why would he ever take you back if he's already getting what he wants when he's single.
There is nothing called 'I'm confused', it just doesn't work that way, its obvious he doesn't truly love you, because if he did, he would've never looked to another girl or even broken up with you to be with someone else.
There are so many better people than him out there who deserve you, and these guys would really love you and care for you and you could have all the sex you want with them,but when you have it, you'd know that your sharing it with the person you love and you'd know that he loves you back and that he wouldn't just let go of you any moment and walk away.
Break it off, for good, and don't lose your dignity and respect to someone like that, and yes he's using you and he's not a good person, so don't lead him on, and you move on. Think of the bad things and how he hurt you and is continuing to hurt you by sleeping with you with the excuse that he's confused. That's no excuse.
Hope i helped, if you need to talk more or if there are any other updates, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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today, i was hanging out with my new friend, we get along real well and i was telling her my life story and all the pain and struggles that i went through and my friend starts crying and telling me that i dont deserve any of this, i dont know about that but i am really insecure person and i have a low self esteem i really dont know why she cried because she didnt go through any of this, any clue on why? (link)
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Sometimes there are people who are really sensitive, and they cry just over the slightest thing, like they can cry when they watch a sad or romantic movie, or when they read a touching novel. So here its the same, you told her things that once hurt you, and she was touched by your story and she felt bad for you, so she cried. She was sympathetic.There are alot of people like this, its very common, its nothing wrong that you did or said, she's just like that, its a part of her personality, and if you know her more, you'll see later on more of these incidents.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me.
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Ok so my ex and i broke up last month because of a rumor that wasn't even true but we both still really like each other alot. we text each other all the time but he got grounded from his phone for about a week and when he got it back i asked him why he was grounded, he told me that his phone was calling his mom while he was getting a blowjob...... and im like what the heck!! I mean he keeps saying he is going to ask me back out but he doesn't if he does this when he is single Im scared to find out what he would do when he is in a relationship. But if he ask be back out idk what i would say. What should I think? What should I say? please help me. Im 14 and Female
and P.S. im to young to worry about anything close to that so if he thinks I will do any of that then I will say NO! (link)
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Hey,
To be honest and so as not to lie to you, its obvious that he doesn't like you, or if he once did, he doesn't feel the same way anymore, and if you get back together, it might be just to get physically close to you.
And hey you were dating and you liked each other ,how can he be so blunt and honest so as to tell YOU that he was having a blowjob, he would've never told you if he was hoping to get you back. The only reason he could've told you is to tell you indirectly that he's not gonna ask you out again and that you're not gonna get back together.
Basically, that was so low of him to tell you that, and to actually do that, and if you still like him, then yes that probably would've really hurt you so much, cause i bet that really did upset you,but you have to know, that he definitely doesn't like you this way anymore, and you know, even if he does and is going to ask you out again, you should say no to him exactly as you would say No if he asked for sex, because he just doesn't deserve you and is not a good person.
Its practically as if he's telling you that he is so over you and has moved on and is even enjoying the single life of getting blowjobs, and the lowest thing, is that he's actually sharing that piece of info with you.
So here is the thing, get over him, move on, stop calling him and don't talk to him again, and if he tries to contact you, show him that you don't care and have no interest of getting back together, cause you shouldn't be used as this spare who he'd always have available when he's done with his blowjobs.
You are a good person, and you should be treated with respect, and you belong to someone who really deserves you and loves you, so don't waste your time here with this guy who would only just hurt you more, and he's not worth it.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me.Best of luck!
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16, Female
Last weekend I went to a party, I didn't drink because it was school the next day. I was walking home with my boyfriend and mum had called me and asked where I was. I told her i was almost home, she said that dad was on his way and he wasn't happy. I knew I would be in trouble, and dad would go off at Kieran for being with me.
Turns out instead of going off a Kieran he just left him, to walk home alone. I felt so bad. When we got home dad was yelling at screaming at me, so i just walked away, didn't talk to him for a week after that, it made mum and dad fight I hate doing that to them.
Why are my parents so much more protective than anyone else's?
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Every parent is different than the other, but they all have the same intentions, they all think that they do this cause they are raising their children well and they all want their children to be the best, it just differs in the way they do it, and the rules they set, and what they allow and don't allow.
And believe it or not, some parents are more strict than yours, some don't even allow their children to date at a young age, or go to parties, or drink. And every child thinks their parents are too strict, even the ones who have it so easy. And sometimes even ,when you actually have it so easy, you complain that you have it too easy and that your parents don't give you protection at all or attention. So you are better than others and at the same time worse than others. You are something in between, and however, you should just be grateful, there are always the ups and downs.
And about your parents fighting, and especially if its because of you, i know how that must feel believe me, and it doesn't feel good, just try to do less of the things that make them upset.
And hey, parents always fight, even if their children are perfect, they always find a reason to fight. Just don't stop talking to your dad, on the contrary, talk to him and get closer to him and get on his good side, make him understand you more, make him trust you more by sharing things with him, and maybe then he'd be easier on you. And fill them in on what you do and where you go, I mean, did they even know that you were in that party? Maybe if you'd told them, and told them how you wouldn't drink cause you knew the right thing, they would've trusted you more and not worried about where you were or what you were doing.
They do this cause they are just worried, especially when they don't know where you are, imagine if something happened to you there, and they didn't know where you were, how would that help them deal with it. They have good intentions and they're just looking out for you. I know it sucks and their will always be fights about this, but try to accept it and adapt to it, and just tell yourself, that they don't do this to hurt you or be mean to you, but to look after you.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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i have a crush on this guy. lets call him CG. now i am a very shy person so one day i had my friend find out things about him in a mock interview. CG found out about this and said he only liked me as a friend. some friend he just ignores me now. so one day CG was extremely upset at school. he wasnt his normal self. he didnt joke around with people he was really quiet. when one of the funniest guys at school tried to make him laugh he wouldnt even crack a smile. he just walked around with this sad little puppy face and it was pretty heartbreaking. so later on i asked him on facebook if he was ok, hoping that he would come talk to me about his problem and that i could make him feel better and maybe he would want to talk to me more. but he never answered he just signed off and the next day never said a word to me. as i wrote this it almost didnt seem like a big deal to other people but idk i feel kind of hurt by this. everytime i try to talk to him, its like he doesnt want to talk to me and that he wishes i would just go away. i apologized for the whole mock interview thing and he said it was ok but he still didnt talk to me. i was going to ask him to a dance next year but im starting to see no point of it if hes just going to ignore me forever :( is there any hope for me with this guy? do i just forget about him or keep trying (link)
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Hey,
To be completely honest and so as not to give you hope or lie to you, no you don't have a chance with him. And thats not something bad, cause maybe you have a chance with someone better than him, someone who would really love you, and who would run after you instead of you trying to get his attention, and someone who would care for you and ask you to the dance himself.
And i know you probably feel hurt, ofcourse you do, i know how it feels, been there and done that before, and it feels sad and humiliating and its like your running after someone and losing your dignity and respect, when this person is just completely ignoring you, and to be honest, he's not a bad person and he didn't hurt you, but neither are you a bad person, but the thing is, that he proved his point a long time ago that he doesn't like you that way, and he said you could be friends, and maybe he's right, maybe if you yourself get closer to him, as a friend i mean, you'd learn that he isn't really what you thought he is, cause sometimes when you get closer to someone you find that they are not the same as what you thought from a distance.
Stop following him and running after him, for several reasons, so you wouldn't lose him as a friend not only as something more, and so he wouldn't think your stalking him or something and he'd get freaked out and tell people about you or something, and so you wouldn't hurt yourself, between you and yourself you wouldn't feel to happy, that your running after someone and that someone doesn't care at all, its not a good feeling, and i know that cause i've tried that before, it doesn't make you feel good.
So seriously, you've been liking someone since last year now, i mean, if anything was meant to happen, it would've happened already, but nothing happened, and nothing to make you upset, its just not working out, i'm sure there are other guys, better ones who deserve you, and who you can be with without running after them. He's not the one, so stop hurting yourself emotionally, he's not worth it baby.
Hope i helped, if you need to talk more or if you need anything else, please be free to contact me.Best of luck!
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I know this sounds completely messed up, and might gross u out. but i need help. sometimes when im bored, ill just start scratching my head to the point where it bleeds and forms scabs (very little ones!) and now i cant help but pick at them and scratch them. theres no reason i do it, its just a realllllllly weird habit. i dont know whats wrong with me?! any tips on how i can make it stop? (link)
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I haven't experienced that before, and i don't know anyone who does that, but it definitely sounds like something that you can't control ,so i think you should consult a doctor, maybe he'd recommend something.
Other than that, habits take alot of work to quit,and you know, its just like, biting your lips till they bleed. But you know what helps, sometimes when you put something on your lips, like some kind of cream or lip gloss or lip balm or something, it makes you not bite it, so you wouldn't bite on the ointment, you know. So maybe if you put something on your head, that might help.
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I really need to find out whats wrong with me. Im almost 17 and ive never had a bf or my first kiss. Not to sound conceited, but TONS of people talk about how "gorgeous" and "nice" I am. Some people WONT even beleive me when i tell them ive never had a bf. I always see these nasty, uglier, RUDE girls get ALL these guys. But ive never even had one. I guess maybe its cuz im shy around people i dont know, but if you talk to me im NOT. Ive became more outgoing and flirted with guys.. but i cant seem to find anyone im actually interested in. I just wanna know what it feels like to have a bf. (I dont just want one to have one.) I feel almost like im missing out on my teen years. Sometimes i even get depressed thinking im doing something wrong. Any advice? (link)
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Your not exactly doing anything wrong, but your probably the type of person who wants something specific in a boyfriend, and once you can't find that thing, the guy doesn't interest you. But every person has a good side and a bad one, and everyone has his own faults. Their are sometimes people who just think in this way ,so different than others, and they think that it would never work out with anyone but if they meet a person who is exactly like them, like has specific qualities, and thats probably how you are, its not a bad thing, its just part of your personality.
Just try to loosen up, try to take it easy, give guys a chance, meet the bad and the good, have good and bad experiences, get hurt and then move on, and meet others. It doesn't have to be someone who you are completely interested in, you can even be with someone who just one thing in him really interests you.
And hey, dating is not always something wow, its full of problems and trouble, and getting hurt and cheated on, and treated bad. It does still have a good side, of the feeling of being in love, and the nice words, and going out and having fun. Its just like a friendship or any relationship you experience in life, it has the ups and downs.
And its not something bad that you've never dated before,its actually unique and respectable, and maybe one day if you get married, and you have your very first kiss with your husband, other than with a boyfriend, now that would be really special, and your husband would be so happy, he'd feel like you saved it all for 'the one'.
Basically, these things come by time, you can't make it happen, or you can't make yourself like someone or someone to like you, just be yourself, cause if someone would ever be with you, he'd be with you for who you are and that self of yours, not the person you've changed into to make guys like you. Your great the way you are, your probably just not meant to be with someone now, but maybe one day, you will, and that person is gonna be really special, and worth all your teen years and all the time you missed out on being with someone.
Hope i helped, please be free to contact me if you need anything else. Best of luck!
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Im going on vacation and staying with my uncle and I know ill be on my period part of the trip. Sometimes when I visit, he never has a trash can in the bathroom. Last time, i put one on there (cuz i was also on my period at the time) and his dog got into there..took out all the pads and tampons from the trash can and chewed them all up ALL over the living room. So disgusting and embarassing. I dont want it to happen this time, so what am I supposed to do with the pads and tampons? I cant just shut the bathroom door so the dog doesnt get in there because there are going to be a lot of other family also staying at his house at the time. So theres no way I cosntantly keep check on that or the stupid dog. And theres no place in the bathroom where i could put the trash can so the dog doesnt get it. Any suggestions? (link)
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Try to wrap your pads and tampons in an opague plastic bag and throw it out in the trash,the one in the kitchen or elsewhere in the house,don't worry, it doesn't release a bad smell. Or make a big plastic bag and put it in your closet or somewhere hidden in your room and throw in it your things, and then throw the bag out when you finish your period.
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I'm 17/f. My boyfriend of 2 years and I are going to a concert this summer and I really want to lose my virginity to him soon, so I figured why not that night? After the concert, I was wondering how I could somehow initiate it or give him a sign that I want to have sex with him THEN? I dont want to kill the moment by discussing it beforehand because I know it'd make him AND me feel uncomfortable knowing. I want to let it happen on it's own without making it seem awkward. How do I initiate the moment? (link)
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First of all, initiating the moment... well when you get to the moment where you start kissing, start kissing more fervently, and do the things that most turn him on, and kiss him on the neck, maybe get on top of him, or grab his penis, or start kissing him everywhere on his body, and just show him that you don't want to take it easy, you don't want him to stop, that you want to continue till you actually have sex, and this usually comes with feeling, its not something mostly to say or do. And if he asks you what are you trying to do, tell him, make love to me, but at that moment, it won't be uncomfortable, cause you'll already be in the spur of the moment.
Second of all, if your not planning to get pregnant, then use protection, maybe you could get some protection with you, but honestly, its gonna be kind of weird, that you planned all this on your own, to have sex and lose your virginity and you even got protection, maybe it would be a bit freaky to him, but if you think it'd be cool with him, then go for it, other than that, maybe you should tell him right after the concert,if you don't want to tell him too early beforehand, but just so he'd go get some protection or something.
And hey, if you love each other, it will happen on its own, and it won't be awkward, and that's what we call, making love not having sex, you don't plan for it, it just happens.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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i really want this guy to like me
hes really shy and like.. incredibly nice
but im not that shy and im outgoing.. (hopefully)
im 15f and hes about 1yr older (link)
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Well, you must take a step inorder for anything to happen. Go up to him and talk to him and start a conversation, see what you have in common, see what he likes and what he doesn't like, what his favourite thingys are, maybe hang out with him every once in a while.
You see sometimes people are different when you get closer to them than when you know them from a distance, so take the first step as getting to know him, just being friends with him, maybe he wouldn't turn out to be what you thought he'd be or maybe you wouldn't still like him the same way, but if you do, then stick around and see how he feels about you, and who knows, maybe he'd tell you he likes you before you tell him, and maybe he'd ask you out.
But you can't say you like someone without doing anything about it and just hanging around in the sidelines, you gotta make a move,and the first move is always to just be friends, don't rush into things or jump to conclusions.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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my period was due the 2nd of this month(may). it still hasnt come. i took the pregnancy test and it came out negative, and i dont feel like its on its way either. what should i do?! (link)
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Its most probably late due to period irregularities, or otherwise, due to stress your feeling because of some reason, and sometimes also when you stress over your period not coming, that just makes it come more late, so what you should do is consult a doctor, and he'll give you the proper diagnosis and tell you what to do.
Hope i helped, if there are any updates or anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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So there are two boys that sit behind me in one of my classes, and ive noticed they've become very obsessed with me. They are always trying to get my attention, calling my name every 5 minutes, just making a bunch of annoying remarks. They even found out where i worked and showed up one time. Now they keep bugging me trying to figure out which days and hours i work. I avoided answering because im sick of them bugging me and showing up everywhere. As mean as it sounds, I dont want to have anything to do with them because they are just creepy to me. Im not very good at being honest about how i feel about people. So lately ive been ignoring them(after they yell my name about 4 times) and when they try to talk to me i just turn back around and dont say anything. Ive been doing this for weeks, hoping they'd get the hint that i DONT want to talk to them. But they dont get it! What am i supposed to do without being rude about it? (link)
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I know how you must feel not wanting to tell them to leave you alone cause that might be mean or embarassing to them, but its not when they are invading your privacy and your life. Obviously they have a motive in what they are doing or they are just simply whack! Either ways you don't wanna have anything to do with them, so you shouldn't care how they'll feel when you tell them to leave you alone, cause you have to tell them that, it doesn't have to be in a bad way, or don't fight with them, but in a polite way, tell them that you don't like how they are following you everywhere and how they keep calling your name and bugging you, and tell them that you've tried dropping hints nicely, but they just don't get it.
Because some people can become really obsessive after time, and i'm not telling you this to scare you, but you never know their motives, and their are psychos out there, now i don't know if your in school or college, you just said 'classes', either ways, after you tell them to leave you alone, if this continues and in a worse way, you'll have to tell someone elder, maybe a teacher or whoever is in charge in the place you take classes, or tell your parents or something, or change your place in class, or if you have security where you work, tell them not to let them in or something, but thats only if things get really out of hand, which hopefully they won't, they're probably just wasting time and having fun, and because your too nice and your not complaining or doing anything about it, so you lead them on, so tell them off.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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