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guy trouble
my best friend is going to a school dance with my crush, but only as friends. He likes her, but she does not know her feelings towards him. I really like this guy, but i don't want to hurt my best friend either, what should i do... p.s. i need an answer FAST! thanks!!
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Give your friend the first chance. Friendships always last longer than relationships.
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Well, maybe your friend has feelings for him too, but she just hasn't told you, and maybe they are going as friends, but she's secretly hoping that he would have feelings for her too and that he would open up and tell her.
You know, i don't know if your that type of person, but sometimes, when both you and your friend like the same guy,you mostly just let go of him for her, and maybe thats what you should do. I mean, he's not the last guy, and i'm sure there are plenty more better ones than him. Cause if you tell your friend that you have feelings for him and that you don't want her going with him, maybe she has feelings for him too, so she wouldn't let go, and then you'd just mess up things in your friendship. And hey, why haven't you shared your feelings about the guy with your friend, i mean if she's your best friend and all, or does she know that he's your crush? If she does know, then thats really low, but from your words, i don't think she does.
And hey, maybe things wouldn't work out between them, maybe once they got to know each other, they wouldn't actually like each other, maybe they'd just be friends. But you can't make a move now with the guy till you know that there is nothing between him and your friend.
And sometimes when you get closer to someone, you don't feel the same way like you did when you knew them from a distance, maybe he's not that nice, you don't really know him. So maybe things wouldn't have even worked out.
Let things follow to place on their own, and do not try to do anything or talk to either of them about it. Just accept it, what happened happened, and maybe next time you should tell your friend that you have a crush on a guy, cause i'm sure if you had told her earlier, she would've never gone with him if she really was a good friend, so she wouldn't hurt you.
Hope i helped, if you need to talk more or if there are any other updates, please be free to contact me.
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If he already likes your best friend, there probably isn't much you can do. You can't force someone to like you and it's really hard to break up that chemistry once it starts.
Your friend knows that you like this guy, right? I think you should let her go to the dance with him if she wants to. It's always possible that things wont work out between them or that they'll never start a relationship in the first place.
The bottom line is, you can't force this guy to like you back and it would be pretty mean of you to force your friend not go to the dance with him on your behalf. BUT, that doesn't mean you shouldn't tell your friend how uncomfortable it makes you feel that she's going with him. Maybe she will decide not to go because of how you feel and maybe she wont. In the end, there isn't much you can do.
Try not to get mad at her if she chooses to go with him or even date him later on. That's why it's important that you talk calmly with her about how uncomfortable the whole mess makes you. If you do, you are less likely to explode later on from all the little things you've been holding in, and she is less likely to hurt your feelings without even realizing it. Good luck. :)
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