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Not you..but your friend?
Okay,im gonna make this short because its 1:oo in the morning but I really have to get some advice on this problem that i have.so lets begin.My ex bf have been trying to get back with me and its really starting to annoy me.He have screwed up with me so many times in the past and I juss cant take him back.But let me share with you the things he have done so you can get a better understanding of the type of person he is.First he cheated on me with his then ex girlfriend and then he left me for her.Then he started dating one of my closest friend..yeah that hurted like hell.But to make things worse i recently found out that he have also been running game to two more of my good friends.Can you say dog?! So lately I have been talking to a friend that him and i both share but they were friends first.And sum of you mite have guessed that I have fallin for this guy.I really like him and we have the best conversations.Im not a heartless girl and I dont like to hurt people on purpose but thats exactly whats gonna happen if i dont admitt my feelings. Should I tell my ex that im feeling his friend now? or should i just keep my feelings to myself? Do I give in to the dude who have hurted me so many times before or should i start fresh with someone that I really like? Help you guys becuase I really dont know what to do...
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Okay first of all, its definitely No to getting back with your ex, cause he seems pretty much like a big a-hole and he so doesn't care about you or love you, and the only reason he might be getting back with you is cause he's free at the moment, or is bored, or wants some fun. And if you do get back with him, then you'd be stooping your dignity and respect pretty low. He hurt you really bad, and you gave him many chances, and he wasted them all. Maybe him dating your friends is not intentional, i mean, he might not intentionally be dating them to hurt you, they might just be the people he knows, which happen to be your friends, so he keeps falling for them or fooling around with them, you know, just dating your whole circle of friends, he doesn't mean to throw it in your face or anything.
About you and the other guy, i think that your ex hurt you too much for you to even consider his feelings when you date his friend, i know it sounds like your pretty much doing the same thing which you are complaining about him doing with your friends, but i mean, it doesn't have to be pay back or anything, its just that you've fallen for this person and he happens to be a mutual friend between you. And you know what, you don't even have to tell him that you have feelings for his friend, just tell him that your not interested anymore to be with him, cause he hurt you too much, and i mean, if he wasted all those chances you've given him, then its possible that he'd waste much more.
So just completely ignore him, i don't even know why you still talk to him or direct any words to him or care about how he'll feel or what he'll think about you when you date his friend, cause right now, your supposed to have broken up with him and you don't wanna have anything to do with him, so its as if you don't even know him, and that friend of his is just a person you met and you fell for.
But hey, make sure that this friend feels the same way about you, and i'm sure he knows that you were dating his friend (your ex) so i hope that doesn't cause problems or anything, cause he is his good friend and all.
So basically, move on, live your life, and completely ignore him, cause i mean, how come he can go around dating every single one of your friends and treating you like crap and cheating on you and acting like, oh my god, such an a-hole, and then how come you can't do the same thing? Move on, date whoever you want, his friend or his brother, its your business, and he has no right to tell you otherwise.
Hope i helped, please be free to contact me if you need anything else.
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From what you've said, the answer seems clear to me. Start fresh. Your ex has had plenty of chances and he's screwed up all of them. He's hurt you over and over again...do you really want to get hurt again? Sure, his friend might end up hurting you, too, but at least you don't know that he will. Your ex seems almost guaranteed to hurt you again.
Really, this is one situation where I'm not sure you should keep talking to your ex. If he continues to press you to get back with him even after you have clearly said NO, he will probably keep at it until you eventually cave in out of frustration. Don't let that happen. You deserve someone better than him.
See how things go with his friend. You might be surprised. :) As for whether you should tell him...I think it will just make him mad no matter how he finds out. He probably wont leave you alone even after you say you have feelings for someone else, and it'll probably open up a big, nasty can of worms between him and his friend. You should tell his friend how you feel, first; if you two start dating, then you should both tell your ex together. Good luck.
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