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okay, so me and this guy that i really like were kind of a thing and he really cared about me but we werent going out or anything. but then he got in a fight with another guy that liked me becasue the other guy told him he wanted me so the guy i was with blew up at him. and then i didnt think he would get realllly mad at me.. but i went out on a date with the guy that wants me. and the guy i was with got really upset and now he isnt talking to me. idk what to do. ive said i was sorry a million times. i didnt even do anything with the guy but hes still really upset about it and isnt talking im so confused
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I think if you are "with" this one guy, then you shouldn't of gone on a date with the other guy. I would be very upset as well. You need to realize which guy you like and stick with him. Unless you just want to be single then you can go on as many dates as you'd like. The guy you're with is probably really jealous and thinks you're just using him. Which would make guys really upset, he'll thinks he's just the rebound. You need to decide on who you like and who you'd rather spend your life with, if you don't know and can't decide then i'd recommend being single until you can decide and know what you want out of life.
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Well, to be completely honest, he's kind of right and he should be upset,because i mean, why would you do that? why would you go out with the guy that you don't like ,but just cause he likes you and wants you, you go out with him? What about the other one , and the thing you have?
The guy that you really like obviously likes you back, and maybe yes you weren't officially dating ,but its obvious by his actions that he treated you like his girlfriend, and that thing may have been an actual big thing for him, and he even went to the extent of standing up and defending you and blowing up in the other guy's face cause he got so jealous that some other guy could want you and take you away from him, and then you came along and you actually did go out with the guy, after what the other guy did for you.
Its confusing for you i know, cause your probably not sure of your feelings towards either guys, and no you don't like the first guy, cause if you really did, you would've never went out with the other one. I think you have no feelings for either guys, and your just having a good time, and treating them as good friends, and thats not a bad thing, but the thing is, that they didn't know that, and they don't get that, so what you did wrong here is that you didn't make yourself clear at what you wanted and at what you were interested in, you gave both the feeling that you liked them and had a thing for them. But thats not the way it works.
So the solution here to this problem, you'll have to figure it out, cause its something to do with how you feel. Do you really have feelings for either one? Do you really like one of them with the real meaning of like? Which one do you want as a lover, and the other as a friend? And whatever you figure out, you have to make it clear to each one of them. And saying sorry won't make it, its practically hurting someone's feelings, and he probably really liked you and did all this for you and then you just went off and with the same guy he blew up at. And you can't tell him just to be friends ,or to have your 'thing' together back, cause for him it wasn't a thing, it was him really liking you. So if you feel the same way, apologize and tell him how you feel, and let go off the other guy and tell the first guy that you left the other one, and even if he doesn't respond immediately,he'll come back to you if he really does like you.
Hope i helped, please be free to contact me if you need any other help.
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