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Players are no good.
There is this kid in my english class who is super sexy. He has a formspring and on it, it says he had sex with his girlfriend and he cheated on her. Now, they broke up but I think they're trying to work it out. In the meantime, though, he decided to flirt around, he is such a big flirt and seeming as I'm the only girl at my english table out of four people, he flirts a lot. He'll make jokes about our teacher to make me laugh and when I laugh, he'll look at me like he likes watching me smile. Or he'll flip the pages in my book to another story when I'm not looking just so I touch his hand or something. He'll also ask me to help him on things he doesn't understand and after quizzes he'll ask me what I put down for a question he doesn't get. He always starts conversation, I never start it first because I have the thought of him being a horrible player in my mind. What's funny to me is me, him, and his ex are all in the same engligh class, so don't you think he would be spending most of the time with her seeming as they're trying to work things out. I'll see him in the hallways and he'll look at me, smile, then wave and I just melt but I can't like him unless he proves he will have more respect for me. Anyways, that's another story. Do you think he likes me? I know it's not a lot and I'm sorry but that's all I could think of now. Thanks!
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Hey,
To be completely honest, he sounds like a total player and a flirt and is just fooling around and having fun, and i mean, if he really did love his girlfriend, then he would've been upset about the breakup and trying hard to fix things instead of flirting with someone else, which is you, in the same class. And hey, if he could cheat on one girl once, then he has the capability to cheat in any other relationship he gets involved in. And yes it shows he never had respect to his old girlfriend, so that doesn't make you trust him that he'll have respect to you.
I'm not gonna tell you that he's a bad person, he's just a player and many guys just want to have fun, not actually love and be committed, so you should just talk to him normally, be friends with him, joke around every once in a while, but don't get close and don't get involved with him, just act diplomatic from a distance, and don't lead him on to ask you out, or don't give him the impression that yes there could be something between you.
And i know he's one of those sexy guys who just make you unable to resist, and they make you melt all over, and just wanna be with them, and be so blinded to see that they're just playing around with you, so i really hope that the advice you get here would convince you to see that he is just really playing around, and that you should not attempt to be with him.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck.
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Likes? Who knows. Wants to fuck you? Probably. Does this mean he's a player? Not necessarily.
There are plenty of methods for feeling us guys out.
The simplest one is to date a guy and not let him get past first base for at least three months. If you're really in doubt, keep the relationship as far away from sex and sexual interactions as possible, and see if he still enjoys spending time around you or if he only talks about/pushes towards getting laid.
The second is to watch his eyes. Guys are going to check you out if they're interested, there's not a straight man among us who can resist glancing at cleavage and such. But a guy who genuinely respects you will keep it to a minimum, will look embarrassed if he's caught, and will spend the majority of his time looking places other than strategically revealed skin on your part.
The third is conversation. Does he talk about himself entirely? Does he listen to you and ask questions about you? Does he seem like he wants to get to know you, or is it all physical? Does he remember what you say to him (big one, bring up past conversations a week or two later and see how much he remembers)
Truthfully, you're better off leaving it alone. If he cheated once he will be willing under the right circumstances to cheat again, it hasn't been enough time for you to assume any level of maturity growth on his part.
In other words, this is a guy who will likely love you as long as you give him exactly what he wants. The second he doesn't get his way, the problems will start.
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