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there's this girl that I can't talk to well I mean I don't have enough confidence to talk to her. I don't know what to say to her but I really like her a lot give me some advice to help me.
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Look at something she's wearing or something she's holding. For example, if she's holding a book, ask her about it. Tell her you were thinking of reading it but you didn't know if it would be any good. Or if it's something you already read, ask her how she's enjoying it.
You can start a conversation off of basically anything. If you know one of her favorite bands just put out a new cd, ask her if she's heard it.
Tell her a joke. She'll be more likely to open up around you if you can make her laugh.
Compliment her. It's even better if you can compliment something about her that nobody else has, like her ability to put up with frustrating people.
I hope this helps.
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14/f.
I like this guy, on a scale of 1-10 i like him about a 7 or 8. We'll call him "ben". K, i have NO IDEA how he feels about me. I'm a terrible flirter, I'm not exactly pretty, but there was a myspace bulletin about telling the person who posted it exactly what you felt. I tried to be as honest as I could manage without absolutely embarrassing myself. So I said:
"i think you're funny, cool, cute, and i think you're musically intelligent.
uhm, i think you're absolutely amazing.
and i think you think i'm a total freak now,
and you're going to laugh at this."
So I reposted the bulletin that way he would reply, and he did :]
he said "well... i think ur...
hilarious
cute
and.....the best writer i know:]"
idk if he was saying "cute" to be nice and not make me feel bad, or if he actually thinks i'm cute?
&& when I posted a pic of my new hair color [i got pink highlights] he said "cute:]"
so i don't know if i'm just supposed to sit back & kind of let him chase me, and play hard to get, or ask him out, or at least tell him i really like him. ick, help? thanks. (link)
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Playing hard to get with someone you don't talk to or see often is kind of a risky move. He could take it as a sign that you don't like him at all if you kind of brush him off and play hot and cold.
You should just tell him that you like him and would like to get to know him better. Saying you'd like to get to know him better is kind of a non-pressuring way of asking him out. But since you're not technically asking him out, if he likes you back, he should ask you out, unless he's shy of course, and in which case you should just ask him to hang out this weekend.
Hope this helps.
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ok I shaved some of my pubic hair [i'm a girl and 13] once with a razor just to see what it would be like, and i THINK i used either shaving cream or soap but it was probably soap. it's so thick and coarse! like if a shave a patch off you can see the hair under my skin so thick and about to grow in, and when its all shaved down there it looks like little black lines under my skin. If you have continued to read this w/o getting grossed out, you are a special person I can tell you that. What is a way I can shave where it will be nice and smooth down there? (link)
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What you're seeing is the roots of the hair. Since pubic hair is thicker, the roots are easier to see when you shave them than when you shave your legs or underarms. It is even easier to see them if you have really pale skin.
To get bikini ready without the little black dots, try using a dipilatory. They make them especially for bikini zones so they're extra gentle. Just make sure you read the directions so you don't get a rash down there.
Or if you would rather not deal with the mess of a dipilatory, try a bikini wax. You can go to a professional (but you may have to have parental permission since you're under sixteen) or you can buy them in prepared strips.
Hope this helps!
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Well i got my hair done for grad. I took a shower and used shampoo and extra conditioner to get rid of the huge amount of hair spray in my hair.
MY Hair is itchy as hell right now and i don't know why! help me it's killing me! (link)
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Well, this could be happening for a number of reasons. It could be that you didn't get all the shampoo or conditioner rinsed out of your hair and if that's the case, all you have to do is rinse it in cool water to help releive the itch.
But it could also just be that your scalp is really sensitive and the extra hairspray that you had to use for graduation irritated it a bit. Just use some gentle shampoo, like baby shampoo, to wash it for a couple of days. The hairspray could have dried out your scalp which could be the cause of the itchiness.
Hope this helps!
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what are some good excuses to say i dont want a boyfriend
cuz i like this guy and he asked me out two weeks ago, and i said ask me later, but now he did again this morning.
so what are some nice ways to say no? because i like this guy a LOT, i just really, truly dont want a boyfriend
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You don't really need an excuse. Just tell him that you would like to live the single life for a while.
But if you would like to casually date him, as in being able to hang out with other guys too, you should tell him that. Just make sure he knows that there are absolutely no commitments and you're not monogamous.
Hope this helps.
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My boyfriend and i have been seeing each other almost every day, and i still really really like him, i just need a day without him. It's come to the point where even the little things he does that wouldn't/shouldn't bother me normally and are just little pet peeves are having me question our relationship, even though i know i'm being stupid and blowing this out of proportion. The only problem is that he sent me this really long email last night about how he misses me already even though it's only been like an hour since he saw me and how much he wants to see me today, etc, etc. I don't want to lie to him about why i can't see him today, but i would really like to let him down easily. any suggestions? (link)
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Tell him you need a girl's day. If you've been spending every waking second with your boyfriend, you probably haven't spent much time with your friends. Tell him you want to spend a day just hanging out with your friends and he should do the same without talking to each other twenty times and you'll talk to him tomorrow.
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I have the best husband in the world i love him so much.....but there is one BIG problem he abuses me....he hits slaps pulls my hair elbows me pushes me....but there is another problem i love him to much to leave him i love him so much so leaving him is not an option....what should i do?
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I know you don't want to leave your husband, but honey, your love for him is not going to stop him from hurting you.
If you stay with him, he is just going to keep doing this to you because he knows there are no consequences for his actions. He needs to know that if he keeps abusing you, something is going to happen that he isn't going to like.
I know that after he does this, he probably says he's sorry and pampers you for a while and says he will never hurt you again. But we both know that he WILL do it again no matter how many times he says he won't. He'll be frustrated from a day of work and feel like beating the crap out of his boss. But he can't because he doesn't want to be fired, but of course, he knows that he can hit you. Because you've never tried to stop him.
Trust me, abuse is not love. You don't hurt the people you love like that continuously.
If you want to stay with him, you need to talk to him about maybe attending counseling or an anger management class or you won't be able to stay with him. If it doesn't work when you're the only one telling him, stage an intervention.
If he doesn't get help, one day he could take it too far and then you won't have to worry about whether or not you should leave him.
I'm telling you, getting him help will help you too. It will save your life, and your kids if you have any.
Please don't let him continue to abuse you. If you're scared and anxious whenever you're with your husband, you can never be truly happy with him because you'll always be worrying about the next time he's going to hit you. Am I going to be able to cover it up? Will my friends notice? Will he put me in the hospital, again?
You need to start a kickboxing or karate or any self defense class so you can defend yourself if ever the situation gets out of hand.
Do this for you.
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Lay 'em on me girls! I want all your beauty tips - no matter how weird! Of course the guys can help too, but I though this would be more up the girls' alley!
What I mean is - I recently found out how amazing you look after tanning, or what a HUGE difference tweezing your eyebrows make! And if someone would have just told me this sooner I could have saved myself a lot of tears, i look 10 times better now and in 10 days I've gotten more boys than I ever have in my life! (i used to be bullied, boys wouldn't even look my way!)
So help me - tell me what you've got?! Any discoveries that completely changed your life (or atleast your look!) ?
Thank you! It could be anything from eye-make up to ... well, anything really. Haha :)
Thank you and have a good summer! (link)
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To get dewy skin, put a thin layer of vaseline on your face before going to bed. It doesn't clog your pores and makes your skin look like it has a beach glow.
To get my hair really clean but not dry it out at the same time, I mix one third ketchup and two thirds mayonnaise and leave it in my hair for five minutes. I rinse it out then shampoo twice and condition once. It makes my hair super soft and silky.
to make my eyelashes look fuller, i use an eyeliner with a super pointy tip and draw a thin line on the underside of them.
To make my eyes look larger, I use a white eyeliner to line the inside of my bottom eyelid. It makes my eyes pop.
Hope these helped.
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ok so me and 3 other of my friends are making a band and we need the perfect name. i wouldnt say we are emo but we are a punk rock band if that helps. i need some names for the banmd like can someone list me some potential(possible) band names. we want it to be weird like yellow card, my chemical romance, and greenday. like we want weird names. we are 15 and 16 if that helps. thnaks alottt. i rate! (link)
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Here are a few that I think sound cool:
social deviants
swallow your tongue
just for show
my life story
you're my problem
red water
no play
the ironicists
doorstop
I can't think of any more.
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My friends ALL tell me I'm emo.
I don't dress any particular way, I wear random stuff, and nobody else I know would DARE dress like me.
I am really down a lot, and I have contemplated suicide more than once[and planned it].
I really hate people saying I'm emo, because I don't mean to. How can I stop??
Unfortunately, the other side of me is that I'm "really smart" but I'm also a complete ditz. I never get whats going on around me, because I'm so caught up in what I'm thinking.
Yet, I also have weird sensory crap going on. I am really really sensitive, and I can tell right away if something's wrong with those I'm close to, even if they're not there. I get feelings telling me to call them.
Someone HELP. I am so sick of feeling alone.
Suicide is on the table again, but I'm trying not to. PLEASE HELP! (link)
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If you have friends that label you and make you feel like crap, then they're not very good friends and I think you should find people that won't judge you about things like that.
You shouldn't have to change who you are just because someone else doesn't like it. YOU like it and that's what's important.
Find people that are into some of the same things as you so you'll have something in common. The people that matter in life won't care what kind of clothes you wear or how smart you are or how ditzy you are. They'll just care that you're here.
About the suicide thing? I'm not going to tell you that I 'know exactly how you feel' but I am going to tell you that I've been there. I may not have had the same exact problems that you have, but I've contemplated it. It was like nobody understood how I was feeling and what was a huge deal to me didn't matter at all to everyone around me.
I had a plan too. I even wrote a letter. But then one of my friends surprised me and said that if I killed myself, she would kill herself too. It's like Marilyn Manson said. When you have someone who is willing to die with you, you don't want to die anymore.
Here are some hotlines you can call if you need someone to talk to:
1-800-784-2433
1-800-273-8255
1-630-482-9696
Or, if you ever need to talk, you can ask me a private question or IM or email me. I'll get back as soon as I can.
Your life is precious and even though you think that no one would care that you suddenly weren't there anymore, there's always someone that couldn't live without you.
About your comment: Emo isn't a type of hairstyle or clothing style. It stands for emotional, and you can't 'not be' that. If you try to be prep or goth or jock-ish, you'll just be a poser.
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my girlfriend and i ha ve been going out for almost 9 months now and the school year has just ended. i spent most of my time with her during the school year and now summers here and her friends want time in to.
i dont have a problem with her friends or if she hangs out with them but im not used to sharing her so whenever im not with her i get depressed and sad. do you think she might want to break up with me if i continue act like this?? (link)
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Well, if she spends more time with you than with her friends she'll realize you have taken 'their' time away from her. It's okay to want to be with her, but you have to want to be with your friends sometimes too.
So, instead of getting upset and depressed, make time with your friends when you know she's going to be with hers. That way, you'll have more time together when you're actually together and you'll have something new to talk about.
Hope this helps.
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is it true that you burn calories if you masturbat? and if you do, how many? (link)
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I'm not sure how many calories exactly, because I have no idea how much movement you're actually making, but yes. Anytime you move, it burns calories and when you sweat, it burns more. So, the more you do it, the more calories you burn.
hope this helps.
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I love to masturbate with my cousins and friends is that bad? (link)
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I'm not sure if you're a boy or a girl, but it's normal for young guys to masturbate with other guys their age. Where do you think they got the term 'circle jerks'?
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hey. ok, this is probably a really stupid question but i'm really confused. i just resently started listning to tyler hilton's music and i love it! but i went to his website, and everything seems old. like from 2004 and 2006. and everyone on the messege boards is talking about new music and stuff, but i can't tell if it's new music from like 2004, or is he coming out with a new cd THIS YEAR (2007)?? lol. cause on itunes, his last cd was in 2004. and on his website it says that he is working in the studios on new music for a summer release. idk!! i'm sooo confused!!!!!! if anyone can give me any or all info, that would be much appreciated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i just want to know anything. thanks! (link)
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The last cd he has had came out in 2005. I haven't heard that he has any new cd's coming out anytime soon, but he is participating in two movies, and he's supposed to help out on the soundtracks.
Hope this helps.
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Where can I lok for bank teller jobs and office assistant jobs? (link)
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Go to jobster.com and type in the position you want in the left box and your town in the right one.
Hope you find one.
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I'm a college guy, and I'm in a long distance relationship. I have to talk to my girlfriend on the phone, because she needs to hear my voice. I tend to always say stupid things and make her really upset. What are some things I can keep in mind to keep from hurting her feelings on the phone? (link)
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Well, it's probably not just stupid things you say. She misses you. When she hears your voice, she probably realizes just how much.
Since you're trying not to say anything to hurt her, you're kind of watching yourself at what you say, and girls can sense that kind of thing. And sensing that, she can sense that the relationship is changing.
When someone moves away that you're close to, it's kind of like you lost them, even if you know they're there. And it's easier to get upset or angry than to have to deal with the fact that they're gone.
So, to ease her fears about your relationship changing, you need to talk to her like you would if you were talking on the phone to her at home. I know you're making new friends and have more experiences now, and it's okay to tell her about them, but you have to make sure that you're still keeping her a part of your life.
Like, if you're telling her a story about something funny that happened, tell her that you wish she was there to share the laugh. Or if you were worrying about something, tell her that you wished she was there because she always makes you feel better.
Basically, you just have to make sure that she knows you're in for the long haul, because that's pretty much what she's worrying about. She probably thinks that she isn't such a large part of your life anymore because it's long distance and you don't see each other nearly as much.
Hope this helps.
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Are there any MALL JOBS someone can have at 15?
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Well, most clothing, accessory, ect. stores won't hire under sixteen, or some places at eighteen. But, if there is a food court in your mall, they would probably hire at fifteen. But it might differ in different places.
But, if you can't find a job at the mall, you could try coffee shops, babysitting, grocery stores, fast food places, or even waitressing. There are lots of places if you put some thought into it.
Good luck with the job hunt.
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Ok here's the deal.I'm 15 f.My sis is a lasbian.FOR REAL!!!!But see I watch movies with my guy friend, and if i see someone kissing or messing around in bed (not sex) I get REALLY horny.Then I look over at my friend and I start thinkin' about "it." Then I just get more horny when we have a friendly hug good bye.What should I do about this? (link)
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If you're attracted to your guy friend and would like to have a casual no strings relationship with him, then friends with benefits could suit you both.
You should make a move on him if you're horny.
If that doesn't work out, go to your room and play naughty nurse by yourself.
Hope this helps.
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Gosh! I hate the fact that I don't know how to flirt! Everyone says that guys dont like me because of the way I act. I'm 14/f and these guys are like 16 or 17 maybe. My cousin keeps telling me that she doesnt act like I do but she didnt have b/fs when she was my age either! Shes 16 and she said the way I act is a turn off! PLZ HELP! (link)
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Well, you didn't exactly tell me how you act, so I'm not sure exactly what to say. But, if she means that she didn't act like a tomboy or something like that, then you shouldn't worry about it. Go after guys that like sports and hiking.
If she means that you act immature, then I would have to say that that isn't such a big deal either. Guys like girls they can be big kids with. They hate to grow up.
The biggest flirty gestures, you don't even really have to think to do, they are so simple.
When you're with a guy, pretend that you have to fix your hair, or if you have it down, put it in a ponytail or a clip in front of him. Pulling your arms back and up to reach your hair will emphasize your chest while also bringing his attention to your hair, which most guys like to run their fingers through. You can also just play with the ends of your hair while you're talking to him, but subtlely, so as not to make a show out of it.
Also, you can put on lip balm or even just lick your lips. It brings his attention to your mouth and he may wonder what it tastes like or what it would be like for him to run his tongue along your lips.
Just catch his eye and smile.
When you're walking by him and you catch his eye, kind of look away, but then turn around and catch his eye again for a few seconds before you keep going.
Straighten his clothing slightly or dust an imaginary piece of lint off his shoulder.
Hope these help. Just ask if you need more.
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How bad is it to cheat? I mean we always hear about it being the lowest of low, but I have friends who've had sex with other people and their boyfriends forgave them. Is it really all that big of a deal? My boyfriend is in Europe with some attractive girls that are always crushing on him, I've pretty much accepted the fact that he might cheat because I know how flirty he can get without realizing it. How bad would it be if I cheated, just kissing or so? I would like to know, so I'll be prepared to react in the right manner if anything happens by either of us.
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People cheat for a number of reasons. They could be feeling emotionally alone and need some kind of comfort on a physical level. Or, it could be because their other half is just bad at the physical side of the relationship.
In your case, I would say that it is the former. Your boyfriend is in another country and you're basically feeling left out of his life.
Personally, I don't think you should cheat just because you think your boyfriend might. What would you do if he didn't and you did? Wouldn't you feel like a piece of elephant shit for hurting him like that? Guilty because he stayed celibate until you guys were together again while you were out playing tonsil hockey with some guy you're never going to see again.
If your boyfriend cheated on you, then there's obviously something wrong on his end. Just because he flirts does not mean that he will end up cheating. If he can't stay faithful in a committed relationship, then he doesn't deserve you.
Think about it this way. Would you shave your head bald just because you think someone else MIGHT do it too? No, I don't think so, so why would you risk ending your relationship and hurting your boyfriend just because you thought he might do the same thing?
I hope you work this out.
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