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Cheating
How bad is it to cheat? I mean we always hear about it being the lowest of low, but I have friends who've had sex with other people and their boyfriends forgave them. Is it really all that big of a deal? My boyfriend is in Europe with some attractive girls that are always crushing on him, I've pretty much accepted the fact that he might cheat because I know how flirty he can get without realizing it. How bad would it be if I cheated, just kissing or so? I would like to know, so I'll be prepared to react in the right manner if anything happens by either of us.
Thanks.
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Look, if it doesn't bother you, then react as you please. I mean, there is no "right" way for you to react.
Personaly, I think that the only thing wrong with cheating is if they person lied and went behind your back. Sex is sex. That's all. It's a natural thing we do. People try to add this whole love/romance crap because they watch too many movies.
(i'm not saying it's ok to be a whore and sleep around either... so dont get me wrong..)
You just have to talk it out with him. Be honest with eachother. If there is limits you want to set, than do that. But I don't think you need to live in some fantasy world, like most people do.
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Personally, yknow, it's not as bad as murdering anyone or something, but it's probably the worst thing you could do in a relationship... When you cheat, it shows that you aren't really that serious about the person you're dating and don't really care what happens to the relationship. If you think your boyfriend might cheat, there's clearly a lack of trust between both of you and you should definitely work that out/talk about it. Hope it works out ;]
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In my opinion, nothing hurts worse than cheating.
It ruins all the trust in your relationship, and feelings just fade.
When I was cheated on last year - I never got over it. I still don't. Cheating doesn't belong in any relationship. There's a reason why you're in a relationship, and thats so you can be TOGETHER, not with other people.
If you are so afraid he'll cheat, then you must be underestimating your feelings for him.
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Well, it all depends on the persons morals. If you have to ask if it's really that bad to cheat, then you must not think it's that bad. In my opinion, at a younger age like 14-16 there really isn't a thing called "cheating". I think of it as "shopping around" ya know? Your just exploring your options. Your young. That's what you should be doing UNTIL you find the "right" one of course. But if your 18 or older, I think that's pretty low because at that age people are more mature w/ relationships and cheating and hurting the other person just isn't acceptable.
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Cheating is stupid, if you want to kiss other people you're obviously not into the person you are with. I'm not being rude, I am simply voicing my opinion.
And boys who forgive silly girls who cheat should really look at the big picture. If they were really sorry for cheating, because trust me, you will be sorry one day, they would have thought about it.
Plane and simple, if you cheat, you obviously don't care about the person you are with, or their feelings.
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It all depends on who you ask. Everyone has a different view on certain topics so you'll never get the same answer.
Personally, however, I find cheating awful. I used to be an idiot, and I had a great relationship with a boy I loved. I cheated on him losing my relationship & everything in my world. Not only did I hurt the person I loved, but I fucked myself up & it was a really hard thing to deal with. Now that I've learned from that & have grown up a bit, I view it as a horrible thing.
If you really love someone, you'll stay faithful because you know that they would do that for you as well. Although some people will not stay faithful, it's best you do it to them. Two wrongs don't make a right, so don't cheat. It sucks to do it because then you lose someone you love & you'll never get them back. Most people don't give second chances too, and if they do, then they're either too forgiving, or they love having their heart broken. Honestly, stay faithful. You'll be proud of yourself in the long run.
And if your boyfriend does happen to cheat on you while in Europe, dump his ass. Flirty or not, I don't give a damn. There's no reason to cheat on someone you claim you love.
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People cheat for a number of reasons. They could be feeling emotionally alone and need some kind of comfort on a physical level. Or, it could be because their other half is just bad at the physical side of the relationship.
In your case, I would say that it is the former. Your boyfriend is in another country and you're basically feeling left out of his life.
Personally, I don't think you should cheat just because you think your boyfriend might. What would you do if he didn't and you did? Wouldn't you feel like a piece of elephant shit for hurting him like that? Guilty because he stayed celibate until you guys were together again while you were out playing tonsil hockey with some guy you're never going to see again.
If your boyfriend cheated on you, then there's obviously something wrong on his end. Just because he flirts does not mean that he will end up cheating. If he can't stay faithful in a committed relationship, then he doesn't deserve you.
Think about it this way. Would you shave your head bald just because you think someone else MIGHT do it too? No, I don't think so, so why would you risk ending your relationship and hurting your boyfriend just because you thought he might do the same thing?
I hope you work this out.
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The view differs from people to people. Some people might not care and some people care. Some people are in b/w and some go to the extremes [emotionally]
I personally don't think cheating is the best thing. I mean if the other person cheats, there's no reason for you to cheat--just break up with the other person and go kiss other people so there's not cheating for you. But basically, I think cheating is a horrible thing to do to your partner and vice versa. It's not worth it if you really love your partner and if you do cheat, you don't deserve your partner.
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