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I really want to die i cant stand my life anymore and i need a way to go painlessly please help me end my sufferring.
I totally understand how you feel. However, we are not allowed to give advice on how people should kill themselves.
Anyway, I am sorry you feel this way, and I hope that things get better for you.
hope someone can help-
this guy we were friends like way back.. then lost contact for ages.. suddenly has been getting close and really giving me all the attention thru texts and dinners... i know for a fact he can be busy... but he does have time to text me like 100 times a day (exaggeration) but u get it, a certain good morning to start the day and definitely a good night to end it...and lots in between...
OUT OF NOWHERE this all disappeared.
fine.. we never discussed what we were or what that was about. we were just nice and sweet.
BUT NOW I MISS IT
and i have no idea what ever happened!!
he sometimes says hello been busy ... then i reply then NOTHING EVER anymore...
so i kinda told him, "should i even reply because youre too busy to text back" and of course NOTHING.
where was the "friendship"?
why did this guy act this way???
i am so confused, disappointed and here i go again- confirming my fear of committment and trust issues are really getting the better of me.
why cant he open up or what?!?!
at least i thought i was a friend he can open up to .. :(
am 34...
In my opinion, no matter how busy you are you have time to reply to a text. People often use "busy" as an excuse to not do things, and this is what it sounds like to me.
Now, I have no idea what kind of relationship you guys had beyond what is written in the question, but the way this guy is acting, it sounds very much like he liked you more than friends. If I am right, then he is now trying to distance himself so as to be able to move on.
Again, I can't be sure, but I have seen this pattern many times. The guy tries to get close, the girl somehow sees it all as a friendship, eventually the guy realises he will get nowhere and so he breaks it off so as to be able to heal and move on.
Anyway, only you can tell if I am on to anything here. If I am not, well... it was worth a shot :P
Good luck :)
hello! how can i get a big penis! because mine is not that big!
is there anything will help me?
please advice!
There is nothing which works other than surgery, and that is very risky business. All the pills, exercises, and whatever else people think up do not work. The pills can sometimes be outright dangerous.
Unfortunately, we are all stuck with whatever nature gave us.
I have been going out with my boyfriend since 4 . 20 . 2012 Our relationship hasnt been all that perfect the two things is were in a LDR & He's type boring . Plus , I dont even love him I just have a feeleing when I see this month for the first time all the feelings I dont have for him will bloom. My ex came over and spent the night because hes my brother friend and we end up making out . But no feelings are there for him at all . It was just something to do . He has an girlfriend and I have a boyfriend .
Not sure what the question is... but, if you want general advice, here goes:
Break if off with your boyfriend, he deserves better. What you do with your ex is up to you, but I am thinking his girlfriend deserves better too (feel free to pass that on).
See, a relationship is about trust and commitment. Once you violate that, you are just using and deceiving the other person. Its not just about your feelings and what you like to do, and this seems to be all you are thinking about.
Honestly, I don't even think you are ready for relationships. Perhaps the best advice is to wait a few years.
HI so my bf is getting an operation done .. its not rll serious but yes any operation is painful .. i asked him if i could know the name of the hospital and he said no ... because he doesnt want me to c him weak like that .. i totall understand that manly feelings that guys have but .. as his gf i want to show up ... n give him flowers .. hold his hand through his pain! but m worried that if i show up (by asking his brother the adress of the hospital) he might get mad!
m rll confused .. pls help meh! what should i do? go c him or stay at home n give him my luck through the phone?
Well, I would not go there if he expressly asked you not to. I am not saying he is justified to act all macho, but if this is the way he deals with things then your presence might make the whole thing harder on him.
The only thing I would do is call him and try one more time. Explain to him what it means to you, but don't push. Then if he still says no, respect his wishes and let him go through it alone.
You guys can always talk about it afterwards and figure out if things should be different next time.
Ok so Im 13/f and Im just wondering what the average weight is for my age? If Im over or under a bit then I want to work out a bit more or eat some more to gain some weight because I do not want to be under or over weight. So what is the average weight for my age/
You cannot use average weight as any sort of indicator without considering your height and your build.
The most common tool that people use is BMI (which relies on height and weight) and you can find endless BMI calculators online (just google BMI calculator). Unfortunately BMI is a rough indicator at best since it does not take build into account.
The best thing you can do, as obvious as it may sound, is to use a mirror...
I have only played about ten times in my life. It's really confusing. I have heard of open, middle, and end moves. Do they really play a key role? I am so bad I lose or draw on level 1 on my computer. I have won once. I am not the planning ahead type thinker. How do you build fortresses based on possible moves down the line? I am always many steps behind. Please help.
Giving you specific advice when you have only played 10 times is going to be very tricky. So let me just start by saying that the first thing you should do is play a lot more.
Ok, first off, yes chess has an opening, middle, and end game.
Basically in the opening stage each player chooses his strategy (influenced heavily by the opening that white selected). You can use books or online resources to learn about the different openings.
In the opening phase you need to think about piece development. The idea is to bring as many pieces as possible into a favourable position and to do so faster than your opponent. Remember chess is all about controlling the four centre squares
A few opening tips include (these are general tips, not etched in stone):
- Develop pieces that can exert influence on the four centre squares (e.g. developing your knight to c3 is a lot better than to a3)
- Develop knights before bishops
- If possible, try to develop with a threat (e.g. if your knight threatens a piece, your opponent might be forced to move it, slowing his development)
- Do not charge out early with your queen (she becomes a target for your opponent and way for him to develop while forcing you to move her around)
- Castle early
One thing to consider is that some lead to more open positions and some to more closed positions. Closed positions lead to slower, more tactical games, without many opportunities for combination play.
The middle and end game is very hard to talk about because there are virtually endless possibilities. In the middle game there is normally less space and the game is more cluttered. The opening that you have selected will usually come with a strategy of where to focus your efforts.
The end game is characterised by fewer pieces and open lines. This is where rooks truly become effective and where bishops are better than knights (knights being somewhat more effective in the middle game where they can jump around over the clutter of pieces).
Ok, let me try to give you a few general tips and see how that goes:
- First, you have to learn to think ahead. Chess players use a tree structure. You split the possibilities into branches in your mind and you take each one individually. How far you take it depends on your ability. Make the move in your mind, picture the board as it would look then, and ask yourself what possible counter-moves could my opponent have? Then take each one (like a separate branch) and see where it would lead.
You should be able to exclude very bad moves right away and focus on the ones where there is some potential.
The trick is to learn when to pursue a branch deeper and when to discard it. Its also very important to be methodic. Beginners often jump back and forth, consider one option in one branch then get another idea and look at that instead, etc. Its ok if you cannot thing very far, just
learn to be calm and structured.
- Read about chess openings. There are countless resources online and a google or perhaps youtube search will do wonders. Stick to basic strategies and common openings.
- Practice until you have understood the basics and then you can start looking into specific openings and what they mean to the game (right now I doubt it would make much sense).
Good luck :)
Well my relationship has lasted like 8months, but during the 5th month we had many fights and break-ups. I had loved that boy and he says the same but i just dont feel it. We insulted ourselves in the end but got together as friends with benefits. He is always calling me names, stupid-dumb-bitch-etc and he says he is joking, also he is always calling me loser and he says out loud the things i hate most. No body of my family-friends likes him, so we are together hidden. My sister says is abusive mentally for him to say those "names" more then 5 times a day. Also when he gets mad at me just because i did something wrong he gets like sooooo angry, i get scared, he looks at me bad and say it's my fault even when it is not. He has never payed me anything i bought him food, tickets to a movie, and when im hungry and have no money he only buys food for himself and not for me. :( oh and his mom hates me to death...
I dont know what to do, it is so hard to move on, is he using me??? does he loves me?? should i stay away from him? :/ thanks
Your sister is right, this guy is no good at all. When he says those things he does so for a reason. It could be because he wants to feel dominant, it could be because he takes some sort of satisfaction from hurting you, but it is certainly not just "joking".
I feel strange even giving you advice after reading your question. You pretty much answer it on your own. The guy is abusive, bad tempered, none of the people who care about you like him, and he acts like a selfish jerk.
Its hard for me to imagine that someone could act this way towards a person they love, but even if he does feel some sort of love it is not particularly relevant to your situation. What is relevant is the way he treats you. You have plenty of people (of both genders)in physically and mentally abusive relationships with a spouse that may (in their own weird and twisted way) actually love them. Surely, you don't want to end up there do you?
So yes, move on and stay away. You need a clean break.
I m 15year old boy i want a sex relation ship with my sister. One day me and my sister alone in house my dad and mom gone out for shopping me and my sister Were fighting each other i suddenly i thought that i want to touch her breast so i pull her boobs so she fell down on bed.., she also come and pull me she also come and tare my shirt and i got angry and i tared her top so she stand in front of me with bra only she ask u want to tare my dress so i say yes., say want i want to do
What on earth is the question here?
(And by the way, this post is disturbing on several levels)
I have a friend whom I have known for about 4yrs.. I knew this guy when I was 16 and he was 28... Now I am 20 and his 32 and we both like and care about eachother a lot... But I am too scared to date him because of the age difference, I am still in the university and his a working class guy... He talks about starting a long term relationship that would lead to marriage but I don't know if he would want to spend the rest of his life with me I am still quite young for marriage and I have planned to get married at 26 but I don't know if he would want to wait that long since I am still young I love him and I want to be with him but I am afraid he would move on along the way when he sees I am not ready pls tell me what to do
The one thing that struck me about your question is how much speculation there is in it. You heard him talk but you aren't sure what he wants, you are afraid he might not want to wait etc.
For me the age is not important, its just whether you can work out what you want out of life.
Honestly, I think you should talk to him, maybe go out on a date and chat about the things you both want in the future (including how soon). He may want a family but it might not be something he needs to have right now. The problem is there is no way to know this without having that chat. It would be a shame if he was willing to wait and you never found out...
So either go on that date or just have a friendly heart to heart conversation with the guy. Then you can both decide what to do without guesswork :)
Good luck.
Hi, I'm a 23 year old female and I'm hoping for some advice from people who have experience on this -- the internet can have some very contradictory information when it comes to fitness.
I've recently lost a good amount of weight (down from 180 lb to 150 lb) and I think I'd like to lose about 15 lb more to hit my goal. But I'm not looking to be "skinny fat" -- eventually I think I'd like to try out fitness modelling.
My workouts consist of biking, kayaking, hiking, lifting weights/bodyweight exercises, doing CrossFit about 2x/week, and occasionally going for a Bikram yoga class.
My problem is that I don't really have a good structure to these things; I like exercising but I sort of just do whatever I feel like in the moment, and don't focus too much on specific goals. How should I organize/focus my workouts throughout the week to achieve my goals of losing the last 15 lbs while gaining muscle and strength? How much rest is necessary and when would be the optimum time to place it?
Oh, also, I've got my diet under control - I eat meats and fish, vegetables, fruits, nuts and seeds, with some dairy and no grains or legumes.
Thanks to anyone who can help me out with this!
There is no one single way to structure a workout. I read the answer below and while it is not wrong as such, I do not agree with it either.
First, you may or may not benefit from splitting up your weight training. For some people who use weight training as a supplement, a full body routine run 2 or 3 times a week is great. Personally I am into powerlifting, and for me the best split is push (i.e. chest-shoulders-triceps), pull (back & biceps), and legs (squats etc.).
As far as I understand your goals, I would suggest the following:
Design two full body weight training routines and alternate between them. Use big compound, free-weight exercises and use different exercises on each day (I will provide a sample below). Free-weight compound exercises yield far better results and they also give you functional strength since they train all the stabiliser muscles. Just focus on getting the form right.
You can run your weight routine Mon-Wed-Fri or just Mon-Fri depending upon your own recovery rate.
Then, you can use interval training (as suggested below) once or twice per week. Interval training sessions do not need to be long since they are very intense, 30 mins max. On top of this add cardiovascular work with sessions that are at least 30 mins long. How many should depend on your specific ability and goals.
In terms of structure, if you do weights and something else on the same day, do the weights first and take a protein shake afterwards. Cardiovascular work can be done almost daily, while interval training and weights require one or more days break. Always leave (at least) one complete rest day per week. I would place it after your most intense day.
Also, pay attention to signs that you may be over-training. If you start to feel excessively tired or even a bit sick, lower the intensity (particularly of things like interval training).
Your best goal is to lose the excess weight first. During this period, weight training will serve not as a means of gaining muscle, but more as a means of retaining the muscle you have and thereby protection your metabolism during the weight loss period.
Then, once you have lost the weight, you can increase your calories (keeping your diet clean of course) and look to gain the strength that you want.
Here is a sample full body weight training routine. I designed this for a beginner not long ago, and it emphasises training the core. It is based on big compound lifts like the squat, deadlift, etc. Dont be afraid of these exercises by the way (women often are for some reason :P) they are the most effective things you can do at the gym by a long shot.
Do 2-3 sets of each exercise. Rep ranges are indicated for all exercises except those training the lower back and abs. There one would typically do higher rep ranges, perhaps 20-30, but it depends a lot on personal ability. Always focus on getting your form perfect, and never train to failure (meaning that your last rep should be completed with good form).
Day 1
- Squats 8-12
- Romanian deadlift 8-12
- Flat bench DB press on stability ball 8-12
- Standing DB shoulder press 8-12
- Pull downs / Pull ups (wide grip) 8-12
- Hammer curls 8-12
- Crunches (weighted if necessary)
- DB side bend
- Hyperextensions
Day 2
- Deadlift 8-12
- Pushups (depending on ability, if too easy substitute with bench press) 8-12
- DB lateral raise 8-12
- Pull downs / Pull ups (narrow grip) 8-12
- Dips (triceps version) (if too hard then substitute with another triceps exercise) 8-12
- Superman
- Cross body crunch
- Leg raises
You can find an excellent collection of exercises outlining the correct form and so on here:
http://www.bodybuilding.com/exercises/
Good luck :)
Ok, so my partner and I attemped to have intercourse for the first time (us both being virgins) but everytime I would try getting him turned on and attempting ro put a condom on, he would go soft again and with his member being small how would we go about having sex, as its frustrating for both of us, I love no matter what size he is I was just wondering how would him and i go about doing these things, PLEASE HELP
Ah, the condom problem. That is actually far more widespread than you think. Everyone talks about safe sex, but there are many guys out there that have a huge aversion to condoms. I hate the bloody things personally despite how necessary they are.
The way I see it you guys have one or two possible problems. It could be the condom issue, or it could just be first time nerves. The latter is extremely common and could manifest itself as either the inability to stay hard or as premature ejaculation (two wonderful extremes lol).
You have a few options. You could try a device that keeps the blood in once he gets hard. They sell special rings which you can get online or in sex shops. This is hear-say for me, so I have no idea how well they work etc.
You can also talk to a doctor and get something like viagra if its an ongoing problem.
What I would suggest you try first is to simply try again, but to make it light hearted and without nerves and expectations (as hard as that sounds). In many, many cases all it will take is a bit of patience.
In regards to his size, some positions are better than others. I found this article online with a simple google search:
http://tantraecstasy.blogspot.com/2007/05/6-penetrating-positions-for-small-penis.html
Well, good luck.
i'll try to be as short as possible! :)i'm 21, f, 5'7", and i honestly really dont know how much i weigh. i really love the features i have right now (butt, wide hips) but i have some pudge and arm fat that i REALLY want to get rid of quickly. i understand exercise will make me lose weight in every area, but is there a way i can really focus on losing weight and lose fat around my arms and belly without completely getting rid of my rear end and thighs? thanks so much in advance.
Not really no.
You cant control where fat comes from - or at least when spot reduction has been detected it was so little that it is negligible. You might get lucky... thats something else, e.g. if your genes "decide" to prioritise the right areas first.
But there is no way to force it.
My girlfriend is addicted to vicaden and three weeks ago, I found out from my bank statement that she stole almost $900 dollars from my ATM card. I confronted her and she told me she wasn't going to tell me if i never found out. She is feeling guilty and very sorry. She has secret texts, phone calls and acts strange when I ask her what she did for the day. She is always yelling at me and picking fights, when she is wrong and I bring it up. I have always felt that she is hiding somthing but I could never figure it out. I try to meet her needs as much as I can, but I am a graduate student and I do the best I can but she is unsastified. I found out this week that she stole 65 dollars from me and told me she forget to bring it up and when I asked about it on Friday, she wanted to break up, the second time she wanted to break up over me giving her money or she taking it without my permission. I feel like I am her golden ticket and she is just hanging on for herself. She has kids and I get along with them. Our sex life is unsatisfactory and she always complain when she intiates it and i go for it. I feel that she loves me and I love her too, but I am confused on what to do. I tried working things out but its like she is always picking fights and acting like a "clutz", her way of calling the stolen money, the lies and disrespect. She says her mom put gas in the car when she used my car to do so. The trust is not there and everytime I am at work, I wonder what she be doing. Any help or advice would be helpful. I am 24 male and my girl is 30 female.
There is no relationship without trust and, from what you describe, you are being treated with zero trust or respect. The best course of action almost certainly is to get out.
That being said, you could also try an ultimatum. She gets help or you walk... but in all honesty I do not believe that will work.
If you do decide to try to work it out, you have to act firmly, clearly drawing a line and setting some standards for the way you will allow people to treat you. And dont let her drag you into any argument that tangents outside the core issue of trust and respect. Stay calm and stick to your guns.
However, as I said before, I am nearly 100% certain that the best advice is what Matt said below.
Rather than ask a question, I'd like to pose a theory and get some feedback from it. In a way, this is asking for advice, but really, I need opinions. Id like to state from the beginning that this is something I've been revising for several years now and it has to do with life in general, or rather, happiness. It's a bit abstract in concept and requires some serious thought, as I'd like honest, thoughtful responses. Now that you've all been warned, here is the theory:
Happiness. What is it? How can we achieve it, and what significance does it have? Do some value it more than others, or is happiness the general goal that individuals strive for in their lives?
Over the past 4 years I've been exposed to certain stimuli that have changed my personality and mind in a very drastic way. I used to be an average girl, with average thoughts and concerns such as "I wonder if this boy likes me" and "I really hope I get invited to that party or become really popular in high school" My freshman year of high school I came across a movie that dramatically changed my life. It was called the Secret, if any of you know about it, and really it wasn't a movie but an inspirational video made to help people get over hardships and be happy. This film had a pretty strong effect on me and of course I tried doing the things it suggested although it was pretty outrageous in it's explanation of how the world works. (It's worth seeing if this kind of stuff interests you) However, that film was only the beginning. Throughout high school i became engrossed in this idea of happiness. I researched it, spent hours online looking up ideas and theories on it. I even made it my senior project and presented it to my entire class. While doing all of this, I was living life by the theories I had been discovering. One day at lunch while talking to my roommate about a problem she was having, she asked me: "you know when you have one of those days where you just don't feel good no matter what and you are upset but you don't really know why" and I tried hard to empathize with her but couldn't. I honestly answered her "No, actually" She looked at me funny and went back to eating her sandwich, but that whole rest of the day I tried so hard to think of the last time I had had a bad day and how I felt and the answer was still happy. In high school, I wasn't particularly popular, I didn't have a boyfriend, I wasn't extremely involved in school, but I was always happy. I had gone through some bad experiences, in college I was in an abusive relationship, but nothing too extreme, still I remained happy. So that day I went home and I wrote this:
"Life is not what you see. It's what you ARE. Life is you, and therefore if you are happy, life is happy. But how do you stay happy all the time? How do you isolate those moments where you feel good, ecstatic, excited or even just happy that you're alive when happiness seems so fleeting. Well, we MAKE it. That's the answer. You create your own happiness, even if it's not there. If you lack happiness, make some. Creation is the vessel through which we guide ourselves to success. And creation can be anything from a thought or idea, to a drawing or a piece of paper with your handwriting on it or a cookie freshly baked in the oven. Creation is everything that is around us, and the power to create lies within us, so how can we not be happy if we have the ability to make happiness. The ways in which we control our bodies and minds are what ultimately make us unique, but we are all the same in the respect of the power we have to create. We just have to rewire our brains to think in the positive process of creation. The ways in which ultimate happiness can be achieved:
- Acceptance: this is key to not allowing the outside world to influence our state of well being. When something happens that we do not have control over, we must accept that it has happened and try to move forward. We cannot dwell or ask why because that is not accepting. Once you accept something, you can move past it, so this is the first step. Acceptance is the only thing that allows you to remove negativity and misery from your life.
- Positivity: an obvious but underestimated way of thinking. There is not reason why something shouldn't work out the way we want it to, if we believe it. Why is it that people say "I'm not being negative, just realistic" What makes something realistic or not. A good outcome is just as realistic as a negative one. We can't want something but not believe it is within our reality to get it.
- Gratitude: this allows for acceptance and positivity to create bliss. When we are accepting of the things that happen, and hopeful for the things that will happen, and thankful for the things that have already happened that we enjoy, we open ourselves to greater joy because already we have so much.
- Love: unconditional love for every experience we encounter, if its something we enjoy. Don't just like it, love it. Dwell in how much you love something, and keep loving it no matter how long its been in your life. This applies not only to people but also to experiences and objects.
- Authenticity: this is the other key to bliss. Find what makes you come alive, and go do it. BE true to yourself. We are so different that if everyone were true to themselves we would start to see that we don't all want the same things, and therefore we can all have what we want. Also, if we develop an attitude or want that is not true, that is taken from another, we will constantly be the second best version of that attitude and know it, therefore we can never be happy. Why be the second best version of something when you can be the first best version of yourself?
So there you have it, this what I've come to know and believe in my 20 years of life. Since that day when I wrote this down I have been looking into how we can achieve those things. Evidently we are human, and therefore falter, myself included. But I'd really like some input on what you guys think of this theory and maybe what objections you have...or thoughts... any advice is welcome. Do you agree, disagree, and why?
Thank you!
Very interesting stuff. I love philosophy and this is actually an area I gave some thought to myself some years back (albeit more from the angle of the importance rather than the cause of happiness), so its fascinating to read what you have been working on.
I tend to have high "highs" and low "lows" (no actual disorders or anything though) and I used to spent quite some time wondering if I should be changing the factors that lead me to having those "lows". Personally, I decided against it, since I believe that it somehow taints by perception of the world and my situation. I do not want to see and feel things different from what they are. To do otherwise would be like talking a happy drug (albeit one without any side effects)... I simply would not do it.
So, I definitely think happiness is indeed valued more by some and less by others. I recall reading a philosophical piece on ethics (sadly I do not remember who wrote it) where they posed a question that went something like: who has the right idea about life? A wise person who values and studies ethics, is good towards others, but whose enlightened state makes him unhappy, or an evil old hag who cares about no one but herself but is perpetually happy?
This is not to imply that being good means being unhappy, but rather to ask how much is happiness worth to you. Answering that question, I ranked it lower than I think most others would. I would always choose truth over happiness, I often choose pride over happiness, and I have sacrificed my personal happiness several times in order to stick to principles that I think are correct (at times making me miserably unhappy). So, certainly I can say that happiness has never been my ultimate goal, though naturally I do like being happy.
I am also afraid by the way you described the happiness process that one would lose touch with or bury emotions like hatred, anger, the desire for revenge, etc. All of these, in the right circumstances, are extremely powerful and useful emotions that are generally incompatible with a state of bliss (at least the way I understand them). Yet hatred towards something evil is a very powerful motivator to eliminate said evil. The desire to enact revenge when wronged is a powerful deterrent, by teaching those who would hurt you that their act will not go unpunished.
You said: Why is it that people say "I'm not being negative, just realistic" What makes something realistic or not. A good outcome is just as realistic as a negative one.
I disagree with this. Something is more realistic when it is the most probable outcome. I know people who played tennis all their lives and they are as crappy now as they were 10 years ago... if they assessed that they do not have what it takes to be a pro player, they would be 100% correct and realistic. To believe otherwise would be delusional. The advantage of making this realistic assessment vs a positive one is that it might save them years of wasted efforts and broken dreams. Most certainly, one can want something and realistically assess that it is not within one's grasp (just look at the first rounds of the American Idol auditions to see why so many people would have benefitted from making a realistic assessment of their situation).
It only becomes negative when one is incorrectly assessing ones situation, or when the "realistic" assessment prevents a person from trying in a situation where he should be trying anyway.
Now, from a psychological point of view, I think you are on the right track. Recently I translated a book on coaching - a subject that normally makes me cringe, but I did pick up one or two things. It was written by a brain researcher, and it had a whole bunch of ways to affect the state of your mind. At times, it was similar to what you are writing. Certainly the gist was that anyone can affect their state of mind far more than people normally think, and learning to condition your mind by talking to it a certain way could lead to radical changes.
So, my previous comments aside, I think your ideas are probably quite sound. Its just important to keep in mind that different people have different genetic limitations that would make it harder for some than for others.
Well, thats that :) I wrote this in a bit of a hurry so it is undoubtedly disorganised... but hope you can use it for something.
Great question though. Rarely get this sort of stuff on advicenators.
I and my gf were involved in foreplay. We both were nude. I licked out her vagina and later my penis touched her vagina. After sometime, i cheked if i had precum. I could feel a small drop of liquid. Since her vagina was wet due to licking out and my precum might have touched her vagina,is there any chance of pregnancy? I had masturbated a day ago too and she had her periods.
There is always a chance when there is direct contact. It is not as great as for normal intercourse, but there is a chance nonetheless.
how can i burn fat?
my friend told me things like walking, runnning and jump roping can help? she said that's what she does.
Creating a negative calorie deficit is the first and most imporant thing. That means consuming fewer calories than you burn.
To elevate the number of calories that one burns one can use exercise, and to lower the calories one intakes one can use dieting. However, its important to realise that without a calorie deficit, one does not lose weight no matter how much one exercises.
In regards to exercising, cardio is good and so is resistance training/weight lifting (as long as one focuses on major muscle groups rather than localised exercises).
Of the exercises you mentioned all can be useful. Walking is probably the least attractive option since it rarely elevates your heart rate into the cardio zone where you get most of the health benefits (this goes beyond buring fat strictly speaking, but why not get the optimal health benefits if one is going to go out and exercise anyway?).
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So I'm sixteen, a girl, and I'm 5'4, 105 pounds. I've accepted that I'm small. I'm not really that strong either. My legs are well defined, and have always been fine. My arms... yeah. Not so much. Pretty much pathetic. My boyfriend is convinced that if I were ever to be in a situation where I need to defend myself, that I would basicallly be helpless. Just cause I'm not strong. But that's not true! I took loooots of classes, so I know a lot of self defense teqniques. If someone were to grab me or something, I could probably get out of a hold fairly well. I'm also very good at squirming! Haha. But seriously. It's a little condescending to me that he thinks so little of my ability to protect myself. It's not that he goes around telling me how weak I am, but... he almost is! He gets worried easily. He expresses his worries about how "breakable" or "vulnurable" I am. And he's not compleeeetely far off... I was attacked about a year ago, and it freaked us both out pretty bad. Nothing too horrible, just grabbed, pulled off into a room, but someone came to help me before the guy could anything more than my shorts off. My boyfriend is very protective now. It doens't necessarily bother me, but I wish I could just show him that he doesn't need to worry so much. I took those classes because of what happened a year ago, and I feel pretty confident in what I can do. I just wish he would feel the same way. Just cause I'm small, doesn't make me helpless right??
I am a bit torn with this question to be honest. On the one hand, I totally agree that your boyfriend should have more faith in you. I also used to know a girl (quite petite) who was a black belt in ju-jitsu, and she snapped a mugger's arm once.
So, no you are not helpless.
I just want to tangent a bit here though, and I hope you dont mind. You should know that self defence classes are next to useless unless you train regularly and for a long period of time. If memory serves they say it takes over a year of continuous, regular training for something to become instinctive. And if you are weak physically, not only must it be a reflex, but the technique must be executed flawlessly as well.
This is why most self defence classes are not useful. When faced with real danger, people forget unless its virtually 100% instinct. They ran some segments on this on television years ago... about the false sense of security and all that.
Now, one thing I noticed is that girls tend to put way too much faith in what they learn in martial arts. Please dont take offence, I am not saying you do specifically, its just an observation I have had that may or may not be relevant. Often they assume these things will work like they did in the dojo (I could tell you some stories here, believe me). Fact is, in most cases they wont work, or they wont fit to the situation, or the guy will ignore the pain that is supposed to disable him, and then one needs an arsenal of other techniques...
I know this is not quite what you asked, but I just want to make sure that you understand how it works so that you dont get hurt at some point.
Back to your question. If your boyfriend knows what its like to be in a fight (or similar situations), this may be a reason as to why he is over-protective. There is a huge, huge difference between theory and practice here - I cannot emphasise that enough.
I like the idea in the answer below of training with him. In time it may well give him faith in what you can do. It might also be a fun way for you guys to spend time together.
Otherwise talk to him, tell him that you appreciate that he cares but that you would like him to be a bit more supportive. Tell him that he is not helping your confidence by not having faith in you (which incidentally, was not my intention with what I wrote above). He means well, but its important that he understands where to draw the line. If you do it nicely, he will get it eventually.
Good luck.
thanx!
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