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Is he using me?
Well my relationship has lasted like 8months, but during the 5th month we had many fights and break-ups. I had loved that boy and he says the same but i just dont feel it. We insulted ourselves in the end but got together as friends with benefits. He is always calling me names, stupid-dumb-bitch-etc and he says he is joking, also he is always calling me loser and he says out loud the things i hate most. No body of my family-friends likes him, so we are together hidden. My sister says is abusive mentally for him to say those "names" more then 5 times a day. Also when he gets mad at me just because i did something wrong he gets like sooooo angry, i get scared, he looks at me bad and say it's my fault even when it is not. He has never payed me anything i bought him food, tickets to a movie, and when im hungry and have no money he only buys food for himself and not for me. :( oh and his mom hates me to death...
I dont know what to do, it is so hard to move on, is he using me??? does he loves me?? should i stay away from him? :/ thanks
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i would say this person you are with is not happen within there self so i would say you need to find someone who will truely love you for you as a person you deserve respect it seems like you are a convince to him a convince means he can treat you the way he wants and still do what he wants i suggest you try and leave on good terms and look for someone else
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This is just my opinion but I don't think he loves you. You shouldn't be with somebody who calls you out your name. And usually, when the family doesn't like the boyfriend, it's a red flag. Your sister is right about your boyfriend being mentally abusive towards you. If he has a temper that scares you, imagine if he was an alcoholic. He would probably be mentally and physically abusive. It's okay to buy him gifts just as long as he returns the favor, but he doesn't. He's selfish and his mother doesn't like you. It's obvious that you need to leave this guy and find somebody else. You can do way much better.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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Your sister is right, this guy is no good at all. When he says those things he does so for a reason. It could be because he wants to feel dominant, it could be because he takes some sort of satisfaction from hurting you, but it is certainly not just "joking".
I feel strange even giving you advice after reading your question. You pretty much answer it on your own. The guy is abusive, bad tempered, none of the people who care about you like him, and he acts like a selfish jerk.
Its hard for me to imagine that someone could act this way towards a person they love, but even if he does feel some sort of love it is not particularly relevant to your situation. What is relevant is the way he treats you. You have plenty of people (of both genders)in physically and mentally abusive relationships with a spouse that may (in their own weird and twisted way) actually love them. Surely, you don't want to end up there do you?
So yes, move on and stay away. You need a clean break.
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Yes, he's using you.
You are in an abusive relationship which you should end immediately. This boy is showing you no respect and it shows all the signs of getting worse, not better. The longer you stay in it, the more emotional damage you will suffer, and it will become progressively harder to leave.
There is nothing wrong with looking at a relationship and asking, "What's in this for me?" From the sound of it, the answer here would be, "Nothing." I can't think of any redeeming qualities this guy might have which would even halfway make up for what he puts you through.
When you break up with him, do it in a public place. He sounds like the sort of guy who might react badly to it, and you will want to minimize the chance that he will try to hurt you in retaliation for breaking up with him.
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