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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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I am going to Branson, MO next week and it's my first time there. I don't know my way around or any good places to stay at. I want a hotel that's cheap because I will be there for a week & I want a good area where there is a lot of shopping and places around where it's close to the lake also.thanks.

www.hotels.com

It'll give you what you want if you just put the information in. We're not your travel agents.

So, the guy that runs this place is DangerNerd, right? What does the guy look like? I went to his advice column and I didn't see a picture up and I'm really curious! Is DangerNerd hot? Has anybody seen him before?

...he IS a real guy, right?

Yes, he is a real guy. I'm not sure what he looks like though.

Not everyone posts pictures on their column. It's not mandatory.

UGH. So,i've always had mild/moderate acne. And on friday night my mom bought this stuff called "continuously clear" by "serious skin care". Well after i used it i found out i used WAY WAY WAY too much of it! And ever since friday night, my face has been PUFFY, BURNING,ITCHING,TIGHT AND RED. My eyes feel huge, every inch of my face Itches like crazy, and the puffyness of my face is unberable; haha. I've tried some things but nothing's been working ;;So far i've tried-

-Putting Ice ALLL over my face;which feels good but is only temporary.
-Putting Tea Bags on my face(hah my mom thought i should try this)-didnt help at all?
-Putting a crap load of moisturizer on my face-inefective.

My mom said i over-peeled my skin?
Honestly i really can't take this anymore, in four days i'm going on a cruise, and i just want this pain to go away so badly! Any methods?! Please help, i'm sorry i'm being really obnoxious right now XD! Thank you SO much,really, it'd help me so much!

See a doctor ASAP! There was probably something in the medicine that doesn't mesh well with your skin & you had no idea until you used it.

Only a doctor can prescribe you something. It may take a little bit to clear up, but you'll have the medicine to take it away. See a doctor tomorrow (or even try after hours or a hospital tonight if you can) and get the medicine.

Hello, school will be starting soon and i really wanna b in good shape! I need to lose about 10-15 lbs. does anybody have any idea how i can do this within 7 to 10 days?

You can't. Eating healthy & exercising is the only way to lose weight. It's unhealthy to lose more than 5 lbs a week.

Your goal can & never will happen.

why shouldn't a 14 year old get her nose pierced

There's a chance you'll regret it. Chances are you might not still want it in a year & it'll be a waste of money.

Only add something to your body if you're sure you still want it a long while down the road. Another thing is that your parents may not want you to get it. So if mom & dad say no, then that's that.

Also, most places have the age limit of 16 to be pierced (even with parental consent) so you may not be able to get it done anyways.

Later in life, I aspire to open a cake bakery. I love jazz and will always have it playing and would like to incorporate it in the name. I was thinking 'The Harlem Bakery' like Harlem Jazz, but my boyfriend said, "It reminds me of black people." Lol. And also, "It sounds like you are in New York, when you're not." Which I won't be, I'll open it in Portland. But last night I came up with Come Rain or Come Shine Bakery, a Billie Holiday song that is the song my boyfriend and I will have our first dance to in the wedding.. Sorry it's so long, thank you!

I don't think there's anything wrong with calling it "The Harlem Bakery." There's nothing wrong with naming something after something else, and there's also nothing wrong with bringing culture to the area. I say go with your idea and ignore your boyfriend. If that's what you would like to call your bakery then call it that & don't let anyone stop you.

ive had my belly button pierced for a while now...5 months...i want to change the belly button ring but i am afraid if i take this one out, i cant put another one in. should i just take my new belly button ring to the piercing place and have them take it out???

Most definitely. I have the same problem with my lip ring so whenever I want to take it out and get a new one, I go to the parlor & have them do it. Never take it out yourself if you're scared you can't put it back in. It'll just cause you to feel stupid & for the hole to close. Not to mention you'll lose out on the money you spent.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months. Before we started dating, we were really good friends, but about 4 months after we started dating I got really bored with him. He is also REALLY obsessed with me and I still want to be his friend which is why I haven't broken up with him. However, in a month we are going to New Jersey together because his parents invited me. They paid for the extra hotel room and everything for me already. I want to break up with him but I don't know if I should do it before I go on vacation with him, or after. Thanks for any help you can give me ♥

Do it now. Holding onto something you're unhappy with is stupid. It would hurt him more (and give him false impressions of you) if you went on vacation with him and then broke up with him after.

Break up now so his parents have a chance to either get their money back or where he has a chance to invite somebody else.

Ok, I couldn't find a legit category for this question so bear with me. Recently my father decided to move to Tennessee and I would truly love to go with him. Here's the struggle I have been dealing with: I am currently in College at Le Cordon Bleu Culinary and have 5 more months of school to go. If I up and leave to TN I lose 40,000 and a degree. If I stay here I get the degree but chance losing another dream of mine, becoming a Law Enforcement officer in TN. They are leaving August 15th and I either move with them and have a place to live that's cheaper and in a more affordable state OR I stay here and live with my fiancee in her parents basement until I finish my degree. I have no idea what to do and I could really use some friendly advice. Please don't tell me to get my own place, I am trying. I need advice that will be helpful to the situation directly. Thank you in advance.

I would stay where you are. You've spent the $40,000 on this career, and to give up your degree and money to move is ridiculous. Don't start something & not finish it.

Wait out the 5 months and then go to Tennessee. You can still become cop. The 5 months will make no difference.

so i'm going to get my belly button pierced soon but i'm really not good with pain and needles... iv gotten my ear pierced and that wasn't too bad but how much more does it hurt to get your belly button pierced than your ear??

and is there anything i can take (painkillers) before i get it pierced so that it won't hurt as much?

There is stuff you can take, but nothing too strong like a Vicodin or anything. Just take some Aleve or some Motrin & you should be fine.

I got my lip pierced, and I can say that while it hurt, it really only hurt for a second.

Everyone's tolerance to pain is different though so I can't really tell you how you'll feel. I'm sure it'll be fine. Don't worry. :)

Hello.... My name is Sara. Im 22 F.....I guess my question story is this.... I was in a relationship with my ex for five years. We were highschool sweethearts...It had been a rocky road for us and we had our breaks and break ups...but we always got better and ended up with eachother in the end. I loved him in every way I could...with everything I had. A few years ago, while I was living in another city (only 2 hours away) for college, he confessed to me that he had sent graphic nude, and explicit images of himself to his then 13 year old step sister....and she had sent them back. He was 21.
I had never cried so hard in my life, and even though it was probably stupid of me, I loved him, and took him back. its been almost 3 years since then. And over this valentines day, he proposed. I said yes. Life was amazing ya know? well...3 months into the engagement, I came across some old emails between his step sister and him that just were "off"....and it lead me to question him. Well, as it turns out, while we were on a break, he had sent and recieved pictures from her again, used them as pornography, and talked to her about how badly he wanted to be physical with her. this was when she was 15...he was 22. He was trying to hide it from me and never planned on telling me what he had done with her agian. And 2 months before our wedding, i had found out.....
Funny thing is, I wanted to go to counciling. I wanted to hold off on the wedding and work on us. He showed nearly no remorse for what he did. Never really talked to me when I was crying, never really held me...not the way you should when you see the person you are saposed to love that hurt. and you are the one who hurt them....and he left.
Its been a couple months...I am seeing an AMAZING man, who treats me so well, and in all fairness to him does know EVERYTHING, and is helping me get through this. But I recently found out that my ex is now dating his step sister. living in the same house with her and their whole family...the family is ok with it....she is 16 he is 23....and it is disgusting. I cant just cut off all ties with him because he is in the same click of friends that I am...his best friends are my best friends....and I am having en extremely hard time coming to terms with this. He has cussed me out for telling him I think he is disgusting, and finally coming clean with our friends as to the REAL reason our marriage failed, as to what lies he was telling them, and has told me he hopes I die...he has called me an F'ing Bitch, a chicken shit and F'ing puss(because I would ignore his multiple calls)and the C word. I cant take this. and I dont know how to handel it. Do does anyone have advice?? ANyone know of any support groups for such a thing? Or even just someone to talk to, or has been through something similar. Im drowning in my own hate...and I am not this girl.....I am falling for the man I am with, but he deserves more than to put up with this bullshit. Im not selfish like that. any advice???

Please listen to this, as I speak from experience. I have been a young girl dating older guys in the past. While my boyfriend now is older, I am legal, and educated, so I know what I'm saying and what you're going through.. somewhat.

Ignore him. You can be around him when you're with friends, but that doesn't mean you have to speak with him. If I were you, I'd have said the same things to him. He is in fact disgusting. He's scum.

You have every right to ignore his calls, and for him to call you names just because you rather not in the drama is immature & stupid. He's 22. It's time for him to grow up & date girls his own age.

For the family to be okay with this is even worse. I understand that they're not blood related, but they're still in the same family now and it's just as wrong. He can get into serious trouble for this. Not only because some would consider it incest, but because he's an adult and she's a minor.

In all honesty, I'd report this to the cops and to social services. While this may cause you to seem like a snitch, or nosey, I think it's the best thing to do because you can't possibly allow something so illegal to continue. That poor little girl is going to be so much more messed up if that continues. Ugh.

I think that even though the guy you're with doesn't deserve this, he's sticking around. He wants to help you overcome this so let him in. I don't think you're being selfish.. I think you just need to put your pride aside and accept the help. I'm sure there are groups that you can go to for counseling but it all varies by state. I would Google this or ask the police.

ok this is disgusting but i think i may have picked up head lice from some where ... i work in a department store so is it possible that i picked it up from a customer or co-worker there?

And what are some easy ({and discreet)) ways to get rid of it. I am very grossed out by it and i want to get rid of them ASAP!!!

I thought it was dandruff becuase i do have dandruff so i thought the itch was just my dandruff but about two days ago i found a bug in my hair. i looked at a pic of lice and it looks like thats whats going on. I am VERY disgusted by it ... i wash my hair every day (3 times a week i use ant-dandruff shampoo) so it's not becuase im dirty or anything.

Please ... discreet and easy, fast and effective ways to get rid of them!!! (my hair is to my shoulder blades if that makes a difference)

There are tons of shampoos you can buy at Wal*Mart or a grocery store that have to do with getting rid of lice. This site has some remedies:

http://www.totallicecontrol.com/

Just remember that lice are attracted to both clean hair and dirty hair. They like clean hair because they can move easier, and dirty hair because it's easier to hide.

Go buy the shampoo & have someone help you. Lice are hard to get rid of on your own.

what does it mean when someone says im wearing my heart on my sleeve or anything like that? like just the whole meaning of "heart on my sleeve?" please help thanks

It just means they're not afraid to show their emotions and that they're open.

How old was Ashley Tisdale when she got her period

What the hell?

We don't know.

I was talking to somebody when I was at work and they said something like it might turn out to be Indian Summer here or something like that. I have no idea what they mean by that and I'm not about to make a fool of myself. What does Indian Summer mean?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indian_summer

ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now. but there have been people telling me he cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend. and i do know that his ex-girlfriend still really likes him. what do you think i should do?

-kelly

Have you asked him about it? I think you should. You can't just go by what people tell you because there are always going to be rumors.

Talk to your boyfriend. Ask him if he cheated on you, if he denies it, I'd get into contact with his ex and ask her. Though because she does like him, she'll probably say yes, but maybe she'll have enough decency to tell you the truth.

If he did cheat on you, obviously break up with him. To stay with someone that's cheated on you is stupid & you can do much better.

Don't automatically assume everything you hear is true though because if you go off and dump your boyfriend without getting the truth first, you could really feel stupid in the end when you see people were wrong.

I'm having trouble coming up with things to talk to a girl about. Could someone give me a list of conversation ideas?

Music.
School.
Friends.
Movies.
Family.
Current Events.
Internet.

16/f

i'm wondering if it hurts when girls lose there virginity. on a scale of 1 to 10. i was also wondering what is dry humping?

Dry humping is sex with clothes on.

Every girl is different when it comes to pain, so telling you on a scale of 1-10 won't really work.

im 14 yrs old and i cant seem to be liked by girls i mean im friends with a bunch of them but i really want a relationship there is one or two i like but they dont like me back i dont know what to do!!!

Move on. You're 14 and have your whole life for girls. Don't worry about it.

13/f i have this major problem and i don't kno what to do..............i have to do this stupid dear before i turn 14(with i will be next month)i hav to have sex with a with a 18 yr old guy and im scared to.he is so cute were not in a relationship he likes me and i like him,im prety shore he would like to have sex with me.i see him a lot we hang out a lot were like friends in a way.I DONT KNOW IF I SHOULD please tell me what to do.thank you

It's a dare? And you actually think you have to go through with it?

No. There are absolutely times where you can back down from a dare. DO NOT let anyone make you do something that makes you uncomfortable. If you don't want to have sex, then don't.

Most importantly, you shouldn't. You're 13 and this guy is 18. It is illegal for him to do anything sexual with you because he is an adult & you are a minor.

Do not do it. Keep your self-respect & back down from the dare. You don't have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable, nor should you do anything that is illegal. Absolutely do not do it. Trust me.

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