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When do I break up with him?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months. Before we started dating, we were really good friends, but about 4 months after we started dating I got really bored with him. He is also REALLY obsessed with me and I still want to be his friend which is why I haven't broken up with him. However, in a month we are going to New Jersey together because his parents invited me. They paid for the extra hotel room and everything for me already. I want to break up with him but I don't know if I should do it before I go on vacation with him, or after. Thanks for any help you can give me ♥
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Perfect scenerio:
You dating this wonderfull guy who is going to jersey and just so happens to be bringing his you with him and you get a free vacation!
Sounds a bit fishy, not meaning to sound like I am saying your using him, because your not... Yet. If you take that vaction as his girl friend and then you dump him then your were using him.
So dump him confess that he his your best friend, but that is it. Tell him that you had to do it now, you couldn't go to jersey with him, and his parents knowing that your true feelings weren't out! Tell him your sorry and that his friend ship means more then a vaction and that your sorry and understand that he may not want to be friends right now, but that hopefully he can get past this and forgive you for not have being honest sooner!
I know this sound awfull because you really probley wanted that trip but it is the best and if he is your true best friend he will still let your go! That is what friends do. You guys can still be close just not romantically!!!
-C.D
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it's going to be hard, but you need to be honest! You can't keep leading him on if you aren't feeeelin it. but make sure you say you still wanna be close friends, you don't want to lose that special friendship you guys have.
maybe he'll still invite you as a friend, or take one of his guy friends.
good luck :) honesty is keyy.
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Do it now. Holding onto something you're unhappy with is stupid. It would hurt him more (and give him false impressions of you) if you went on vacation with him and then broke up with him after.
Break up now so his parents have a chance to either get their money back or where he has a chance to invite somebody else.
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Break up with him now. If you're over him, there's no use forcing yourself to stay with him. Plus, he might think you only stayed with him to go on vacation (which I know you're not, but he might get that impression and that would suck).
Maybe he can find a friend to bring with in your place?
-Laura (17-f)
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You should break up with him now, then he can get a friend on board for the vacation rather than an internally unhappy girlfriend.
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It would be wrong of you to hold onto the relationship while you weren't still "in love" with him.
Even though they already paid, they might still be able to get the money back, since it's a month in advance.
I would end the relationship if you're unhappy.
--Jack
(17/m)
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well if you dont want to out with him anymore than just break up with but do it carefully and i would do it before because if you dont love him anymore than just break up.
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