Heyyy what's upp! Ignore my username or whatever lmao i'm not emo or anything. I really love this website, i just found it like a week ago and it's totally my favorite. All the advice I get is amazing, so thanks guys :) But I also LOVE giving advice too, so hit me up with some questions! I'm nice. I love sports, i'm athleticc. Catholic private school- story of my life. I love music, and i love meeting new people :) So let's chit chat! Most of my questions are probably about boys, ahha that's what I need most help with. But I'm happy answering ANY TYPE of your guys questions. Alright byeee.
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ok my name on morgan and i like this guy he tells me i am his every thing and that he loves me so much he cant stand it but wont go out with me and i no he dosent have a girl friend i am friends wih his friends and friends with him i just dont get it :( (link)
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I don't know what could possibly be his problem, there's a million of reasons this could be happening. For one, he might not have time. Guys can get really busy with sports, family, school, you never know but he could have a lot on his plate. But if he's saying he loves you and all this stuff, maybe you should just ask him what he wants to be? If he wants to be just friends, friends with benefits (if thats it dump his ass!) or in a relationship and see how he responds. He could be wayyy too nervous to even ask you, afraid you'll say no or something! I don't know, but my advice is to ask him what he wants, a relationship or just a friendship. Then you can just take it from there. Hope I helped (:
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Okay~ There's a guy that likes me, a quiet, shy kid, much like me. I like him too. We both know that we like each other. Thing is, he's starting to fade, so to speak. I give him letters confessing to him, say hello and try to chat, and try to grow our relationship. However, he brushed it all off (I didn't even get a response from the letter!). I don't know if it's just shyness or what, but it makes me a bit annoyed that he would just ignore me. Now I'm starting to forget about him, saying "I'm over him", but school is coming back soon and he hasn't contacted me since it ended. I'm standing on a line between, "I still like him" and "He missed his chance". I don't know what I should tell him... (link)
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hmmm. I think you should just let it go, exhale and move on! If he's "brushing you aside" then you should just forget about it, you don't deserve that.
But to explain for his actions it could be many things. He could have heard a rumor about you maybe, that you were with someone else? Maybe he saw you talking to another guy and interpretted it as flirting. Or he could simply have a lot on his mind, and he likes you but he can't do a relationship thing momentarely.
If I were you, i'd let it go for the time being. He could always come back when he's ready, but for now, don't even worry about it. Go have fun with other guys :D
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well im very nervous for highschool.
im sure everyone is.
but i dont want to be all shy and nervous.
i want to be outgoing! and just have fun and not worry.
any ideas on how to gain up the courage? (link)
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alright so I went to a middle school with all my bestfriends, but my parents yanked me out and started me out at a catholic private school where i knew NO ONE. So not only was i scared shitless because i was starting highschool, but also because I didn't know anyone. But here's what I did, and it worked. - talk yourself up in all the time you have before highschool. tell yourself how your gonna be, over and over. get ready for it mentally. And then, after all that time, you'll be ready. It's a scary thing, but you'll have your other friends which is something I didn't have. They'll help you and support you, and make you feel more comfortable. But relax, breathe in, shake out that nervous feeling, and be yourself. people will love you :)
gooodluck.
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i miss him like crazy. one of my really good friends, just moved far away for a while, and he doesnt know when he's coming back. yea, we did have a thing, no, we weren't dating. i've liked him a lot for a while now, and at one point i was sure that he liked me, now idk. and he's not the type of person who just comes out and says it. he moved for a reason, and im glad he went for those reason, but i miss him so much. i keep thinking about the day he left, the memories before hand, and not knowing when i'll be able to see him again doesnt help. and then i think what terrifys me, is that he'll find someone, and that someone, won't be me. i can't tell him this, because if i do, it just makes everything worse, and everything harder, and its not fair to make him think that i believe he should be tied down to me, esp. when he's so far away. i can't think about any other guy. i miss him so much. that it makes me want to cry everytime i think about it. someone please please please help =/. (link)
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He doesn't know when he's coming back? Well I know it'll be really really really hard, but your going to have to try your absolute best trying to get away from this guy. The more and more you keep liking him, the more your heart will be broken in the end. Because he's far away, chances is you might not see him for a very long time, and the best thing to do would be slowly back away. Sure, call him! Like, start off if you call him or talk to him 4 times a day...start making it 2...then one..then none. Like, you know what I mean? Slowly back off? It'll hurt, and hell yes it's going to be hard. But it's really what's best.
But if you don't want to do that, then I would suggest telling him how you really feel. If you never tell him, he'll never know that your so hurt but him being gone, and maybe he'll find out he feels the same way, and he'll manage a way to come back for a visit.
I don't know, but your in a tough situation. But before you do anything, i would suggest you tell him how you feel and what your going through, that's truley what's best. If he has no response then that's when you back off. If that's not it, like he misses you too that it hurts, then you guys can probably scheme up some way to see eachother!
But tell him tell him tell him.
I hope I helped, and I hope it gets better.
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im a 15 year old boy and it may sound strange coming from a boy but i have been with my girlfriend for a long time and we both have agreed to have sex and im starting to get nervous becasue i dont wana let her down and i need to know what to do to give her the most pleasure. (link)
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Uhh, well I mean I doubt it'll be pleasureable in anyway to the girl the first time. It always hurts like freakin HELL. So there's really no way you can make it so it feels good for her the first time.
Also- if your nervous? Maybe you aren't ready. Maybe that's your inner gut trying to tell you something.I know it's a pain in the ass being a teenager and having to lose the virginity. Trust me,I know exactly how that feels. Rushing so you can just finally get out of that "virgin" lable, and maybe you feel like you actually have feelings for the girlfriend so you want to lose it to her, but first you shouldn't be nervous. When you're ready, you shouldn't feel that way.
hah well good luck.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months. Before we started dating, we were really good friends, but about 4 months after we started dating I got really bored with him. He is also REALLY obsessed with me and I still want to be his friend which is why I haven't broken up with him. However, in a month we are going to New Jersey together because his parents invited me. They paid for the extra hotel room and everything for me already. I want to break up with him but I don't know if I should do it before I go on vacation with him, or after. Thanks for any help you can give me ♥ (link)
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it's going to be hard, but you need to be honest! You can't keep leading him on if you aren't feeeelin it. but make sure you say you still wanna be close friends, you don't want to lose that special friendship you guys have.
maybe he'll still invite you as a friend, or take one of his guy friends.
good luck :) honesty is keyy.
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I don't know whether or not my friend really cares about me. My friend complains about me to others and she is selfish and mean and she tells people my secrets. She is funny, smart, and fun to be with. She calls me a horrible friend. She tells me to tell her if she does anything wrong so I did. Then she went to my friend and complained about me. I don't know if I should keep her. She calls me a freak and says to me I like it when people call me that. I don't. She tells people I'm not a real vegetarian, and I look like a boy when my hair is back. She Can be great. When she comes over she plays with my cats more than me.
So what should I do? (link)
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uhh she's obviously not a good friend and one worth keeping if she's talking shit about you. if i were you i'd let her go, you don't deserve crap like that! friends are suppoced to turn the frown upside down, not the opposite.
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hi, 17/m, from the UK.
My girlfriend went to the states on the 13th of july. First she went to seattle, and the day she went to sanfrancisco, she text me, and i tried ringing her, but she hasnt picked up since. She went to San Francisco about 4/5days ago. Before that we talked regularly, either texting or talking on the phone- it would cost more but we didnt mind. But now, it goes straight to voice-mail. Like its off, or dead. Any ideas? what could have happened? how do i know if she is ok? i havnt heard from her at all since. thanks a lot. (link)
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either she lost her charger, her phone broke, or she needs space. either way, she'll call YOU. if you've been calling her like crazy trying to get ahold of her, maybe call her one more time and leave a cute voicemail like "hey trying to get ahold of you, call me when you can." and then leave it alone. She'll call you when she's ready/finds a charger/fixes her phone.
I'm sure it'll be A OKAY!
:)
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17/f.
some random boy who looks my age or maybe older, just moved in like 6 houses away from me.. & well the past few days, he will walk by, stare at me the entire time, & then as hes past me, he will keep turning around to look at me more. hes pretty cute, & i want to get to know him. but i don't know how or what to say, next time i see him should i just be like, hey? .. i don't know, what should i say. :) (link)
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ahhhh your lucky :) i was just saying to my friend i wish i had a cute guy move next to me. When he looks at you and it's obvious he's looking right at you, smile and say hi. Maybe ask his name or something, and get into a conversation. That's what I'd do! But don't be akward about it like that other person said. Just relaxxxx.
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17/f.
ok my best friend ashley is really cool most of the time & we are best friends. yesterday i went to the carnival, with another good friend, kelly, because ashley already had plans with a girl i don't like very much. well anyway, whenever i would see ashley, like wave, she would be looking at me & then she would just turn away, & then i was waiting for her to get off a ride, and she just walked past me.. & then after kelly left, i was alone & i wanted someone to hang out with, & then i found out someone i know very well, may have cancer, & then my mom was mad at me & then i saw someone kill a fish (i'm a vegetarian and a animal lover, so that depressed me) so, i was really upset, & really wanted to like talk to someone & hang out with someone, & my best friend just texts me "oh, really.. well my phone is dieing so talk to you tomorrow." like is it just me, or was she being rude? or am i making a big deal out of nothing? i have not said anything to her about this.
i was going to go to the carnival with her tonight, but i don't know.
oh & kelly and ashley don't get along well, but not enough that ashley can't still talk to me.
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this is just access information, if you want you can stop reading & still answer my question..
ashley might be kind of jealous of kelly & me though. because welll.. ashley weighs like 230 pounds. & ashleys friend weighs probably 200 or close to it. & kelly & i weigh like 110.. so i mean, while we were there, like all these guys kept coming up to us, and wanting to talk to us and, well no one has ever come up to ashley, inless it was a joke. so i was thinking maybe she didn't want to talk to me because of that.
but the thing is, is ashley only has 2 friends, me & the other girl. & then she hangs out with her sisters friends, but her sister & her friends are going to college soon, i don't know who she expects to hang out then...
anyway, am i making a big deal? she is my best friend, what kind of friend doesn't ask you where you are & everything, when your crying on a street corner.... (link)
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No way, I don't think Ashley is jealous of you because you're thinner. I think it's because she's jealous because you and this other girl are hanging out, and she doesn't want to be replaced. She's worried you were having a better time with them then with her. And she was probably hurt. Hey, that happens to every friendship. One starts to feel uneasy because the other is hanging with all these other people, and she doesn't want to be replaced. You need to acknowledge these feelings she has, and maybe tell her how much she means to you. And yeah, maybe she is a little insecure about her weight. And maybe having fun with you, she forgets all that nonsense! So she doesn't want to lose you or for you to find out you have a better time with someone else then you do with her.
Sorry about your friend with cancer, I hope everything works out.
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I am a 13 year old girl.I like this guy who says he loves me but when I asked him out he said no. I asked why if he loved me so much and he said its because theres this other girl.
I love this boy and cant seem to get over him no matter how much he hurts me (emotionally.) I hate how all of my friends say to just get over him when its not that easy, i need help figuring out what to do!
-Morgan (link)
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oh gosh, i know exactly how you feel. When your friends say to get over him, but it's so hard to, especially when you like him a lot. But this guy doesn't love you if he's seeing another girl, and if he does he's trying to make you jealous for some dumb reason. But he's being very immature. He doesn't deserve you, and I know hearing that doesn't help because it never helps me. But the best trick to getting over someone is finding someone else :) So if he's with this girl, maybe you should try to find someone else to have fun with! Just a suggestion. But i hope this helps and it works out for you.
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