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lousy friend.
17/f.
ok my best friend ashley is really cool most of the time & we are best friends. yesterday i went to the carnival, with another good friend, kelly, because ashley already had plans with a girl i don't like very much. well anyway, whenever i would see ashley, like wave, she would be looking at me & then she would just turn away, & then i was waiting for her to get off a ride, and she just walked past me.. & then after kelly left, i was alone & i wanted someone to hang out with, & then i found out someone i know very well, may have cancer, & then my mom was mad at me & then i saw someone kill a fish (i'm a vegetarian and a animal lover, so that depressed me) so, i was really upset, & really wanted to like talk to someone & hang out with someone, & my best friend just texts me "oh, really.. well my phone is dieing so talk to you tomorrow." like is it just me, or was she being rude? or am i making a big deal out of nothing? i have not said anything to her about this.
i was going to go to the carnival with her tonight, but i don't know.
oh & kelly and ashley don't get along well, but not enough that ashley can't still talk to me.
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this is just access information, if you want you can stop reading & still answer my question..
ashley might be kind of jealous of kelly & me though. because welll.. ashley weighs like 230 pounds. & ashleys friend weighs probably 200 or close to it. & kelly & i weigh like 110.. so i mean, while we were there, like all these guys kept coming up to us, and wanting to talk to us and, well no one has ever come up to ashley, inless it was a joke. so i was thinking maybe she didn't want to talk to me because of that.
but the thing is, is ashley only has 2 friends, me & the other girl. & then she hangs out with her sisters friends, but her sister & her friends are going to college soon, i don't know who she expects to hang out then...
anyway, am i making a big deal? she is my best friend, what kind of friend doesn't ask you where you are & everything, when your crying on a street corner....
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Ok I don't think your making a big deal out of nothing. Personally you should just go up and talk to Ashley. Be honest to her and if she doesn't change or understand maybe she just may not be a friend that you hang out with. Hope this helps!
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No way, I don't think Ashley is jealous of you because you're thinner. I think it's because she's jealous because you and this other girl are hanging out, and she doesn't want to be replaced. She's worried you were having a better time with them then with her. And she was probably hurt. Hey, that happens to every friendship. One starts to feel uneasy because the other is hanging with all these other people, and she doesn't want to be replaced. You need to acknowledge these feelings she has, and maybe tell her how much she means to you. And yeah, maybe she is a little insecure about her weight. And maybe having fun with you, she forgets all that nonsense! So she doesn't want to lose you or for you to find out you have a better time with someone else then you do with her.
Sorry about your friend with cancer, I hope everything works out.
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it sounds like nothing to me. maybe ashley was jealous. but not because you're thinner than she, but because you were with kelly all night instead of her. you said you were going to the carnival with her or something, so talk to her there. tell her how you came off and how you really needed a friend, but she wasnt there for you. im sure she'll give you a good reason and things will turn out fine.
take care. :)
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this is just a rough patch.
you'll make it through it.
tell ashley how you feel. DONT mention her weight tho.
tell her you really really want to be friends again and you miss things that you guys did together.
rekindle that friendship!
hope everything works out(:
T.
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