about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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First off, what would be your definition of "fake"? People use that word in so many different ways, that I don't understand what it is anymore.

Anyways,..

This past year, I have lost many of my so called "best friends" over things that I did not do. Lately, people keep screwing me over like crazy. My friends would do the stupidest things and it just makes me think twice, how many chances should I give these people after all of the things that they did to me.

I have major trust issues and it's so hard for me to let go .. but I honestly don't know what to do. I stand up for myself at all times and I feel like I'm too nice sometimes.

I'm emotionally drained from being hurt and I don't know how to take it.

Are second chances always good, even third? Can some people ever change after being so "fake" towards me.

I just need any advice. Thank you.

When I use the word "fake" to describe people [though I rarely do], I usually mean the person isn't being themselves. Like, for example, just last night I saw one of my former friends who I really do not like and who really does not like me. But she came up and hugged me and started talking as if we were best friends. To me, that's fake, because I know she doesn't like me, yet she pretended to anyways. Get what I'm saying?


And, as far as losing friends go, it's going to happen. There's nothing you can do to stop it, but it's not always a bad thing. I myself believe everything happens for a reason, and for every friend you lose, eventually there's a new friend you gain. And sometimes, or at least for me, the friends you gain are A LOT better for you than the friends whom you've lost ever were.


-Laura. (16-f)

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well, teenagers are bound to have issues. whether its with suicide, drugs, alcohol, or family. and my friends have a lot of problems. as well as me.

my friends give me great advice on my issues, but the probelm with me? i SUCK at giving good advice. earlier, one of my friends was about to kill himself because he was about to be shipped off to boot camp. i tried to tell him it was gonna be fine, but of course i dont know that!!

i am really bad at making people feel better, i just make them feel worse. and then i feel worse. how am i supposed to make them feel better? i want to be a good friend, but everything i try is just useless, cliches on how to focus on the positives. we're teenagers. no one focuses on the positives until they reach midlife.

what do i do??

I don't know what you're saying about not focusing on the positive until midlife. I'm 16, and I try to focus on all the positive things rather than the negative.


Maybe you could use that as a starting point. When somebody comes to you for help, focus on the good things rather than the bad. When your friend was suicidal, you could've told him that there are people in his life who love and care about him and if he were to have ended his life, would have been so hurt and upset.


I can't really tell you HOW to give advice, because it's not something you can just teach somebody. I guess first, you need to really WANT to help people. Then, just go for it. Again, I really can't tell you HOW to do it, but I can say it gets easier and better once you have experience with it =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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Right, so..

I have a friend, lets call her... Sam.

She was inviting people to go and stay at a theme park for a few days. She invited nearly all of her friends, but left me out. I can't just ask if I can go, because I dont want to sound cheeky. But, I don't mean this to sound selfish. If I had gone to a theme park or somewhere to stay, I would've took her. Actually, I have took her to a awards show once.

I feel really sad.

What should I do/say?

First of all, I think you're right to be upset. I just want to say that. Next, have you asked her about it? Not IF you can go with, but WHY she didn't invite you in the first place.


Maybe she had a certain limit, or she thought you wouldn't like the theme park. Regardless, I'd just ask her about it, and tell her you feel really left out, and that you know if you went somewhere and got to invite friends, she'd definitely be one of the first ones you call.


Good luck =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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hi, if you have ever seen those sunglasses they look plastic but its like there are strips across the lenses
i'm seeing a lot of people wearing them, does anyone know where i can get them
i'm sure they aren't expensive or brand named or anything like that

I've seen then and I hate them personally, but that's just me.


I know you can get them at most sunglasses booths in the mall, that's where I've mainly seen them, and they weren't that expensive. They were also selling them yesterday at Warped Tour [in case you or somebody you know is going?]



-Laura. (16-f)

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Okay well im going into my freshmann year and im really nervous.But still exited,So like does anything happen in freshmann year? when is homecomeing?? And is freshmann year like really hard?? what goes on someone tell me??

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=544383


As for homecoming, it's different with every school. You'll find out soon enough =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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14/f

This isn't exatly a normal advicenators question but it is still a question.
This is an opinion base thing for all those people who are fans of the popular Twilight series, and the new book , Breaking Dawn, that is released tomorrow morning at 12:01 AM.

What do you think will happen in Breaking Dawn? ? ?

I am really curios to read other peoples opinions.

I'm so excited for the new book, you don't even know ;]


Personally, I don't think Bella is going to become a vampire. I think something will stand in the way of it, and it won't happen. I DO see her marrying Edward, however.


I really don't know what else is going to happen. I guess we're just going to have to wait and see!


-Laura. (16-f)


EDIT:
By account do you mean column?:
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=LaUgH_OuT_LoUd_x0x


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What should I bring to a babysitting job and what should I wear?

Dress appropriately. Jeans and a nice tee shirt is fine. Don't wear anything revealing or offensive.


Bring your cell phone in case of emergency, but don't use to call up your best friend and talk for 2 hours or anything. A purse is probably the best idea. You can bring your purse, iPod to listen to if the kids go to bed early, and whatever else you might need.

As for what to bring for the kids, it depends on the children's' ages, interests, and what they already have at the house.


-Laura. (16-f)

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Im fifteen and Ive had a few boyfriends, just one or two in middle school, but Ive never kissed a guy.
But my two bestfriends, exfriend, and former crush have already lost their virginity. Theyve always said they thought that Id be the first to get a guy. Wrong!
Im usually a bit too optimistic and loove a really good hug. Haaha my "scene-esque" friends give THEE best! But I dont even curse, and Ive decided to get myself a purity ring :D
but I think Im pretty great.

Soo why dont guys wanna go for me?
My family has a big history of social disorders including agoraphobia, so I would never be willing to make the first move.
Thats a problem. How can I get over it?

All guys are into different types of girls. Just because your friends have boyfriends and you don't, doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. Just wait until you find a guy who likes you for you, and it will be totally worth it, trust me.


Don't rush into anything just because others are. Personally, I'm 16 and think that 15 is WAY too young to lose your virginity. I like that you got a purity ring, it's good to have morals.


As for social disorders, I really don't know much about them, but that's what doctors are for. If it's really bothering you or becoming a growing concern, check with your doctor to see if there's anything you can do for it.


Good luck =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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i cut my own sidebangs a couple weeks ago and they were short enough to be regular bangs. so i just clipped them back.

and now, my sidebangs are a little above my eyes but on the bottom they're sidewept..like this but a little more sideswept..

how can i fix this and make it look like regular sidebangs that look like this?

or when it grows out, will it just end up like that?

The columnist below is right. You have to wait until your bangs grow out in order to achieve that style. Once they get a little longer, hopefully, you'll be able to style them so they look how you want them to.


And for the record, next time, go to a hair stylist or have your mom cut your bangs =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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is it normal for a 13 year old guy(me) to have never been in a fight, be really sensitive(cry when im angry and when im pissed off/annoyed) and just weird things like that

Why wouldn't it be? You are who you are and you shouldn't let others influence you. If anything, it's a GOOD thing you're not out beating the crap out of other guys and that you actually show your emotions =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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I am vegetarian and I am often offered foods containing meat. I always feel so rude saying no to their food when they have taken so much time to prepare it and stuff.
How do I get around this without feeling rude or offending people?

Go vegetarians =]


Just tell them you don't eat meat. Yes, it does get a bit awkward, but after telling them once or twice, hopefully people will begin to remember.


I also like the idea of letting them know beforehand, if possible.



-Laura. (16-f)

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So I am already thinking of what to get my boyfriend for Christmas. I know, early. But I'll probably have to save up money. The only thing is I don't know what to get him. We have been together for four months. And he is the one. We are meant for each other. So any ideas? It doesn't matter how much it costs or anything.

Here are some helpful links:


http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=514539
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=448558
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542932
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=541217


Good luck!


-Laura. (16-f)

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How do you make guys notice you? as in wow i like her kind of way or a look way?

You can't MAKE a guy notice you. Some guys just notice some girls. And the reason why they notice you is different for everyone.


Try being confident and smiling. This shows you're approachable, and potentially a really nice person.


All in all, just be yourself, and one day you'll find a great guy who likes you for who you are =]



-Laura. (16-f)

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Okay, soo I just got a white 100% cotton tshirt with some black font on the front but it was inked on so Im assuming that the font shouldnt cause a problem. I wouldnt mind if it did, though.

I reallly want to do an "off axis concentric circle tiedye pattern" as Alvero Fernandez calls it in his online tutorials. I know how to do the basic circle, but it is possible to do..shapes? Like a heart? Because Ive seen pictures of that. Still in the concentric pattern though or whatever.

Also, how would I dye a shirt with two or three different colors? I like pastels.

Go to Wal-Mart, and go to the craft section.
Then, but one of the Tye Die kits they sell for like 10 bucks. It comes with 3 colors, instructions for making a variety of designs, and it's easy to use =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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i want to know which is a better movie:
of mice and men, the 1992 movie
or
of mice and men, the 1939 movie

surprisingly, both movies got 100% on rottentomatoes.com, which is really quite rare!

PLEASE BE HONEST and even if you haven't seen both (which is most-likely), even if you've seen one of them, tell me how much you liked it on a scale of 1-10 !! i absolutely ADORED the book

I've only seen the 1992 movie, but I thought it was actually pretty good. We watched it in school, and the ones we watch are rarely decent movies, but this one wasn't too bad =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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okay. well i have had an advicenators for a while now. but sometimes when i ask a question i wont get any answers. and it pisses me off sometimes cuz i really need help. then on the other hand when i go to yahoo answers sometimes i get stupid answers that dont help me at all. so which do you like better?? yahoo answers or advicenators??

Advicenators is much better in my opinion.


End of story.


-Laura. (16-f)

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Is it OK to love milk and be a vegan? I've tried soy milk and I find it too powdery.

Yes. Being a vegan doesn't mean you HAVE to give up milk, it's just what the majority of people who go vegan do.


-Laura. (16-f)

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okay so im having my birthday party at a state park kinda thing and i was wondering what activities we should do besides like swimming. does anyone got anything? thanks

You can play volleyball.
Have a scavenger hunt.
Play capture the flag.
Have a bonfire [if allowed]


hope it helps!


-Laura. (16-f)

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how do you know you love someone?

You don't have to ask on Advicenators on any other website.


-Laura. (16-f)

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well first of all im a guy and i wanna ask this one girl thats my friend out on a date but i kinda dont want to because, what if something goes wrong and our friendship ends so what should i do?

Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling this girl how you really feel about her?


Just go for it. What's the worst that can happen? She says no. If she does, just let her know it's ok and that you just thought maybe it would be cool to try and be more than friends. Don't make it awkward, just act normal and cool about it.


-Laura. (16-f)

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