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ok, so I've been talking to this boy lets call him T, for about 4 or 5 months.
he's really cute and sweet, but he gets so moody. also some people tell me he's a player and that I should be careful with him.but I don't believe it cause if it was true people would tell me in person. (If he's a player)
Also whenever we message each other or on oovoo or on the phone, we never really talk, like he's not a funny humorous guy that I'm usually into. Hes actually kind of boring And besides, he calls me hot sometimes, and I really don't like that.
another thing, he's always asking me for a sexy picture, but I'm not like that, so I don't send him one. and we haven't hung out like during this whole time talking, but that's cause we're both busy. and he says our relationship is like boring. & it kind of is, but that's cause we're busy.
I honestly really think he just likes me for my body or looks.
also I hear he's talking to another girl, I asked him who she was and he said that he used to like her or she used to like him or they used to both like one another I forgot, and that she's just and old friend. But I know they're like texting because he asked her for her number.
I don't think he's the one for me, but how do I stop talking talking to him ? Like give him a hint, I don't like you, we should stop talking sorta thing.
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At least you know you should stop talking to him. He is a "player" type of guy. I mean he doesn't really care for you, he cares about sex. Guys who are decent guys don't ask for pics. So that's how you know where his heart is.
Anyways, I used to talk to a guy like that. Don't text him. When he texts you, don't try having conversations with him. Just pretty much answer like you're bored with him, like you don't want to talk to him. If he tells you that you're attractive or asks you for pics then tell him that you're not interested in that, let's just be friends. Then you can stop texting him and he'll know that you lost interest.
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okay, so I am Gonna be a freshman, but still in summer.
so I've been talking to this sophomore lets call him Z
for about 4 or 5 months. (He goes to my school)
um he's cute, alot of people think we make a cute couple. but some people tell me he's a player and that he's talking to this other girl. when I asked him who the girl was, he just said she's an old friend, but I know they've been texting, cause he asked her for her number.
whenever we talk, it's usually a boring conversation.
on messaging or on the phone, it's boring. like he can't really keep a convo, he wants me to say everything.
throught out our talking time, we've never hung out. & that's cause I'm busy or he's busy.
so he told me our relationship was boring, & he's always asking me for a "sexy" picture, but I always deny him, cause I'm not like that. Another thing he's BARELY taller than me.
so now it's August, and I met this other boy, call him A, and he's honestly SO PERFECT! (He doesnt go to my school)
he's cute, he's taller than me, he's funny & can really keep a conversation. We've been messaging each other for about 2 weeks, and honestly I have feelings for him. he never asks for a sexy picture like Z & is always making me smile.
I haven't really been talking to Z, and talking all day with A.
me and A are gonna go on a date soon, & he's planning on asking me out. But on MY second day of school.
I have two weeks til school starts, and I wanna tell Z that we should just be friends or something like that, and just focus on A, but I don't know how.
and another thing, I don't want to get with A, because people will start saying I'm a hoe or something because I moved on so quickly.
POINT IS: I wanna stop talking to Z because A is just much better than him, but A goes to a different school, but Z goes to mine.
2 weeks til school starts, and me and A have a date the second day of school. he wants to ask me to be his that day, but I don't really wanna say yes because people might think I'm a hoe or something for moving on so quickly from Z.
what do I do?!?! without hurting A's feelings and get Z to not hate me cause I don't want to talk to him anymore..
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Ok pretty much, the next time Z texts you, don't try to have conversations with him. If he tries getting flirty or asks you for a picture, then straight up tell him that you're not interested in that and you'd rather just be friends.
I'm pretty sure people know that Z is a player. So if people start calling you names just because you lost feelings for someone, then screw them. I think the only person that would bother saying anything about you is him because of his hurt ego.
I think the only reason you should wait ti be with A is if you're not ready to be in a relationship with him, not because people will talk. That's their problem, not yours.
If you do plan on waiting to be with him, just tell him that you still want to get to know him a little better and hang out a little bit more before you get serious.
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so I am only 14 years old.
I've started to talk to this guy, who is a sophomore. Though he goes to a different school that I do.
we don't live to far, and are planning to hang out soon at one of my schools football games.
he told his mom and step dad that we were talking& that he likes me and they said that I'm pretty and they're okay with it.
On our date at the football game which is in like 2 weeks, August 30, I start school August 29. & his school year started last Monday. He was planning on asking me out. I really like this boy, & I want to be in a serious relationship with him
I want him to meet my parent. (Dad) But I'm too scared and don't know how he'll react.
I live with my dad, grandpa and brother. & uncle sorta, so it's alllll guys, and yeah.
I don't live with my mom, but I do visit her at times, and I wanna tell her too.
if anything ill tell my mom first, but I don't know how. and too scared.
another thing, the guy lives not too far from her. So if she wants to meet him, ill tell him or something to go to her house.
how do I tell them????!!!!
I'm so scared and nervous!
though in the past my dad thought I had a boyfriend once and told my mom to ask me about it. (link)
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I think you should start with your mom first. You can tell her that you've been talking to this guy and you really like him. He asked you on a date to the football game. Then she'll probably just ask some questions or you can just ask her for advice. Like what to say or what to wear, even if you already know. It might make her feel a little better that you're coming to her.
As for your dad, probably just go for the same thing. I wouldn't tell him around any of the other guys. Make sure it's clear that you both aren't "dating" yet, like no officially so if your dad starts to get a little weird about it, you can suggest having him over for dinner some time.
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last month my period is 14th july.18th july I do sex with my husband and this august month till 20th of august my period is missed help. (link)
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Lots of things can cause a period to be late. Stress, sickness, change in schedules, change in medications, change in your diet, then of course, pregnancy.
So your best best is to buy a couple pregnancy tests just to make sure.
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My boy friend ask'd me if I can come over He's 16 and I'm 14..(We are 1year and 7months together And we are very close)watch movies and just chill! We were kinda a bit 'jags' He's parents were there but they go for a nap we lied in the living room on a matras his little brother on the 'coutsh'.But seilintley het starts kiss me in my neck and softley bite me when he's hands go slowly to my brests!(He toutch it before)it didn't bother me! Slowly he unbotten my pants and starts to vinger me..it was my firts time someone did it..but I admit it was the most lovely feeling ever ..then he said let's go the the bathroom (I did) and he stats kissing me and push me against the wall ..He taked my hands and put it ons it *thing* and lead me how to give him a Blewjob and it was kinda akward (bcs it is my first)but It started to feel nice ..He had an 'horing' for the whole time (and I don't know Was it so nice or is it horrny?)And then we seilently went back..and lied again and we start making out..And sadinly he ask me want to feel how it feel (I wanted to say no) but deeply I wanted to do It just as much as he..and I Say Yes (altought its our 1) and slowley with close he starts pulling me closer and start doning it (it was nice) we was both horney!! A Lot!! The he said turn aroud and put your leg over me ,so I did it..and he took he's thing and put it in my virgina..just when he starts puting it in he wasint so deep in so 2cm..he's mom wake up and with the hearing she is coming he pulled fast out (that was most pain ever) I had a bit of bloud (not more than a drop I think) but my Question is Why do I still have pain when it happend on 10August(womens'day) and from today I still have pain and I'm late with my period its now 35days from when I stop ...? I'm to scared to tell someone!!I don't think I could be pregnant But why am I late and why the still pain? I've read someone has the same probleme and the girl was 16 and her boyfriend 17 she did it and she had pain and didn't get her periods (she got a pregnansy test and it was negative) she then told her boyfriend ans they did it again. So I thought Must I do it again (this time let he go right in or leaf it and wait for my periods)????(Sorry for spelling I'm afrikaans) (link)
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You didn't have to go into detail. You could have just said you had sex and we would've understood.
It's painful because you are young and your body is still developing. You could have been really tense and that can cause pain or you were too dry or he didn't use enough lubricant.
You didn't say that you used protection. So it is actually possible that you can get pregnant. If he didn't use a condom, and you guys had sex, you can end up pregnant. There's one girl I know who had sex for maybe like 3 seconds and she ended up pregnant.
I'd stop having sex because it sure sounds like you aren't ready or very responsible.
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I have depersonatization disorder; I know because I feel unreal and zone out so bad that I come back and have to remember things to feel less detached at the moment, I have anxiety...Anyhow, I don't think this is it because I get very depressed,I used to think of suicide, at times I act differently and I'm not trying to fit it (I don't think). I argue at times and just have to be right and have to win the argument (big problem),I think of hurting people, myself, and just dark thoughts. I sometimes find physical contact uncomfortable, I have sexual thoughts but I can't "turn on" at the right time. I also sometimes say things that really don't apply to the conversation...does anyone might have like an idea of what's wrong with me? What is wrong with meee! these feelings are helpless! (link)
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You need to have a doctor diagnose you. Well, firstly because they can tell you exactly what you have and obviously can help you with those problems.
We aren't doctors. I don't think people should self-diagnose themselves, because half the time, they are wrong.
So I can take random guesses of what you can have, but we all could be wrong.
I think you should see a doctor, tell them what you've been feeling and they can help you from there. It's better to go into the doctors without any ideas in your head of what you might have. It'll be better for you.
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Ok so firstly I am a 17/f and a virgin. I was going out with a guy 9 months ago and he broke my hymen because he fingered me with 3 fingers but there was never any blood and it was never uncomfortable. So recently I was started going out with a new guy and I haven't done anything since the old guy (9 months ago). But when he fingered me (1/2 fingers) for the first time I instantly started bleeding. I freaked out and found it so embarrassing because it was bleeding a lot. It bled for 3 days. A few weeks later I got my actual period and it really hurt! A lot more than normal! So I decided to just ignore it. Then after my period was over and everything seemed ok we tried again and the same thing happened but worse. Please help me! I don't know what is wrong?! And its really starting to hurt!! (link)
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I really think that either this guy is doing something wrong or you need to see a doctor.
The hymen doesn't "break", it stretches. It can tear but that's probably because the guy is too rough or you're too dry.
So if he's going at a fine pace, then you should see a doctor. If he's being too rough or you notice that you're too dry, then you guys need to fix that.
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I know it's good to be social and stuff, but I don't want any friends at my new school... Friends mean drama, and I just don't want to deal with it this year. Is there a way to make people not talk to me (Without them disliking me or making a fool of myself for them not to) or to make them stop talking to me when they do?.. (link)
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I can understand what you're wanting. It's just, talking to people, it doesn't make them your friend. You can be friendly but not friends.
It's pretty much that simple. Be nice to people, be kind, keep conversations short and sweet. Friendly, but not friends.
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21/f a year ago I was raped by my ex boyfriend. I never told anyone and have been dealing with it on my own. Anyway I have definitely grown from where I was, but for some reason I still have bad dreams about it, and right before I have intercourse with my current boyfriend in a certain position (the one I was in that awful day) I think about it before and after. It's nauseating to me, and I don't express how I feel to my current boyfriend because who wants to bring up such an awful thing at such a special intimate time. A little while ago I wasn't able to do anything in that position, so now that I can I know I'm moving on, I just don't understand why I still think about it. (link)
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Rape is a big deal and you don't just get over it. You need to talk to someone about it and they will help you move on.
I was in a similar situation. I wasn't raped. My ex boyfriend from 3 or 4 years ago attempted to rape me. Like you, I was so uncomfortable being in that and all I could think about was that day and I felt so sick.
Now, you actually were raped. And if I still think about that happening to me 3 or 4 years ago, you are definitely still thinking about what happened to you.
You need to talk to a therapist or counselor because I know a couple of people who have gone through it too. You can't just keep it to yourself and expect it to go away. So go talk to someone.
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I was with a guy for 5 months, lets call him X. So we really connected in all sort of ways as possible, we become really intimately close. We broke up because we used to argue a lot, sometimes we would just clash for no reason and it would blow into a really big argument. We have still been talking 7 months after our break up and I haven't lost one bit of feelings for him. We talk at least once very 2 week, sometimes we'll talk as just friends, others we will talk more than friends. But I just don't know what to because if we try to sort things out with each other, we'll be fine and then we will start arguing again. I can't lose these feelings, I go out on dates with guys who I know are my type and I'm like, but he's not X and I just think about him whilst on my dates and everything. Thanks! F/17 (link)
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Well the reason why you can't move on is because you're still talking to him. You're not ready to let him go or at least you're not trying to.
Being friends with your ex is hard, especially if you have feelings for them.
My friend in college had a break up that she wasn't taking well but she remained friends with him and couldn't get over him no matter what she did. She talked to one of the teachers. The teacher told her that being friends, actually means being friends. So that means you'll have to be ok with him seeing other girls. When you have feelings for someone, you're not going to be ok with that.
So you already know that you and this guy aren't good for each other. You both don't know how to handle your problems so you should let him go.
This is what I've noticed with a lot of girls. It hurts when you break up with someone, but it'll take a couple months to get over it. There are some girls who take years to get over someone. And they say, "I can't find anyone like him, I keep comparing him to other guys, I'll never get over him, ect". And that's why they are holding on for years. I was in that boat and I completely understand it. I dated other guys but I was always texting him. Eventually I had to stop because I realized that it didn't help me get over him and I needed to meet a guy who I was compatible with.
So stop talking to him, cut contact with him. You're not going to move on when you're still talking to him, because that's not letting go. Once you stop talking to him, give yourself time to move on. Then you'll meet new guys and maybe fall for one of them.
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I'm a 16 year old girl. I'm so used to living in the past and I have a serious issue with growing up. I'm very nervous about things that will be happening in the near future, like getting a job, getting my license, graduating high school, etc. Other kids my age seem to be so excited about these things while I feel a pit in my stomach!! What are some ways to overcome these things and not feel as nervous? (link)
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There's nothing wrong with feeling this way. It's normal. I was having the same problem when I was 16, that was three years ago and I'm still feeling that way.
I always wondered why all the other kids were excited for it. I did somewhat understand, I mean it's more freedom but a lot didn't realize that means it's a lot more responsibility.
I think what helped me was when I talked to my dad. He knew I got nervous before everything I ever did. I got my permit when I was 17 because I really didn't care to learn how to drive and I got my license when I was 18. I was really nervous about it. What he said has really helped me with almost every aspect of my life. He told me, "What's the worst thing that's going to happen? If you don't pass your driving test, you can just take it again." Then I kept putting myself down about getting a job. He said, "What's the worst that's going to happen? You won't get the job? It's not the end of the world, there are tons of jobs out there."
Same with college. I still don't know what I want to do with my life. A lot of kids I knew rushed into it and spent lots of money but realized they chose the wrong career path. I was so stressed out because all my friends were going away to college and I didn't know what I wanted. He told me that I should just try new things and see what I liked.
I think things like this will always be bittersweet. You'll be excited but you'll also be nervous because honestly, change is scary.
Just don't be afraid and embrace it. Remind yourself that if you don't pass, there is always a next time and if you don't get a job, there's always more. Don't stress out.
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My boyfriend and i have been together for over 5 yrs now. He buys epensive designer clothes to himself, but he doesnt buy me any birthday or anniversory gifts. He goes out every weekend with his friends and spend hundreds of dollars on champagne bottles in the clubs, but he does not do anything for me. He keep telling me that he loves me but he doesnt show it. Help me please. (link)
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I would talk to him about it.
I've seen girls complain about their boyfriend not buying them things, but that's normally because the boyfriend doesn't have money. In your case, it's different because he won't even do anything for your anniversary or your birthday.
So talk to him. If he doesn't seem to change, then maybe he's not the right guy for you.
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my school starts soon. Luckily my mothers case is not a big one so it wasn't on the news or anything. I told one of my friends but haven't told two others. If I invite them over they will probably notice my mom not there. Do you think if people find out they will be all cruel or teasing like you usually see on television shows or understandable and just mind their own business? I am optimistic and believe they will be understandable and won't act in the way you usually see like on TV (link)
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How old are you?
It really depends, every kid is different. The good ones will mind their own business but teenage girls love drama and love to gossip.
Honestly, if I was you, I'd keep it to yourself. If your friends come over and they notice then you can just ask them to keep it to themselves because it's really no ones business but your family. If it gets around, they weren't good friends.
With my own personal experience, my dad was stabbed by a man and was almost killed a couple months ago. It was on the news but the victim (my dad) remained nameless.
I could just go around and tell all my friends that my dad was almost killed, but what's the point? I only told a couple of my friends and it didn't get around anywhere else. I only asked everyone else to just pray for my dad, and that's it, no other explanations.
There is reasons why I don't want to spread it around. That man had motive to hurt my dad and then it just makes your family look bad when really, my family is all good people.
It's no ones business but your family. I wouldn't go around telling people your details if they find out.
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There is this guy I like, we have history together. But never went out. We haven't talked in a while and we started to. Ive been scared to attempt any relationships, so I seem to have pushed him away. But I have always cared for him, and he is special to me. I relized that I dont want to lose him. But he doesn’t speak to me at all. And I have apologized. What should I do? (link)
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What'd you apologize to him for? Was it because you pushed him away and you're apologizing for that?
Either way, you can't make someone talk to you. If he won't even talk to you face to face then you probably need to let him go.
You could write him short note and if he still doesn't want anything to do with you, then just let him go.
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Me and my friend are bisexual I like her but don't know if she likes me as well. She's with someone else and we are all great friends. i haven't told anyone apart from 2 people Im bi not even my family. I'm scared if i tell her it will ruin our friendship what do I do????? Please give me some advice!!!!!! (link)
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I don't think that if you tell her you like her, that it will ruin the friendship. I think she'll be understanding.
But I don't think you should go tell her you like her. The reason why is because she is with someone else and it's wrong to try to get in the way of it. That would be the only reason why you guys won't stay close friends. Because she has feelings for someone else right now, you'll tell her you like her and if she doesn't have feelings for you, she'll most likely tell her partner and her partner won't be comfortable with you guys hanging out as often. I'm not saying that will happen, but it does sometimes.
So I'd say either try to move on or wait until she's not in a relationship.
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what is a painless way to die
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Firstly, there is no painless way to die..unless you're elderly and you pass away in your sleep.
Secondly, no one on this site is allowed to tell you how to kill yourself.
Our job is to help people live through their problems.
So you need to talk to someone about what you're feeling. You need to see a counselor or therapist. You can even just walk in the hospital and tell them you want to die and they will get you help.
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I'm thirteen years old and female, and I think I weigh a little more than I should. I'm four feet and eleven inches and almost ninety pounds. I have gained a lot of weight recently, and I don't like it. When I was in fourth grade, I was only four feet tall and 48 pounds. I wish I could stay that way.
I think I need to start eating less, exercising more, or something like that. Whenever I eat more than I usually do, I feel awful about it. So far, I have tried to make sure I don't eat too much at meals, and I do a lot of sit-ups and yoga. When I start school again, I'll be doing PE every day, too. I'm trying to eat only 1300 calories a day. Is that good enough, or should I eat less than that?
No matter what I try, I always end up gaining weight in the end. I would really appreciate any advice on how to lose weight. Thank you! (link)
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I looked a little into this and your normal weight should be around 90 to 110 pounds. It really depends on your frame size. So you're fine.
You're still growing, so you're always going to gain weight. I'm thinking you still have baby fat since you are still very young.
How active are you? If you're not very active then you should probably eat around 1600 calories. If you're moderately active then 1600-2000. If you're very active then 1800-2200 calories.
You don't need to lose weight, you just need to be healthy. I don't think you realize that.
I think your goal should be to gain more muscle, lose the fat, and stay healthy.
Because what you're doing right now is not very healthy. So keep exercising and eating right.
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What should I do?
My mom took my phone while I pretended to sleep and when she gave it back I quickly checked all the recent "view history" and she friggin read all my texts and emails. This bitch pisses me off and I hate how she has to snoop around and read my personal things; where the hell is the privacy these days... (link)
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Does she pay for your phone bills? Did she get you the phone?
I think you're overreacting. Even though it wasn't right of her to go through your texts and emails, she can and she is your mother. You don't exactly "deserve" privacy when you're a minor living under her roof.
What should you do?
Talk to her. Tell her you don't feel comfortable with her checking your things and to ask you next time.
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i have lost my virginity how i can get it back? (link)
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You do know that losing your virginity means that you had sex right?
Unless you have a time machine, you can't take it back.
By the way, virginity is just a term. Just a word that says that you haven't had sex. It doesn't change you at all so it's not a big deal.
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My bf & I have been together for 11 months. He has quite a temper on him & Sometimes gets really angry & calls me names. It's wrong but because I'm scared of his temper, I sometimes hide things from him or not tell the truth. Usually about small things to spare his feelings (like if he got invited to a party or not)
I've tried telling him about this before but he just doesn't seem to understand that he's part of the problem. I've tried not lying/hiding but he just gets so mad when I tell the truth. Now he won't forgive me & will only do so if I post a status on facebook callingg myself a liar. Is this still love? Is this still worth it? I forgive him for all the awful things he's said to me/called me,.why cn't he forgive me (link)
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He is very controlling and verbally abusive to you. I mean you said yourself that he has a temper and that you are scared of it.
It doesn't matter whether you tell him the truth or not, he'll still get angry with you.
Do you really want to keep dealing with this? It's just going to get worse because you can't make someone change and you can't make someone love you the way you deserve to be loved.
The fact that he wants you to post a status on Facebook calling yourself a liar is really ridiculous and disgusting.
You deserve better than this.
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