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Please Answer: I don't want any new 'friends'.?
I know it's good to be social and stuff, but I don't want any friends at my new school... Friends mean drama, and I just don't want to deal with it this year. Is there a way to make people not talk to me (Without them disliking me or making a fool of myself for them not to) or to make them stop talking to me when they do?..
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I can understand what you're wanting. It's just, talking to people, it doesn't make them your friend. You can be friendly but not friends.
It's pretty much that simple. Be nice to people, be kind, keep conversations short and sweet. Friendly, but not friends.
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I know what you mean.
I think whilst friends can be a burden, its important to be friendly with people just because you have their back in an argument. Also you don't want to be the loner at the front of the class with no one to work with.
So you need people to just be ok with you. Simply not talking to them will make people dislike you. From a shy girl, this is not the thing that will help you. It'll make you look stuck up and above them.
I think try to gain a few acquaintances by making small talk with people. But go to the library of whatever over lunch. Its actually pretty easy to not progress any friendship-its what alot of shy people like myself do naturally, all the time.
Or you can indeed familiarize yourself with the shyer members of the group/quieter. I am not saying take them for a ride or use them in anyway, I am saying that if they are so obviously shy they'd be glad to have a bit of interest shown in them. But they wont know how to progress the friendship-which is what you want.
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You become friends with someone by hanging out with them outside of school, and pursuing conversation. If you really don't want new friends, just be nice but don't over exert your energy into finding out more about that person. If you limit your conversations, you will become friendly acquaintances, not friends. Although if you do make new friends and it starts drama, you can always distance yourself from them just as you would limit your conversation to prevent a friendship. Just something to think about :-) . Hope this has helped!
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