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I'm bisexual and so is my friend! I like her but she's with someone else!!!
Me and my friend are bisexual I like her but don't know if she likes me as well. She's with someone else and we are all great friends. i haven't told anyone apart from 2 people Im bi not even my family. I'm scared if i tell her it will ruin our friendship what do I do????? Please give me some advice!!!!!!
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I don't think that if you tell her you like her, that it will ruin the friendship. I think she'll be understanding.
But I don't think you should go tell her you like her. The reason why is because she is with someone else and it's wrong to try to get in the way of it. That would be the only reason why you guys won't stay close friends. Because she has feelings for someone else right now, you'll tell her you like her and if she doesn't have feelings for you, she'll most likely tell her partner and her partner won't be comfortable with you guys hanging out as often. I'm not saying that will happen, but it does sometimes.
So I'd say either try to move on or wait until she's not in a relationship.
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If she's in a relationship already with another girl, then you know she has no problem with being open about being bi. If you tell her something she doesn't know, like the fact that you are bi too, then you at least know she won't react like Ewwww, as some narrow minded folk might do.
You know she likes you as a friend. I dont know if its different at your age but I have had occasion to go places where lots of bi people hang out, I am not that myself. It was interesting to find out that any new woman coming into the place were only approached by a female if they were bi. The women had a natural instinct to know who was bi. My neighbor girl friend who was bi went with me to a place and some girl she didnt know walked right up to her and kissed her. I was astounded. They didn't even look twice at me when i was right with her. So there is a good chance that she may have wondered and already guessed at it though she hasn't asked.
You have to realize that just like with guys, the attraction has to run both ways for anything to come of it. If she doesnt feel the same about you, she'll likely want to just remain platonic friends and not go over into the lovers side of it. However, since she is already with another girl who is bi and dating her, I would assume the same goes again as it does with guys. If a guy is dating a girl and you make moves towards him, you'll make the other girl angry at you. The object of your desire may also get pissed at you for upsetting their girl.
So...long story short, you can tell her you are bi. But refrain from telling her that you have any interest in her that way until she has stopped dating the other girl on her own.
The only exception would be if all 3 of you felt more polyamorous, meaning able to have more than one lover, a triad..all three know of the other partner for each and is ok with it whether two pair off at a time or all three get together for a threesome. But with women at younger ages still battling the emotions that come with the inrush of hormonees, thats easier said than done. Likely there'd be many moments of jealousy and comparing, and frustration, so not a good way to go. Hope this helps a bit
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