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yea.

so ive had this health teacher and i thought he was the coolest person ever. and then he said today:

"...males are only on earth to reproduce.."

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this statement. it...it makes me want to kill myself. im a 15 year old boy and i thought about that sentence DEEPLY for a LONG TIME, and i think i should kill myself. my life is a lie. they say eat healthy and stay in shape yet everyone dies anyway, and thanks to that statement i rly am questioning whehter or not i should go on in life.


idk. any statements?

So are females, though. It's what life is. and one thing everyone has in common with each other is death. Doesn't mean you should end your life now because of that silly statement.
After hearing something like that, it would have the opposite effect on me. It would make me want to actually live my life and make the most of it.
You can't let his bad choice of words practically ruin your life.
Yes, it may have had an impact on you, but you're taking it the wrong way.
You are 15 years old. They say eat healthy and stay in shape so it helps you live a good, longer life.
Try to forget that sentence, or perhaps talk to him about it and explain it affected you. I bet you're not the only male who now feels inadequate after being in that lesson.

If it makes you feel any better, think of it this way: Without some of our historical figures who are male, the world wouldn't be what it is today.

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i really need to get into it

and i have the same pw for everything but this

and i dont remember which email i used

and please dont say go through all of them ive already tried and cant remember


but i need a way to find out the email i used for it


i have the username and everything,just not the email

Go here:

http://photobucket.com/faq?catID=54&catSelected=f&topicID=515

If for some reason you don't understand, go here and explain your problem. It's a Photobucket forum for problems users may have:

http://forums.photobucket.com/forumdisplay.php?f=13

You'll get the help you need there.
Good luck.

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Can you get pregnant from giving a guy a blow job?

No, unless the sperm miraculously makes contact with your vagina.
Swallowing sperm does NOT equal pregnancy. :)

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Ok so Im a 18/f
umm well I like this guy hes 22 and he seems to like me back. we have a lot in common, we go to the same church and for me thats a big plus.
the thing is that well sometimes i get the impression that he really likes me and this kinda worries me sometimes because of the age gap.im afraid that hed either play me because im younger or want a super serious relationship because of his age. i really dont know what i would do if he ask me out. my friends tell me that guys his age already think of marriage and Im definitely not ready for that but I do have feelings for this guy but I dont know what I should do
any advice anyone?

Well your friends are wrong. There's no set time for marriage. Just because he is older than you (by a small amount may I add), it doesn't mean he wants marriage. Some people are ready for marriage at your age, so going by what your friends say isn't a good thing to believe.
The way I see it is, you both like each other and would go well together. If I were you and got asked out, I'd say yes.
The age gap of 4 years shouldn't worry you, to be honest.
If he does ask you out, you could tell him the things you are worried about and he will put your mind at ease.
Seems like you're just over thinking things.
Stop worrying and take it as it comes.
Very best of luck.

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well, i haven't had this problem for a while but now i'm getting worried. the last time i had sex was... about a few weeks ago. and my boyfriend said that the condom didn't break or leak, because if it did... he would've told me. I have a safe boyfriend so i trust him. My period has been coming on randomly, like in january i had it on the 6th, february on the 7th, march on the 11th, and april on the 12th. Today's the 13th of June, but i'm still kind of worried... is it just coming a bit late or randomly or am i pregnant?

*13th of May.

Okay, I'll be quick:
You're probably late. Yes, there's always that chance of being pregnant, but look at your previous coming on days. They're quite close together, but seem to be a few days out.
Give it about a week. If you see no sign of your period and feel no symptoms of it coming, you should take a test to put your mind at ease.
Try your best not to worry - as this can make periods come on late, or sometimes not at all - as well as changes to your body, like a different diet, exercise etc. Are you doing anything different?
If not, don't panic. Just go about your normal day and wait.

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okay, I'm 13 and I might actually be "in love" with my girl friend.
The only thing is we hug ALOT but I havnt kissed her yet! Please help me boost my conifidence.
and the last time she gave me a BIG hug I got a boner and I think she felt it, what should I do?

If you want to have your first kiss with her, make it one to remember :) (assuming you are BOTH ready).
Go out somewhere on the day you plan to kiss her. You can either kiss her at the location, or save it for when you're home, as an ending to your day.
What you shouldn't do is just ram your tongue in her mouth. For a first kiss, just make sure your lips touch hers and give a normal kiss with closed mouths. From here, you will know if you should use tongues.
Remember, there is no set time to kiss. Some people wait months before they feel ready to kiss, whereas others can do it fine on the first date.
Why don't you talk to her about it? Or tell her you want to kiss her in a txt message or something. That's always a cute thing to do and by her response, you will know if she's ready.
Good luck with it all!

As for the boner, it's natural. Don't worry.

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My boyfriend has cheated on me 3 times..We get into argue ments a lot over dumb things its usually about him not likeing me going anywere with my frinds or out..its funny because he doesint start arguements with me when im stuck at home its when i tell him im bout to go to the mall with my home girl then thats when he starts saying smart things that make me mad like yea you about to go meet with other guys or yea you about to look at other dudes..like i get so irritated and its like in my head i think you are the cheater okay and i dont even question anything about you or who your with..damn!!...when we argue and he hangs up on me i dont call him back, he gets mad at me for that. i dont call him back bcause i feel like im not wrong and i feel like he just disrespected me over the phone so why should i call back..So he tells me that if i had your support and if you were there for me then i would have never slept with other girls or done anything with them...IS THAT AN EXCUSE??...like he can never realise hes wrong for anything!! he can never say hes wrong...all his wrong doings he says that he did what he did for a reason and its because of me all the time...so hes not wrong...ughh! (I HAV NEVER CHEATED ON HIM AND WHAT KILLS ME THE MOST IS THAT HE HAS CHEATED ON ME 3 TIMES AND ALL HE CAN SAY IS THAT.. "MAN WE STILL DONT KNOW WHAT YOUVE DONE" WHEN HE TELLS ME THAT I JUST WANNA SLAP HIM BECAUSE I HAVE NEVER CHEATED ON HIM..AND EVERYTIME I TELL HIM I HAVENT HE GETS MAD AND SAYS YEA WATEVER... THE TRUTH IS THAT I NEVER DONE WHAT HE HAS DONE TO ME I NEVER CHEATED ON HIM...BUT KNOWING THE TRUTH HE DOESINT BELIVE IT. IN HIS MIND I CHEATED ON HIM..IT HURTS ME SO MUCH TO KNOW THE REAL TRUTH..AND BEING LOOKED AT AS THE CHEATER BUT REALLY ITS ALL ON HIM..WHAT DO I DO...?

Okay, listen.
He is very lucky you took him back after he cheated on you 3 times. Does he even know this? If not, tell him. What I think you should do is just write it all down in a letter/email/whatever. Get it all off your chest.
When you go out without him, he probably gets paranoid and thinks you will cheat to get back at him.
All you can do is let him know you won't do it.
It's up to him to be able to trust what you say - just like you trust that he won't cheat on you again.
It works both ways here.
Just tell him everything you are feeling in some form of writing - so you don't forget any and try to keep you're cool when you are explaining it.
Then what you need to do is give him an ultimatum.
Either he trusts you, like you trust him after he cheated on you, or that's it - you will break up with him.
You don't deserve to feel like the bad person when you haven't done anything wrong.
and if he's making you unhappy with the relationship and you've told him, but he still doesn't change, then the only decent thing to do is break up, because a relationship without trust or communication is bound to fail.
I do hope you 2 can come to some sort of agreement, but if not, you deserve better. Don't forget that.

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So about 3 months ago my boyfriend and I broke up and we weren't in the best of spirits together. Well he went to Vermont to see his family and get away and figure things out.
He has been gone for 2 months and we have gotten back together.
He is coming back in 2 weeks and I want advice on some cheap and romantic things to do when he gets back. He comes home at 1:30 in the morning so I was thinking to go star gazing but I was just curious if any one had any more ideas to make it extra romantic?

Star gazing is nice :)
Why not turn it into a picnic, too? You could even try lighting candles if the weather is okay for it, or bring music if you can.
Maybe even a massage under the stars.
You could try writing him a letter or making him something to give to him on that night as well.
If you're planning on staying there all night, you could go for a walk, or just watch the sunrise together - an old, yet romantic thing to do.

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what is the key to getting a boyfriend, and staying with him?
some might say confidence, others may say loyalty, and other important traits such as that, but im wondering, what worked for you in the past? was it just chance that brought you together or did you work on attracting a certain person by displaying confidence or whatever.
im wondering this because i havent gone out with anyone since 2 years ago, guys just dont seem interested.
thanks!

I like this question. It made me think. and to be honest, I don't understand how I've been in what I would call long relationships, let alone attract members of the opposite sex!
What worked for others might not work for you.
All you need to do is basically be yourself and if you like someone, make an effort with them by talking, hanging out, getting to know one another... etc. Confidence will certainly help, but I feel communication is a must. Without it, things fail pretty fast.
Don't be afraid to let someone know you like them - and don't ever let rejection put you off. I'm sure everyone will get rejected at some point in their life, but it's just how it goes.
Just because you haven't been out with anyone for 2 years, it's not a big cause for concern. You could go out and meet someone tomorrow, or who knows, it might be another 2 years from now. You shouldn't rush things.
and as for staying with your man when you've got him... well, just don't do anything to hurt him..

Give this a read. It should help.
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Boyfriend

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so my boyfriend fingered me last friday and he was kinda ruff, but i got home a i had blood on my underwear and i woke up on monday and it hurt to pee.
well it only hurts at the end when i'm almost done.
but what could it be.
i thought it was a Urinary Tract Infection..
but i have noo idea.
anything would be extra great.
thanks.
f/16

It could be the start of a UTI, yes. Or perhaps you have small cuts down there for some reason - maybe from him being a little rough?
Do you have any other noticeable symptoms at all?
Frequent need to urinate, pain/burning when urinating, fever, cloudy urine, blood in urine... They all point to some form of bladder infection. Sometimes, people don't get symptoms, though.
So I urge you to go to a doctor if it doesn't go away within 3 days, as you may need antibiotics.
What you don't want to do is leave it (if it is a UTI), because it can spread to your kidneys making you very sick.
If it is a UTI, don't worry because they're very common - especially amongst girls and women who are just becoming sexually active.
If there's a next time, make sure he has clean hands and don't be afraid to tell him if he's being too rough.

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my friend is starting to get really obsessed with this one guy and quite frankly i don't think he is going to like her in that way. she is nice and all but i don't think he wants a girlfriend. and plus he doesn't really know she exists. so how do i make her like him less, i don't want her to get hurt =[.

You can't just change someone's feelings for someone. It has to run it's course.
I know you're just trying to be a good friend, but at the end of the day, it's probably a good thing that she will find out for herself what will or won't happen with this guy. It'll give her experience and next time she likes someone, she might not be so crushed - assuming nothing happens with this current guy.
Being her friend and all, you should support her. I know if she talks about this guy all the time she's probably driving you crazy! So just tell her to talk about something different because it's not exactly fun for you.
Also, you could encourage her to just talk to him. The worst thing that could happen is they become friends. Oh no!... :P
but seriously, don't worry too much about it. As I've said, I know you're trying to be a good friend and you don't want her to get hurt - but in the end, that part is up to her.
Crushes eh? Pfffft!
Good luck girlie.

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Hey Laura I'm trying to get with this girl I really like, could you help me by telling me what kind of foreplay girls like? and what kind of.. fore.. fore.. play girls would need? as in something to trigger them sexually.

Perhaps tell me what you like please? :)
I won't be mean like that last person, he/she was an awful person, no wonder he/she wants to er.. commit suicide..

please answer my question precisely =) thanks xx

Thanks for your Q.
Right, something needs to be cleared up, here.
If you're trying to get with someone, the last thing on your mind should be foreplay. Foreplay should only be on your mind when you've got them and you're both ready to be doing those things!
I can also tell you that each girl is different - so me telling you what I like could be pretty pointless because a girl you get with might like the opposite.
If you're trying to be noticed by this girl you like and try to prove to her you'd be a good boyfriend:
1. Be yourself.
2. Make the effort with her. (talk to her when possible, show an interest, make contact if you can - such as touch her arm when you're talking, txt/call/email, hang out etc and things should move on from there.

I found this website for you. It will come in handy since I can't really go into detail about sex etc.

http://uk.askmen.com/love/love_tip/58_love_tip.html



and as for the last person, I guess some people just don't want to be helped. They should seek better ways to find out how to kill themselves than on here. Sigh.

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I'm a worthless human being. I've been a worthless human being for a pretty long time, but I've just now come to accept it.

I've decided I want to die. However, I'm too much of a coward to go through with it. Perhaps it's the thought of pain, maybe it's the risk of failing at failing.

In any case, whatever some (Relatively) painless and (Relatively) reliable suicide methods, preferabley accessable to the common 20-something who doesn't work in a hospital?

No one here will give you advice on how to kill yourself, as it's a child friendly site, for one. They're going to do the opposite. In fact, I'm thinking that is what you want - for people to give you multiple reasons why NOT to kill yourself.
For one, killing yourself is the cowards way out. Life can be tough. You must accept that. It throws many obstacles at us and yes, a lot of the time, people DO feel like giving up - but they're strong. They know deep down they can beat it if they try. I don't know what's happened to you to make you feel like a "worthless human being", but do you know what? You can change that - change it for the better.
Right now, I don't have much going for me. I sucked at school which was my own fault and now I'm finding it almost impossible to find a job and earn money to make a living. Family life etc isn't a barrel of laughs either. but I'm hanging in there because I want to show people and most importantly, prove to MYSELF that I AM worth being here - just like everyone else.
Whatever has happened to you in the past can be fixed. Then you can focus on your all important future.
I urge anyone with suicidal thoughts to seek help.
Death is forever. Depression isn't.




EDIT IN RESPONSE TO FEEDBACK:
Either way, NO ONE in their RIGHT MIND would tell someone ways to commit suicide. You know, that is what THE INTERNET IS FOR. If you weren't afraid, you'd search and find ways yourself instead of HINTING for HELP on here. Advicenators IS child friendly. Children use it - there is an age limit, yes, but when has that ever stopped anyone? A lot of our columnists are young teens themselves, who happen to offer BRILLIANT advice.
I don't care you rated a 1. I'm more worried about the fact you'd think people would give you ways to die.
You should be thankful for the help you got. There will be PLENTY more from other users, so beware. It is what Advicenators is about.

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Is it wrong to like a guy more...like this guy tyler has a girlfriend and all but he REALLY REALLY likes me and this kid was picking on him and beat tyler up on his birthday and threatened to pull out a knife on him and his older brother tj beat that kid up and got put into a detention center. I just want to be there and hold tyler, but i cant. I feel like crying and this kind of makes me want tyler more.. but i told my friend ariel and she was just like i wouldnt like him because of it, and i didnt know you were serious... but

1.)why does it make me want him more??
2.)why do i want to be there with him and hold him and just comfort him??
3.)Why am i hurt by this??

thanks!!

Thanks for your question.
To be honest, I think many, many people have been in your situation where you want someone - but you just can't have them. It makes you want that person more - especially if they like you, too.
It's only right that you want to be there and comfort him, because you like him and he likes you too. It's in our nature to care for someone and want to be able to protect them when you feel for them.
Of course you're going to be hurt by this - but now I'm going to give you brutal honesty which you will either appreciate or hate:
If he seriously liked you and wanted to be with you - HE WOULD BE. He wouldn't be with his girlfriend, he would be with YOU, no doubt about it.
This is where you need to start thinking about yourself and being realistic. You can't wait forever for him. I know this isn't a question you asked but it's just something for you to think about.
Yes, you can be friends, but whilst he has a girlfriend, your friend is right - you should try to not like him. and find someone who likes you and wants to be with you.
but as far as the questions you did ask - the feelings you are experiencing are very normal. You just need to let him know if he doesn't want to be with you, you will move on, but still be his friend.
I hope this does make sense to you, because one of the worst things is wasting time on someone if they won't be with you.

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there has to be some way to figure out who left a message in your myspace truth box...is there? like im sure its possible some how...and i REALLY want to know if anyone has figured out a way yet. does anyone know how?? thanks!

If there was a way to find out, it would totally defeat the idea of it being anonymous.
There's no way around it, I'm afraid.

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So my friend told me that if you eat bread crusts, it helps making your boobs grow. And I was like, Nu uh. Because there isn't like a main food that makes your boobs grow right? Well also! I was just curious, like how do your boobs grow anyways? I'm 14/f, and I'm about a B cup I think. But how do they grow? something about tissue right? I don't know, I just got really curious about it, and my mom isn't around much at all, so we never really talk. Thanks! (:

It's not true. No foods, pills, drinks, etc will help.
The only ways are surgery and if you become pregnant - which I doubt you want to do.
You are 14 years old. Just wait it out.
Or if you want to give the illusion of bigger breasts, exercising can help.

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f/14
befre i start off ... plz dont bother me about being too young
i've been in love with a guy (he's in love with me too ) he was the one i had my first kiss with and we've been in love for over a year ... hes been so good to me and i know im ready to do it with him but the farthest ive been with him is a blowjob ... i really want more but i always get scared that the sex will hurt (im a virgin)
does sex hurt the first time
would it help if i masturbate
i really am ready for this i know it for sure so i dont want people saying that u better make sure he's the one
THANK YOU ! :)

Might hurt, might not. Depends what you've done previously and if you've had anything inserted before.
Mine didn't hurt first time.
May I also add, if you're so sure he's the one, what problem do you have with waiting? You need to realize the consequences if it got out, for example, your parents wouldn't be too pleased with you. and if he is at a legal age to have sex already, he could get into serious trouble.
Anyway, hope it answered what you wanted and I do hope you're ready and not fooling yourself.
Good luck.

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Hey,
So there is this guy at my work, he's real hot. Any how every thime i'm near him he's constantly rubbing or pinching my arms, he'll even skratch my back or massage it for no reason. We talk on msn and facebook and stuff, and he's always asking me if i have a bf...
What do you think... is this guy into me?

Guys and girls plz!

thanks!

Sounds like he's definitely interested if he's making that amount of effort with you.
Good luck

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Okay There is this guy I like let's call him bob okay.
So anyways I like "bob" and the thing is he is my best friend. I havn't told anyone this.
The problem is my other bff also likes "bob". She told me and me only. I don't wanna hurt her feelings but should I crush mine either? What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Hey, thanks for your question.

Is your friend the type of girl who moves on quickly, or has multiple crushes at a time? If she is, you could just wait a while until she doesn't like "Bob" anymore, then it would be okay for you to get in there.

I think the nice thing to do in this situation would be to talk to her, though. Tell her you've also fallen for him, but you didn't want anyone to know and see what she says.
What happens from there will depend on her reaction. If she doesn't mind, then by all means, go for it. If she gets upset, you will need to think of the consequences - you could lose her over this. Is it really worth it?

I know this might not seem like much help, but you need to decide what you personally want to do. I definitely think you should tell her you like him. Then it will become clear to you what you should do from there - that is what I would do, anyway.

If you'd like further advice with this matter, I'd be happy to help and give you my own opinions.

Good luck either way.

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I need to know what astigmatism is, and i tried looking it up on google but they all have these confusing explanations and i just want to know...?
-what is it?
-is it harmful?
-can it be fixed?


thanks!

I found the easiest descriptions for you. Do these help?

"Astigmatism is characterized by an irregular curvature of the cornea. This type of disorder is also known as a refractive error. Astigmatism occurs in nearly everybody to some degree. For significant curvature, treatment is required."


Or


"A visual defect in which the unequal curvature of one or more refractive surfaces of the eye, usually the cornea, prevents light rays from focusing clearly at one point on the retina, resulting in blurred vision."


Or


"Astigmatism occurs when the front part of the eye, the cornea, is not a regular symmetrical spherical shape. Instead, its shape is rather like that of the back of a spoon - longer in one direction than another. Because the cornea is an irregular shape, the eye can't focus light passing through it sharply on to the back of the eye or retina. So vision is blurred at all distances."



Harmful?
Not really. It's common. but you should get it fixed.

Treatment:
Glasses, contact lenses, surgery, laser surgery.


Hope that has cleared things up for you.

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