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what should i do? is this fair? what can i tell him?
My boyfriend has cheated on me 3 times..We get into argue ments a lot over dumb things its usually about him not likeing me going anywere with my frinds or out..its funny because he doesint start arguements with me when im stuck at home its when i tell him im bout to go to the mall with my home girl then thats when he starts saying smart things that make me mad like yea you about to go meet with other guys or yea you about to look at other dudes..like i get so irritated and its like in my head i think you are the cheater okay and i dont even question anything about you or who your with..damn!!...when we argue and he hangs up on me i dont call him back, he gets mad at me for that. i dont call him back bcause i feel like im not wrong and i feel like he just disrespected me over the phone so why should i call back..So he tells me that if i had your support and if you were there for me then i would have never slept with other girls or done anything with them...IS THAT AN EXCUSE??...like he can never realise hes wrong for anything!! he can never say hes wrong...all his wrong doings he says that he did what he did for a reason and its because of me all the time...so hes not wrong...ughh! (I HAV NEVER CHEATED ON HIM AND WHAT KILLS ME THE MOST IS THAT HE HAS CHEATED ON ME 3 TIMES AND ALL HE CAN SAY IS THAT.. "MAN WE STILL DONT KNOW WHAT YOUVE DONE" WHEN HE TELLS ME THAT I JUST WANNA SLAP HIM BECAUSE I HAVE NEVER CHEATED ON HIM..AND EVERYTIME I TELL HIM I HAVENT HE GETS MAD AND SAYS YEA WATEVER... THE TRUTH IS THAT I NEVER DONE WHAT HE HAS DONE TO ME I NEVER CHEATED ON HIM...BUT KNOWING THE TRUTH HE DOESINT BELIVE IT. IN HIS MIND I CHEATED ON HIM..IT HURTS ME SO MUCH TO KNOW THE REAL TRUTH..AND BEING LOOKED AT AS THE CHEATER BUT REALLY ITS ALL ON HIM..WHAT DO I DO...?
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he only thinks that you are cheating on him because he cheated on u so he thinks that you will wanna get back at him...HE SHOULD NOT BE TALKING TO YOU LIKE THAT.. you have every right to go with your friends he has no right to b accusing u i say DUMP HIM and let him go crawling back to you when njo one wants him...then he wont ever do that again
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OMG girl what are you still doing with him. He has no right to talk to you like that. Your the one that shouldn't be able to trust him since he's the one that's cheated on you THREE TIMES. When he starts telling you that your the one that's also cheating on him tell him that your not a liar and a cheater like him. You really deserve better than him. You don't have to put up with that crap or his sick mind. You should finish with him now because the most important thing in a relationship is trust and respect and clearly he's got neither of them for you. I really hope you make the right decision and that I helped.
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You tell him "Good bye. It's Over. Go rot in hell."
He isn't going to realize he is wrong and he isn't going to change. So whay are you even still talking to him? There is no way to argue with someone who can't even realize they screwed up and blames other people for thier mistakes.
If he can't even admit that he made a mistake and blames you for it, there is no chance of this improving.
It would be nice, if you would be polite and not hang up on him. It would nice if you could communicate with him in a more mature way. But you don't have too, because this relationship is already over. All you are doing now, is waiting for the offical break up.
You can't control what he does or thinks of you. You can only look at what is going on and decide if it is acceptable to you or not.
His behavoir is not acceptable. Just dump him.
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Okay, listen.
He is very lucky you took him back after he cheated on you 3 times. Does he even know this? If not, tell him. What I think you should do is just write it all down in a letter/email/whatever. Get it all off your chest.
When you go out without him, he probably gets paranoid and thinks you will cheat to get back at him.
All you can do is let him know you won't do it.
It's up to him to be able to trust what you say - just like you trust that he won't cheat on you again.
It works both ways here.
Just tell him everything you are feeling in some form of writing - so you don't forget any and try to keep you're cool when you are explaining it.
Then what you need to do is give him an ultimatum.
Either he trusts you, like you trust him after he cheated on you, or that's it - you will break up with him.
You don't deserve to feel like the bad person when you haven't done anything wrong.
and if he's making you unhappy with the relationship and you've told him, but he still doesn't change, then the only decent thing to do is break up, because a relationship without trust or communication is bound to fail.
I do hope you 2 can come to some sort of agreement, but if not, you deserve better. Don't forget that.
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