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Okay, since I was 4 I've been chubby. I never exercised (My mum feared I'd get hurt) and I always ate junk food because my Dad doesn't know how to cook and my Mum was pretty lazy. I'm not HUGE, actually for my lifestyle choices all my life I think I've been pretty lucky. You seriously don't know how bad it was.

Anyway my question is: Do you think I'd be able to lose weight. I'm not expecting to drop the weight in weeks or even months. I'm looking at a long term thing. I've always been chubby so do you think it's possible? I'm 15/f by the way.

My plan is: Drink nothing but water, go for a 20-30 minute walk everyday (I live in a real hilly area so that's good) and eat really healthy foods and never eat junk food.

Do you think I'd be able to do it? I don't care how long it takes.

i definatly think you can loose weight
and your plan seems really good
just remember to keep upwith it and follow through!
but i really think you can do it because it seems that you are determined enough!

How can I keep fit during the winter?

nothing special just keep in control of your diet and eat fruits and veggies
doin situps/cruntches and yoga can help as well
that's what i'll be doing :)

i overheard some girls talking about saran wrapping a boys car as "revenge" but what does saran wrapping really do? how much damage does it do? and couldn't they get in trouble for destructing personal property?

saran wrap is plastic wrap, the kind that is clear and is used to put on food to seal them
i dont think it can damage anything really, they might just find it funny but i dont see what they are thinking

ok i babysit this little girl shes 3 and when its close for her to go to bed she starts crying because she misses her mom what do i do.

since she is three, it cant be that hard to move her
the reason im saying this is because one thing you can do is not to announce that it is bed time. maybe sit on the couch with her in your lap and sing a slow song or read her a book
you can also just pat her head or rub her tummy/back
that should help because if she doesnt realize that it is offically bed time it might not make her cry

I recently bought this very cute Calvin Klein pea coat, and I really like it, but one thing that bothers me is that the shoulders are padded. I know that's not very unusual but on this coat I think it just looks... too sharp maybe? I don't know if that's the right word. But I was wondering if there is anyway to maybe fix it, make it less noticeable or something without ruining the coat. Thanks. =]

well, maybe its just you
also is it connected all around or by one side because if it is one side you can cut it off
but most of the time its just could be you, you could be umm self concious of it? oh well, see if you can cut it off, if not then leave it

wat r some good prices for babysitting

$4-5 for kids
$6-7 for babies and infants

The title pretty much sais it all. I have 2 sisters which makes 3 kids in the family. I am the middle kid btw. But they always get special treatment. Like my older sister for example, yesterday she slapped and kicked and practically pushed me down the stairs, and I GOT IN TROUBLE FOR IT! Then just a few minutes ago, i was walking through our gameroom, and she is on the phone. She starts yelling and screaming at me to leave, then my dad (who used to be in the army, and has a VERY bad temper) starts screaming at me for walking through the gameroom! It was ridiculous. Then he turns to her and goes, please don't yell anymore okay? In like the nicest tone. Then I am always getting my ipod and cell phone taken away, WHICH I BOUGHT WITH MY OWN MONEY! When i do something so minor, no other parent would punish for it. When she just get a little itty bitty "just don't do it again.", with something sooo big! Then with my little sister, she is such a little spoiled brat, whenever i get something that she wants, she screams and cries until she gets it. Then, she starts bawling about how nobody ever cares about her, so my mom goes and hugs and cuddles her and waits on her hand and foot! My grandmother/aunt/uncle/friends/cousins have all told me that i am the peace keeper, and the one who will turn out the best, because i don't need to have all of that attention. But i think every one needs some every once and a while. Its not fair at all, i get treated so unequaly around here. Just because my older sister will be out of the house in a few years, and my little sister will be entering middle school in a few years, and how she is growing up. What does that leave for me? And, my little sister is involved with this competitive dance company thing so my mom is revolved around that 24/7. Then my older sister has dance and soccer a lot. So i have to walk home from school in the freezing cold which is about 2 miles, while they are going to some silly dance classes, and getting fast food they don't even need. Plus, it totally doesn't help that when i get like a 88 on a paper, my dad is all i'm just gonna bash your head into the wall. (which he never has) but it really starts to freak me out sometimes. Please tell me what you think i should do about this. But don't say like talk to them about how you feel, because that only fixes things for a couple of hours. I just can't take this anymore, especially right now. I have just had the WORST day you couldn't even imagine.

i somtimes have that problem though i am the oldest
anyways, it does happen and it is hard to deal with it
i would suggest that sometimes just ignore the stupid senerios and forget about them
dont hold a grudge cause soon you might need something from your sisters and you want them to help you then
also try your best not to get in those situations (this is super hard)
talk to friends about it
join clubs or find some other way to occupy your time

thats all i can think about, i know its not fair but it does happen and you have to deal with it somehow
easier said than done

So basically I am not one to curse. I've hardly ever done it and only a few people have ever heard me. Sometimes I get made fun of for it, good-natured fun though. I don't mind when other people cuss but I just don't like doing it myself. Well I have recently had to catch myself multiple times. It would be easy for me to let it out, but I'm afraid to because I think whoever it was directed towards would be extremely hurt because it is coming from me, who "never cusses" lol. Its confusing, but if you understand slightly what I mean, could you give me some advice here? thanks

i am the same way, this is a good thing
but dont worry about catching your self before you say, it is in a way natural to say something like that but its good that you do
and thinking sbout others is a nice thing you are doing
and frankly i have no idea what you are asking but i hope my advice answered it :)

ok i need ideas for a few different people...
what could i get my sister...shes 18...umm...and yah thats it...haha
my grandma.
my grandpa (i want it to mean something and be a special gift for him)
my dad!! he likes clowns...ice hockey...drag racing...
my brother-hes a funny guy. not really into anything inparticular. hes 25.

thanks for anything u can give me!!
xxx

depends on how much you are willing to spend
anyways
following are ideas, you dont need to get all
sister-lotion, body spray, power, hair supplies, handbag, giftcard to Starbucks
grandma- a picture frame with a photograph of the two of you
grandpa- same as above, a tee-shirt you can decorate
dad- a mini model car or a mini ice hockey game lol
brother- gift card for music

hey guys!
ok well i have a 13 year old cousin. I have NO IDEA what to get her for Christmas..
She is 5'4 and a readhead, and shes fairly popular.-i dunno if that will help or not..-
I know she likes Abercrombie and Hollister, but i dont want to buy her stuff from there.
What should i get her??
She plays volleyball, but it isnt something she is going to persue. She has a horse if that helps.
Anything will be awesome!
I really dont want to get her a picture frame or something like that cuz i gave her that last year, andim not an art-sy person..
Thanks for anyone who helps!!
~Steph

one cool thing to give is
first get a gift bag
then put some of those mini lotion bottles/body sprays/powders
also including some funny things that only you guys have in common, like something associated with an old memory.
including clips and cute hairties is nice
and lastly include a nice card with a personal saying

that would be a great gift! :)

Do any of you guys know any good songs to listen to when your sad/depressed even though they mean like the same thing. But, idk i'm just depressed all of a sudden. I have no reason to be, i just am. So couldchjya help me out here? Hurry too.

when i am sad, i listen to upbeat songs to lift my sprits. i would also recomend going to sleep/resting, talking to friends, or taking a walk. they can all help. plus looking at random videos on youtube is fun. oh and try taking wierd quizzes. they sometimes are so stupid it makes you laugh lol get happy soon :)

well right by my eye ( i havent had it for too long) looks like a pimple, i tried popping it but no it didnt work. it just acts like an, extra formation of skin that i wasnt born with! i hate it so much. i tried getting it off but it hurts :( what should i do?

also, not too long ago i had this dry spot near my lip, my friend put lotion on it but dont rub it in.. it went away. now i have it above my eyebrow and a lot of one of my cheeks. what do i do!?!

if lotion worked last time then try it again. it could be dry skin. also wash your face often and put lotion on it right after. if that doesn't work get it checked. this way you wont have to worry as much :)

On Dec 25th I'm leaving on a flight to Germany to visit friends and relatives there. That's all fun and great BUT I'm worried about the school I'm going to miss. I won't be back until January 20th so that equals 12 days of missed school. My teachers all aren't very happy about it and are discouraging me from staying that long or even going at all. The thing is I already bought and booked my flight. So, should I go for the full time or should I shorten my visit by ten days? Note: my mother is really angry about me changing my plans because it costs 200 extra dollars but THEY ARE MY MARKS, not hers.

i would suggest getting all the work you will be missing and completeing it as soon as possible. and enjoy your trip.

theres one teacher who yells at kids for fun. when i stood up to him with out being rude because he yelled at me and my friends for no reason (seriously) he said he would send me to the principals office. and he is a bad teacher. how can i avoid this guy even though hes my teacher?

if this teacher is really that bad i would talk to other kids in your class. if they agree one thing you can all do is go to your counslers and talk/complain about him. the good thing about that is that if all the kids in the class complain than the counslers and others will see that something is not right and will try to deal with it. seriously try that, it could help :)

Next semester my schedule is full but I don't whether I should take History or Art. Art is something I really enjoy art and some of my close friends are in that course but I think History is useful, particularly for Uni. For practice writing essays and stuff.
I can't decide. Some opinions would be helpful.

it would help to know what grade youre in. also if you still have corse requirements to fill then base it off that. if you don't and it doesnt matter then i guess i woulod suggest art because universities also look at electives plus its good to take a "fun" corse so you dont have a boring only school work day. :)

14/f

okay there's this girl who is a freshman and just moved here (im a sophomore) and sits next to me in in my bio class. omg she is so clingy!! and she talks soo much about stupid stuff that i dont care about! like how her uncle is visiting or how she went to some auction over the weekend..yadda yadda..

and worse, she has this awful accent so i dont understand anything she says to me. she thinks im like her bff just because i said it was okay to sit next to me. my friend who sits on the other side of me things shes clingy too but i dont know how to shake her. she's kinda nice, like she always tells me what's going on when im sleeping in class, but she's really irritating.

how can i shake her off?
thanks

i used to know a girl just like her. i asked my mom what to do and my mom told me that i had to think about her situation. i did, that girl had no real friends, no siblings, and her parnet werent' that close to her. so just for her i was nice. also if you tell them "could you tell me someother time cause right now my mind is drifting" they will stop, of corse dont use that all the time but.. anyways just think about her situation and how many people she actually knows. then base your dicisioins off of that :)

I have a lot of friends. Friends that I can party with, friends that I can hang with, friends I can shop with, etc. But I have no friend that I can just do anything with, a friend that I can always count on to hang out with any time, who won't double-cross me. I haven't lived where I've lived since I was born, so I don't have a childhood treasured cradle-mate. I really want to be ultra close with one of my friends, but I feel like I'm the odd one out who matters, but isn't included in any real group. I just don't know what to do. In my classes, people have partners. Like Jane will always hang out with and pair up with Sally. I'm always the second choice, the girl someone picks if their first pick isn't there. What do I do to matter more to one person? Not like love relationship, but best friend-like, you know?

i've moved a lot too and i was in the same situation. what i did was... i just continued treating them nice and occaionslly gave gifts of candy out (for the holidays). in time they will become close. also keep in touch with your old friends. i have this old friend that i IM and i can talk to her about anything and tell her my problems. maybe you can do that too :)

I am a 16 year old girl who has trouble finding and keeping good friends. This has been a problem since mid-elemetary school. I feel lonley and bored a lot and really wish I had some good friends. How can I make more friends and be happier?

the key things that you can do to make friends it
1)smile, people like to talk to people who are genarally happy
2)talk to everyone, when someone is standing next to you in line smile and commplement them on the cloths, shoes, whatever
3)join a club or an activity

it takes time and you have to be patient because they wont become your best frien in one day, it sometimes takes time to become close

but the main thing is so smile and give it out :)

How do you help sumone grieving or preparing to say good bye to a loved one. My bff just lost a girl she used to know at her school and its been really hard for her. I keep telling her its ok and to let herself grieve but then heal and help her school heal cause they are all grieving. and telling her all of our prayers are here and stuff. i think shes getting to be ok. but now my bgf who well we both love each other romantically but arent dating yet. but we are close enough we practically are. anyways he just told me they are going to see his uncle and say bye cause he has stage 4 cancer and its getting pretty serious. he almost never shows a lot of emotion but today he just wanted to talk. sumtimes we didnt even say anything he just wanted me there for him. and i understood but it hurt me so much too to know he was in so much pain and i wasnt actually there. anyways i think im gonna see him this weekend. but he was almost crying and thats HUGE for him. i was there for him and i felt like that was pretty much all i could do but i wish i could do more. i really do. i told him my prayers were with him. we are both strong Christians. and my bff said to tell him her prayers were with him too but i want to help him MORE. i think i should really try to hang out with him this weekend because then im really even more so THERE. we dont go to the same school but we talk like everyday now. any ideas to say sumthing or do sumthing to help him> when i see him im gonna look at him and tell him everything happens for a reason and hug him. sumthing i cant do on the phone. :) thanks so much this advice is really appreciated and i will rate everyone for helping me :)

in addition to the other advice i would like to mention one thing. dont be super sad around them. try being a little cheerful because thats what you want to do, cheer them up. :)

In an coincidence, i pick the name of my best friend
in our exchange gift( on Christmas party)

I know that my best friend like volleyball and likes Beyonce. So i plan to give a Ball(volleyball) and if i can still afford another gift, i could also add a Cd that contains Beyonce songs.And i could give a letter inside the Cd case.
Is this a good idea to give to my friend?

that is a really good gift, i agree with the previous advice and was thinking the same thing. no need to worry, its a great idea :)

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