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Don't seem to have any friends.
I am a 16 year old girl who has trouble finding and keeping good friends. This has been a problem since mid-elemetary school. I feel lonley and bored a lot and really wish I had some good friends. How can I make more friends and be happier?
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the key things that you can do to make friends it
1)smile, people like to talk to people who are genarally happy
2)talk to everyone, when someone is standing next to you in line smile and commplement them on the cloths, shoes, whatever
3)join a club or an activity
it takes time and you have to be patient because they wont become your best frien in one day, it sometimes takes time to become close
but the main thing is so smile and give it out :)
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Most people think that becoming popular is difficult, and staying on top of your game, when you do, is even worse. While that can be true in rare situations, it’s actually quite simple to become popular - you just need the right tools, and know how to play it cool. I’m here to help you with all you need to know, so moving on...
Checklist in Becoming Popular
1) Be friendly to everybody - not just a certain clique/crowed.
2) You need to be outgoing, doesn’t mean you still can’t be a little shy or even a lot really, what I mean by “outgoing” is to be able to walk up to people and start a conversation without feeling awkward.
3) Talk to three different people everyday, until you’ve met everyone in school/work/etc.
4) Try to find interesting things you have in common with people, and then introduce that fact in a conversation. You wouldn’t believe how much you can talk about one thing, when you have two people who both like it.
5) Get involved. Whether you’re at school, work or wherever you are - there’s always that chance to move up the totem pole, and you want to be at the top. So try your absolute best in everything you do, it will show people how determined and successful you are. People will want to be your friend because those are good qualities.
6) This is sometimes the hardest step for people, but one of the most important if not THE most important - open up to people. You have to show them who you really are, if not, they probably won’t want to be you friend. Don’t try to act like someone else because others can see that, and they only want you to be yourself. Otherwise, you’re not really “friend” material.
Here are some wonderful links I’ve looked up, that should give you a sense of what being popular really is and the steps involved in it.
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As the creator of teens 2 teens advice and relationship program i really never had problem with making friends but reason for that is that i never just tried to have one type of person i was friends with everybody goth, emo,white,black,chinese,everybody i try to make friends with and yea i have alot of enemies and yea sooner or later i helped them some how and dont worry you will find alot of friends some day and you know like just try everybody just walk up to them and start a conversation with anybody dont matter who just anybody and everybody so if you need anything else or any more advice just dont hesitate to ask never give up on life or trying to get or keep friends.
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eh it's all good, i can understand where you're comming from. When i was in elementary school i didn't have a lot of friends either. Well having friends is always trouble, i just try and be friendly to everyone really. If you see someone in need of something like a lil help with something (doesn't have to be a big thing) like if they drop something or they dropped their books you can pick em' up and give it to them. Introduce yourself and there you go, you got a person you know, till you start talking more and more till it's a friend. It's a lil slow but at elast if you just watch the world around you, you'll begin to understand the flow of humanity. What i mean is, take the time and no epople without saying anything, another term for it would be people watching, just know the people while you can. Or just go out into the world and just be you, you'll eventually find friends in middle and high school. And college ooo that's the most awesome place ever, best 6 years of your life and well freakin worth it. So you have all your life to be misserable, so why start now? just ahve fun with it. Your young and you're being paid for, wait till your 18, you're eaither out or you have to get a job and pay for yourself. liek life, happiness is what you amke of it. Hope this helps and take care.
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I was the same growing up. I generally had a hard time meeting people and making friends, because I was shy. It became worse when I transferred to a new elementary school, and felt that I wasn't accepted nearly as much. I still am pretty shy , but I've learned that the best way to meet and interact with people is to be yourself and try opening up. Never try to change yourself, or do anything you're uncomfortable with, just to fit in. At the same time, when you meet new people, be accepting of them and don't expect them to be a certain way..people are who they are. These are a couple of things I try to remind myself- be yourself around others, try not to be tense...and also, stand your ground-but still be accepting of others. When you open up to others, it's a good first step to meeting new people. And if you are accepting of yourself and others, you can establish strong friendships. But remember, it's the quality of the friendship that counts, not how many "friends" you have...better to be close to a few, than to surround yourself with people you don't care for, and who don't care for you.
My sister, the social butterfly, always tells me to losen up, go to different events (in your case, you can participate in clubs, talk to people in classes/groups activities, volunteer in your community, meet people at work, etc.)- she says that you never know who you can meet. And when you meet new people, try making an effort to make plans and keep in touch. When you do, chances are that whoever you meet will start doing the same.
Oh, I read this on a fortune cookie, believe it or not: The only way to have a good friend is to be one. If you are honest, kind, reliable, and YOURSELF, then it'll shine through, and the decent people you meet may very well reciprocate.
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