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a chance for a friend
I have a lot of friends. Friends that I can party with, friends that I can hang with, friends I can shop with, etc. But I have no friend that I can just do anything with, a friend that I can always count on to hang out with any time, who won't double-cross me. I haven't lived where I've lived since I was born, so I don't have a childhood treasured cradle-mate. I really want to be ultra close with one of my friends, but I feel like I'm the odd one out who matters, but isn't included in any real group. I just don't know what to do. In my classes, people have partners. Like Jane will always hang out with and pair up with Sally. I'm always the second choice, the girl someone picks if their first pick isn't there. What do I do to matter more to one person? Not like love relationship, but best friend-like, you know?
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i've moved a lot too and i was in the same situation. what i did was... i just continued treating them nice and occaionslly gave gifts of candy out (for the holidays). in time they will become close. also keep in touch with your old friends. i have this old friend that i IM and i can talk to her about anything and tell her my problems. maybe you can do that too :)
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Hey, From what you've written you seem to have a lot of friends that you can do things with. Maybe you should try and get closer to some of the girls you go shopping, partying and hang out with. Invite a girl you'd like to get closer to around for coffee or ask them to do something, just you too and get to know that person a little better. Maybe your left out cause you don't put yourself in the circle of friends enough, maybe you don't trust enough or your no open enough. Turn things around why don't you start organizing activities fr example lunch or dinner at your place etc.
Good luck xx
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This is a pretty good link I found.
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Most importantly, always be yourself. If they can't accept you for just that, then they aren't your real friends.
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