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So I'm a girl and Im really confused. I think im straight because I like guys but somehow, I can't really stop thinking about her.
I'm not sure if she is a lesbian though but I felt that she is one and people have said that she was one and all...
It was like all of a sudden I suddenly realized her and on that day, we did have eye contact maybe twice or so? The first time, we looked at each other and the second was when I looked at her and I saw her looking then we looked at each other before I broke off the eye contact.
However, on Monday when I went back to school, she never looked at me because whenever I look at her, she would not be looking more like staring into space. I observed and realized that she kinda keeps to herself.
Yesterday, when we were being briefed, she came to the front and talked to the people who are her friends and I was staring then after a while, she looked at me and then I immediately looked down.
Does she like me or is she just curious whatsoever?
Thank you for taking your time to read :) (link)
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So eye contact is a sign that somebody is interested in you, but it's one of the hardest signs to tell because some people look at people often even if they aren't crushing on them.
So I think you're reading a little too into it. I mean there is a possibility, but there also is a chance that she isn't.
For one, you don't even know if she's a lesbian. These are just things you've heard so you don't want to assume before you find out the facts. A feeling you have and other peoples gossip isn't reliable.
My friend in college did a report on people liking other people when they find out they like them or think they like them. For example, say Joe likes Sally. Sally never really noticed Joe but once she found out Joe liked her, she started noticing him and ended up liking him.
I've actually noticed this happening with a lot of my friends and it happened to me once. So this could be the case with you.
Anyways, like I said, don't read too much into it. You should go talk to her and get to know her.
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Hi,
I'm a thirteen-year-old girl who is probably bisexual, and I have a crush on another girl. She's absolutely amazing. She's gorgeous, thoughtful, and funny, and we have a lot in common -- for example, we both love writing. She's bisexual too, and there's also a chance that she might like me back.
Whenever she sends me a text, I get the butterflies and want to say something back. We have been texting each other for a few days now, and I want to reveal to her that I like her without making it too direct -- like I want to flirt with her while texting.
If you have any advice on how to flirt while texting without making it too direct, I would really appreciate it. Thank you!
(P.S. I know I'm only thirteen and that it seems like it would be a little too early to decide my sexuality. But I have known for a while that I see girls in the same way I see guys. I am aware that this might change later.) (link)
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It's the same as texting a guy or anyone you feel like flirting with.
I'd probably compliment them. Also, it's good to pick out something that you notice about her that isn't so obvious. Those kinds of things mean a lot to someone.
Teasing works too. Just don't get mean. Like a silly tease can be considered flirting.
You also don't want to be too eager. Just your normal subtle flirting that can make her smile and make sure you know when to stop texting. You don't want to keep texting her all day.
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I am 17 and don't know so can a 17 yr old get prego? I need to know because I want to have sex... (link)
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Yes, even 12 and 13 year old's get pregnant. Once you get into puberty, you can end up pregnant.
You should probably educate yourself before you have sex. Like learn about what the consequences are, besides getting pregnant. Like you can contract STI's and that wouldn't be nice.
Then know what kind of protection you should use besides condoms, because those can break. So I'd get on some form of birth control. There are a few different kinds so you should talk to your doctor about that.
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Okay. So. I met this guy named Maik( but you just pronounce it Mike) I met him on Omegle. Its a online chatting thing. And well he looked older.. He lookes about 16.. So when he asked me how old i was. I said 16.. But turned out he was 14. And im 12.. I never knew that we would become such good friends.. But we did... And i want to tell him. But i dont know how. I just dont want to loose him.. (link)
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You just straight up tell him that you lied about your age. You can get into a lot of trouble lying about your age, it really wasn't a smart move.
You need to learn how to be smart on the internet, lots of bad things happen.
He's probably going to get mad. It's ok for him to get mad because you did lie to him, so let him be upset.
If he forgives you, then there you go. If he doesn't, then you guys weren't real friends.
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The situation is that, I have a best friend, who is in cliche kind of way, almost perfect. She's good at sports and maintains one of the best grades in school. She's also very nice.
It's because she's way too nice, it makes me very hard to resent her. I'm fine with being ignored but they kept calling me her lackey when I'm not; I try my best in keeping up expectations as the 'perfect''s friend but it gets so frustrating when I am giving it all but I still can't keep up with her and always being second best. I mean, she does everything with such little effort that I can't help felt that she's the genius and i'm the failed subject.
I've been coping with that for over 4 years but just half a year ago, she started dating with my crush whom she knew I like but thought I had got it over with. Being a socially awkward person, I kept my mouth shut and wished her the best because she did apologize when they started dating. But I really can't help but feel so jealous and irritated by her.
It got to the point where I wanted to scream at her and back-stab her so hard that it hurts. But I don't want to do that, we've been friends since middle school and I don't want to ruin that friendship for my petty emotions.
So the question is, how do I deal this? This pent up frustration and envy is so much that I swear I would explode anytime now. (link)
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You have every right to feel the way you do. Just know that, but don't hold onto it.
You're allowed to be upset that she is dating your crush.
If she truly is a good friend to you, then this is your problem and she doesn't deserve the resentment.
My friend is in a similar situation and she was talking about it to me not too long ago. She's really close to one girl, who she considers perfect because she's so beautiful and nice to everyone and gets asked out by lots of guys, not because of how she dresses or because she's a "bad girl" but because she's so sweet and pretty. She said she felt ugly when she was next to her and other people would come up to her.
I think the best way to deal with it is to not spend so much time with her. I know you guys are best friends, but in order to be best friends, you need to get back to being actual friends. You're holding things against her and it's not a friend quality. So step back, take a break from her for a bit and let yourself move past this.
If she doesn't treat you like a good friend should, then you should reevaluate your friendship. But if this just how you're feeling, then give yourself some time to learn and love yourself.
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I'm male/18. Recently graduated high school. The first half of high school was kind of depressing. But then things started to get fun and more positive. Recently, it seems the happier I become, the more and more I fear death. It used to never bother me, but now it gives me the chills, as if I'm just realizing it. I know I'm young, but all the time I spend with friends, family, my band, my girlfriend, I can't handle the fact that it will all end, and that there might not be anything afterwards. No music, no love, no pleasure, no people. It's really scary if we just cease to exist completely. People might say, if you're dead, you won't feel anything. But that's the thing, I want to feel, and experience. I am atheist, I do not believe in any gods, but I do consider the possibility of an afterlife. Although I cannot know of anything beyond this life, I do know one thing is certain. All I know, is that I'm experiencing. But I do not know what exactly I'm experiencing. Now, if the physics and building blocks of the universe allow me to experience consciousness once, and these building blocks cannot be destroyed, wouldn't that imply the possibility of remaining conscious? Or being conscious in another form? Either way I see the alternate as a possibility as well, that it just fades to nothing. Maybe I can't just face the reality that it might just happen. Either way, its been bothering me lately. (link)
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I think it's normal to think this way. It's also a good sign that you're enjoying life.
I think about this stuff often. Thinking about all my family and friends will eventually be gone. It's a very weird and scary thought.
Everybody has their own opinions on what happens after we die. So that part is really up to you and what you believe.
Also I think it's fine to think this way as long as it doesn't get in the way of your life. It's more scary when we're young because we don't expect life to just end for us, we expect to live long. I've heard some elderly say that they have accepted it better than they did when they were younger, because they've known many people who have died who are around their age.
So pretty much, just live and enjoy your life. Don't let this ruin your experiences.
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So me and my neighbor havent talked in 2 years until last tuesday (we used to be best friends) and we started riding bikes again and now i feel like were supposed to ride every night and i just get upset and aggravated if we dont. Idk what to do but now ive been feeling like this everynight and its just depressing!! What can i do to stop constantly hoping were gonna ride bikes every night so i wont be so depressed about it?? Help please!? (link)
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Well obviously you guys aren't going to be going for bike rides every night. He probably has other things to do as well. So that's what you need to tell yourself and remind yourself.
You don't want to always call him or text him asking if you guys are going to ride backs every night because he'll back off. So just enjoy it the nights you do get to go out and don't hope for it every night.
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If He Says He Wants To Give A Bad Kiss. What Does That Mean ?? 13 Female (link)
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It means he's really screwed up.
You should tell an adult or your parents about this. It's wrong for him to say that kind of stuff to you.
He doesn't like you. He's your brother in law right? He's married to your sister and you like him?
He doesn't have feelings for you. He just wants to use you so you need to tell an adult about this.
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I'm 15, and I've been friends with this guy for my whole life because our families our friends, but he lives an hour away. When I see him, he acts really flirty and gives me neck massages and plays with my hair and stuff, and we text a lot. He calls me babe and tells me I'm the prettiest girl he knows, but our conversations are always short because he reads my responses and never replies. He says his phone is broken but I know that he's texting other girls when he stops answering me. Am I over thinking this or is he just a flirt? (link)
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He's interested in you, I can't know for sure if he likes you though.
If he reads your responses but doesn't reply, he probably doesn't have feelings for you. He probably just finds you attractive and likes to flirt.
How do you KNOW he is texting other girls when he stops answering you? If there is a way that you somehow know, then I think that's an obvious sign that he doesn't like you like that.
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I know that I'm apparently 'too young to have a baby', but I don't give a shit. Me and my boyfriend have just now started trying to get pregnant and I want some ways to get pregnant faster. I know for sure I would a great mom. School wouldn't really be a problem because I'm going to make sure I don't miss any school. I thought the good and the bad, so I know what I'm getting into. (link)
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It's not the fact that you are too young to have a child, it's knowing that you can actually raise a child.
I don't know any ways to become pregnant faster. It's different with every woman's body.
So how are you not going to miss any school? I hope you know you're going to miss school during the last couple months of your pregnancy. I mean you can have people bring home homework but you're going to be exhausted and that's why women don't go to work while they're pregnant, even if it's a slow easygoing job.
Do you and your boyfriend have a job? Obviously you're parents aren't going to take care of your baby. You know that you'll go through 8-10 diapers a day? So if you get the biggest pack, it'll run out in only a month. Then of course there is food, clothing, doctor visits.
This has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with the baby and that's why people aren't happy when teenagers get pregnant. They can be there for the child but they don't provide it with everything an adult actually can.
The only part that screws with you is that you might be able to finish high school but you don't get the college you deserve. Then you and your boyfriend might split up. Not saying it will happen but it happens a lot even without a baby in the picture..and babies don't make boys stay.
It's just, I feel bad because you won't get the life you'll truly deserve..or the life that your baby truly deserves.
There's always a chance that high school relationships don't last, I'm sure you know that. Even if you guys did stay together, you don't get to go out and have fun together with your friends or even together. You guys will be taking care of the kid and having a baby changes the whole relationship. Then of course when you get out of high school people change and he might not be the same guy you want to spend your life with.
Just keep this in mind because it can screw up a lot of peoples lives. Not even some people in their 20's are ready and financially stable to take care of themselves and a baby.
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Can a girl be virgin again (link)
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No.
Virgin is a term for someone who has never had sex. If they had sex, they're no longer a virgin.
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I am casually talking and getting to know this guy at my college named Anthony. He's older, works at the bookstore, and very cute. We text back and forth and I see him Monday and Wednesday around noon and he usually gets off at two, so we hang out until my ride comes.
This Sunday, he agreed to go to the movies with me at 1:50. My phone was out of service so I wasn't able to contact him. He seemed like he'd for sure be there. It hits two o'clock and he's not there, so I wait a little longer. At 2:15, I call him on the cinema phone over and over, but he doesn't answer. At this point I am very upset and don't even see the movie. I decide to call my ride, and as I'm walking away in tears, a cinema employee says that Anthony is on the line. I ask what happened, and he said he crashed at his grandparents and they left early. He didn't get a chance to go home and shower or anything, and his parents aren't answering the phone for him to get a ride. He has no car because his got wrecked, and he's paying off a lot of loans. I offered to give him a ride home, but he said his morals were against it. I begged him, but he still refused and told me to go home. He kept saying "I'm sorry sweetheart." and he seemed genuinely sorry. We stayed on that dang cinema phone for about 40 minutes.
The next day, after feeling hurt, I went by the bookstore to pick up an order. I said hi to him, and he was very friendly, but I was so upset. I think I am just overthinking that he's not interested. He was at work, and I just had lunch with him a few minutes ago, but of course he was rushing. He's still flirty and sweet, but there's this feeling that I am just a bother. He didn't offer for me to sit with him even though he saw me in the lounge, and I sat with him once I saw him. I just feel like I'm annoying, but he insists he's not. Is this just a weird feeling and I'm overthinking it, or does he seem not interested? Am I just being a worry wort?! (link)
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I think you're over thinking it. Honestly, he should have had better planning on his part about his grandparents though.
If his story is legit and the next date goes fine, then you shouldn't worry. If you guys are still texting and talking normally, then he's probably still into you.
I find it extremely weird that he didn't accept your offer for a ride though.
Anyways, it's ok to be upset. You were looking forward to seeing a movie with him and he couldn't make it. But you don't have to obsess over it or worry too much.
You said he's still flirty and sweet..so why would he be not interested? That's how you can tell if someone is interested in you in the first place.
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Hey everyone! So I'm a f/15:) I like this guy who is also 15 very very much and it has been practically "love at first sight" for us because we never had that friend zone between us; we just skipped to the flirty stage!:) we've been on a date last week to the movies and dinner after wards and all went super well!:) Im so happy when I'm with him because he makes me smile and laugh constantly. Although, he hasnt kissed me yet.. I invited him over to my house for thursday and he said he wants to kiss me then and practically asked for my permission which I thought was super cute:) I have kissed 3 different guys before (many many times each) but I've never been this nervous to kiss anyone before.. What can I do to keep calm because I'm so nervous that I've broke down into tears a few times:/ help? (link)
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It's completely normal to be nervous about your first kiss with someone new. That's why I always hated when a guy asked me if he could kiss me because it'd give me time to think about it instead of thinking of what a good time I'll be having just being around him.
So don't stress out over it. Do your best not to think about it when you're with him. Just enjoy his company and when the kiss happens, it'll happen so just go with it.
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I am a fail at everything I do. My whole family skipped a grade in math. I just took the test for it, I failed it. My twin brother almost aced it. WHY CAN'T I BE MORE LIKE MY TWIN BROTHER!!! My family is nice and supportive but I just don't understand. I don't WANT TO BE THE LOSER OF THe FAMILY!!!! I'm a girl, a preteen. (link)
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It's ok to not be good at everything, but you can't look at yourself as a failure or else you'll really turn into one.
I'm terrible at math. My brother gets A's throughout it and doesn't have any problem with it. I'm not going to look at myself as a failure just because I'm not as good as him. It just means I need to put more effort into learning.
I still haven't found the things I'm good at. Lots of my family have plenty of things they are good at.
You need to be more positive and start trying new things. Eventually you'll find something you're good at and something that you love.
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My grandma choked me Sunday night and I did not do anything. I am 17 about to be 18 (link)
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You need to report it or tell a trusted adult and they'll help you.
Do you live with your grandmother? If you do, you can't live there anymore because that's no good for you at all.
So report it and it should never happen again.
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I have a friend and she's been like my best friend since kindergarten, I think (let call her T)! But this year we had like maybe a couple of little bickerings, I guess you can call it. And this summer our friend came back from Texas ( let's call her C). That just made T a little uneasy because when we were little T got jealous of me and C's friendship!
Finally I got T and C to get together and we had a sleepover for C's birthday. It was fun but T got offended when me and C laughed when T told us she was going to start a photography business (we are only 12 that's why I laughed).
A couple days later we talked about it and i tried to say sorry and explain why I laughed but my phone died and we didnt talk for about 3 days because we were busy. Finally we talked and we didn't pick up were we left off she acted like everything was fine! But after that it felt weird. Are text would always go like:
Me: hey
Her: hi.
Me: wats up
Her nm.
Me: oh Kwl LOL
Her: LOL.
It's just weird because after everything she would put "." and we don't normally do that when we text unless we are mad cause that's wat I do when I get mad and I text. I don't kno what to do because I just want me friend back :( (link)
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So did you already apologize or did your phone die before you actually got to apologize?
Anyways, I'd go apologize one more time, maybe write a note. Explain that you love her and you didn't mean to hurt her feelings.
Anyways, next time she's tells you one of her dreams, don't laugh. I don't understand why it'd be funny it the first place though. Thinking about wanting a business at 12 years old isn't bad. It doesn't mean she can start one right now but thinking about it and wanting it isn't exactly funny.
So just go apologize to her and eventually she'll come around.
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Okay i am a 13/f and i have this problem. Okay so my best friend somehow became my boyfriend last year. Then we broke up and now he want me back and i keep saying no just friends. But now at school evrytime we past each other we just seem like strangers and this is our third week of school and we didn't even make eye contact.
My question is i just want to break the tension.
So should i say anything first or just wait
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I think you should say something. I doubt he's going to be the one to come up to you since he wanted to get back together and didn't want to just be friends.
Also, keep in mind, he might not want to be actual friends with you anymore. It's really hard to be friends with someone you want to be with. One thing that being friends comes with is that you'll both have to be ok with the other person dating. You'll be ok with it because you want to be friends with him but it doesn't sound like he will because he still wants to be with you.
So you also might want to give him time until he is over you. Once he is over you, then you guys can be friends again.
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I'm in middle school and i know a lot of people change in middle school but my friends have changed a lot. A lot of them curse now and it's really annoying because I HATE unnecessary cursing! And the just curse for know reason! And then one of my friends who actually goes to church with me used the f word and then put god right after it. I was like "REALLY?!?!". I mean I understand there's a lot going on with her parents and stuff and I've been supportive of that but know she curses and it's really annoying some of my friends have stopped when I don't them I don't like it but I would hate to loose a friend because the curse. :( (link)
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I think the best thing you can do in this situation is talk to them about it and see if maybe they can try to stop cursing around you.
I agree with you that it's unnecessary but you can't change what people do. If they don't at least try to do that for you, then maybe they're not very good friends.
I don't curse either and all my friends know I don't, but they do. So they'll just not curse around me, or at least try not to. Except for one friend I had, he kept begging me to say a curse word. I kept telling him no. Anyways, good friends don't do that.
It's good that some of your friends stopped when you're around but you might want to express that you just really don't like hearing it. But other than that, I don't think there is much to do.
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I know this may sound a little funny and crazy if you want, but I'm really worried about this situation since it's gotten out of control. I just love and cannot help showing off my buttocks. It's like I need to do it; it fills me with so much pleasure and adrenaline. The men who pass by and get to watch it pretty much cannot believe it. I tend to wear a thong anytime I go out in the middle of the day or night to put up this obscene show on the streets. Today I locked myself into the bathroom and burst into tears. I'm running a terrible danger and I cannot talk to anyone about this. I have a boyfriend, who of course does not know anything about this. I'd appreciate any kind of help that helps me get rid of this nasty and dangerous habit. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I need help.. (link)
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Well obviously this is not ok. It makes it a bit worse since you have a boyfriend and it's not respecting your relationship.
Also it's getting you the wrong type of attention as it can also be sexual harassment.
I think you need to stop dressing the way you dress. I think that's a start. Don't wear thongs all the time and don't wear clothes you can easily pull off your body.
This is more about self control, and you don't have it. So that's what you need to learn. You can find other non-harmful things to do that give you adrenaline.
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My friends and I are going to St louis for the weekend. One of our friends invited himself to go. We're goin to the cardnial game and he doesnt have a ticket, but yet he still coming?? Our friend can't take a hint..... Background he has red hair and his name is Keith and wears everyone out! PLEASE HELP (link)
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Why give him hints? Why can't you just straight up tell him that he can't come. You don't have to be mean about it or anything, just tell him that he just can't go.
What does his hair color have to do with any of this?
Just tell him, it's not that big of a deal..
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