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I think im attached to his guy and i need help!!
So me and my neighbor havent talked in 2 years until last tuesday (we used to be best friends) and we started riding bikes again and now i feel like were supposed to ride every night and i just get upset and aggravated if we dont. Idk what to do but now ive been feeling like this everynight and its just depressing!! What can i do to stop constantly hoping were gonna ride bikes every night so i wont be so depressed about it?? Help please!?
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You have allowed yourself to set your expectations too high. This happens to all of us from time to time with the end result being what is happening to you. You feel depressed when your expectations are not met. This is all very normal.
There are a couple of different ways or things you can do to overcome this. The first and the hardest of course is to lower your expectations as to when and how many times a week you will actually rides bikes with him. This is something you do for yourself. The hard part is making yourself believe in your lowered expectations.
The next thing you can do is talk to him. Tell him how much you enjoy bike riding with him and how you look forward to those time when he is available to join you for a ride. Now I know this is being a little forward of you to do this. Though it also comes under the heading of nothing ventured nothing gained. If he seems to agree that he too enjoys riding with you. You can say I understand you have other things you have to do but is it possible we can schedule certain times during the week to ride together.
What this does is lowers your expectations by turning them into a joint expectation. If for some reason on a day you are suppose to ride together one of you cannot make it the proper thing do is to call the other and say you can't make it that day and try to reschedule for another. This should eliminate that depression you feel when you anticipate him riding an he does not go riding that day.
In just about everything we do today we have to communicate with someone. If you wish to build any type of relationship, even if it is just to bike ride with him, then you must communicate with him and he with you for that matter. None of us are mind readers.
I have no idea if this is a guy or a girl. What type of relationship you wish to build with this person. I have made certain assumptions in writing my answer to you because you did not communicate fully who this is and what you want for this initial relationship. If you haven't communicated this to them then they have no idea of your interest either.
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Well obviously you guys aren't going to be going for bike rides every night. He probably has other things to do as well. So that's what you need to tell yourself and remind yourself.
You don't want to always call him or text him asking if you guys are going to ride backs every night because he'll back off. So just enjoy it the nights you do get to go out and don't hope for it every night.
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Have you ever tried just nicely asking him if he would like to ride bikes? If you haven't you definitely should. And if you have and they said no don't feel down on yourself. Maybe that person doesn't know how you truly feel about them. When someone amazing comes into your life sometimes its hard to forget about them. Let nature take it's course and if that person comes to you it will truly prove they may have feelings as well.
Be yourself; Believe in yourself
Sincerely Miss0219
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