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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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ok i work in a restuarant and the other day i was working and i was waitressing a table that had a guy in my art class from last year (last year i was a freshman and he was a senior) now hes a freshman in college and im a sophmore in highschool .. well he was with his friend that used to go to the same school also..and everytime i would walk by his friend would look at me and smile and when i brought there food out he said thank you a lot and everything .. and then when they paid and left i had to clean off the table so i found a napkin that he wrote his number on it and he wrote thank you and his name and number .. now i find that very flattering and all but im not sure if i should call him .. would that be totally weird since hes in college and im in highschool? .. and also i found out that my mom sold his familys house to them and my parents know them (my moms a real estate agent)

Why not? You don't have to start anything serious, let alone ever be involved in anything serious, with him. You can maybe just hang out or be friends.

Just be cognizant of everything that you do with him, that is, just be aware of what you're doing.

Thanks for inboxing ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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15/f

ok so i like this guy dan and hes a freshman and im a sophmore and it doesnt matter to me what age we are.. but over the summer my friend told me that dan liked me and i was confused on who i liked in the summer so i told my friend that i only liked dan as a friend.. but then when school started i started to like dan as more than a friend and now i think he likes some freshman girl .. and he never answers my texts anymore or calls .. so basically i think i blew it and screwed up my chance with him .. but do you think there could still be hope for me if i just let him be for a while and not txt or call him for like a week and give him some space? bc idk i just really regret not telling him i liked him in the summer because im pretty sure he liked me .

Hmm, I think giving him space is the best thing you can do at this point.

There's not really much else you can do.

Thanks for inboxing =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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What are some extra-curricular activities that colleges look for/like? Im a freshman, so I just wnat to start taking stuff that will benifit me in the future.

Colleges like:

NHS
Key Club
Drama Club or International Thespian Society
Debate
Yearbook
Newspaper
Student Council
or a sport of any kind

Whatever you decide to do, make sure you keep with for either all four years or as many years as you are able. A college would much rather see you involved in one or two things for 4 years than five or six things for 1 or 2 years each.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I just want to get some people's opinions on this: What do you think about girls asking guys out?

ANY AND ALL OPINIONS ARE GREATLY APPRECIATED :)

I'm all for confidence, but honestly I'm a traditionalist and I feel more comfortable doing the asking out rather than being asked out, as in dating- not like to the movies.

If it's just going to the movies or a small date, then sure- all the power to you.

If it's dating, maybe he wants to do it, but if he isn't stepping up and you know he wants to, but he's scared, then maybe you can ask him. =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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i can't decide which one of the new ipod nano colors i like the best. i think i've narrowed it down to purple, orange, and red. i just need some opinions to maybe sway mine, haha. here's the link if you haven't seen them:

http://www.apple.com/ipodnano/

I say go with the orange. Orange is a sweet color and practically no one has an orange iPod.

I wish they made the 30G Video in orange- but they don't even make a 30G Video anymore =/.

--Jack
(16/m)

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what's a informal way of texting someone that I don't usually talk to but i've hung out with him at parties? i want it to be a cute way of saying like hey what's up but without seeming like i want to desperately talk to him.

Honestly, the best way to ask someone over text what's up is to just say "what's up?"

You think I'm being sarcastic, but I'm being serious. I know if I met someone and I was texting them for the first time, I wouldn't expect much from them other than "hey-what's up?" and the cliche texting conversation.

The more you think about it and overthink it, the more you will mess it up. Just go with "Hey- what's up?" or something simple like that- because the more you try to come up with something not desperate sounding is the moment you'll say something that sounds desperate, if you catch my drift.

--Jack
(16/m)

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The movie coming out, is it just about the first book, or all of them. That's all i want to know. Don't tell me what happens, I'm still reading the first one.

The movie is entitled "Twilight", meaning it is just the first book of the series.

The other books are called "New Moon", "Eclipse" and "Breaking Dawn", and since those aren't the title, they aren't in the movie.

Plus, it couldn't possibly be all four books because the 4th one just came out two months ago and they've been finished with filming since like May/June.

--Jack
(16/m)

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alright..soo iam 16 iam going to be 17 soon and i really dont want to have sex. like i think my age is wayyy too young to even be thinking about it. but all the guys my age or older already expect it. i really dont know what to do, cause you can never really find decent guys anymore that will wait. and if you tell them you dont want to have sex they will either keep pushing you or just leave you right then and there...i dont really know what to do, and i DONT want to have sex expecially not yet.

If you DON'T want to have sex yet, you DON'T have to have sex yet. They can't force you to.

The best way to avoid the situation is to just wait for a guy who isn't just looking for sex. There are plenty out there, I'm sure of it. I myself am one of those guys ;].

All I ask of you is to not judge ALL guys based on what SOME guys do.

Just stay with your morals and you should be fine =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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sophomore, female
Alright, so i once asked a question of how to tell the difference between when a guy likes you and when a guy is just a friend. well you answered my question great, but now im more confused then ever ! This guy and I text so much like we talk every day, and always say good night. This started about two weeks ago. Last night we hung out and he showed the signs of like wanting to hug me and what not. we listened to his ipod and we were kinda close i felt invigorated! but i really cant tell anymore. Like, he always tells me about the girls that he likes and stuff, so isnt that a sure sign that he definetly only sees me as a friend? Your advice would be really really great. Thanks again !

Hey, thanks for inboxing =].

Actually, when a guy tells you about all the girls he likes and doesn't give their names, it very well could be YOU he's talking about. If he gave them names, well then maybe he's just doing something most guys do; he's trying to cover up the fact that he likes you.

I think since he's shown other signs and you hung out, he probably likes you.

Just give it some time, and I'm sure you'll find that he DOES like you ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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ok i like this guy and i want to hang out with him but when i txt him he never responds anymore and idk im gonna try calling him but what if he doesnt answer? does that mean he doesnt like me? i mean we were at least friends though so even if he didnt like me as more than a friend he should at least not ignore me completely .. or maybe hes really busy because i know he plays baseball every weekend so idk

I've answered a question like this before, which I'm hoping will help you:

Just to warn you, I'm not yelling at you only, but all those out there on Advicenators who think that JUST because a guy doesn't text you first, it means he can't POSSIBLY like you.

I don't know what it is that makes people think this. Seriously, sometimes we guys don't feel like starting a conversation because we're not always into talking. Sometimes we are. It really just depends.

And something as little as texting, come on, texting, for goodness sake, shouldn't dictate whether a guy likes you or not. The fact that he talks to you should be good enough, you know?

Since I see texting as the lowest form of communication, other than telegrams and letters, I don't see it as a big deal that he doesn't text you first. Maybe he's just busy and doesn't regularly think: Oh dear, maybe I should text this girl or she might think I'm a jerk.

Guys don't think like that.

So aside from my rant, which has meaning, I think that you should only take offense if he doesn't start the conversation first, if the conversation is IN PERSON, not through text. Like if you clearly make eye contact and he doesn't at least say hello or some type of small-talk, then I would say he doesn't like you as any more than a friend.



But...
Calling him is a little better. But like I said, talking IN PERSON is probably your best bet.


--Jack
(16/m)

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sorry to be so nagging but you did answer my other question........ say when your making out what is the best thing a girl has done to you???.... (example:draw circles with her finger on the back of your neck, or run your hands through your hair.)

thanks for all your answers

I haven't made out with anyone, so I really can't give you advice on that type of stuff.

Sorry.

--Jack
(16/m)

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hey its love boys again, the one you gave the list too. thanks for the tips it really helped i havent talked to him yet but he did tell me some stuff that i think is personal. i have other questions for you. what do you think is the best thing a girl can do say when your making out or hugging?

another question is when a girl is flirting with you whats the Ultimate best thing she could say?

Uhm- the best thing a girl can say is just to compliment me without being extremely creepy about it. Like a simple "You're such a great guy" or something if you mean it is enough.

The best thing a girl could say is something that she really meant, not just something someone online told her to say to me.

Thanks for inboxing me =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Jack i would just like to say that i love you and that you are such an amazing person! i am happy that you are you and that you have never changed. i am thankful for everything you have done and i'm happy, very happy that you are JACK!

i love you

Uhm, thank you?

If you want to chat, check out my forum =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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okayy so i really like this guy even though i met him a week ago but i know alot about him. he seems layed back and nice. i feel really comfortable talking to him. i shared stuff with him that i usually wouldn't with a guy that i new longer than that. how can i tell if he likes me? can i tell by the way he talks? or what he says? i really dont want to mess this up...

loveboys

Hey!

I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!

--Jack
(16/m)

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difference between ep and studio album?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extended_play

That's an EP. Usually it's five songs or less, but Relient K kind of broke that idea when they did The Bird and Bee Sides with 26 songs on that EP...


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LP_album

Obviously nowadays its a CD not a record, but the point is still the same.

Generally, an EP has about 5 songs and a studio album or LP has from 12-17 or so.

--Jack
(16/m)

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My Son is upset because his best mate is hurting him by using karate on him they have been friends scince birth as his mum and me are friends. He is boasting that he goes to karate and my son says he will pull a joke with him and he will kick him. He is fed up of it and wants his good old buddy back before he started karate. should i interfere by going to the teacher or telling his mum or should i leave him to sort it out for himself bearing in mind he asked me for help and advice?

Hmm good question.

If your son came to you and asked you if you could step in, then sure- step in. Talk to your friend and see if she can get her son to stop the karate moves.

If not, then maybe wait until your son does come to you and ask for your help.

If it's getting to the point where it's upsetting you and your son hasn't come to you yet, you should mention it to your friend.

Thanks for inboxing =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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see i need a new outlook on life so can anyone give me their ides or values on life?

Hmm do you mind if it's not that in depth? Normally I would give you like a long response, but I'm not feeling up for one of those today.

My basic philosophy on life is that you only live once. So enjoy every waking [and sleeping ;]!] moment. Laugh at yourself when you do something wrong, don't be down on yourself. Hang out with friends, but remember that there needs to be a good balance between work and play.

If you don't appreciate your life and if you don't try to find yourself, there really is no point in living. So LIVE your life and APPRECIATE it. Sure, there are times to be upset, but dwelling on the bad things only takes away time to enjoy the good things.

--Jack
(16/m)

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if you steal something from the abercrombie or hollister in the marketplace mall in rochester, NY do they have those stupid sirens tht go off? i know they have security tags but do they even have ink them? and will they set the sirens off?

NO SMARTASS ANSWERS SAYING IM POOR
SAVE YOUR BREATHE

To answer your question, yes, the store probably does have the security things you're talking about.

Most malls do. You see, they don't like shoplifters.

I'm not here to say you're poor- there's no reason to say something rude like that. Just because you plan to shoplift doesn't mean you're poor.

But perhaps I can offer you an alternative which will cost you less money. I'm sure there's a Salvation Army or Value World store around the Rochester area somewhere. What I suggest you do is go to one of them and purchase one of their shirts or pairs of pants or something for under $3. Seriously- it's that cheap.

No, I'm not trying to say you're poor so you should go there. I shop there and even some of the richest people shop there, too. Why? Because it's the SAME shirts and such for a MUCH lower price.

Would you rather pay $3 for a shirt or pay a few months in jail, plus a fine for shoplifting?

Personally, I'd take the $3.

--Jack
(16/m)

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LMAO...what does that mean?

It stands for "Laughing my ass off".

Other variations include:

lmfao [laughing my effing ass off]
roflol [rolling on the floor laughing out loud]
rofl [rolling on the floor laughing]


Next time, please use http://www.urbandictionary.com

=]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Wut are some good masturbating tips?? for females

We are not allowed to give you advice on how to do this, but if my knowledge is correct, we are allowed to supply links you can visit at your own discretion.

http://www.letsmasturbate.com/women/

In general- do what you feel comfortable doing.

--Jack
(16/m)

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