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Well, before the "in" thing was prep. Right? Well, now everyone is like be "original." Now, Original is becoming UnOriginal. I really don`t know what to do. Because I meen I want to be myself, and stand out. Before I was PREPPREPPREPPREP. & then I decided I wanted to become original because I got sick of everything. But, now, everyone wants to be Original, and its like a new trend. Original is suppose to be original!! not a TREND. I really dont know what to do anymore. I just want to be myself. 14/f.


ps im a REALLY bad speller

i know! how much does that SUCK?! just be yourself... don't say "oh im sooooo mself and really original" like to everyone you meet/myspace/whatever. just do it. people tell me i'm myself and i'm flattered... just let them notice that you do/wear what you want/like and go from there. no need to change.

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Okay so my father thinks he can just destroy our house completely and then fix it up all by himeself. so my qindows in my room are falling apart and he decides to rip up all the grass and build a patio. and whenever i complain to my mother she just tells me to go away. what can i do?????

wow that sucks. complaining to your mom won't really help get your windows to not fall apart.. in the meantime, maybe you can move into another room in your house, maybe a guest room? if you can't, maybe cover up your window with a sheet and hang up a poster? it's no tthe end of the world... his madness will come to an end eventually, i promise.

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The question is simple but the answer might be abit more complex! "Is life fair"? And please no answers lile "it's as fair as you make it"!!

No, life isn't fair because not all that is fair is equal and the most desired thing seems to be equality.

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I have an 8 year old son who will be going into 3rd grade.

He played little league baseball this year and loved it.

He had his first football practice yesterday and he wasn't as thrilled about it. Today when it was time for practice he said he didn't want to go. Then when we got there, 1 hour into it he came off the field complaining that he felt like he was gonna throw up. I was concerned about the heat, it's really unusually hot here in upstate NY. But he looked ok, face color normal and he wasn't showing signs of heat exhaustion so I gave him a drink and made him go back out. Not even 5 minutes passed and he was complaining again. This time he refused to go back out and started crying.

So I took him home early and now he is just fine. I KNOW that he was faking it because he didn't want to play anymore.

My problem is, what should I do?

I don't want to push him into playing football if he really doesn't wanna play. But at the same time, he has only been to 2 practices and I feel like he should give it a fair chance before I let him quit. Plus we paid over $100 for him to be on this team.

Should I force him to play, for at least 2 weeks before letting him quit? Or should I just let him quit now?

Thanks for your help

Maybe you should take him out before games start and possibly get a refund of most of the money as opposed to later. he might be too young... football around here starts at about 5-6th grade. don't force him into doing it.. he'll end up quitting later. it might not be that he doesn't like the sport but maybe the other kids weren't nice and he doesn't like that & just doesn't want to go. maybe if its a league with all kinds of sports, let him try soccer out. it's less aggressive & he might like that better.

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exactly how do you grind with a guy?. like where do you put your hands...just tell me everything you know about grinding.. thanks

personally, the forward one is easier so you pretty much straddle his leg and and just kinda do it... it comes pretty naturally for most. just move to the music and feel him to see what hes doing. you can put your hands around his neck and if you're close enough, your head on his chest or shoulder. (you can breathe on his neck... some guys like that). just have fun with it.

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Okay well I've been dating this amazing guy for about two weeks now and we get along amazingly well. Not a night has gone by that we haven't talked for at least 3 hours...we text all day...and talk on myspace every day...he is such a sweet guy. We get along and can talk so easily...and I know that he wants a real relationship...So a few nights ago I gave him a handjob...it wasn't planned or anything but it just happened. and he isn't acting weird or anything but I can't help but feel that it was too soon. Yes, I've already talked to him about it and he hugged me and told me that sex was not what our relationship about and he was not going to let this affect us because he cares about me too much.

So...I'm feeling uneasy...what should I do? No more sexual things???

I might feel this way because with my previous boyfriend (dated 9 months) I didn't give him a h/j until we had dated for 5 months...so I don't know...

that doesn't sound unusual. usually the first time you do it, you go really far into the relationship then once you have experience you don't wait as long.. it happens. don't feel uneasy... he's letting you decide so take advantage of that. if you don't want to, don't. he respects you. i think what you did is pretty normal so don't feel bad about it.

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Hello people =]. I am 5'3'' (63 inches) and I weigh 139 pounds.. I want to loose a lot of weight and fast. ( www.myspace.com/meg_92 ) I was wondering... does anyone know any diet plans.. exersizes.. that can make me loose weight, get ride of "love handles" that my mom keeps bugging me about?.. please help!

ps. i do exersize, i am a cheerleader so i run almost daily and do a lot of jumping around..

you have about the same dimensions as me and live in the same place... how cool is that! i'm about to add you.
anyway, it doesn't look like you have totally outta controll love handles... more like hips? but anyway, side crunches, crunches, and some extra running could help. don't drink pop (or cut back a little) and cut back on food (a little tho, not a lot. like 10%)

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okay i love the way flats look but they always cut the backs of my ankles, does anyone know how i can get them to stop doing that without socks cause i like to wear them with like capris and skirts and stuff and socks wont look right and nylons are a pain the the butt and if i put in the backing things then my foot feels squished. should I just use band aids? thanks in advamce.

16/f

I think you need to get like a looser fitting pair of flats. i usually get a half size up and i don't get cuts. it could just be that or if they're new, you have broken them in yet (that happens with a lot of shoes i.e tap shoes) so for now just use band aides.

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What does 'wat' stand for? I see people use it a lot on like livejournals and myspace (and it's not short for "what?"). Does anyone know what it stands for?

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=wat
i guess the 7th one down is that you're referring to.

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Okay, my boyfriend has been wanting to make out... but I don't know how!! I've been telling him that I've been to like third base with a couple guys but soon he's gonna find out that I don't even know how to kiss!

Can someone explain to me how to french kiss? What am I supposed to do? Is it hard? Ahhhhh!!!lol thanks!!!

noo it's not hard. you just go with the flow... let him lead. why did you lie about going to third with some guys? that's not a good thing... if you said that to make him like you, you may want to reconsider being with him.

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me & my friend.
were 14. we act grown up, more then most girls are age.
we really wanna like makeout, at her party. like, i wanna make out with this guy, that likes me & i like him & my friend wansta makeout with her bf.
but we dont wanna have everyone be like, HELLO SLUT GET A ROOM. yano?

so what can we do/say to them?

soo you think making out is grown up.. that's cool. if you want to sit there and do that, don't invite everyone else. do that somwehere else. part of acting older is being mature and doing nothing but making out all night at a party isnt mature. go to a movie or just have you guys over but at a party... a little is ok but keep clothes on its not attractive.

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Hey, Im looking for some round, closed toe pumps. I CANT FIND THEM ANYWEAR. I dont want like, black white or tan, I was looking for red/light pink/dark purple/yellow. And Id like them fairly high. Ive looked at famous footwear, journeys, JC Penny, and even Payless! Does anyone know where I can find some?

well i dont know how much you want to spend but i lovedddd these: http://couture.zappos.com/n/p/dp/8484893/c/43559.html
try zappos. com, they have everything

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hey
i was wondering where you can buy soffee shorts at? (for girls or women) because i go to the mall and almost everyone is wearing them with the top part of the shorts flipped back so you can see Soffee on the tags.. thanks !

i get mine at kohls.

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I'm having a party for about 15 this weekend and I was originally going to bartend and mix all the drinks myself, from scratch, but now, I need to find some ways to cut costs, so- does anyone know of any stores ( besides liquor stores, all the ones near me just have margarita mixes) where I can get pre-mixed drinks(just add alcohol)? Cheaply?

i think grogery stores have them. i found cosmopolitan mix at gabriel brothers once. try convinience stores or at gas stations too.

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Everyone says American Eagle is the best store, but personally I hate it. All of their t-shirts are basically the same things with different words and colors. A lot of their clothes are really bad quality. I bought a cami from there once and I only wore it once and a HUGE hole ripped and I wasn't even running around or anything. It may be a little cheaper then Abercrombie & Fitch or Hollister, but atleast if you buy something from A&F or Hollister, you know the clothes are going to last. American Eagle's clothes arn't the most attractive things, and they look cheap. What do you think about AE?

Personally, i like the store. i used to hate it like you do but it's grown on me. i don't buy everything from there but i do get some things. I have a bunch of shirts from there and none have ever ripped. i wear their khakis to school and i've never had a problem. then again, i buy my clothes pretty loose fitting so that might be why? i guess it depends on how you define quality. i get pants with no holes that last a long time from there... can't say the same for hollister. I guess if you don't like it, then don't shop there. i guess you got a lot of anger out already...

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Ok im only 12 and i neeeeeeed 100 bucks but i dont know how to get it! I cant sell stuff online and i cant have like a stand outside because my neighborhood is small. Any suggestions?

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=47
http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=84

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I was making out with my boyfriend last night and we decided to take the relationship to the level. Well as we were talking of our clothes I noticed that he doesnt have a penis O.O instead he has a vagina. Does that mean hes a girl? I'm really worried and I ran out of the bedroom and down the street half naked and now I dont know what to do please help!

if you are uncomfortable, dump him.

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16/f. At school I get hit on all the time, and at the mall, things like that. I am so not a slut I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and never had sex. The thing is I'll be walking down the street and there will be these like old mexican gardeners and they will like check out my ass and that just disgusts me so much. I feel so disgusting because of them. How do I get over this?

so first of all, i promise you, not all mexicans are like that. its DISGUSTING and inappropriate in every country. generally, these people are lower class and uneducated, so you can expect it from them. (that's why they make a living by digging holes) Don't feel disgusting... you can't change them unfortunatly. just ignore it... it's not saying you are a slut, it means they havent seen an ass like that in a while. its not your fault in any way! I used to get it all the time and i was like 12 or something young like that... eventually you just overlook it.

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how come advicenators has changed so much? a while ago.. people could ask anyone question they had. now there are all these rules and they really restrict what i am curious about. a lot of serious questions i have, have all been deleted. i dont understand this and i think it should change.

A lot of it is because all those questions have been answered. what you do is under give advice, "search questions" and look for a question similar to yours. then if it's not there, post a question. you can always leave them in someone's inbox... i don't think those get deleted. you can always google things which is what most advice givers do anyway because of the reasons YG gave.

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gimme some cool words to integrate into my daily vocab please!

anachronistic
uncharecteristically
impale
pummeling

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