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Too fast too soon?
Okay well I've been dating this amazing guy for about two weeks now and we get along amazingly well. Not a night has gone by that we haven't talked for at least 3 hours...we text all day...and talk on myspace every day...he is such a sweet guy. We get along and can talk so easily...and I know that he wants a real relationship...So a few nights ago I gave him a handjob...it wasn't planned or anything but it just happened. and he isn't acting weird or anything but I can't help but feel that it was too soon. Yes, I've already talked to him about it and he hugged me and told me that sex was not what our relationship about and he was not going to let this affect us because he cares about me too much.
So...I'm feeling uneasy...what should I do? No more sexual things???
I might feel this way because with my previous boyfriend (dated 9 months) I didn't give him a h/j until we had dated for 5 months...so I don't know...
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It does sound as though perhaps it was too soon. From what you have said, the relationship you have with this guy is already very close on an emotional and spiritual scale and that really is fantastic. However, it's possible that because you are still working on getting to know each other and build that connection, you aren't quite ready for a physical relationship yet.
You have what sounds to me like the start of a very healthy relationship. You care about each other, you have a lot of communication and when you decided you weren't ready for something, he respected that and is willing to wait.
You feel uneasy now but two weeks, two months, or longer down the line, that feeling will fade and you will know when the time is right. For now, try not to worry about it too much or you will miss the special relationship currently going on. Focus on the present right now and make the most of what you have, because it sounds rare and true and special and that is very hard to find these days.
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that doesn't sound unusual. usually the first time you do it, you go really far into the relationship then once you have experience you don't wait as long.. it happens. don't feel uneasy... he's letting you decide so take advantage of that. if you don't want to, don't. he respects you. i think what you did is pretty normal so don't feel bad about it. <3
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