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A few years ago, me, my brother, and my two cousins would hang out a lot. But i would sometimes complain. When an accident would happen, i would blame it on my cousin (its a guy cousin). But in reality it wasn't his fault. I would keep insisting it was. But this would happen frequently. we were about ten years old. And now its about for years later. Were teens. I really want to apologize because i truly, deeply regret it. But the problem its he stopped talking to me. I don't know if its too late to apologize. He doesn't seem to hate me too much but i don't know what to do. (link)
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I don't think it's ever too late to say you're sorry..unless they passed away or something..then it's a little too late. Anyways, yeah find a way to contact him and let him know you were thinking about how rude you were when you were younger and you just wanted to apologize for that.
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I was watching "New Girl" earlier and it said that a man's feet point to what they want (meaning the girl they want) and i was thinking of testing on Tuesday so A, should i do it and B, do any of you guys want to know if it works or not?
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I've heard that before but that's not necessarily true. If you're having a conversation with someone, most of the time, their feet with point towards you. I think those are one of the really small signs to tell if someone likes you. Like it could mean that, but it also might not. Because you will meet guys who are just friendly and like to give you their full attention.
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I broke up with my girlfriend and she still loves me, but I don't have any feelings for her and I met someone else who I'm very happy with. I need some good songs to tell my ex that I'm done with her, please help! (link)
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It's fine to look up break up songs but do not send them to her. It's not a good way to tell someone that you're interested in someone else. Just straight up tell her it's over and that you met someone else.
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I recently got into a relationship with my bestfriend. Before we dated in a week he broke up wit his girlfriend. They were initially having problems bit i cant help but feel bad and guilty because i think im part of the reason he broke up with her. Now this girl is contacting my friends and shes getting to know them because hes not with her anymore.It irritates me that shes doing that. What should i do on the whole situation? (link)
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She's just trying to get a little too involved and is trying to irritate you. So just ignore it. If she starts bringing drama into your friends and your friends actually listen to it, then they weren't real friends.
She's jealous because you have the guy. You don't want to act all dramatic and go scream at her or something so just ignore her.
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we been together for 4 years lived together for 4 months and things changed since we moved together he shows interest in me we don't make love and when we do he just lays there while i do all the work n it makes me feel like he dosent want me... he says he loves me but he dosent show it 2 me... he goes 2 work comes home takes a shower goes on the computer n forgets im in the same room, he says his tired but i feel neglected he wont give me anymore... so we fight n fight n fight... he does his own thing n i feel like his not ready 2 seatle down because its all about him, we fight over money because he spends way too much and nothing 2 show off 4 im upset because his going away for the weekend 2 a wedding n didnt even asked me 2 go with him... he calls me alot bad names and his upset because i told him lately has been all about himself he cant even make me finnish... I find myself very lost, hurt and at times down right depressed.This relationship is taking its toll on me...I don't know how much he loves me, not when he acts like this. I don't know how to explain to him I need more stability in our relationship. I want to stay, and love him but he always saying you dont like my ways then live, his just not concerned about what im feeling. I never want to leave but this crazy relationship is One that is slowly wearing on me. I don't know how to reach him when he goes into this dark place, his anger, his sadness and I'm affraid that ill lose this very sweet loving side of me if I continue to go through this. I am hopeful, I am faithful and I see the good in all things and people but the negativity makes me loose my faith n my strenght too keep fighting for this relationship.. I don't want to become bitter or defensive. I don't want to become damaged. I don't want to become someone incapable of loving. I have been an emotional wreck. i want him 2 support me, be a friend, a lover, and be there for when i need him... his actions makes me feel like he dosent care about my opinions or how i feel. i feel like he dosent want to be in it like i am. his trying to live a single life and that dosent work when we are in a relationship.. im concerned and he dosent understand that we should be in together and we are not... we are in a living situation now is different things change (link)
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He doesn't want to fix this relationship. This whole thing is one sided. You're the one doing all the loving and trying to communicate with him while he just plainly doesn't care.
He's not going the be the man you want him to be. You can't make a man change. Only he can change himself and clearly, he's not going to do that.
You don't want to be with someone who says, "If you don't like my ways, then leave." You want someone you wants you to stay and would actually care if you left. He wouldn't care.
He might not be a bad guy, but people change. He's just not the right guy for you. He can't give you all the things you need.
So it's time to let him go and move on. It will hurt a lot but he's no good for you and is making you very unhappy.
Why be with someone who doesn't care if you would leave?
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there's this guy.. he flirts with me alot and tries to touch me everytime im with him.... but there's another friend of mine to whom he does the same thing.. can anyone tell me dat what does that exactly means... i really like this guy alot.. what does that exactly means?
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It could mean a lot of things but since he does the same thing with your friend, then it seems like the type who likes to flirt.
I don't think he really has feelings in either of you, but he is attracted to both of you.
I'm just assuming he's the type of guy who likes to flirt with a lot of girls.
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Heyyy..... So I like pleasing myself. But I do it like once in a month of two. I'm up to 2 vingers almost 3 (I have smAll hands) anayway I tried difrent tings but it doesn't fit* and its sorta painfull when I forse it and then I lose the feeling...* also I wanna have sex but I dunno with who ( I'm not that pretty) and I'm afraid of the fact that I'm loosing my virgin...* is it gona be painfull?* please help!* thx !! (link)
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It doesn't matter how many fingers you use. A lot of people just like the pleasure of one. You need to look around and search what feels good for you. You don't force it either. Don't do anything that is painful.
Sex is painful depending on the person. Usually it's painful your first time. You obviously know you're not ready to have sex when you're afraid.
Plus, it's better to not take those risks until you are ready.
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I'm sorry this is a bit of a long read :3
My best friend, let's call her Z, is really pissing me off. I am known as the "nerdy, cute, gamer" girl (that's just who I am). There is a guy who has a crush on me (I kind of like him but I'm not sure), and she tries to get close to him just because she knows he likes me (she doesn't have a crush on him, I'm sure)! Every time in front of him, she acts like she is also a "nerdy, cute, gamer" type of girl when she's not at all! She always starts conversations online like, "oh sorry, i was gaming" (PLAYING GTA ONE TIME DOESN'T MAKE YOU A GAMER!!). In front of me, when I say something with words she doesn't understand or a character that's "too nerdy" for her to know, she just says she doesn't know what I'm talking about. But in front of others, she pretends she understands everything. She seems to do this in front of every group of people, in front of the populars, she acts popular, in front of the emos, she acts emo. She's always trying to establish herself as a certain "type", and it's different in front of different people! I love her to death, but she's really getting on my nerves? (link)
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It seems like she just wants attention. I think the best thing to do is to talk to her. You don't have to accuse her of anything or make her feel like you're attacking her. Just be like, "I've noticed that you act different around different people and I just wanted to let you know that just in case you didn't realize it." Kinda show her like you're being a good friend and that you're helping her.
That's a really annoying situation to be in and I think talking to her is the best option.
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Hey F/14. ..... So my (ex) bf and I broke up cauze he slept at my best friend...* (girl) so we broke up and she and her bf broke up..* ( me and her bf is good friends and was a item be4) so we are single.... I really like him a lot!* he's a great person!* and we say stuff like " I love you" and so on...* I think I'm inlove with him.... But my ex asked me back!* what should I do? And how?*
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How long ago did you guys break up? Either way, I'd suggest waiting awhile.
Your confused, so that means you don't jump into anything without a clear head and knowing what you want.
I wouldn't suggest getting back together with your ex unless you knew you could trust him. Of course, I wouldn't suggest you get with your ex because you have feelings for someone else.
If you're not over your ex yet, wait until you are and then you can start dating again. When you still have feelings for your ex and you get into a relationship, it will make things really complicated. So just wait it out and try to move on.
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When I started high school I've been with this very large group of 9 people. But then the group slip into two because of some fight. I hung out with one of these sub-groups for a while but then, I became close friends with someone from the other group and well- eventually I started hanging out with her group a lot more.
Then, when I noticed that I had dumped my friends. I can back but when I did- I was already a stranger. I had no idea what and who they were talking about and no longer know anything about them.
My presence became so small among them. No one hears me when I talk and they all forget about me.
I try really hard to fit back in but today was the breaking point. I can't believe I have to talk really loud for my voice to be heard.
There's a new girl- she fit into them so easily when I've been trying for over a year. They take pictures with each other but not me. They even had a group photo and I wasn't sure if I should join in.
They invited me to go out with them and I see it as an opportunity to bond with them but- they're all inviting their boyfriends. I hardly know those boys and I don't have one of my own! Not to mention- I'm already left out among them so I don't think I will feel comfortable going. But not going might make the situation worse.
I try hanging out with my close friend's group but they're not the type I want to hang out with. One person has a very bad personality and we've already fought once. And I'm still out of place with the others. They won't invite me to place because I'm seen as a member of the other group.
Can you guys help me?
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That's a tough situation to be in. I say that you should just find new friends. The friends that you came back to, aren't the same friends anymore. I think if you really want to hang out with them, take another friend who is single. I'm sure you have another friend or at least a close acquaintance who might be fun to hang out with if things get awkward with their boyfriends.
As for anything else, I'd just keep searching for more friends. Friends that you can relate to, that are good people, and friends that you don't have to talk over to be recognized.
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How to commit suicide the fastest, and the least painful way. (link)
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Firstly, on this site, we're not allowed to tell you how to end your life. We're here to help people live and find a way to work through their problems.
Secondly, I'll just say, there will always be pain when trying to end your life. Unless you're elderly and pass away peacefully in your sleep.
So my advice to you would be to seek help. Go talk to someone about your problems and try to find a way to help you deal with them. Things do get better. I've seen people who lived through hell and were contemplating on ending their life but are now happy as ever. So go get help, talk to a counselor or therapist or even walk into the hospital and tell them that you want to commit suicide and they'll help you.
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Hi a while back she dumped me as a friend and we are no longer friends anymore:( A while back i was kind of okay with not being friends. Now i am getting really sad and jealous of her being friends with my other friends on facebook and in real life. everytime i see her i feel sad and i miss her sooo much. Yeserday i saw her it was the first day of school i was scared to see her i hide behind a teacher so she would not see me. but i think she and her friends saw me. Her friend was talking very loud for some odd reason. Then today i was another friend of her she did not wave back to me when i waved to her. But i saw another friend of her she said hi to me when i waved to her. My question is why am i a bad person to her why does she hate me for i did nothing wrong! please help
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Well if she is mad at you, then you had to have done something to make her mad. Why did she break up with you?
Maybe something happened in the relationship that she really didn't like and never told you about it.
Anyways, you guys are broken up. There is nothing really to do. You should just stop trying to wave at her and just try to move on. Moving on is really hard, but in this case, you're really gonna have to. You have no reason to be jealous of her being friends with your friends. She's allowed to be friends with whoever she wants and there's nothing you can do about it, so being jealous just won't help the situation.
Just keep yourself busy, go out with friends, enjoy your life and start trying new things and meeting new girls. You're going to miss her, but you need to let her go.
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What do you do in a situation where you can't find love and accept the fact that you have to "just let it happen" but CANNOT ignore your body's sexual needs any longer? I'm a virgin but do you think it's OK for me to find someone to start hooking up with? Just so I don't go insane from being horny? I literally have never done any sexual activity but CANNOT stop thinking about sex. I've only ever found one guy that I really have feelings for and he has a girlfriend. I have been pretty heartbroken from that experience. I really can't find another guy I like (college boys are immature) and don't want to force trying to find one. I am so horny it makes me moody. (Yes, I have done everything I can to please myself, but I need a man). Help? (link)
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I can understand where you're coming from. It's just, if you really want a FWB or casual hook ups, you can't be looking for love from them, keep that in mind. Like if you start hooking up with someone and you actually find out you like them, it most likely won't happen.
I don't see anything wrong with casual sex. As long as you find someone you trust and don't have feelings for.
I don't think you need a man to please yourself. I mean they will do the same things you do to yourself. Girls don't normally orgasm during sex either unless the guys want to make that happen. I mean sex toys can do the same thing as a man can.
And I'm assuming you're college age since you said college boys are immature. But I really hope you don't write off guys in college because you assumed they're all immature, because that's not true. It's not really the age of the person that makes them immature, it's the person themself. Like you'll meet plenty of older men who are just as immature.
Anyways, that's just a side note to keep in mind.
So if you think you can handle it, and put aside looking for a relationship, then go for it. If you don't mind that your virginity won't be taken by someone you love, then go for it.
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Sometimes I feel like I have the best life. Like I can do anything. I am the person who can look in the mirror and smile because I know I can do anything I put my mind to. Then come the days like today. Filled with watching old television shows and wishing I was someone else. I get fixated on these shows. I don't even know if this all makes sense but it is what happens to me. I have nothing to do during the day I feel completely helpless and am forced to look at my life from a completely different and depressing view. I worry that if I just keep busy all the time I'll be missing on what is really happening but I avoid. (link)
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You can't tell if you are bi-polar or not. No one on this site can. I mean you can look up symptoms but I mean the symptoms you have can be plenty of disorders as well as just being young with hormones. So you won't know unless you see a doctor who can actually diagnose you.
Because even if we say you are bi-polar, what are you going to do about it? You have to see a doctor either way.
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Okay so Im 13 and I once dated this 17 year old. He found out I cut and now we got in a really big fight and hes planning to tell everyone :( him ans his friend are really smart and qould do anything to get back at me pls help me (link)
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Ok, he's being completely immature and is a jerk. He and his friends are not smart, they are stupid.
You can't stop him though. But I suggest you never talk to him again. I don't know why you'd want to keep in contact with a guy who would threaten to do something like that.
He's 17 years old and is acting like a child. Ignore him and his friends.
I'm also going to ask you to get some help with cutting. Lots of girls do it, it's not a surprise even if it should be. But it can cause a lot of problems. You should talk to your parents or to a counselor. They'll get you the help you need and a better way to learn how to deal with your problems.
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I'm 17 and she's 15 we do it(have sex) every week once, I do NOT put my penis COMPLETELY inside her because it reaches like sort of a layer thing in there so I'm afraid not to break that layer maybe blood might come out! But I did ask and they said "since you can put your penis inside her then she's not a virgin" but guys! we NEVER EVER saw any blood after I put my penis inside her for FIRST time! Isn't BLOOD! supposed to come out if it's the first time anybody ever puts his finger AND penis inside her vagina!? or no,blood comes out after I completely put my penis and break that layer inside?
-ThankYou.
High Fives to all like usual xD (link)
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From my personal experiences, I've never bled at all when I had sex.
Blood doesn't indicate whether she's a virgin or not. When you have sex, you're no longer a virgin.
The layer you're probably talking about is her hymen. It's not supposed to break or tear. That's just a "myth". The hymen actually stretches and only covers part on the vagina inside. I mean if it covered the whole thing, she wouldn't be able to have her period.
If a girl does bleed, it's because something's not right. Either the guy went too fast and didn't go slow her first time, was too rough or didn't have enough lubricant.
So my advice would be to go slow at first. You're not supposed to break the layer, so go slow. It will probably hurt her, so give it time.
My first time having sex, it was painful and I couldn't let him go in all the way. So the next time and the next time, it began to get easier. Also, I'm sure you guys are comfortable to talk to each other so try talking to her about masturbating. I mean she can help herself stretch her hymen.
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Im 14f and have known I was bi or gay all my life, and im comfortable with it.my best friend...ive had a crush on her for years.she knows I do, but it hurts sometimes, I really like her shes straight.im cool with our friendship.its amazing, but how can I stop you know...likeing her in that way so muxh? Cant get over it. (link)
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You stop liking someone the same way you stop liking anyone else. You need to let yourself move on because these feelings you have aren't going to get you anywhere and it could possibly ruin the friendship. So you should stop spending a lot of time around her, don't text or call her a lot. Just give yourself some time to get over her. If she's a good friend, she'll understand. It doesn't mean that you have to completely cut her out of your life, but you do need more space.
Most girls can't get over somebody because they say they can't. They think the person they like are perfect for them and that there is no one else for them. After the break up, most girls will move on in a few months. Some take years because they keep talking to that person and swear that they can't get over them, but it's because they won't let themselves.
So don't tell yourself that you can't get over her, or else you really won't and you'll be heartbroken.
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Hi. About 6 months back I found that my husband had an emotional affair. I confronted him and he claimed is not true. later I found proof that he in fact was emotionally attached to a woman who was also married. It turned into an ugly fight and we were seperate for a month. He asked me to return for the sake of our children. He had still not acknowledged nor apologised for his cheating. I can't sleep at times thinking about this. I start crying mid day when no one is at home.
He still had contact with her but for completely different reasons,and I believe it 100%. But I cannot believe and accept the fact that he was emotionally intimate with another woman. I don't know how to forget and foregive him. We are back in our relationship now but I always feel that my marriage has no meaning.
He is generally not a communicative person and this has put me in a miserable position. Your advice on this is appreciated. (link)
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Staying with someone for the children is a wrong reason to stay with someone. If he cared about the children, he wouldn't have cheated in the first place.
Why stay with someone you're unhappy with? He's not communicating with you and it's going to hurt more in the long run.
You need to talk to him again. You have to lay everything out on the table. Don't accuse him, don't lecture him, just state your feelings. If he still acts like he doesn't care, then you need to reevaluate your relationship. If he starts putting more effort into your marriage, then that's when you start learning how to forgive.
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A few weeks ago a teacher left my school and, as I was very close to him, I got him a thank you card (he's helped my an awful lot over the past year - almost acting as a psychologist for me). When I gave him the card he said that he'd open it when I wasn't there if I wanted (I told him he could open it then). I didn't think much of it but then my friend came in and gave him a card and he just opened it straight away without saying anything.
I didn't think much of it at the time but then I was talking to my friend a few days ago and she said that sounded a bit weird. Now I'm really worried about what he'd thought I'd written in the card or something... And thinking back he's said other things to me like 'you hide a lot' and 'is there anything you want to tell me'.
I'm just very confused and don't want him to think bad of me. It's been really bugging me the last day or two and I feel stupid for not noticing beforehand when he was still at school and I could talk to him about it.
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I don't think it's really a big deal. I mean you said nothing inappropriate in the card, correct? So you shouldn't worry about what he thinks of you.
I think you're just reading a little too into it and your friend is putting ideas in your head.
Even if he thought something was up with you, it doesn't matter anymore. He's gone so don't over think this.
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im wondering if I could get pregnant because im a virgin but when he tried to put it in I pulled on the condom could it be a possibility that the condom broke and at that time he had a strong erection
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Yes, you can get pregnant your first time having sex. You don't have anything special in you that stops you from getting pregnant.
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