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My cousin won't talk to me
A few years ago, me, my brother, and my two cousins would hang out a lot. But i would sometimes complain. When an accident would happen, i would blame it on my cousin (its a guy cousin). But in reality it wasn't his fault. I would keep insisting it was. But this would happen frequently. we were about ten years old. And now its about for years later. Were teens. I really want to apologize because i truly, deeply regret it. But the problem its he stopped talking to me. I don't know if its too late to apologize. He doesn't seem to hate me too much but i don't know what to do.
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If someone treated you that way years ago, even if you're not angry at them, would you be going out of your way to check and see if they've grown up in the mean while? Probably not. So you can't wait for him to make the first move. You'll need to approach him first. I might add that it would be best to do so face to face rather than try to apologize via text. Because he gets the benefit of seeing your facial expressions and can pick up on how genuine you are at what you are saying.
First, apologize and let him know you know that you realize you were wrong back then and maybe even dont know why you did that. Tell him that you have grown up some in the meanwhile and realize how much you miss his friendship. You hope that he is willing to forgive the past and become close as cousins again. Its never too late to repair a relationship. If both people are waiting for the other to go first, it will never happen so make it your motto in life to always go first, in starting apologies, or in starting convos with a new person you meet.
So if I understand it correctly, you are about 14 years old. Right now you should be going thru your extra touchy and emotional times due to the increasing hormones in your body. It can make you overly emotional to being weepy and sad or mean, easily angered and bitchy. Usually its directed at any other female, whether mom, sisters or best friends. All my 3 daughters went through it, you are already or will be experiencing the full effect too. If you can understand this ahead of time, its easier to know its not the other person ever at fault, its how you are hormonally being tempted to act.
So a word of warning, when you get back together with your male cousin, have a talk with him later about your hormonal times. You're not likely to have outbursts with him but he will be an important person for you to spend time with cus guys at this age are more emotionally stable. When you begin to feel irritated with any female, take a time out away, whether in your room or talk to the male cousin or spend time with him. Just in case he finds you in a snippy mood with him, give him the permission ahead of time to say something, letting him know what girls your age are going thru hormonally and that is won't really be directed at him. But if he sees you begin to act that way, that you want to correct it and are asking for his help in pointing it out by saying something like "You need a hormonal time out." And when you do hear this, make a big effort of willpower to correct your behavior.It can be done...I did it successfully keeping myself under control and my daughters did too whenever I brought it to thier attention.
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I don't think it's ever too late to say you're sorry..unless they passed away or something..then it's a little too late. Anyways, yeah find a way to contact him and let him know you were thinking about how rude you were when you were younger and you just wanted to apologize for that.
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is there no way you can contact him? like via facebook or send him a text or anything with an apology?
i don't think he'd ignore it if he see's you're generally sorry & that you've grown up & matured since then.
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