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Disorder & Confindence
Hi I am a fourteen year old girl. Last December I read a paragraph about depersonilization disorder and I've heard if you keep thinking about it you will eventually 'get' the disorder. Long story short, I worried about getting this disorder for about nine months but I haven't had any of the symptoms and I really don't want to 'get' this disorder. How do I forget about this disorder? I am healthy but I'm always worried something is wrong with me. How can I build my confindence?
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To get an illness or disorder by reading about it or thinking about it is called being a Hypochondriac which is a disorder all its own. You do not really get sick but you have tricked yourself into believing you are. Being a Hypochondria is a very disabling illness all its own as you worry and think you are sick with every illness and disease you read or hear about.
If this sounds like you then you need to see a psychologist to find out why you are like this and work to get past it. You don't want to spend the rest of your life in fear of getting some dread disease simply because you are worried you might. That is not how it happens.
In short my advice is that you see a therapist, a clinical psychologist. If you are under 18 you need parental permission to do so.
Since you are under 18 you need to talk to mom or dad or both of them about how you are feeling. I know talking to mom and dad for a teenager is troublesome especially with issues such as this. To me as someone old enough to be a grandparent what you are writing about is no different than if you had hurt yourself in some manner and needed to see a doctor.
The fact is that right now you are hurting. Our jobs as parent, our primary jobs as parent is our children's well being. To do the best we are able to remove what hurts. To do this you have to tell us when you hurt even if it is the type of hurt that we cannot put a bandaid on.
Now don't sit there and say your parents can't afford to take you to a therapist. Next to not telling us when you are hurt; second guessing what we are cable of doing or not doing is the worst thing you can do. From the day you and any siblings you may have were born you and they come before anything else.
If you really need something, I mean really need or want something; we find the resources to make it happen. We go without before you do. We refuse things you want that you say or think you must have. We will never say no to things you actually need such as medical help.
So tell your parents what is going on with you and what you are thinking just as you have told us. Then ask for help.
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You don't just get disorders from thinking about it. It has everything to do with your brain and chemicals and such.
If you really think you have a disorder, you need to see a doctor so you can be diagnosed and they can help you with it.
Whatever you heard about just getting the disorder, it's just to get in your head and trick you. My dad once told me a story about a friend in India. His wife was talking to someone about if someone thinks they're sick, they'll really believe they are even when nothing is wrong with them. She didn't believe it but she did what her friend told her and tried to test it out on her husband. Her husband was outside sleeping with his mouth open and she woke him up saying, "A snake just went in your mouth!" He didn't believe her but she kept going on about how he was sleeping with his mouth open and she saw it go in. Eventually, he thought he felt it inside of him and started thinking he was really sick and would act sick. Then he was sleeping again and she woke him up and told him she saw it come out of his mouth. So then he started feeling better.
So, it's a really strange story but I think you get what I mean. Like, it's all in your head.
But seriously, if you believe you have a disorder, don't self diagnose yourself, see a doctor.
As for building your confidence, you need to get out of your comfort zone. That's the hardest thing to do. Smile at people and say hi. Dress comfortably and pretty, make sure you feel good. You can slowly build your confidence by talking to people you don't know or don't know too well. The biggest problem we have is being judged and wondering what other people think of us. Most likely, the person you talk to is too busy thinking about themselves and how they appear. So don't stress it.
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You may not have this disorder, but I would recommend talking to a therapist about your anxiety over being sick or having something wrong with you. Putting yourself through that kind of anxiety and stress all the time is definitely not good for you and it would be super beneficial for you to learn how to cope with and process your feelings. (: Best of luck to you and try to relax!
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