|
When I started high school I've been with this very large group of 9 people. But then the group slip into two because of some fight. I hung out with one of these sub-groups for a while but then, I became close friends with someone from the other group and well- eventually I started hanging out with her group a lot more.
Then, when I noticed that I had dumped my friends. I can back but when I did- I was already a stranger. I had no idea what and who they were talking about and no longer know anything about them.
My presence became so small among them. No one hears me when I talk and they all forget about me.
I try really hard to fit back in but today was the breaking point. I can't believe I have to talk really loud for my voice to be heard.
There's a new girl- she fit into them so easily when I've been trying for over a year. They take pictures with each other but not me. They even had a group photo and I wasn't sure if I should join in.
They invited me to go out with them and I see it as an opportunity to bond with them but- they're all inviting their boyfriends. I hardly know those boys and I don't have one of my own! Not to mention- I'm already left out among them so I don't think I will feel comfortable going. But not going might make the situation worse.
I try hanging out with my close friend's group but they're not the type I want to hang out with. One person has a very bad personality and we've already fought once. And I'm still out of place with the others. They won't invite me to place because I'm seen as a member of the other group.
Can you guys help me?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Unfortunately high school is full of stereotypes and drama. Friends come and go, We find new friends and develop new groups.
When I was in 8th grade, I had a lot of friends. Once I hit high school, We all completely fell out and went our separate ways. I met new friends but even from freshmen to senior, My friends changed drastically. It just happens
Long story short, I held a few close friends after high school but eventually we drifted apart.
So basically things like this happen. You just have to find people who except you and acknowledge your presence. This group doesn't seem to value you but rather string you along like a 3rd wheel.
I am my late 20's, I am no longer friends with anyone from high school. I went on and made friends through work and college. Life goes on
]
That's a tough situation to be in. I say that you should just find new friends. The friends that you came back to, aren't the same friends anymore. I think if you really want to hang out with them, take another friend who is single. I'm sure you have another friend or at least a close acquaintance who might be fun to hang out with if things get awkward with their boyfriends.
As for anything else, I'd just keep searching for more friends. Friends that you can relate to, that are good people, and friends that you don't have to talk over to be recognized.
]
It's kind of a tough place to be in but it doesn't have to be. You don't need to have a lot of friends, having just one true friend is Fine. If you really want to be friends with the people that you bonded with better at first then maybe you can go out with them and if it doesn't work out or you don't feel comfortable in any type of way then maybe it's best to just be associated with them but you'll know for yourself if you want to keep trying to be friends with them or not. Not everyone bonds with everyone. You can make other friends I bet.. But it's always nice to be friends with somebody who you feel comfortable talking to or hanging out with. Dont try to be someones friend and don't try to make friendships. Word of advice, it's better to have a true friend than to have lots of deceiving and fake friends. I'm not saying that they are fake at all. The point is just choose your friends wisely. If you like them as a person then go for it, if not dont waste your time
]
More Questions: |