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Heyyy..... So I like pleasing myself. But I do it like once in a month of two. I'm up to 2 vingers almost 3 (I have smAll hands) anayway I tried difrent tings but it doesn't fit* and its sorta painfull when I forse it and then I lose the feeling...* also I wanna have sex but I dunno with who ( I'm not that pretty) and I'm afraid of the fact that I'm loosing my virgin...* is it gona be painfull?* please help!* thx !!
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I don't know what objects you have tried, hopefully you're old enough (legal age) to visit a sex store to purchase a dildo. But no matter what objects you try, forcing something in with out lubrication, that will indeed be uncomfortable enough to be considered kinda painful. You don't lose anything when exploring your sexuality as you are now doing, having sex with a partner, and having someone enter your vagina with fingers or penis is only a further step of the process of your sexual debut...its not a one time, one night event but a process over time. You don't lose anything. Virginity is an antiquated word that is not the correct word to ever have been used to describe taking your time to explore your sexuality when you're ready. Virginity is a word created by men during a time when women were considered property to be bought and sold and the fad at the time said she had more value if they knew she was for sure a virgin because a man didnt want to marry a woman who might be pregnant by some other man but not showing yet. It was all about his "wealth and property" not passing into the hands of some bastard child he did not father.
Whatever you do, do not have sex with someone else until you are ready. Your mind may play with the idea and get excited but that doesnt mean you are really ready.
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It doesn't matter how many fingers you use. A lot of people just like the pleasure of one. You need to look around and search what feels good for you. You don't force it either. Don't do anything that is painful.
Sex is painful depending on the person. Usually it's painful your first time. You obviously know you're not ready to have sex when you're afraid.
Plus, it's better to not take those risks until you are ready.
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Don't do anything that's going to cause you to hurt yourself. Masturbation is not about how many fingers you can fit or how many things you can use. It's a sexual release and it should feel good.
Sex will generally happen in time for everyone. If you're afraid of losing your virginity and you don't have a significant other, then I would say that you aren't ready. It can be painful, but it's different for everyone.
Don't go out looking to have sex, let it happen with someone you love and trust. You will have the best experience possible that way.
Best wishes.
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