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making my boyfriend hard
Everytime me and my boyfriend want to have sex it takes forever for him to get hard, I don't do the whole strip tease lap dance or dress up. What are some ways to make him hard fast?
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Adviceman covered about all of it except one thing I'd like to add. I dont have your age but this thought is based on those who are young and this is their first sexual or 2nd sexual relationship experience. When two people are inexperienced, just the worry about "doing it right" and making a good impression is enough stress to make it difficult to get hard.
Or he may be a great friend but the the sex department there is not enough chemistry to spark a sexual interest or response in his body. Although at his age, it should be easy...it only becomes an issue when guys get older maybe approaching their 30s as a guess.
I also want to point out dear, that you shouldn't have to do anything more like a strip tease or say or do anything special to make him hard every time. If he is really interested in you sexually and finds you attractive, just your willingness to make love with him should be enough. Since it isn't, he may want to see his doctor, whether he is taking medications or not. And as already stated, if he's a street drug user or drinks alot, avoid him. Alcohol is also known to interfere with men being able to get hard.
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IF we are talking about a teenage boy; most all teenage boys will get an erection at just the suggestion that something sexual will happen. IF your boyfriend is having a problem getting and maintaining an erection then something else may be at work here.
One of the biggest causes of erectile dysfunction (problems getting an erection) in males of any age is drug use, both legal and illegal. Some of the legal drugs that would cause this problem would be drugs to control HDAD, Depression and high blood pressure as well as any combination of these drugs.
Of course most of the street drugs including marijuana will cause erectile dysfunction. Especially for heavy users of those drugs.
In every relationship and especially in a sexual relationship communication is very important. It is important to know what the others needs are in a sexual relationship if it is to be successful. In your relationship you need to know why your boyfriend is having this problem for it is not normal for a teenage boy.
If he is on prescription drugs then this is most likely the cause. Since he is most likely under 18 his doctor would probably not bring the subject up. But if he is over 14 he has the legal right under a law called HIPPA to discuss this with is doctor, without his parents participation, knowledge or permission, as do you.
The HIPPA Law, which is a Federal law provides those over 14 with medical confidentiality when comes to their reproductive systems. This means you, your boy friend or any one else over 14 can see a doctor with or without parental permission for any concerns, problems and treatment for anything related to their reproductive system.
They can also receive birth control medication.
Medical records for these visits are confidential and no one, not even your parents can see them without your expressed written permission to the doctor. The doctor cannot speak to your parents about any of these visits. All anyone needs to say to the doctor is, "I wish to invoke my rights under HIPPA."
With this in mind talk to your boyfriend an find out if he is taking medication for anything such as what I suggested above or anything else. If he is then this may be the problem and he should speak with his doctor or a Urologist. Remember he need not inform his parents if he wants to speak with a doctor.
Now if your boyfriend is using street drugs? I then advice you to reconsider your relationship with him especially a sexual one. Users of street drugs are the ones who are most likely to be infected with STDS. If your boyfriends is a user of street drugs then you are placing yourself in danger having sex with him. You should stop having sex with him and get yourself tested. The testing would also be confidential and could be done at any free clinic.
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guys generally get turned on by the basic things...kissing/biting of the neck, whispering certain little things into his ears, playing with him....etc
but do remember that different people like & get turned on by different things, have you tried to speak to him about it?
i think it's always best to be open & honest in relationships, especially in a sexual way...you need to know what makes each other tic & once you know, it'll be exciting for the both of you :)
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