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why does he flirts with me alot?
there's this guy.. he flirts with me alot and tries to touch me everytime im with him.... but there's another friend of mine to whom he does the same thing.. can anyone tell me dat what does that exactly means... i really like this guy alot.. what does that exactly means?
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It could mean a lot of things but since he does the same thing with your friend, then it seems like the type who likes to flirt.
I don't think he really has feelings in either of you, but he is attracted to both of you.
I'm just assuming he's the type of guy who likes to flirt with a lot of girls.
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It could be a couple things. Without observing the guy 24/7 I have no way of knowing why but I can take some guesses.
It is possible that he may be an overly friendly type and since you've seen him flirt with a friend of yours, this is what he is like normally, he may even make friends easily with guys but not flirt...just a very outgoing person, and so you can't rely on that to know whether he has any deeper personal interest in you.
If he is just a freindly sort, he may actually be what a female calls a player, one who makes a sport of wooing a girl and dating her and getting her to believe shes the only one for him while he is doing the same thing, romancing half a dozen girls and making promises to them as well. Usually this goes deeper than flirting and its about having sex with as big a variety as he can get...its an actual addiction of sorts.
Or if he's young, in teen years or college age and has not yet had a serious girlfriend, he may be flirting with any girl he finds acceptable to see if one will respond back and become his girlfriend. Guys often don't know how to communication well. He may be an honestly nice guy and be hoping to date a wonderful girl but not be too picky yet, he just wants to get started on the dating process and this is how he thinks it will work. However, it causes confusion in the women he directs his flirting towards.
I do not know which of these guys he is but you can find out by directly asking him. You have a good reason to ask, especially since he goes to the point of coming close enough to touch. If a girl backs away from him, it means she
is not interested or attracted. If she stays her ground, its a sign to him, subconsciously that she likes him back. But he wont be totally sure until he talks with a girl about it. He's not likely to start the conversation topic to discover if she likes him.
So heres what you might say...it not awkward because you are basing your question on his actions and body language: Hey Tony, I have noticed by your body language that you seem to be attracted to me, at least, thats what it means when a person chooses to get close enough to touch a person and talk to them. However, I am confused because you have acted the same way towards my girlfriend. So I would just like some clarification. Is this just part of your personality. Do you like to touch all people and be overly friendly with everyone you meet? Or are you attracted to both my friend and I at the same time? Or are you just hoping to find one girl who is attracted to you as well? If he answers yes on the last one, then it would be safe to tell him that you like him enough to want to get to know him better and then you two start seeing each other more to discover if really there is something there beyond the initial attraction or not. If so, hang out with him, if not, just tell him you discovered you don't feel any chemistry with him. That doesnt need any more details in explanation and most guys get that.
Good luck dear.
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