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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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whenever i finger my girlfriend i feel...like a ball is up there i was wondering what that was. and i was wondering what could cause it to bleed because it has happened b4..but shes not on her period not even close what could it be?

It could possibly be her hymen. Hymens bleed when scratched or broken, so that is probably what you're feeling.

being that you are a boy, ill ask you, what is wrong with boys? why do they LIKE to lead girls on and pretend to like them, to already have moved on the next week? i figure, if you dont like someone, then dont act like it. it fucks with peoples heads. anyway, the question is just on my mind, because its happened to me with EVERY boy ive ever had, relations, with. ive concluded that its a boy thing. why?

It is not a 'boy' thing. Not all boys are jerks. You're just getting jerks because that's what you go after. If you know the guy has a reputation of being an asshole, why even go for him?

Chances are, you can't change him so don't date him. There are also possibilities that maybe you're rushing in too fast with them and giving whatever it is up way too easily.

Boys will not respect you if you cannot respect yourself. You need to date boys who you know are good guys. If you keep dating jerks, this will keep happening to you. Get to know a guy first before doing anything with him. Chances are he'll respect you more and treat you better.

Don't pin all guys as assholes because you're a piece of the puzzle too.

I keep getting these terrible soare throught like not being able to swallow drinks or food and i can barly breath,when i look in the mirror my tonsils have holes in them and a huge whiht or yellow bubble in the back of them and i want to know the symptoms because my mom is going to take me to the emergeny room so plzzzzzzzzzz reply as soon as possible thanks thanks thanks thanks plzzzzz reply fast

http://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/tonsillitis-topic-overview

umm hi the other day i came home from work and found puke all over the floor when i was cleaning up i found that there was a little bit of blood in with the puke but it also looks like it could be liquid poo....anyways i just changed her food to ultra from nutrience what could this be and how can i fix it ?

If I were you, I'd go and see a vet. Explain the situation and say you're unsure of whether it was blood or feces because they looked similar.

The vet is the only person that can tell you for sure what is wrong with your dog. You cannot leave your dog to continue this because your dog could be sick.

Go see the vet.

So for my 16th I really wanna get my tounge pierced. Can anyone tell me like anything about it? If you've had it done, if it hurts etc. I know it swells up for a while, is it only for like a week?

Thanks

I haven't had my tongue pierced before, but I do have my lip pierced and I can say that since it's a semi-mouth piercing, the requirements for after-care are pretty similar.

My brother however, has his tongue pierced. He said his didn't hurt, but you must keep in mind that pain is much different for everyone and that what might hurt for me may not hurt for you & vice versa.

It swells for about a week or two. Do not drink alcohol, do not eat crunchy foods, and I recommend taking a pain killer (Tylenol, Advil or Aleve) because it'll help with the pain and the swelling. If you do drink something, make sure it's water because the acid in juice & sodas can sting. Most piercers won't recommend it. The only things you can really eat are jello, ice cream and soup. Crunchy things will probably cause infection, and will make your piercing take longer to heal.

Of course the piercer will tell you all of this but if you need more information:

Another thing you should remember is that your tongue is full of veins and nerves so you really have to be careful when getting this piercing. If the person who's piercing you messes up, they could hit a nerve either completely taking away your taste buds, or all feeling in your tongue. The tongue piercing is pretty dangerous so make sure you go to someone who really knows what they're doing. Ask around and see what some good places are in your area. I recommend a Google search. I did that when looking around for tattoo parlors and it gave me like the top 10 best tattoo places for my area. :)

Good luck!

Is age 16, female, 'very beautiful' (what most men call me) normal to STILL be a virgin ? I think something's wrong with me ! I'm starting to feel depressed that all my friends arent. help !

It is very normal. Just because the rest of your friends have lost their virginity doesn't mean you need to jump on the bandwagon. I can understand feeling left out, but you don't need to have sex to fit in.

Don't you ever remember hearing those Not Me, Not Now commercials? Don't fall into peer pressure, it's not worth it.

I suggest you wait until you're completely ready to have sex. Do not rush into something as extreme as sex because it is a very adult thing and comes with very adult consequences that I can easily say no 16 year old is ready for. Chances are you will regret it. Just wait it out sweetie. Chances are you'll find a guy who loves you for you & that you'll love very much. You just have to be patient. Don't worry about being a virgin though. It's a good thing. :)

lately all my boyfriend and i do is fight, ive asked several questions on here about him.. this time i have a diffrent one.

when we fight he always ends up leaving and i feel so depressed that ill grab a beer or two or something harder like Jack daniels, Jim Bean, Smirnoff vodka, or anything really that we have i usually only drink at partys and that was only smirnoff ice but from partying with people who only usually drink bud light, i got a taste for it.. i usually party on fridays or every other partys and thats when i drink but now im drinking what seems to be a couple times during the week but thats only if i get into an argument i dont want to but its the only thing that makes me feel calm and i cool down and i dont feel depressed like a few minutes ago i cracked open a bud light because my boyfriend just left and i was crying histeriacllly.. and now i feel a little better.. its weird my dad is an alcoholic and someone called me an alcholic the other day and i dont think i am.. i barley ever drink.. does it sound like im an alcoholic? and i heard that beer makes you deppresed but i feel the happiest when im drinking.. what do i do? i dont want to be like that but its just what makes me feel happy..

im 17/f please help

I would say you're definitely developing an addiction to alcohol.

YOU think you hardly ever drink. However, to someone else you drink a lot and you're only going to start drinking more.

Kids who have parents who are alcoholics are at risk to become alcoholics. Same goes for kids who's parents smoke, or kids who's parents were teen parents. It it what they grew up around, and it can become a cycle if they subject themselves to it. Alcohol is a depressant. It can make you feel happy for the time being, but at the end of the day, your problem is still there. It doesn't go away. You're just drunk so you think it's gone. It's still there when you're sober.

I think you need to stop drinking the alcohol, and break up with your boyfriend. Your relationship doesn't sound very happy, and if it's leaving you so upset to the point where you're drinking, it isn't very healthy for you either. You can do better than this guy. You need someone who treats you good. Arguing is healthy for a relationship, but with the way you and your boyfriend argue, it isn't. It's actually becoming dangerous to your health & you need to end it. It's not going to do anything but hurt you.

I suggest talking to a friend about your problem. Maybe even try and see a counselor. You're not a full blown alcoholic, but you're going to become one if you keep on with your behavior. If you would like, you can e-mail me to talk with me because I would be happy to help further. :) My e-mail is: 123abchristina@gmail.com

If you don't want to exchange e-mails for further help and would like to continue using this site, you can drop a question in my inbox. :)

16F

Could anyone list any good reasons why a guy would completely ignore a girl out of nowhere? Like this guy has known I liked him for several months andwe barely talked about it but we texted each other a couple of times and he truly made it seem like we were still good friends and out of nowhere he started ignoring me..it's been two weeks now. And he told my friend that it's because I'm boring and annoying but it really doesn't add up because in the conversations we had he was holding up the conversation more than I was, and it's relatively easy to tell when someone is annoyed with you and he wasn't. I did nothing wrong and I'm trying to move on from him but it's hard to when I have no idea what his issue is and he won't speak (I only texted him the first day it's started, and twice two weeks later, which is like friday and today. what I'm trying to say is I know my limit, I'm not nagging him to answer me). Also he completely freaked at my friend for telling me some of the things she told me he said about me (long story how he found out), like he completely FREAKED, and hes still mad now but he still is actually responding to her when she speaks to him...so if I did nothing wrong, why is he ignoring me? We've been past the fact that he knows I like him for a couple months, and that we were just friends. And me being annoying, and I admit i can be at times, hasn't stopped anyone from talking to me? And he's talking to someone that he's even angrier with? I mean he does tend to deal with things by not talking about them at all, but this is just ridiculous. It's just a really confusing frustrating situation and it seems simple to just move on and get over it but when someone is completely ignoring you out of the blue like that and you can't understand why its just not easy to. We were good friends and he was TRULY acting like it in the conversations we had before he started ignoring me. Can I just get some reasons of why someone would do this? Postive or negative, hurtful or logical, anything, just list anything you think could make sense.

To me, it sounds like he wasn't interested in you from the start & only wanted to be friends. However, when you said you liked him he may have felt pressured to like you back and figured that ignoring you and not being your friend would be better than telling you how he felt.

Obviously, he's a coward. He can't even tell you something so simple so he chooses to be a jerk about it.

In my opinion, just stop trying to deal with him. If that's how he's going to be, then don't even try to be his friend anymore. It's obvious he can't be nice and straightforward so you shouldn't even waste your time. Move on sweetie, he's an asshole.

This is going to be lengthy and there is really no way around it. Sorry!

So, lets start off from the beginning. I'm 24 years old and I've recently moved out and I am renting a duplex with a friend of mine. She is 23 years old. We've known each other for almost 5 years. Before we even started looking for places to live, I told her that I didn't want this certain person like sleeping on my couch or anything, we'll call him B. She was in agreement and said it wouldn't happen. I don't care for him to stay one night here and there, that's fine. I work nights so I'm not home at night but when I leave for work at 10pm, B is usually at my house and they are drinking, did I mention he's 16? Last I knew, that was called contributing to the delinquency of a minor, am I wrong? The thing that irritates me the most, is not only is he 16 and drinking at my house, but he's in trouble with the law. The police are looking for the kid almost every 2 weeks. He's always in trouble for something new. Half of me wants to find a way to not allow him to even step foot inside my house, but he isn't doing anything to me. I'm pretty sure I can't go to the police and tell them what's happening, because even though I'm not there when the underage drinking happens, I'm positive that I can get in just as much trouble. Which is where I'm stuck. I've never been in trouble with the law, I've never even got pulled over. Issue number two, is money was recently stolen out of my room by another one of my roommates friends, lets call her T, she's also 16. I got that money back and in less than 24 hours after, a lock was installed on my door.

I just don't know what to do. I don't want B around my house anymore, especially drinking, and staying the night almost every Monday & Tuesday. Because of financial problems, I can JUST BARELY get my bills paid, and he's sleeping on my couch for free. Something isn't right about that. I don't even know how to bring it up to my roommate that these are problems. I don't want her to think I'm attacking her. I mean, I pay rent here too. Help!

You need to sit her down when B and/or T are not there. Tell her first hand that you're not attacking her, but that something needs to be done about the situation.

Obviously you cannot allow this to go on, and it surprises me that you have been for this long. I understand you guys are roommates and not each others parents but what your roommate is allowing is illegal and can even put you at risk. You cannot risk losing your home, your job and your clean record for her carelessness. She needs to stop acting like a child and start acting like an adult.

Next time you see B, make it clear to him that he is not to be drinking on your property, nor is he to stay there overnight. Tell him that as soon as you catch him doing something illegal, cops will be called and he will be in trouble. Most importantly, I think you need to find yourself a new roommate. I understand that she's your friend but she's putting you at risk due to her bad choices and it can't continue. She either needs to stop what she's doing or get out. Are there any other friends you can put in with you? Are there any siblings around your age that you have that would be willing to room with you? You need to find someone reliable because your friend certainly doesn't sound so responsible.

However, if you're truly, truly fed up, I'd call the cops right away. Chances are you may get in a little bit of trouble, but your friend and B will get in more.

can someone please give me a webstite where i can get a cheap airplane fare to go to North Carolina
? thanks

www.expedia.com

www.hotwire.com

www.travelocity.com

www.kayak.com

well...i have a twin sister and we do pretty much everything together. she helps me a lot when it comes to school. and im grateful for that. we both would like to have everyone of our classes together in the upcoming school year. our parents don't feel we should do that. i need help convincing my parents to let us talk with the principle about it.

I'm on the fence.

I do agree with your parents on one hand, but I also agree with you on one hand.

I agree with your parents because high school teaches you a lot about yourself, and really helps you to grow as a person. It helps you find your individuality and you can't find that when you're still latched on to your twin. You should be your own person. Don't depend on each other for everything.

Then again I understand where you're coming from as well. You want to be with your twin because you guys are comfortable together. You want to be with what you're familiar with.

However, you do not need your parents permission to talk with the principle or the counselor or whomever assigns your classes to you. You can do that on your own if you're not happy with your schedule. I used to do that. You take the classes you wanna take. Your parents have no control over that. But I do suggest that you get a few classes together. Don't get all your classes together. Get a few together, and then get the rest so that you're on your own.

Getting all of your classes together can prevent you from growing up and making new friends. Get a few classes without your twin. You'll be fine. :)

19-female

what are the chances of me getting pregnant if i am on birth control, have been for about three years now and i take it at the SAME time every day and the guy uses a condom?

Do not listen to the person below me. Jack is right, however.

While the chances are low, there is still a chance you can get pregnant. I'd say it's about a 1-2% chance.

However, DO NOT DOUBLE UP ON CONDOMS. This causes friction and makes it easier for a condom to break. It is not wise, so do not do it. You are really risking yourself by doing that. Just use 1 condom and your BC pills and you'll be okay.

a lot of my friends are smoking. i know its a bad thing to do...yet i still want to try it. can i have your opinion with an explanation to back it up please?

I don't think you should. You know it's bad, so you shouldn't even be willing to try it.

I'm assuming that you're talking about either smoking cigarettes or smoking pot, and both are bad for you.

Smoking cigarettes causes various types of cancer, and can really wear down on your appearance. You could be 20 and look 40 because of smoking. It's really gross. It kills, and isn't exactly something one should wanna get into. I did it socially a few times but I stopped because I don't find it appealing. Plus it really messes with my breathing.

As for smoking pot, it kills brain cells. You're more than likely a young teen. You're still developing so why go and kill something that is still growing? So many kids that smoke pot are slow. They're lazy and unmotivated. It's also illegal, so I wouldn't do it for that reason either.

I just don't think you should. Don't let peer pressure get the best of you. I understand you want to fit in and be liked, but if doing something that kills you is what it takes to fit in, then that's stupid and you should be your own person. Don't sacrifice your health for someone's approval. Besides, if your friend jumped off a bridge, would you jump too? Don't do it. You're better than that.

i have a forever 21 gift card, and it said that i can use it online.

i'd like to do that, but i'm not sure where i can enter a cerial number or whatever so that i can use it.

can anyone help mee?

You put it in at check out so it can charge the GC. :)

ijust have a quick question: why are(some) guys sweet and nice to you when you're alone and then when they're with their friends and they see you they turn into loudmouthed pigs and then all of a sudden you don't exist but the popular girls do?

also.. why do they think that after they ignore you one day they can go back to being sweeties the next and THEN they wonder why your mad.

please shed some light on the situation for me.
thanks
16/f

He either does it just to piss you off, to fit in with his friends so he's not seen as whipped, or just because he's a jerk.

Either way, it doesn't sound too much like he's the right guy for you. :(

I know that when an earthquake happens that lots of stuff shakes and is destroyed. (I have only seen these things on TV). So, I was thinking about it yesterday and was wondering...

What is an earthquake? What makes earthquakes happen and all of that?

Months ago I saw previews for New Moon (sequel to Twilight, obviously, and also by Stephenie Meyer). I was SO excited to hear that Bella Swan was still going to be played by Kristen Stewart and Edward Cullen was still going to be played by Robert Pattinson. I love them as a couple!

ANYWAY, I haven't heard anything since and I'm curious if they canceled it or something. Is the movie New Moon still coming out or what? If so, WHEN?!

November 20th of this year.

Chill out, it's just a fucking movie.

Warning - this might come out to be somewhat lengthy

Alright so, August fiftenth is my fifteenth birthday.
I'm getting a bunch of money from my family members and friends.
With that money, I'd like to buy myself a FULL thing of photoshop in the store.
And a laptop with a BUILT-IN webcam.

I want a laptop that will be able to hold my aim, yahoo, myspace, facebook, myyearbook, youtube, ect ect. I wont be downloading anything onto into, possibley iTunes. But no picture editing things or computer games
I'll leave those for my desk top in my room.

Anyway. I'm looking for the cheapest laptop that will hold all that stuff and has a built-in webcam.
Can anyone give me links and stores and prices to any that meet my requirements?
Also, can anybody name stores that sell a FULL thing of photoshop and an estimated price? I think the newest is photoshop cs4?

I WILL NOT but ordering any of these online
So please don't recomment that.

Thankyou (:

Pretty much any laptop that you're looking for can hold those things. It doesn't have to be special. I would suggest this one:

http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=11065273

For a laptop, it's actually pretty cheap but remember that the final price depends on what you choose to add on. It comes in colors, and I've had good experiences with Dell. I've never had a laptop through them, but I have had a desktop and they have good computers. I would definitely recommend that one. I'm not sure if it'll have Windows Vista but that's something you can ask at the store. :)

This question pertains to the affects of alcohol on the human body. If you have no experience drinking, or you're 15 and you only think you have it, please move on. This question is not for you.

Ok, so I hosted a going away party for a coworker last Saturday, which is odd since I knew that particular coworker couldn't make it. Basically, me and a bunch of guys from work got drunk and played Guitar Hero. About halfway through my third drink, typically close to my personal safety cut-off point, I noticed I was getting far too drunk. Normally at this time I'd barely be buzzed, but I remembered I hadn't eaten anything in anticipation of us all ordering pizza, which never happened. Not to mention, I'd made my drinks stronger than usual for no discernable reason.

About a half hour after I'd stopped myself, I knew I was past the point of no return and spent the night worshipping the porcelain god. Kinda killed the vibe and most everyone left. When I realized I hadn't eaten, I was left with two choices.
1. Quickly eat something in an effort to absorb some of the alcohol and avoid yelling at the toilet, while risking a much more painful vomiting session if it fails.
2. Stop drinking, resort to water, and hope for the best. If I vomit, it will be liquid and will hurt less. This is the option I chose.

My question is, would I have been wiser to quickly down some food to try and bring myself back from the brink? Or would it have been futile and made my unintentional all-nighter that much worse? I'll be much more careful to eat before drinking from this point on, but I'd like to know if the whole experience could have been avoided.

From what I've heard, sometimes eating when drunk on the verge of throwing up could make you even sicker. I think that going with the water was a wise decision, but if you decide that you'd like to eat next time, choose bread or crackers because it'll absorb the alcohol. :)

I'm not sure it'd have been wiser, but next time just be sure to eat something before you drink.

My school year starts August thirtyfirst and I'm going to be a sophmore.
Today, I talked with my mother about back to school clothes shopping.
I'm into skinny jeans, and those shirts that are kinda like short dresses?
I'm not sure what they're called, so sorry about that.
But, I'm not exactly tiny. I'm a size 16 or 14 in jeans, depending on the brand
And I'm and extra large in shirts or large depending on the brand.

So, what kind of stores sell stuff like that, and with thoses sizes?
My mall is not one of those fancy malls with all those different shops. We don't have like forever 21 and stuff like that.
But my om IS willing to shop online

And someone please send my links to shirts and skinny jeans that would fit my sized?
Meaning like links to stores that carry them.
Also, Do not recomment Debs. I've only gotten three types of skinny jeans there that have not riped due to thin jean frabric.

So please make sure any jean stores you list use story matrial.

Thanks!

Who says you can't shop at mall stores online? I will recommend that you shop on Wet Seal's website. They have really cute clothes, and their skinny jeans are amazing. I seriously have like 4 pairs from there, but have had at least 7 from them in previous years. They last really long too, so no worries about them ripping. :)

http://www.wetseal.com/home.jsp

You should try shopping at Forever 21's plus size branch Faith 21. They have the online store here:

http://www.forever21.com/category.asp?catalog_name=FOREVER21&category_name=faith_main&Page=1

There you go. :) I hope you find something really nice. :) Don't forget about the clearance or sales section! Some of the stuff can get a little pricey so I'd look at the sale sections of the site as well.

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