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Dealing with roommate issues?
This is going to be lengthy and there is really no way around it. Sorry!
So, lets start off from the beginning. I'm 24 years old and I've recently moved out and I am renting a duplex with a friend of mine. She is 23 years old. We've known each other for almost 5 years. Before we even started looking for places to live, I told her that I didn't want this certain person like sleeping on my couch or anything, we'll call him B. She was in agreement and said it wouldn't happen. I don't care for him to stay one night here and there, that's fine. I work nights so I'm not home at night but when I leave for work at 10pm, B is usually at my house and they are drinking, did I mention he's 16? Last I knew, that was called contributing to the delinquency of a minor, am I wrong? The thing that irritates me the most, is not only is he 16 and drinking at my house, but he's in trouble with the law. The police are looking for the kid almost every 2 weeks. He's always in trouble for something new. Half of me wants to find a way to not allow him to even step foot inside my house, but he isn't doing anything to me. I'm pretty sure I can't go to the police and tell them what's happening, because even though I'm not there when the underage drinking happens, I'm positive that I can get in just as much trouble. Which is where I'm stuck. I've never been in trouble with the law, I've never even got pulled over. Issue number two, is money was recently stolen out of my room by another one of my roommates friends, lets call her T, she's also 16. I got that money back and in less than 24 hours after, a lock was installed on my door.
I just don't know what to do. I don't want B around my house anymore, especially drinking, and staying the night almost every Monday & Tuesday. Because of financial problems, I can JUST BARELY get my bills paid, and he's sleeping on my couch for free. Something isn't right about that. I don't even know how to bring it up to my roommate that these are problems. I don't want her to think I'm attacking her. I mean, I pay rent here too. Help!
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You need to sit her down when B and/or T are not there. Tell her first hand that you're not attacking her, but that something needs to be done about the situation.
Obviously you cannot allow this to go on, and it surprises me that you have been for this long. I understand you guys are roommates and not each others parents but what your roommate is allowing is illegal and can even put you at risk. You cannot risk losing your home, your job and your clean record for her carelessness. She needs to stop acting like a child and start acting like an adult.
Next time you see B, make it clear to him that he is not to be drinking on your property, nor is he to stay there overnight. Tell him that as soon as you catch him doing something illegal, cops will be called and he will be in trouble. Most importantly, I think you need to find yourself a new roommate. I understand that she's your friend but she's putting you at risk due to her bad choices and it can't continue. She either needs to stop what she's doing or get out. Are there any other friends you can put in with you? Are there any siblings around your age that you have that would be willing to room with you? You need to find someone reliable because your friend certainly doesn't sound so responsible.
However, if you're truly, truly fed up, I'd call the cops right away. Chances are you may get in a little bit of trouble, but your friend and B will get in more.
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If this kid is drinking and is in trouble with the law, Despite whether you were there or not why don't you just call the police to have them stop by the house? Hey! You might not live there but you know enough that your money is stolen and if the kid is in trouble with the law they I'm sure they won't have a problem going to the house to check up on things. Yes! good for you, I would lock my door too. You pay half the rent there, You have every right to have peace in your home I would talk to the roomate about it if she doesn't listen then go to the landlord and tell them what has been going on because you pay your half you have say in it too. I would go to the police file a complaint maybe even a restraining order? but I think that is a court thing etc. Tell the cops you don't want the kid on the property and ask them what you could do to make sure he doesn't step foot in the house. It is YOUR couch you have say on what goes and what doesn't if your roomate doesn't listen then I again would go to the landlord and complain about it. You aren't attacking her, You are putting your foot down and saying NO!
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