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Im working on information about being Anprexic, so people could give me some stuff.. like links, (yes i did good, thanks.)
-What do they usally eat?
- how fast do they usally loose weight?
-whats the down effects?

They usually eat nothing. Most anorexics are anorexic bullemic because when people make them eat something they just throw it up. In the beginning they loose weight very fast. After a while, maybe 2 weeks-a month, theyt start loosing it slower because their metabolsim slow down. Down effects? Chances of death, lowers blood sugar, distorts image, and causes sexual and period (for girls) problems.

Im a 15/f, 16 in april.
okay for some reason i think its really odd to date a guy whos like 17. but then id love to date a guys whos turning 15. i know usually everyone wants to date guys who are older and taller then them but i mean i think its kinda gross well not gorss but just weird if i would date a guy whos like 2 years older then me or 2 years younger. is there something wrong with my brain or is that just my personality towards guys i like?

That's fine. It's you opinon. It's just like saying you like "preps" if most people like "emos" (the quotations are because I hate labels). It doesn't matter it's your choice.

ok, for language arts, i have to right a persuasive essay. My topic is america acting as the worlds police, why we shouldnt do this. I basically know what im going to write about, but i need a it of help. One thing ill be writing about are wars that it was unnessescary(sp?) for the U.S. to get involved in. Does anyone know what wars the U.S. was involved in that really didnt need to be involved in? like the original conflict didnt involve the U.S and we didnt get attacked or anything. I think vietnam is one of them....sorry its so long! ♥

A good structed essay needs 5 paragraphs. The first an introduction, the middle 3 supporting reasons, and the last a conclusion. By picking multiple wars you will basically be repeating yourself over and over again. So just pick one of the useless wars to use as one of your reasons. Using Vietnam would be good. Describing how the outcome didn't even work to our atvantage and such. For another talk about the problems it has caused inside our country. Such as, the invasion of privacy on our telephones. Maybe also talk about the risk it puts our country in. Order the 3 reasons from least persuasive to most persuasive. I know this may not be exactly what you wanted but choosing a ton of wars to talk about it just repeating yourself.

has any one else noticed that most of the things asked on this site are not people seeking actual advice, it is just a bunch of people who are too um i guess "lazy" to type in google.com and search for the lyrics to a song, or where they can find a good website etc.,so they have to ask a bunch of people who want to give them advice and who may not even be right...hmm...
yes, i know i may be being a little hypocritical right now by asking a question, but i am just um.."upset" that young people these days just cant simply go to the lovely site of google..o well does anyone agree with me on this one?

You are completely right. Honestly, the best defense against these questions is to have no one answer them. This may not be possible but if very few people answer they will go away. MFS used to have a site called justfuckinggoggleit.com but I checked a few days ago and it wasn't up. Hopefully if they get fewer answers they'll realize they can do their work themselves.

What do you think is the average age to get your first kiss?

There really isn't an "average" age. Anyway from 12-18 is when it usually happens but sometimes before or after. Anything before 5th or 6th grade is crap and doesn't count.

What does "pop your cherry" mean? Like I know it has something to do with a hymen...what I'm not exactly sure what a hymen is!! Like does it just happen when you put something...up there? Does it hurt? Like what IS it? And is that a way someone can tell if your a virgin or not?? and i rate.

The hymen is a small piece of skin in your vagina. When you lose your virginity blood comees out and it may hurt. However, it can also break from riding a bike or horse sometimes.

How do you get the google search bars to be on your Advicenators page? Like a code or something?

I RATE! thanks in advance

[ search ] search term here [ / search ]

Take the spaces out. Except the ones in between your term, obviously. You could find this on the site news though.

OK...soo well i've always been pretty close with my boyfriends mom. and well now i dont know what to think. she's never really seen me and her son do anything. but last night she saw me on top of him making out in the hottub...and i dont know whatelse she saw.
is there anything i can do that would hopefully make her not think im a slut and stuff like that? becuase right now she donest think to highly of me

The best thing to do is talk to her about it. You, her, and your boyfriend should sit down together and talk this out. First ask her what she saw. Then explain that all you did was make-out even if it was not true. Tell her you would never put her son or yorself in a situation that could have a bad outcome. After that she will probably forgive you.

Im having trouble knowing weather to ask this girl out i really like (a lot). Im 14 years old and in 8th grade and theres this girl a year younger than me in the 7th grade. Im not like the nerdy unsociable kind of guy. I have a lot of friends and i get along with almost everyone. My friend told this girl i like her (i didnt want him too) and i kind of get the impression shes not intrested. i was planning on telling her i like her and asking her out but now i feel funny after he already said something. Shes considered a 'preppy' girl and my friend said she wont go for me cause im to 'skater'. The truth is i normally go for preppy girls and i like them more. Even though i like skating and into punk and shit, i dont know if i should take my friends advice and change my image then ask her or completly ignore asking her out all together. Its a hard decision cause i like her a lot.

Don't change your image but still ask. Changing who you for someone else isn't worth it. If they care that much about what you wear they are shallow and you wouldn't want her anyway. Anyway, if you don't ask her out there is no way you can go out. The worst that can happen is she says no. And if she does all it means is she wasn't the one for you and she may even end up regetting it.

14 year old female, big boned. height=5'9 weight=180

i've recently changed my eating. here are two days worth of eating examples;;

1. no breakfast( i woke up too late)
lunch-2 peices of wheat bread, 1tbsp of mayo & 2 tbsp of honey. and lettuce. ( no lunch meat )( total=345 calories)
yogurt, light n fit. (35)
2 nature valley bars (190)
dinner-banana
nature valley bars
chives & sour cream baked potato frm wendys
snacks-apples

about 900 caloires

2.
breakfast-apples
lunch-apples
diet cherry vanilla dr. pepper
nature valley bars
yogurt
dinner-bagel with cream cheese
baked poatoe with chip dip
snacks;a bite of chocolate

about 800 calories

am i eating too less? its hard to eat heatly & eat alot. $ is a huge issue

i exercise so thats not a problem

i'm trying to lose weight, but ami eating to little? and what is cheap and easy to eat that i could add bc i don't think thats enough food

any help/tips greatly appreciated

This is OK if you can do this for a long time. Like years. It is very bad to change your diet every few monthes. Honestly, this sounds too little. You need more than 800-900 calories. And you cut out protien which you need a lot more than the calories. It's OK to have 800-900 calories if you eat the right foods. Cut the carbs out and stick to things like fruits, vegetables, and lean meats (fish, turkey, eggs).

Also, breakfest is the most important meal of the day. You need it to jump start your metabolsim. Furthermore, your diner should be smaller than your lunch because diner is the latest meal. Cut the baked potatoe out of your diner and replace it with a small serving of meat or eggs. No more diet soda. It causes brain tummers. Drink water instead, it's the best thing for you. No more candy if you are going to eat all those carbs.

Edit: Woah, I was just reading what the person below me said. 200-300 calories is starving yourself. She probably meant 2000-3000.

Heyy. There is this guy that i REALLY like, but i'm too scared to talk to him and i have no idea what to say. He's not in any of my classes, i only see him in the hallway. Some of my friends say they think he likes me because he blushes sometimes when he sees me and stares and me sometimes, but he is really shy too so he wont talk to me. I want to say something to him and maybe become friends. but i dont want it to be ackward. Please help. ♥

I have the same problem! The easiest thing to do is become friends with him over AIM or another instant messenger. That way it's easier to talk. Eventually, talk to him when you see him in the hallway.

okay, so like, this is really weird. I have fantasies about doing things with my best friend...we'll say her name is Sadie... (i am totally sure I am NOT a lesbian), things like kissing and stuff. I really don't know what I should do about it. She already knows, we talked all night about this problem. She says she totally understands and she's not grossed out or anything. Is this normal? She is very pretty, and practically every boy that lays eyes on her is in love with her. I have another friend who is younger than me and actually does this stuff with her friends, but i don't feel comfortable doing anything with her. Everytime I am alone with sadie, I get that urge to want to do something. I have done that stuff tons of times before, but my parents always found out. One of the things is, I am really trying to be moral and clean. I really wanted to practice kissing, I am saving my first kiss with a guy, and I want it to be good. I want to do something with her more than I care about morals. I think it is kinda weird how I want to practice with her, but I know 100% that I'm not a lesbian, or bi. I don't have a crush on her. Can anyone explain to me how to deal with this, if it's normal, and what I should do about it? (by the way we never did anything together) I rate, PLEASE HELP ME!!

Don't worry it is perfectly normal. Almost everyone goes through that phase. There really isn't anything to do about just let it run its course. Pretty soon you will be over it but there really isn't anything you can do to change it.

Last night I found out a friend of mine, whom I haven't really spoken to in awhile, has been diagnosed with cancer and might die. He's left college to live with his parents so he can get treatment and I'd like to write him a letter of support but what do I say? I don't want to make him uncomfortable and I don't want to be morbid, but I do want him to know that I care about him and wish him all the best.

My brother's best friend just got through lukemia so he sent him a letter every week. The best thing to right is that you care about him and are there for him if he needs to talk. It's OK to talk about his disease, it would probably make him feel more uncomfortable if you refuse to mention it. Just tell him you support him.

I would like to get a nice stomach. Not asking for rock hard abs but something impressive. The thing is i need at home ideas. I dont have access to equipment. Also i have a slight heart problem so runnings kinda hard on me but i can still do it. Any ideas?

I suggest doing crunches. They are the best for abs. However, talk to your doctor first and make sure thats OK. All heart conditions are serious.

hey i already have the silver razr cell phone. im going to get the pink one, but im going to have to wait for about a week. it says limited adition for the pink razr. so does that mean that they arent going to get more in. my mom jut called ysterday and they said they had 4 left. i dont want to miss out on the pink razr. i rate 5s for all answers. ♥

They probably will be getting more shipments but not for long. What you can do is call the store you would be getting it from and ask them to hold it for you.

Mk... so tomorrow I'm going to hang out with a bunch of my friends at one of their houses. Usually I wouldn't really care about what I wear when I'm with them, but tomorrow there's supposed to be a few guys I've had my eyes on coming too. I know when you start liking someone you're supposed to be yourself and just act normal, but I atleast want to make a good impression. Any tips on a few cute things that maybe you guys would wear?

Thanks in advance.
14.F.Tx

Wear your favorite pair of jeans. If they're cute the guys will probably notice. And if you have a stud belt wear it off to the side. For a top wear a cami or a cute tee-shirt with a zipper up sweatshirt over it (unzipped). As for shoes it doesn't really matter. Have fun!

so my periods been really weird latley. i had it in december, but i dont think iv had it since then. im kinda worried because my boyfriend and i mess around are both of our "areas" whave been near eachother but we have never actually had sex. I am also very underweight though. I know that being underweight can mess up your period. So i was wondering if its most likley my weight or if theres a chance im pregnant? thank you! (i rate high!)

No, you are not pregnant. Unless, you have sexual intercourse there is no way you could be. It is probably just because you are underweight. See a doctor or gyno to get it sorted out.

Where can I put my poems so that they won't be stolen? Like, I need an easy to use place and it has to be free.

I don't know any but you have to read the terms of services carefully for all the poem sites. The person said that no one can still them, however that's not true. On many sites in the terms of service it states that once you submit a poem they legally own it. So be careful when you look at these sites.

Well, I don't mean to sound conceited but a lot of people come up to me and say they like me, but it's always these guy's friends that like me. Is there something wrong with me that the guy who likes me can't come up to me and say it himself? Why is it always their friends?

The guys are probably just too shy. Don't be worried about that a lot of people do it.

Is there anything I can find around the house to make my hands softer, besides soap?

Lotion and hand sanitzer. Makes you hands extremely soft.

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