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OK...soo well i've always been pretty close with my boyfriends mom. and well now i dont know what to think. she's never really seen me and her son do anything. but last night she saw me on top of him making out in the hottub...and i dont know whatelse she saw.
is there anything i can do that would hopefully make her not think im a slut and stuff like that? becuase right now she donest think to highly of me
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what i'd do is just confront her and say that (if you really like him) that you and him are getting more and more close. tell her that you love her son (again if you do) and she'll be able to tell that you mean the best for him. she could then tell that if you're serious enough to confront her, you must like him a lot. if all else goes wrong bake her something and make a sorry note hahaha. it just might work ;)rate me if i helped!
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Aw. She's just being protective of her little boyyyy. She'll get over it, eventually. If your really worried have your boyfriend talk to her or you talk to her & ask her why she doesnt think highly of you, and she shouldnt think down on you becuase you were making out with your boyfriend. Inform her that you two are not having sex, your just being teenagers. Hopefully she will understand. Shes probably just realizing that her boy is growing up, haha.
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Well, what does she expect? You to are going out. Just if you really think it bothers her say "I'm sorry that you saw that" or something, but its not like you can hold back, he's your boyfriend and this happens everytime. So just pretend she didn't see it.
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hey. give it time and be really nice to her. ...maybe you could bake her a cake or something. decent girls bake cakes. dress appropriately when you're around her. talk to her about your childhood... maybe even show some picures. tell her she has raised a really good, caring son. don't be pushy or obvious just be 'nice'. make that NICER than usual. and when you're around her or when she might come try not to show too much affection or innapropriate around parents affection towards your boyfriend. do something cute like hold hands or something that seems innocent. im not saying never ever make out in hottubs just not when she's around or when she may walk in. just give yourself a ncie image to her. you could get her flowers. they don't have to be expensive, you cna just pick some up from your garden or a garden. i know you might be thinking 'how is me being nice to her going to make her forget what she saw?' that won't make her FORGET what she saw, it'll just build a BETTER STRONGER image of you. and right now she may not be thinking reasonably enough to understand that young people that date make out in hottubs. if you tip the scales in your favor she is waaay likelier to decide to let it go. just make sure she doesn't catch any funny stuff again because then no matter what she'll most likely think you're slutty. Good luck.
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You were just making out! She must have expected that you two kissed. You are dating. I don't think you have to say or do anything about it. There's nothing to say. You don't have to explain what happened, justify your actions, or apologize. What else would there be to say? She saw you two making out and that's that. She doesn't think you're a slut. She would only think that if she caught you with someone else! If she had a problem with it, which I doubt she does, she would say something to her son about it, not you. You have nothing to worry about. Think of it this way. If you walked in on two of your friends making out that you knew were dating, yes it would be weird and probably something you wouldn't have wanted to see, but you wouldn't really think anything of it. Don't worry about your boyfriend's mom. I'll bet she's cool with it. Just pretend like it never happened. Good luck with your boyfriend!
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Well that really depends because there are a number of factors here which could affect exactly how badly she thinks of you right now.
For example, if you're still quite young, or if your boyfriend is younger than you. As an extension of this, if you are his first 'real' girlfriend. Also, how long you have been together and how long you have known her matters a lot.
But to be honest, there are only two ways you can handle this. You can either ignore it altogether and pretend like it happened. I don't know what she is like but most mothers in this situation would ignore it too.
On the other hand, you could sit down and talk to her about it, woman to woman. It will be VERY embarrassing but at the end of the day, if you were doing anything like it sounds as though you were doing, you do need to apologise to her. If it is her house, you need to apologise for being disrespectful to her in any way. You also need to explain to her that you do care about her son and that you wouldn't behave that way with just anyone. The chances are, she probably is concerned that doing stuff like that so comfortabley in open air may be regular practise for you and it will all come back to what sort of effect this will all be having on her son. If you can get him to be with you when you talk to her, all the better because depending on the type of person she is, you may need someone defending your corner!!
But the most important part of this is the apology. You need to say that you're really sorry and that it won't happen again and tell her how embarrassed you were by the whole thing. Hopefully, she'll remember that you are a good person and that she needs to give you another chance.
Good luck!
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hey, well you need to have a talk with your boyfriends mom. tell her that it was just kissing its not like you were having sex. also im sure she made out with her husband like that when she was your age. cait ♥
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I would just go up to her privatly and say, "i'm sorry you saw that. we didn't know you were there." hopefully she will understand, most likely she will. or, you could tell your boyfreind to say something to her. but i think it will mean more coming from you. i think it's very classy of you to be like this! :)
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The best thing to do is talk to her about it. You, her, and your boyfriend should sit down together and talk this out. First ask her what she saw. Then explain that all you did was make-out even if it was not true. Tell her you would never put her son or yorself in a situation that could have a bad outcome. After that she will probably forgive you.
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