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is there a way to purchase things on ebay without using a credit card i absolutely wont put any bank account iformation online.

i also want to know how to get an avon catalog sent to my home ive tried to to the website but have no luck

It was answered by theymos, the columnist before me. Next time ask two separate questions. More people will answer each one that way. Some people that know a lot about eBay might not know a lot about Avon and vice versa so they will skip over your question because they can't answer everything. :)

Some sellers on eBay will accept payment methods other than credit cards. When you find something that you would like to buy, scroll down to the bottom of the page that it is on and there is a section called "Payment methods accepted". Many sellers will accept personal checks, money orders, and cashier's checks. Make sure that the particular seller for the particular item you want will accept something other than PayPal or a credit card before you bid! The only problem you may have with paying in this way is that if someone on eBay was being fraudulent it could be very difficult to get your money back. If anything looks sketchy either don't go for it, or try contacting the seller before bidding to clarify things. The Avon part of your question has already been answered very well. :)

Good luck!

so i know that the morning after pill is to get rid of the baby if your pregnant.. but say you had sex without a condom and he came inside of you but you werent pregant but you still took the morning after pill.. what would happen? and if you were pregnant and you did take it would that definetly get rid of the baby?

The morning after pill is not an abortion pill. It doesn't "get rid of the baby". What it is, is emergency contraception. It pumps your body up with hormones that make it so that a baby has a much smaller chance of forming. It is supposed to be taken when you are not pregnant in order to prevent pregnancy after you have unprotected sex or if your protection fails (broken condom). If you take it while you are pregnant it could cause a miscarriage, but that is only a possible side effect that doesn't happen often, not what it is for. These webpages should explain everything for you. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/ec.htm
http://coolnurse.healthology.com/contraception/article1020.htm

Where do I even begin? My name is Shawn and I am seventeen years old. I first realized that I was gay in middle school but have been in denial about it until my sophomore year in high school. Only recently have I been contemplating coming out to my friends and family. I first set aside October 1, 2006 to come out, but it has not happened. I know there are a lot of friends I would lose if they knew the truth. I also have no idea how my parents will react. I think I respect a lot of my friends and family too much to let them down like this. Earlier in the month, I tried coming out to my mother. I virtually broke down in tears in front of her but could not work up the nerve to do so. I eventually ended the conversation with some bogus story about stress at school. I am also pretty much terrified of talking to my father about anything, let alone coming out to him that I am a homosexual.

I find myself bringing up this kind of topic in various conversations with my friends and family. My mother and I began talking about the topic of gay people coming out and she said something very discouraging to me. “I do not see why people come out that they are gay. There is no black and white. Coming out that you are gay causes people to only know you for that.” When I countered this statement, she asked me, “You’re not gay, are you?” I replied, “No,” and I have regretted it everyday since then. I always ask myself how easy it would have been to just have answered, “Yes, mom. I am gay.”

Everyone around me seems to know that something is wrong. People have pointed out that I am not eating and there is lack of emotion in my voice. My mother specifically said that she is only getting one-worded answers from me and feels that we are growing apart. I do not really know what kind of help I am asking for. I just really wish I knew what to do or to know that someone cared, which is impossible since I have not confined this information to anyone. Any suggestions or opinions are welcome. Thank you.

Feeling like you have to tell people is what is stressing you out. When I decided that I was bisexual, at first, I felt like I should tell people. Now, I realize that hey, it's really none of their business and my sexual orientation doesn't change my relationships with them at all. Some of my friends know, but I told them only because it came up in the conversation and I felt comfortable in telling them at that time. It was a spur of the moment thing. It's hardest to admit to yourself that you are homosexual. You've already gotten past that. You're doing really great. Take a deep breath and relax for awhile. Get completely comfortable with it yourself. I can see why you would feel so bad about not telling your mom. Your lie was a reaction that you didn't have any control over. It happened because you weren't ready to tell her yet. That's perfectly okay. My advice for you is to wait until you get into college to tell anyone and only do it when you feel the time is right. Don't set a date. You aren't obligated to tell people. Telling anyone while you are still in high school could end horribly for you. If the news gets around you would be ridiculed to an unimaginable level and maybe even physically attacked. It would be much easier on you if you wait till college. I would also suggest that you tell people over instant messenger if you use that. You might not be able to tell their reaction as well, but it would be much, much easier for you to come out and say it in the comfort and safety of the setting. Telling people isn't for their benefit, it's for yours so I see no problem with doing it that way. Don't wait long after telling the first person to tell your mom. Ask anyone you tell to keep it secret so that your mom can hear it from you and not from someone else. Tell your mom in person. After taking that first easier step of telling someone online, it shouldn't be as hard to tell your mom in person than if you tried starting with that. You will know when you are ready. It may be awkward and a little uncomfortable for you, but as long as you are ready it will go just fine. If you are having troubles in school and feeling depressed one of these hotlines should be able to help you out.

Gay & Lesbian National Hotline
1-888-THE-GLNH (1-888-843-4564)

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender (GLBT) Youth Support Line
800-850-8078

If you feel you need to tell people before college, it might turn out just fine for you. Remember that the decision is always yours and my advice is just advice. I wish you the very best of luck. Try to feel better! I know you can, you seem like a very strong person. :)

i'm trying to find some healthy snacks to eat after school. i'm thinking about making my self a banana smoothie, but i'm not sure how. all of the recipes that i've read include ice cream or yougurt. and 1) ice cream would be too unhealthy and 2)i hate yogurt and i don't have any.

is it possible to make a banana smoothie with 1 whole banana and milk in a blender? what else would i need to add to this? and is this considered healthy?

if not...what are some other easy healthy snacks that i can eat. not peanut butter & apples or celery because i don't like those things.

thanks!

At my county fair every year they have a smoothie stand that I absolutely love. The smoothies are simple and have very few ingredients. The only problem is that you'll have to have a pretty powerful blender and it might take you a little while to figure out how much of each ingredient to use. For a banana smoothie you'd use a whole banana (without the peel of course!), ice, water, and a little sugar. Throw some of each thing into the blender and if it tastes too watery just add more banana, a different kind of fruit that's stronger and sweeter in flavor (strawberry, pineapple, etc.), or juice. It doesn't matter what kind of juice, but I'd think a mixed berry juice would work well. As it's blending, shake it a little if it gets stuck and if it's really having a hard time chopping everything up add tiny amounts of water at a time to loosen things up while the blender is still on. The less water you put in the better it will be so try not to add a lot. You can make these with basically any kind of fruit. Orange is my favorite. Experiment and you'll find something that you like! Good luck! :)

i got a shot of penicillin today for strep.
when i was leaving the doctor's office, i got dizzy, my body fealt completely numb and i threw up.
the nurse said it happens sometimes, but now my heart is doing something weird.
it's beating really hard, or fast, or something.
i thought it was just the penicillin being absorbed, but i'm not sure.

is that normal, or should i be worried?

It sounds like this is the first time you have taken penicillin. Many people are allergic to penicillin including me. It's very possible that you are too. Call 911 and get to a hospital as soon as you possibly can. This is very serious. You could be having a heart attack! I hope that everything turns out ok for you. Good luck!

Do you think pink or black dye would look better on the tips of a medium brown hair color?

I think that black would look better, but before you do anything think about how you will be viewed by other people. People are obsessed with labels nowadays and if you dye the tips of your hair black you might get a label put on you that you won't like. You can say that it doesn't matter what other people think and you should always be yourself as much as you want, but the truth is that it does matter. Friends and social success are important. Don't do anything that could risk losing any of that. Talk to you friends about it before doing anything to see what they think. Get their honest opinions. My advice to you would be to go with a color that reflects your personality rather than what might look better. Since you even suggested pink, I would imagine that pink would be that color. Good luck. :)

Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75

Yeah, you're much too thin. The BMI calculator is inaccurate for people that weigh more, not for people who weigh less. Believe it. Stop looking in the mirror and looking at pictures. They mean nothing. I saw a show on TV once where Paula Abdul was talking about overcoming anorexia in her life. Whether you have an eating disorder or are for some reason as naturally thin as you are, what she had to say can still help you answer your question for yourself. If you aren't entirely sure that you are too thin, you have a distorted body image. This isn't weird or anything. Tons of people have it. I would go as far to say that almost everyone goes through at least some time in their life where they do. I certainly have. Anyways, one of the things that Paula did that helped a lot to get over her distorted body image was to have a friend trace her on a piece of paper. In that way, she was able to look at herself outside of herself. Normally, when you look at yourself, you are looking down at your body, in a mirror, or at a picture. None of these are a good representation of your true size. When you look down at yourself you can't see everything. Your stomach looks like it sticks out more than it really does and since your eyes are so close to you body, every imperfection is magnified. When you look in the mirror your body keeps in proportion, but it is smaller than the true size of your body because you have to stand away from the mirror to look. It is also just a 2D image. In pictures, there is no way to determine how big you are and pictures too, are only 2D. You can never look at yourself in the same way as you look at other people. It would be wonderful if you could, but sadly, you can't step outside of yourself and take a peek. Having someone trace you is the closest thing to that. You'll look at the outline of yourself and you'll realize how tiny you actually are. It will probably surprise you and maybe even scare you. You need to see a doctor as soon as you can. It's very hard to treat what you have and the longer you wait the more danger you are in. You could die! :(

Please get help. Good luck.

15/f. I don't know if this is under the right category or not.

Okay. My Nanny(Grandma) is very special to me. She's always been there for me. One of my fondest memories of her is when my boyfriend (of 10 months) and I ending up breaking up.. she dropped all what she was doing just to give me junk food and watch movies with me until I was okay.

So since she's always been there for me and did stuff for me when I needed it.. I want to do something AMAZING for her this holiday season..
not just the perfect gift but I want her to remember this holiday season.

Any Suggestions Are MUCH Appreciated

Thanks in Advance.

Make a scrapbook or a collage of pictures of the two of you from when you were born to the present. Remember that no matter what you decide to do, she will absolutely love it. If you spend some time on it and put all your love into it, she will be able to see that. Good luck! :)

ok so me and my bf have been together only for a little over 2 months (this is my first serious relationship). we go to the same school and everything and so we see eachother all the time and he's usually over at my house or i'm at his everynight. well at the beginning of the relationship, the subject of "love" was brought up (we had only been together for 2 weeks at the time) and we both agreed that we didn't want to say it until we knew for sure that it was real and to not say something we didn't mean because love is a very strong word that too many people are just throwing around. but i really do believe more than ever i am in love with him...and i want so badly to tell him...but i'm scared that if i do, he'll still not be ready for that and won't answer me which would be just horrible. and then even worse, i'm afraid i'd say it, but then get a feeling like i didn't mean it (i doubt that'd happen, but hey, it could). i get the vibe that he wants to say it too because after he kisses me and just looks at me, our eyes do all the talking and we both stumble for words...but when will i know that the time is right? i'm not so much scared to say it as i am waiting for his response...what should i do?

i'm 17 and he's almost 18

It took me about 3 hours of very strong convincing by my boyfriend to realize that love is not a strong word. It is a strong feeling. People take it way out of context and put way too much meaning onto it. Don't look to the media to tell you what love is or when is the right time to say it. Look inside yourself. You are in love. You're 17 years old. I'm sure you have a good understanding of what love is and what it means. If you love someone tell them! It's not permanant. It's just an emotion. Like happiness or frustration. If you're frustrated and you feel like telling someone about it, you don't stop yourself from doing so just because you might not be frustrated later in the day. The same thing with love. It can always change. By telling each other that you love each other you're not committing yourselves for the rest of your lives. You're just expressing your feelings. It will bring you closer together and you won't be living a lie in your relationship. Having to hold them in like you are isn't good. Don't be afraid of something as beautiful as love. Being afraid of it could tear you two apart. Be honest and real with him. You might be surprised what you'll get back in return. Whether he agrees with you or not, he will feel absolutely wonderful knowing that you love him and there's nothing wrong with that. If he thinks you are moving too fast, tell him that it's not like you can slow down your feelings. They are just feelings and they can't be controlled. Only actions can be controlled. Just as long as you don't do anything different because of your feelings you relationship is still moving at the exact same pace. Nothing has really changed. It was very hard for me to say "I love you" for the first time to my boyfriend, but after I did, it felt so good. I had been causing myself so much stress over something that wasn't a big deal at all. It will be scary for you, but think of how you'll feel afterwards. No matter how he reacts, you'll feel so much relief and you can definitely convince him that there's nothing wrong with it. Good luck. :)

I have a project where I have to "interview" people who remember John F. Kennedy's assassination. In another words, I ask them questions about the event. However, this cannot be anyone I personally know. I can do this through email. Anyone have any ideas where I could go about finding someone?

That's so silly! There's no reason why your instructor had to make it that hard. Anyways, coming here was a good idea. People are generally very helpful. The only problem is that most of us, like me, are much too young! If you don't get enough responses from here, I have an idea for you. Find a few people in your class whose parents you don't know. Basically exchange parents for the interviews. The parents of someone that has the same silly assignment should be very willing to help you especially if their kid gets helped in return. If nothing seems to work out, interview people you know and just say that it was someone else. Make sure you let everyone know that you are doing that though. Good luck. :)

This is going to be long.
My name is Alex.
So first off.. I've been going out with this really nice girl for about 9 months, and I really really like her. We've kissed, at least once a day (just a peck on the lips), and we've held hands whenever we're together. She tells me she loves me everyday, and I respond with the same. But I'm not sure if I really mean it as much as I did when I asked her out. See, before we started going out, I liked her for about 3 months (so about this time last year).
I'm afraid that this is foreshadowing my future love life. I'm afraid that I won't be able to make a commitment for when I go to get engaged and get married. I want sooooo bad to have kids, a wife, and a happy future, but I don't think that's going to happen. Please don't say that everything's going to be okay, I need some significant advice.

Also, unfortunately, I think I might be gay. Recently I've looked at gay porn, and I find it addicting. I don't want this for my life. In addition, I have youth group every monday night, and there's this guy in it named James, who is always touching my hands and caressing my arms and legs. When he's doing this, I always act like I don't like it, but when I get home, I wish that I hadn't gotten him off of me. I actually want him to touch me, and I think I love him. He's a really nice guy and I find him very attractive, along with other people in my school (RHS).
Do I just think I love him because of my testosterone, or do I love him for his personality? Along with him, I find myself attracted to a lot of guys at my school (as I said), and I imagine myself being sexually active with them.
The real problem is that I want to remain faithful to my girlfriend of 9 months, to God, and my family, who is very homophobic.

I really don't know what to do! Please help!
Thank you very much.

Relationships lose some of their pizazz with time. Learning to adjust to that is a big step in the transition to having adult relationships for many people. What you are feeling is very normal. Stick with your girlfriend and see where it takes you. You would likely experience the same thing with anyone else so don't worry about that for now. Your situation though, is a little more complicated than just that. Homosexuality can be very attractive and addicting. I've questioned these things myself. When I opened up to it in myself I found that I was more physically attracted to the same sex than to the opposite sex. This is because it was new and exciting, not because I was gay. Now, after I've lived with it awhile, I find the sexes equally attractive and currently consider myself bisexual. You should feel the same thing after some time. I have made the decision that I would never date someone of the same sex. Like you, I have too much committment to my current heterosexual relationship and to God. I also have a very strong committment to a happy future. There's no reason to go through the hardships and stresses of being in a homosexual relationship when I can have the same amount of happiness in a heterosexual relationship. It just makes sense. I can still have my fantasies about the same sex and maybe even have a threesome or other experience with someone of the same sex with my current partner's involvement or permission. I would imagine that it is slighly easier for me to handle this than for you because I have my partner's acceptance and encouragement of my desires. I'm female. You being male may make that a little harder to get. Being able to talk about this with your partner is very important. It has become quite easy to be in a heterosexual relationship and have some homosexual feelings, but only because I can talk freely about it and experiment with it with my partner. Since male homosexuality is currently viewed differently than female homosexuality I would be very careful about bringing this up. There's no question that the person you decide to marry should know about it, but I don't think you're quite to that point with your current girlfriend yet. My advice to you would be to test the waters a little. Don't let on that you are bisexual, but see how she might react to certain ideas that you bring up. Plan it out and think of some creative ways to figure out how she feels first about bisexual men and then about being in a relationship with a bisexual man. If you get a very strong feeling that she will be totally disgusted and agasinst it, you can try easing her into it, but you may just want to consider finding someone else. You could do it, but it would be hard to keep something like that in for the rest of your life from your spouse. There are a lot of girls out there that are okay with this sort of thing. I'm sure that you can find one. Lastly, if you do choose to experiment with the same sex, it is just as important to wear a condom in order to help prevent the spread of disease. Good luck. :)

I don't understand this. Many people are beginning to say X-mas. Well, the whole point of Christmas is because it is the birth of Christ. Isn't calling Christmas X-mas taking the whole point of Christmas away?

I don't understand why some people put so much meaning into something that is very simple to explain. X-mas is simply an abbreviation for Christmas. Nothing more. It's like saying B-day instead of Birthday. You're not taking the Birth out of the Birthday, you're just making it easier to either write or say. By saying "can't", you're not taking the "not" out of "cannot", it's an abbreviation and nothing more. In today's world, making things easier is one of people's main goals. Everything is becoming faster and easier. Seen some of the abbreviations some people are using on instant messenger lately? It's crazy!

Some people may use "X-mas" because they don't believe in religion or for some other reason, but that is the effect, not the cause. They are using an already existing abbreviation and fitting their ideas to it, not creating the abbreviation for their ideas. Don't get all caught up in the history of Christmas or with what it means. Get caught up in the present holiday season and culture no matter what your beliefs are. Things like happiness, family, and giving are only a part of it and I think it's safe to say that just about everyone values and believes in them. :)

15/F
I want to become a penpal with a child in St. Jude's Hospital, or you know, with someone in a charity like that. How can I become one? Anyone know?

It's great that you want to do something like that! Start by contacting the charity that you would like to get involved with. Tell them what you are interested in doing and they'll let you know it's doable. The best way to contact anyone is by phone. You'd almost be guaranteed to get a response and you would probably get the quickest response that way. The phone number for St. Jude's Hospital is (901)495-3300. This webpage has other contact information if you'd like to try it a different way. https://www.stjude.org/contact. Good luck! :)

I'm a 21 year old woman and I live alone. My next-door neighbor is a middle-aged man, and I feel that he gives me excess attention. Since I moved here last year, he's left several gifts on my doorstep, including t-shirts, candies, home-grown vegetables, and long letters about how people come into your life for a reason. He often offers to fix up my car or cook for me. Last year, I contacted my property managment and, without naming names, let them know that a neighbor was being too friendly. What scares me is that they knew it was him, and he laid low for a bit. Eventually he confronted me, jokingly asking if I really thought he meant me harm. At one point, a policeman knocked and asked me if I knew my "older, African-American neighbor" but wouldn't tell me why. I feel somewhat guilty of racism and snobbery, but, more importantly, I don't feel entirely secure. He might be spying on me. He knows if I've been napping or on my computer. Tonight I was dozing off on the couch, having a little alone time, when he knocked. I have blinds, but I noticed they were a bit tilted. When I opened, he asked if I were "daydreaming" and then asked my boyfriend's name, claiming he might have received a package for him. I've had all kinds of weid encounters with him in the past--he told me I was hot once, and once my boyfriend and I forgot the window was open, and I when we left my apartment, we saw he had hung a bag of candy from my doorknob. Truth be told, he gives me the creeps. Am I a racist or a snob, or do I really have something to worry about? Contacting the management didn't work, so what should I do?

Get an inexpensive security camera and try to catch him spying on you. Then you will have proof and clear evidence of illegal actions and will be able to file a formal complaint. Right now, you just feel uncomfortable, and sadly, that's not good enough. Returning the gifts is a good idea. You don't have to be nice to him, just be polite and respectful. Another suggestion would be to have your boyfriend have a talk with him and try to scare him away from bothering you. Make sure that it wouldn't end up in some kind of confrontation before you ask him to do that. If there is any chance of it don't take that risk. I wish you the very best of luck and I hope that this gets resolved soon. :)

I had a normal period in september. Then when it was time for me to have my next period in october i was late. I thought that i might be pregnant so i took a hpt. It showed a faint positive sign. I took one the next morning just to be sure that it was positive and just not the pg test. It showed a faint positive sign. I decided to wait a few days and take another one. I did and it did the same as the first two. So i took a few more. i decided to go to my local health clinic for a pg test (which was a week later). they said it showed a faint positive sign but that i was definitely pg. the following night i started my so called period. i called my mother and she said that it happens and that she had a period for the 1st 3 months of her pregnancy w/ my sister. So i decided to wait. i haven't been to the doc. yet do to insurance problems. Its now a month and a few days later i started again could i still be pregnant?

The simple answer - absolutely. Get it checked out again. Good luck. :)

me and this guy have been talking for a long time and we're kinda friends with benifits but we're not the all the way benifits like i'm still a virgin and i mean i love him and sometimes i think he loves me but theres times when i think he's just after you know what how can i tell if a guy is true to me or not and how do i find out if he wants to be with me or not and not by just asking him becasue he says he wants to keep movin at the pase we're moving at now and see what happens......

signed dazed and confused

You may be moving at a slow pace, but you started in the wrong place! You should never agree to be in a friends with benefits relationship with a guy you want to be in a real relationship with. Now you have to go back and start at the beginning. It's nice to get something from the guy you like, but it's only a very short term reward. To find out if he really cares about you or not you're going to have to stop being physical with him for awhile and see if you can get a real relationship going. Basically, you need to give him an ultimatum. If he can't do that, you'll know that he is just in it for the sex. He may protest and complain a lot, but if he goes along with it, that's a good sign that he really does care about you. Being in a relationship isn't the next level, it was the first one and you skipped right over it! If you find out that he doesn't care, don't waste any more time on him. You haven't fallen for him completely yet. Don't let yourself do that until you are sure. Good luck. :)

I am getting really bad burning sensations in my legs. It rarely occurs but it hurts so bad I don't even wanna move my leg. It has only been affecting one leg at a time and not both. I have no idea what it is. I tried looking up symptoms that relate to my problem such as RLS (Restless Leg Syndrome), and Neuropathy, but I can't seem to figure out if I have one of them or not. I mean I get burning sensations but when I looked at RLS symptoms it listed that you also get these spasms and I don't get those -- just burning sensations. Could someone tell me what possible conditions it could be? If so, are there at-home treatments or is this something to consider getting a Doctor immediately? Thanks in advance.

You don't know what it is so don't rule everything out that anyone suggests, that's silly. If you do that, you could be skipping over what it really is and not getting the treatment you need for it. Please be open to every possibility. It could easily be a severe form of pins and needles and it could easily not. Did you even read what the article said? Perhaps pins and needles isn't exactly what you think it is. Of course I'm not going to know for sure what is happening to you, but you don't either. I gave you an idea, which is what you asked for. Your description is vague and could be any number of things, plus, I am not a doctor and I haven't examined you. My advice was to see a doctor. I hope that you have. If this isn't a problem yet it could become one or be the sign of something that is. Again, be open to anything and good luck. I hope you find out what it is. :)

Anything like this you could always bring up with your doctor. A doctor will probably know exactly what's going on. Any reason why you're so sure it's not growing pains? Don't be so quick to rule things out. You should be open to any possibilities. Anyways, my guess is that you are just getting pins and needles. I get them randomly sometimes and it can hurt a lot. Again though, ask a doctor about it. If it's the result of poor circulation or something there may be medication that you can take to help. Good luck. :)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pins_and_needles

soo my sister has liked this guy for a little over a year and tonight we went to the bowling alley in town and we met this boy and his friend their .. later on we went to his grandmothers house and we watched a movie and my sister and this guy were laying on the bed making out then he got up because his phone was ringing and he had a boner and he was trying to hide it from me but i saw it. so he walked into the other room and i told her that we had to leave soon cus it was like 8 and my mom wanted us home soon to eat dinner.. well he came back into the room and my sister was like we gotta go and hes like come with me so she got up and went with him .. like ten minutes later she came back and was like im ready to go .. when we got in the car she was like omg and i said what and she said nothing and i was like did u guys have sex and she said yeah and started crying becasue she was a virgin and they arent even going out and i felt so bad i tryed to make her feel better because now she feels like a worthless slut and he only wanted to get in her pants. i told her she needs to talk to him and tell him how she feels but shes scared to call him. i also told her she should tell our mom because it would take some weight off of her shoulders but she said no because shell tell our dad. i dont know what other advice to give her .. any ideas? =/

If they didn't use a condom get her a day after pill and you may even want to get her tested for STD's. It's really imporant that this one mistake doesn't end up really affecting the rest of her life. The advice you gave was good. If she doesn't want to tell your parents, that's ok though. She has your support and that's enough for now. Let her know that you are there for her and that one mistake doesn't define a person. Really encourage her to talk to this guy about what happened. If a relationship isn't going to happen she at least needs some closure. In the future, know that your sister didn't make a good judgement call, so try to protect her from making another mistake like that again. Don't let her go in the other room with a guy when you are there. It's disrespectful to you anyways. I wish you and your sister lots of luck. Make SURE she gets a day after pill if she didn't use a condom. You can get them from a clinic or emergency room and in some states they are available in drug stores. :)

Ijust need to know if you have an ingrown toenail that is swollen, painful, and red but no pus do I need to go to the dr. if so what do they look for before they take it out. I have had this problem for three months it is worse on one than the other foot. I have tried all sorts of remedies but nothing works. PLEASE HELP

You should definitely go to the doctor. An ingrown toenail shouldn't be a bother for more than a week. I'm not sure what they will do, but they probably won't have to remove the whole nail. My guess is that they will numb your toe and just remove the corner of the nail. Good luck! :)

15/f

last night i went to a frinds hhouse where there was this new girl there that was my friends friend. she wanted to drink so we all decided we'd have a little. me and my friend just had about a shot each and were fine and decided to stop while the other girl got compleatly wasted. we were alone for a while and then the parents came home and saw that she was drunk, and they automatically questioned me and my friend who werernt drink. that was last night and today my friend told me that she confessed and was grounded and that if i dident confess that i wouldent be allowed to hang out wiht her anymore if i dident confess to her dad. the only problem is i told my mom i dident and she doesnt believe me and is pissed at me but i dident drink alot and i was fine but i dont wanna loose my bestfriend so should i jsut confess? or keep to it.. i dont kno what to do HELP!

Own up to what you did and pay the consequences for it. You made a choice and you got caught doing something you weren't supposed to be doing. The longer you lie, the bigger the consequences will be. You'll be found out eventually and you'll wish you had told sooner. It sucks, I know, but that's life.

Good luck.

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