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My sister =[
soo my sister has liked this guy for a little over a year and tonight we went to the bowling alley in town and we met this boy and his friend their .. later on we went to his grandmothers house and we watched a movie and my sister and this guy were laying on the bed making out then he got up because his phone was ringing and he had a boner and he was trying to hide it from me but i saw it. so he walked into the other room and i told her that we had to leave soon cus it was like 8 and my mom wanted us home soon to eat dinner.. well he came back into the room and my sister was like we gotta go and hes like come with me so she got up and went with him .. like ten minutes later she came back and was like im ready to go .. when we got in the car she was like omg and i said what and she said nothing and i was like did u guys have sex and she said yeah and started crying becasue she was a virgin and they arent even going out and i felt so bad i tryed to make her feel better because now she feels like a worthless slut and he only wanted to get in her pants. i told her she needs to talk to him and tell him how she feels but shes scared to call him. i also told her she should tell our mom because it would take some weight off of her shoulders but she said no because shell tell our dad. i dont know what other advice to give her .. any ideas? =/
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Just curious, why don't you want your dad to know? Your dad may be strict, but he's a part of your family as well, and he loves you guys and cares for you guys.
You didn't say how old she is, but she needs to go to a doctor right away. She could be pregnant or have any number of STDs.
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If they didn't use a condom get her a day after pill and you may even want to get her tested for STD's. It's really imporant that this one mistake doesn't end up really affecting the rest of her life. The advice you gave was good. If she doesn't want to tell your parents, that's ok though. She has your support and that's enough for now. Let her know that you are there for her and that one mistake doesn't define a person. Really encourage her to talk to this guy about what happened. If a relationship isn't going to happen she at least needs some closure. In the future, know that your sister didn't make a good judgement call, so try to protect her from making another mistake like that again. Don't let her go in the other room with a guy when you are there. It's disrespectful to you anyways. I wish you and your sister lots of luck. Make SURE she gets a day after pill if she didn't use a condom. You can get them from a clinic or emergency room and in some states they are available in drug stores. :)
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I think you gave your sister great advice. My seggestion would be to maybe be there with her if she does decide to tell your mom. Also, i guess depending on your mom, you could ask her to not tell your dad at least for a while.
My other seggestion to you is to just comfort her talk with her if she wants to talk, be supportive, and dont be negitive. If she does call this guy (which i think she should as well) maybe be there with her.
Hope this helps.
I feel like i sound really stupid.
I hope it all works out for the best!
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