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me and my boyfriend are both virgins. we tried having sex the other day but it hurt way too much so i stopped him. i know its supposed to hurt ur first time but is there any way to decrease the pain.. or should i just stick it out?
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dera u,
you r first time always hurts tell your boyfriend to slow down it might decrease the pain
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Well, the pain that comes with losing your virginity is mostly the tearing of the hymen. You have to stick it out. The hymen almost always has to tear for a penis to be inserted comfortably into the vagina, and as with any ripping of skin, it'll hurt a little.
Have your boyfriend slow down. The pain can be eased slightly if you're on top, lowering yourself onto him. That way, you have control over how fast or slow you go. Once the pain subsides, you can flip over so you're on your back, or just stay how you are.
If you have any other questions, you can e-mail be at madalyn987@yahoo.com.
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ello,
well yes it is going to usually hurt the first time. to decrease the pain have him use his fingers first until it doesn't hurt so much then try the regular way.
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First and foremost, before you have sex again, make sure you are practicing safe sex.
The biggest causes of pain during sex is tightening of the muscles in your body and insufficient lubrication. The body will tense up when you are nervous, and being that you both are new to having sex, there is a lot to be nervous about. First of all, relax. Take a few deeps breaths and make sure you are not so tense when you begin.
Before he can enter you, make sure you are sufficiently lubricated. To do this naturally, have him engage you in more foreplay. Breastplay and kissing you softly on the ears, neck and stomach also work well, so long as it is not too soft that it tickles you. Soft music in the background helps if you can do that too. Go slow. Massage your inner thighs from the knees to the groin, but not touching the groin, also helps relax you. Don't forget about doing things for him as well. Let your hands wander, kiss him, explore his body, and even feel free to lightly rub his naked penis. You might be surprised at how this works for both of you.
When you first start out having sex, foreplay should last until you are 'wet'. If you are in a hurry, try some KY liquid. I prefer the warming kind. The jelly can be ice cold, so stay away from that if you can.
If you are using condoms, make sure you are buying the lubricated kind, some of the come with extra lubricant designed to enhance pleasure in both partners.
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