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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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He and I decided he needed time because I found out he still loved his ex. He never told me about this and I feel like he only dated me because 1. he did sort of like me but for the most part to get over his ex.
Any way, he broke up with me 4 days ago and he texted me last night. After the small talk of hey and what's up he asked me why were his ex ((who is how i found out he still loved her, she was so kind to tell me (not being sarcastic) ) and I texting the other morning and I told him she just wanted to make sure i was doing okay.
Then he has the nerve to ask me " are you ok" i told him I dont know I guess so. He says how do you not know and I told him I didn't want to talk about it. He asks why and I tell him why would I talk about it then he responds by saying well I was just asking.
Can someone please explain to me why does he care. He let me go so why would he care how I am doing? He loves his ex. I am almost positive he doesn't even like me or anything. Why would he want to know or even care if I am ok? by the way if this helps, He is 17 and so am I. and I don't want to get into all the details but he took something of mine he will be someone I will never forget. This is why I am so hurt and confused. Please explain
ALSO his ex and him are never getting back together because she is happily taken. Which is why I decided to not be mad because he needs time to get over her
In my eyes he is playing games, You are his plan B simply put.
Sounds to me he is trying to keep you around encase his little plan for his ex doesn't work out. As if he cared in the first place you wouldn't of been his second choice, You would of been his first.
Now to not to be brutal but in today's society the teenage generation is just playing the dating game (If you get what I mean)
If he text you, Ignore him. You are feeding into by replying to him because that is simply giving him what he wants. The guy is nosy, I don't for once second buy the fact that his girlfriend wanted to know if you were okay. Sounds like he is immature and just wants to play head games. My suggestion is to shut him out, He left you to crawl back to old baggage. Now it's time to focus on YOU and move on from it. One thing I learned the hard way is you NEVER depend on a man, You depend on YOU.
sex makes your boobs grow bigger
No this is not true, Someone was pulling your leg.
I am 15, 16 in september and me and my friend want to go on holiday with my friend who is going to be 16 in may. As we are leaving this year we want to go abroad to spain as we will be both 16, can you book into a hotel if you are 16?
thank you!
No, legally you must be 18 or older. Even then they will want proper identification and credit card.
How does it feel to date ur step-brother coz i have feelings for mine top and hoping he has the same for me
Your step brother is your family. Definately not
I'm Gay., is this a gay website?
No, This is a website where people seek advice.
What does 69 mean? I always thought it was just a number but I guess not. Please give me all info about the number 69
69 can be referred to a sexual position meaning the guy eats the girl out and the girl eats the guy out at the same time. *Oral sex*
The number 69 can also be used as far as making phone calls. *69 is to redial and see who last called you.
I'm a 16 year old female and I've had a few boyfriends. This summer I met a girl that I found myself having feelings for. We got super close and became good friends. I've never felt that way about a girl before and I don't see other girls in a romantic way, except for this one. Could I be bisexual or is it just a girl crush?
I wouldn't label yourself until you have had several experiences with different women/men and know for sure what you want and desire.
Right now I would say you are likely bi-curious.
Hey Guys! I've recently taken part in a programme where I have had to make my own short film which lasts one minute. Would appreciate it if you could watch it and comment to share your opinion on the film. Cheers guys! Much appreciated, here's the link:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=odof53Qyn9A&feature=plcp
You know, I felt like I was watching an actual movie. The film was suspenseful and exciting! I like how it seemed creepy and left you guessing in the very beginning... If you and your friends made this into a movie with following clips I would be watching as its very interesting.
Hey guys, so I'm in an unbelievably awkward situation. Let me explain.
My sister's boyfriend is basically a nightmare.
They are 23 and 24. and have an 8month old son together.
At first he seemed lovely and we all loved him. Then he started staying here like all the time and you know the saying "if you want to know me, come live with me" Well boy, did we see another side to him.
My mom and dad were firm and set ground rules on nights he could stay and couldn't as he had inadvertently moved in. But it never made a difference. They were doing their best to accommodate everyone without upsetting my sister as she wanted him around all the time when she was pregnant which was understandable. I wouldn't mind if he was actually helpful but he's completely lazy and has no job.
He sponges of his grandparents who raised him and are quite well off. He used to interact with us but now he comes in and goes straight to her room.
My other sister and him do not get on AT ALL. My dad hates him so much and has been biting his tongue for a while now. Me and my mom have made a great effort with him.
But it's like he throws it back in our face. He's completely clingy and always has to go everywhere with my sister. He's extremely childish like you wouldn't believe. && He does nothing for his son. My sister is the one who gets up with him and does everything. He lays in bed. He gets pissed off and frustrated easily with him when he cries, and he only takes an interest when people are cooing over him.
He is always telling lies and then lying about those lies. Back in May a close friend committed suicide. My sisters boyfriend made the remark to me alone "I wish I had the guts to do what he did" I replied "That is horrible, so you would leave your son and girlfriend like that?"
his response, yeah.
Trust me he is in no way suicidal. it's all for attention believe me. If I thought for a second he was I'd do something but he isn't. Of course I didn't tell my sister that.
He accused my mother of lying about something back in November, (long story) and basically caused a massive falling out between my mom dad and sister.
The other night, my sister overheard me and my dad talking about him & her. I was so angry and had so many vent up feelings. As I had spent the day with them and my nephew and all he did was bitch and act like a child. He lost his precious batman dvds and was practically accusing one of the family members of taking it! (my sister was giving out to him but he wouldn't stop) It pissed me off because he took some of my box sets without asking, LIED about it when I asked where they were, eventually admitted he took them home by "accident" gives them back and there are missing discs, and I don't even say anything! and he has the nerve to suggest I or anyone else had taken his.
I know you're probably wondering why I never expressed my dislike for him to her, it's because I wanted to be happy for her and let her see it herself. But I don't think she ever will and I know it's not my place to interfere. But when it comes to him walking all over her then it angers me. My sister is very hot headed temperamental and down right impossible to talk to sometimes as she goes on the defensive so quickly. She's not great at confrontation and does a lot of her arguments true text, which I refuse to do as everything gets misconstrued.
About jobs, first he was going to join the army, then he was going to do an EMT course, then a computer software course. and he still has done none of it and is sponging off of social welfare yet my sister makes excuses.
He just causes so many problems. I have a lot of issues with him and a lot of things he has done stored up in my mind. But I know if I express them to her now he will deny it and brainwash her. I don't want to lose my sister but I can't keep my issues with him hidden anymore. What do I do? he is so two faced and cunning. I only have her best interests at heart.
A while ago our other sister was dating a complete asshole aswell. But she's different I could tell her how I felt and she would listen and take it on board and respect me for it, and for trying to make an effort all the while encouraging her that she did deserve better. My other sister (the one in question now) agreed and didn't like him either and she knew how hard it was to try suck it up. So I just want her to see it's the same thing. Sorry this is so long. Any opinions welcome.
How do I approach this? I've already apologised for talking behind her back that I should have done it personally, now I don't know where to go as she just text and said she and her bf are hurt and she doesn't know how to talk to me yet.
help. :(
If this has become an issue with your parents then they need to have a sit down and discuss ground rules. The best bet is to give him an ultimatum which is get a job and help around the house or move out with no obligations. This is your parents house and they have every right to express their thoughts on a situation they disapprove of in THEIR house.
Yep, Maybe your sister is pregnant or has a newborn around and no matter what he will always be the father of that child but while the burden is on her it is also on everyone else in the house hold. This guy acts childish and lazy because people are allowing him to act this way. They aren't setting boundaries, rules and giving him a choice to get his act together. Really your best bet is to approach your parents privately about this matter and suggest maybe have a family meeting, Express why you feel the need to have it as well. As long as they allow him to be lazy then he knows he can.
Well i liked my cousin and i got in contact with him we started talking and we got into that conversation that he liked me.the next time we talked he said would i be brave enough to kiss him and i said depends if you want to and he said he would . What can i do?
Family relationships are considered incest, I'm not sure if you are aware of what incest is but it's against the law. It's also a crime that is taken very seriously and this law exist pretty much anywhere.
This is a family relative and it is wrong to have relationships with family. What you do is you tell him that he is your cousin and this is very wrong of him to even be talking to you like that and you move on from it. If he refusing to stop bringing up this subject then you tell a family member and address the matter.
Here is a link to more information about incest...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incest
Alright so Im 13/f and dont think that Im young that Im not allowed to have a boyfriend, we hug and hang out together and sometimes kiss. He is really sweet and nice and I like him but all the time he says we're not too young to date and he keeps saying 'i love you' to me and honestly, yes Im too young at this age to be in love! I used to say it back but now Im snapping back to reality! I dont love him! I like him a bit and thats all! I just dont know how to tell him this... Also, he is nice but he's weird and we have dated before (last year) and then I broke up with him because I liked another guy and then he asked me out in June and I thought I'd be ready for a relationship but I wasnt and I dont know how to say this to him because he has met my family and he will tell my sister and she will ask me why I dumped him! And then my dad will call me a heart breaker again! =(
Also, reccently, Ive started talking to this other guy named Sam. He acts like an idiot at school but over the summer Ive gotten to know him better and he is super nice and sweet and he's really cute =) He makes me feel good. We talk often and we always have sarcastic convos, but the other day we were talking and then he said, "Your cute:$" and I said "Sarcastic?" Sam: "No, like really your cute" Me:"Oh, your a cutie aswell =)" and so from now one when we say out goodbyes at the end of a convo, we either say "bye friend" or "bye cutie" but mostly the 'bye cutie' one! =) I think I might have a crush on him (he's a year younger than me but super nice and my boyfriend is the same age as me).
I just dont know what to do, my boyfriend never calls me like my 2 year older sister and her boyfriend call each other and I think I might need to break up with him. Ive been pracicing what I'd say and its something like" Look, your a really nice and sweet and funny guy but maybe your not the right one for me and I think we should both move on. When you asked me out, I thought I'd be ready 4 another relationship but I wasnt and Im still not. I just dont think we're as close as we were when we went out the 1st time... Im sorry, I dont want to hurt you."
How was that? too harsh? if I break up with him it'd be over facebook not the phone because last time I called him and broke up with him and he started crying and made me cry by crying =/ And I want to break up with him by August 19th (sunday) becuase I leave for my cottage the next day so I would get to take my mind off things. Anyways, what should I do about my current boyfriend, for a week Ive been trying to act like Im not interested so he would break up with me but its not working and also what should I do about Sam? ADVICE PLS?
If you like Sam, Then tell your boyfriend it's not working out and end the relationship. There is no nice way to break up with someone, This is just part of being in a relationship unfortunately yes, we do face some uncomfortable moments. Now to be blunt, If you break up with him for someone else then I would not keep crawling back to him. It's a bit unfair, It's also leading him on as he has to work to rebuild his trust with you all over again. Relationships should be about partnership, honesty, trust and most importantly communication.
So, If you feel you like Sam and would like to try a relationship with him then you could try talking to him. Just act casual and be yourself but I would maybe wait a little while after you break up with your boyfriend. The worst thing you could do is date someone else immediately after you end a relationship.
What does it mean when a man tells you that a woman comes 5th in their life after faith, children, career, and taking care of their family? Does it mean he doesn't want a relationship even though he says he would like to have one someday? How should a woman go about this to avoid getting hurt?
If a man told me he didn't consider me a priority in his life then that would be the last time he saw me. Telling someone in such harsh words is rude and a bit offensive. Least in my eyes and I'm sure in other people's eyes as well.
If he told you he didn't consider you a priority in his life it's not much different then telling someone they aren't very important and basically you are on the back burner.
Sounds to me he is telling you he is too caught up in his life and doesn't have enough room in it for you or a relationship.
Okay so the girl I'm dating has an older brother who hates me for some reason,, he has a grudge against me for something I didn't do... He doesn't know that we're dating and if he finds out then he'll do anything to keep us apart... I'm trying to show him that I'm not the person who he thinks I am but I don't know how I'm gonna do this... Please help me!!!
The truth is if someone is holding a grudge against you for something you did not do, Then whether you try and get on his good side or not I would be questioning whether he is the type of person who believes everything he hears. Meaning, If you do something he disapproves of or yet he hears another piece of bullshit elsewhere will he be holding a grudge again?
Anyway I apologize for my rambling...
You do not need anyone's approval to date your girlfriend. You stated he would "try and do anything to keep you apart" he does NOT control his sister or make choices for her. I'm not sure what the relationship is between your sister and him but either or she is the one that needs to tell him to back off if he decides to come between the relationship. If he really cares about her then he should respect her wishes and let her date who she wants. However like I said you do not need his approval but if you want to try and break the ice then maybe sit down with your sister and try talking to the guy.
What does it mean, when my friend ask me if i am a virgin or not?
i have friend that asked me if i live together with my boy friend or not. and i am a virgin or not. what does he mean?
he seems like me, but i m not sure. what do you guys think?
i have boyfriend, and he knew that i have boyfriend. but why he still ask me that question. my answer is no. after that he said, virgin is not everything, but he just wants to know why want to did it. but he said, i am fine, virgin or not.
what do you guys think?
This friend knows you have a boyfriend and he is asking personal questions?
Well, Whether he likes you or not it is completely rude of him to just ask a personal question like that. Your sex life is between you and your boyfriend and it's really nobody else business to what you and your boyfriend decide to do in the bedroom.
What does it mean? It means he's nosy and again, Rude.
17/F
I have a Facebook page with 566,716 likes and growing. I get messages asking me if I would be willing to sell my page and as a young adult (18 on Wednesday) struggling to get a little extra money, it seems like an easy way to make a little extra cash. I don't use the page at all.
This guy told me he would pay me $300 via Paypal. Is this illegal so sell your page? Is this a good deal? How would this work? Would he need my login info to use the page? Anything anyone has to say about this will be helpful, thank you!
I would never sell anything that you created from the internet. Although this page may be massively and contain no real information people have ways of getting information.
I'm not really sure how scammers, hackers work but I wouldn't be one bit surprised at all if this was some stupid catch into trying to hack you never mind scam all your friends.
I would ignore the offer completely, There is an old saying "If it sounds too good be true, It is"
Seriously, The offer sounds catchy but what about all your fans? Are you really going to put them at risk as well?... Hell, It's better to be safe then sorry. If you don't use the account the smart thing to do would be to deactivate it all together but definitely do not "sell" your page to someone who is looking for nothing but information through the page, connection you were using and your fans.
Yes, You give your page away the hacker can look up the connection and were it was logged in from. NEVER fall for that stuff.
I dated my best friend who waited to go out with for two years and i kinda regret it and i still love him. We broke up but for some reason he kept staring me down for a long time and i have no idea why. He did say he still liked me but idk why he decided to call quits if he did. His ex gf got me involved in her scandal and it really pissed him off and he apologized to me because i got dragged in the middle. He has deleted me from his phone and fb. and when his frends ask him what went wrong he says he doesnt want to talk about it. the last time i saw him after the scandal he smiled when i walked in and did the same stare downs.my frend says she feels like we still got something there. I havent tlked to him for 2 months now and idk what to do when we start school again. I am trying to move on but i guess i need answers because i know i still love him. what should i do?
I am going to take a wild guess that his ex girlfriend has an influence on him. Perhaps she went on a full rampage of jealousy and decided to try and spread rumors or lies to win him over? Mhm... That's what it sounds like.
If this is the case, It's pretty sad how he would go along with lies and rumors instead of approaching you about them and talking to you about it. Apparently this kid didn't know you the way you thought he did. Yes, Believe it or not their are people out there who will do and say anything to get people to turn on people they don't like. So yes, meaning she but her nose into something that wasn't her damn business in the first place. This is why it's never a good idea to befriend exes or remain in contact with them because they are drama filled donkey turds. I know you have feelings for him but if he deleted your number and blocked you on facebook then he may be too long warped for you to try and rekindle things unfortunately.
hey hi guys . first of all i m new to advicenators.com . i am facing a big problem in my lovelife and the problem is that i dont know why but i am not able to find even a single girlfriend.i am from INDIA, i am male n i am 20 years old, my hight is 5.8, i am fair, i am also goodlooking but still i dont have a single girlfriend. i just get scared to speak to girls even i havent proposed any girl yet ..but the wired thing is that girls hav proposed me several times. but i rejected theie proposal bacause i didnt find them attractive(biggest mistake i did).can anyone tell me in how can i interact with girls ?
I do agree with Flare on you need to tone down the "I am good looking" as well.
I am a female and I will give you my two cents on what you said above. In all honesty, It sounds a bit conceited. You should never judge a women by their appearances, Some of the best women out there may not be a super model or super attractive but they could end up making great partners, wives and lovers. As long as you raise your standards too high you will probably never find the right person because you will be to focused on their flaws.
There is no such thing as the perfect woman. If you want to find someone, Then you need to be a bit more open minded and get to know them as a person not for how they look. I am not familiar with how India does things but here in America there isn't a rush to propose or get married and frankly I think 20 years old is awfully young to even be thinking of marrying someone. One thing that sticks out with me is what you said here...
but i rejected theie proposal bacause i didnt find them attractive(biggest mistake i did)
You regret turning them down because you are miserable being single? This isn't the mindset you should have when thinking of marrying someone. Marrying comes with being in love, trusting and wanting to be with that person, not fill a void of lonesome.
I'm sorry if I sound like an ubber bitch but as a female this is sort of how you are presenting yourself. If you don't want someone to think that way then you need to change the way you think and stop judging other people. Once you've realized that maybe this IS indeed the problem and reason to why you can't find a steady relationship then get out there and try talking to people. Women like to be noticed, complimented and treated like lady. If you treat them with respect you may get the same in return.
I saw this wrap around towel in a tv show and it looked like it buttoned or velcroed or something to hold it up so it doesn't fall down while you are running around the house in it. Where can you buy a wrap around towel? I called places and they were like: "Well, uh, take a towel and wrap it around you..." I think they thought I was playing a joke on them or something! :(
Did I imagine this or is there really such a thing?
No you didn't imagine, I actually owned one. ;)
They are sold pretty much anywhere. If I got mine at Kmart for about $20.00
They are called Towel Wrap
Here is a link
http://www.kmart.com/bath-towel-wrap-collection/p-048CO47847201B?prdNo=11
Four years ago, I met this guy through a friend and we started going out. Three months later he cheated on me, but by that time we already had so many of the same friends it was impossible not to run into each other. Over the years we have become the best of friends. There is no one in the entire world that means more to me than this person, and he says he feels the same as I do.
Over the course of our friendship it has become increasingly clear that he's a manic depressive. It has also become clear to me over the last year and a half that I still have romantic feelings for him. Because we share everything, and I needed to know if there was a chance for us, I told him how I felt about a year ago. We continued our friendship, but things got way more intense until I told him I needed some sort of commitment. At a bonfire, he took me aside and told me that I meant too much to him to lose, and he thought we should try to be together. Then he kissed me. That was however, on an upswing of his depression, and with every down cycle he acted like nothing had happened and we were just best friends. I was weak, and I didn't want to lose him, so I just went with whatever mood he was in in the moment, from adoring partner to buddy buddy. I loved him so much, I thought if I could show him that I loved him no matter what, maybe he could love himself just enough to get help. That's when the awkward spending the night started. He started sleeping over, holding me, caressing me more, telling me all the things I knew he felt, just cuddling on the couch watching our favorite movies and being together, but whenever it got too sexual, he would either make an excuse to leave or (and I'm positive this is what he was doing) go to the bathroom and masturbate, leaving me high and dry as he drifted off to sleep satisfied. I finally had enough and told him I needed, wanted, deserved the title of girlfriend. He told me he just wasn't mentally stable enough to give that to me, and that he didn't want to hurt me because I mean so much to him. Things continued as they had. I didn't know what else to do. He blamed all of his issues on his ex girlfriend who cheated on him constantly and eventually left him for a woman, but he started having casual sex with other girls and hiding it from me, which I equated to the pain of cheating but he rationalized as fine because we didn't have a title and weren't having sex. I fully believe he was doing this as a way to fulfill himself sexually while trying and avoid the pain losing me would cause if we tried at a relationship and failed. Then, I was leaving for a week for a graduate residency, and came home to find him sitting outside my house. He took me upstairs and told me everything I'd been wanting to hear, that he felt the same way I felt about him, that he was afraid of hurting me with his depression, and that he wanted to try. Then, he kissed me like I always wanted him to kiss me, like he was present, like he was in the moment with me, and it broke my heart to have to leave for the week, but he promised he'd come down the last day for the giant banquet we have, and I was pretty much walking on the moon. This lasted for three days. Then, he didn't show up for the banquet, and when I brought up everything he said to me the day he was waiting at my house, he literally said he didn't remember any of it or the three days that followed. I was crushed. I'm still crushed, but I thought he was just scared, that if he could have that moment of clarity once, he could have it again if we worked on his mental health together. Things went back to the friends with conditional benefits thing, but every time he left me, I started to feel this frantic need to be with him, to somehow tie him to me with some permanence, even though I knew he'd gone back to having casual sex with other girls. I felt like he was slipping away more and more, but at the same time we had never been closer. The girls were the same as the booze and the weed he'd been self medicating with for years, I knew they were a quick high and i meant something more to him, but I wanted him to take me of the pedestal he put me on and just be with me in the real world, not some world where I was a perfect relationship he couldn't have while he was sick. Last month, I finally got up the courage to have another talk about what I need out of whatever we have, and he told me he still wasn't ready for a relationship (even though, despite the lack of sex, that's exactly what we've been in), but that he sometimes felt about me the same way I felt about him, "that we were made for each other, that we belong together". I tried to take it all with a grain of salt. He really is sick, and he really does care about me, and I can understand why he wouldn't want to hurt me. We made plans to go to the fourth of July fireworks three days later, and the entire day he acted strange. We were supposed to drink and watch movies in bed for the rest of the night, but he said he had somewhere else he needed to be. I was absolutely livid when I saw the bite mark he tried to hide on his neck, and told him to take me home. I'd had enough. After he dropped me off, he sent me a text that simply said, "I've met someone". I asked him to come back to my house so we could talk about it, and he said no. I told him he better get to a phone then, because I needed to talk to him. I called him and asked him how he could do this to me after everything we were to each other, and he told me nothing would change between us. I told him there was no way I could be with him if he were giving himself emotionally to someone else, and he told me I was being selfish, that what we had was too important to throw away over someone he was probably only going to date for a month or two. I told him there was no way I could stay with him and he hung up on me. A few days later, he sent me a msg saying that he understood, and if being apart was what I needed he would try to respect it because of how much I meant to him. I few days later, my room mate noticed him driving past our house. I've seen him doing it a few times since then too, and it just tears me apart. After a month of no contact, he sent me a msg saying we needed to talk. I didn't want to. Nothing had changed, and that's what I msg'd back. He started cursing at me and told me I was being selfish, and that I was a horrible person to leave him alone like that, and that no one had ever hurt him as much as me. I don't understand this. He is the one who didn't want me. All I ever wanted was to be with him, to have some sort of recognition that I mattered, that I was as important to him as he said I was. Yesterday, I finally said we could have that talk, and he came over. I told him everything I said here and how it had made me feel, why I had to have space for a while, why I still need space. He told me I don't love him, that I'm obsessed with him, and any feelings he had for me are gone, but he still wants me in his life, that I'm still his best friend. I am completely lost. I don't know what to do. I'm not obsessed with him, I'm trying to figure out why someone who so clearly loves me would be afraid enough to risk losing me over being honest. He still denies that he came over and told me he loved me, he has completely switched from rationalizing that he can't love me because of his ex to he never loved me and I'm the one with the problem, and the worst thing is, he's so damn considerate about it all, it makes me feel like I'm the one who's lost touch with reality, but I'm not the one with missing bits of time, with blocked memories, who breaks down every time we're alone and tells me he thinks he's lost his mind, that I deserve better. He is my best friend. I want to see him well, but how can I continue to help him with his mental issues, if he's going to lie and change his perception of our reality whenever it's convenient? Now, especially because he says he's in love with this girl the way he was in love with me, that he doesn't know if he should be with her because she deserves better. To hear him say exactly what he always said to me about someone else is like a knife in my chest, and even more so because he was able to commit to her three days after he told me he thought he and I might belong together but he couldn't commit to me. I'm completely broken. As much as I am his rock, he is mine. He is the person who knows everything about me, who knows exactly what I need when I'm hurting, exactly what to say to make me smile, exactly I'm thinking at any given moment in the day, but is that worth always being held at arms length? Is it worth always feeling like I'm being lied to about my own relationship? The girl he's with now reminds me of me when we first met. Is our friendship worth watching him make the same mistakes with her he made with me because he won't get help? Or, even worse, what if he doesn't make mistakes with her? What if she's just enough for him to finally be happy? Could I stand watching that either? He is my family. I feel like I've been served divorce papers for a marriage that never happened. Someone help me figure this out. Please.
It's clear that you both are on different chapters, unfortunately he hasn't exactly caught up too the level are maturity you are seeking in a partner. This kid has some personal issues he needs to sort out and he needs to do that when he is ready. Also, If you both have known one another for a good chunk of time and he hasn't got help yet then it may not be anytime soon he finally realizes his life may possibly be a bit out of control.
You have feelings for him but he tends to lead you on a bit by stating he can't loose you but remaining friends. It's clear he doesn't want a relationship with you, Least not a serious one.
Your best bet is too focus on you, Do what you need to do for yourself and don't let someone hold you back. This person is holding you back because you have feelings for him but he just isn't wanting anything serious right now. The best thing I can possibly tell you is to maybe back off a bit, You can still remain friends but there also needs to be boundaries for your own sake and well being. If you devote all your time into him while he doesn't want to help himself you are going to make this situation dreadful and you will never move on from it.
How to get rid of a stuffy nose? Please! Somebody must know a way for fast relief? I feel like I am going to suffocate. :(
Surprisingly a hot shower will help. The steam from the shower will help relief any backed up congestion you may have. Also, Hot tea tends to help as well and preferably lemon as it is high in vitamin C and helps boost the immune system.
Another suggestion that always works is nasal spray. Try avoid blowing your nose too much as it will cause a rash and if you already have one try applying some Vaseline for burn relief.
Ginger is good if you have flu like symptoms as well and for a goodnight sleep try taking up some chamomile tea.
Feel better soon!