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What does it mean when he doesn't consider you priority?
What does it mean when a man tells you that a woman comes 5th in their life after faith, children, career, and taking care of their family? Does it mean he doesn't want a relationship even though he says he would like to have one someday? How should a woman go about this to avoid getting hurt?
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You're supposed to be your man's first and foremost priority. If you're not, then I don't thing you should stay in the relationship. You deserve the best man out there who will treat you like a princess, so don't settle for someone who treats you any lower. I mean, putting faith and career and all that before you? You deserve so much better. He's not worth another minute of your time.
I've been in a relationship before where I had to settle for so much. I tried so hard to impress this guy, and then he just dumped me. It was really hard, but now there are men lined up who would give anything to be with me, and they would do anything for me. I'm so glad this guy isn't in my life anymore, because I realize now how much I was giving up just to be with him.
He was not treating me like a first priority, like your man. Friends and career came before me. That's not a healthy relationship. That's a relationship that's doomed to fail. Get out of it, and find a man who will cherish you and treat you as his first priority.
Good luck :)
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A women should avoid getting hurt by this man by walking away from him.
He just said, very directly and very honestly, that he refuses to make space for another person in his life or consider that other persons needs or feelings.
And sometimes in life we do NEED to close ourselves off like that and focus on priorities other than rommantic relationships, but if that's the case, then this man is in no position to be dating, seeing anyone or sleeping with anyone!
He has a responsibility to behave respectfully towards people in his life. That responsibility doesn't go away just because he is honest about not being able to prioritize a relationship, it simply means he can't be in a relationship ( or seeing anyone, or fucking anyone) until he able to make that a priority.
A guy who says this isn't prepared to be with anyone, so he shouldn't be. A women who hears this, should tell the guy to give her a call with he in a place in his life when he can behave with respect and value his lover. That doesn't always mean being the most important thing in his life, but it does mean being in the running, and having your feelings and needs respected and heard.
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If a man told me he didn't consider me a priority in his life then that would be the last time he saw me. Telling someone in such harsh words is rude and a bit offensive. Least in my eyes and I'm sure in other people's eyes as well.
If he told you he didn't consider you a priority in his life it's not much different then telling someone they aren't very important and basically you are on the back burner.
Sounds to me he is telling you he is too caught up in his life and doesn't have enough room in it for you or a relationship.
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