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Am I bisexual?
I'm a 16 year old female and I've had a few boyfriends. This summer I met a girl that I found myself having feelings for. We got super close and became good friends. I've never felt that way about a girl before and I don't see other girls in a romantic way, except for this one. Could I be bisexual or is it just a girl crush?
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At your age it is perfectly normal to have feelings for the same sex.
Don't be so fast to put a label on your sexuality. This is the time when you should be experimenting and finding out just who you are sexually. Their is nothing wrong with being bi or even gay. The problem is the label.
For some reason, for which I have no reason, we are very fast to label things. This would include ourselves. When we put a label on something then we expect to live up to the label and not to the feeling. This is wrong and not how things are meant to be.
Labels can also be harmful to young people your age. Labels have meanings, these meanings present themselves differently to different people. People, friends can be very bigoted towards a label. Today they are a best friend. Share with them you may be bi or even gay and tomorrow they are very spiteful towards you.
Yes labels can be harmful but experimentation is good. It lets you find out about yourself and the world around you. You have many years ahead of you before declaring your sexuality and nothing says you must declare your sexuality to anyone other than yourself.
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I wouldn't label yourself until you have had several experiences with different women/men and know for sure what you want and desire.
Right now I would say you are likely bi-curious.
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At that age, some sexual experimentation, even with gender preferences, is perfectly normal. So relax and just go for it if you like her that much. The thing is that even if you ultimately determine that girls aren't for you as romantic partners at least you will have learned something about yourself as well as what it's like to interact with a same sex partner. On the other hand, if you find that you truly are bisexual being intimate with the girl you are crushing on will be a nice start to realizing more of who you are.
The thing is, don't worry so much about the label. If you find somebody you love, no matter the gender, go for it.
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