You have every right to get pissed off. This IS your decision and they should have no say in it.
However, all you can do (since relatives never shut up, no matter how much you want them to) is know that it IS, in fact, your decision, and they have no say in it whatsoever.
You may want to kindly ask them to please keep their opinions of your doctors to themselves, if you're so determined not to sound disrespectful. Remind them that you trust your doctors, and that even if they don't, it's not their problem - it's yours.
I hope this was helpful!
-Siren =)

If my boyfriend told me that some chick four years older than him was "bangin," it would probably hurt me, too.
Because I tend to be blunt, I'd say "you know, that kind of hurt my feelings..."
If it bothers you, which it obviously does, don't ignore it! Talk to him and tell him what's on your mind.
Always tell them if something they did or said bothers you. Guys can't read minds...They can't know it hurt if you don't tell them!
I hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Candi,
Semen does swim. They have li'l tails and everything. They look kind of like tadpoles, but...different...(waaaay smaller for one thing. Lol)
That's why people freak out when it gets anywhere near their vaginal area. It can swim into you.
Semen consists of DNA, essentially, accompanied by fluid so they have a means of getting around.
Hope I helped unconfuse you! Lol
-Siren =)

BB,
This guy sounds really, really fickle - can't make up his mind.
(He also seems to be throwing the word "love" around, which - to me - is a BIG no-no.)
I would just give up on him if I were you. You're asking to get your heart broken if you remain stuck on him, and all he's doing is confusing you, right?
Don't talk to him about it if you don't want to - just forget about this guy. There are other guys out there who don't live to confuse...lol.
Hope everything works out!
-Siren =)

That's a perfectly valid reason to break up with him, not a lame one.
I approve, actually. Most girls, in your situation (have a boyfriend, thinking about another guy) just cheat, and don't bother breaking up.
Does he know that this is why you broke up with him? If not, you might want to clarify. Just tell him that you didn't feel like it was right for you to be dating him, and not be thinking about him.
Just tell him what you told us, minus the "he's disgustingly obsessed with me, etc." part. Lol
I hope I helped a little! If you need more advice, don't hesitate to ask. ^_^
-Siren =)

I think it's a little of both. Cute 'cause she went to the trouble get the guy's number, and crazy 'cause she did the research to get it!
Definitely both.
-Siren =)

I think it's sweet when a guy does that...my boyfriend's that way - all chivalrous and stuff. There are very few guys who are genuinely chivalrous like that - mostly it's forced, and just kind of a thing to make a girl like a guy - and chivalry is a good thing.
I think it's a turn on.
-Siren =)

It's really, really hard to get in wrong. Aim towards the small of your back when you put it in. I reccomend a plastic applicator - easier to deal with.
When you get it in, you don't feel it at all. You might feel the string at first, but as long as it doesn't hurt, you're fine. If it does, push it in further.
Playtex Slimfits are good, and so are Tampax Pearl (regular). You could probaly use ones without applicators if the idea of sticking your finger in "there" doesn't bother you too much.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

You should make your own decision as far as which sport you play.
If you wanna be involved in a sport you don't really like, but you wanna be able to play it with your friends, go for football.
If you want to go with a sport you really like, go for basketball, or track.
It's up to you!
Good luck deciding!
-Siren =)

If you're talking about vaginal discharge, that's perfectly normal, and there's nothing you can do about it. It's annoying as heck, but not weird...most girl have it.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

If this guy's done nothing but hurt you, I think you ought to try to move on. I was in a situation like this when I was in seventh grade. I was stuck on him for about two years, then moved on. I would stay away from this guy if I were you.
I hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Well, if you want to risk it, you can tell him how you feel about him. He may feel the same way you do - guys are hard to read in that way.
If you think you'd freak him out by telling him you liked him, you should wait awhile and see if he gives you signs that he likes you as much as you like him.
I say talk to him - let him know what's on your mind. I would, but I tend to be kind of blunt. The decision is, of course, yours in the end. Hope everything works out!
-Siren =)

Every girl will give you a different answer for this one.
I personally like to get to know a guy before I date him. I have to be able to hang out and talk to him like a friend. With my current boyfriend, I met him in math class and ended up with a huge crush on him within, like, a week. I got to know him a little and we ended up going to see a movie together, which turned into a date when we confessed our mutual crushes...Lol.
Normally I'm close friends with a guy for awhile before I even begin to develop a crush.
Hope I helped answer your question!
-Siren =)

Heh
There's nothing wrong with it. I think it's funny, lol - but that's just me. A hickey is just a bruise, really. The sucking breaks capillaries under your skin (tiny blood vessel thinggies). That's it - *shrug* nothing more.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Manda,
If you're really in love, and you think you could handle the long distance part of the relationship - hardly seeing him, but still remaining faithful, etc - then I say go for it.
You've gotta talk it out with him, though, and find out of he wants to try it.
I think it really works if you make it work. You have to work at relationships in general - and you'd have to be willing to work hard at this one to keep it going.
It's up to you two. Talk it out and decide what to do.
I hope everything works out!
-Siren =)

You only seem like a whore if you think you do. I don't think it makes you seem like a whore, nor do I think you can go to hell for having sex with someone you don't love.
That's a matter of opinion, entirely.
If you feel that it was wrong, there's nothing you can do about it. The past is the past. You can't change it, so don't dwell in it. ^_^
If you feel uncomfortable with what you did, change your ways and learn to feel better about yourself.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Ah, I have a friend in your situation.
Learn to love yourself. Focus on your good points, not your flaws. It'll give you LOADS of confidence. Make a list on a piece of paper - brag yourself up, tell the paper what a great person you are and how pretty you are, etc. You don't have to worry about anyone thinking you're conceited because you're just telling yourself the truth. ^_^
Every time you feel your confidence slipping, return to the list mentally and remind yourself how great you are.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

I feel your pain, sorta. I'm 16, 5'3ish and I weigh 113. I always feel like I should weigh a little less, but then I decide I'm too lazy to do anything about it. Lol.
Don't worry about your weight/body, and don't give up food. We need to eat. If you're worried about your weight/body, all you need to do is eat a little less junkfood, and more fruits/veggies. But it sounds to me like you're fine.
Chubby is in the eye of the beholder, I say. I'm not a stick - I have curves, and I like it. Lol.
It's up to you. I say don't worry and eat whatever you want. You ARE still growing. If you turn into a stick now, you'd be more sticklike when you stretched out (heightwise, widthwise, etc). Lol.
So relax - you're fine!
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

It's impossible to be pregnant unless you've had sex, or been in a situation where seminal fluid got near your vaginal opening.
You're young - your periods are going to be irregular for awhile. I mean, my periods used to come anywhere between 23 and 31 days. I didn't have the 28-day cycle until I started the pill.
So chill, chica. You've got nothing to worry about. ^_^
-Siren =)

Try freewriting/stream-of-consciousnessing for like ten minutes straight, then lie down and breathe like you were going to meditate - in through your nose until you can't inhale anymore, out through your mouth until there's nothing left.
The writing may help clear your mind, and the meditative breathing will help relax your body.
I have a lot of trouble with sleep, too - I'm a major night owl. I have to FORCE myself to close my eyes at five in the morning, so I've taken to reading before I sleep (reading's good too, if you don't want to write), and then breathing like that.
You might want to consider getting a white noise machine - I use an aircleaner. Drowns out other sounds and gives me something else to concentrate on besides the fact that I can't sleep.
I hope I helped!
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

Siren

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