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Well, my question has 2 parts to it. The first part is, what causes hiccups (sp?)? And what is the best way to get rid of them? I get them ALL the time, like 2-3 times a day. They never go away. Help me out!

Hiccups are caused when you lungs get too much oxygen in too much time (i.e. you take really short quick breaths repeatedly) and your diaphragm (muscle under your lungs that helps push carbon dioxide our and oxygen in). Anyway, when your diaphragm is kind of slow in the breathing process, it pushes up when it should go down, and it forces air out of you in an irregular sounding way. The "hic" noise is you diaphragm pushing up suddenly. 2-3 times a day is quite often, but when I get hiccups, I cure them by drinking something hot or eating a couple ice cubes or breathing in, and holding my breath for 45 seconds.

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Hey, I have this friend and well shes obsessed with Ireland. And she also looks Irish, which adds to the obsession. Well she met this guy on an irish-penpal thing and they email and write to eachother. I read one of his letters and he calls her like "Princes Jenny" and all that good stuff. Well, shes going to Ireland and its not just because of the guy. Shes always wanted to go but shes gonna meet him there. Shes 16, hes 21..and I'm kinda worried..I joke around saying "If you get raped, I'll kill you" But I really dont think meeting this guy is a good idea. Should I tell her something or is it not my buisness? Thanks~

I would let her know the consequences she could face. Let her know that you really care about her and don't want her to get hurt physically and/or emotionally. But you can't force her to do anything, so don't try to. She may be a little defensive, but don't get defensive too. Give her a hug and tell her to be careful. The rest is up to her :)

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ok look there is this girl that i like and she is well one of my best friends i dunno it is just when i am around her i feel so loved and i mean she is really really beautiful and stuff. but tonight i was at her house for a party no occasion just a party and she looked so hot and she cuddled with me well she was cold and stuff.

but the question is how can i show her that i can be a good boyfriend and that i like her more then a friend.

thnx

Drop lots of hints. When she's sad about something, give her a warm, long hug (us girls LOVE to be held). Smile at her and look her in the eyes a lot. When she's sick or feeling sad, drop by her house with candies and a card letting her know how special of a girl she is to you (you can even sign the card Love, (your name) if you really, really want her to know). Always be kind to her, but don't follow her around, that just appears to be desperate. If you guys are really close friends, then you can even give her a peck on the cheek good-bye sometimes. If you think that she really enjoys all these hints you drop, then go up to her oneday and say, "Wanna come over Saturday night? We could have a movie marathon." When she comes over to you house, make sure it's clean and doesn't smell bad. Make some popcorn and you guys can make root beer floats together. If it's a scary movie you're watching (like The Panic Room or Darkness Falls, or something), that might actually be an advantage for you, because when girls are scared, we jump and cling onto people. So you can like, put your arm around her or hold her at scary parts. Then after that movie, watch a movie of her choice. Or, you could go to the movies together and see something like The Forgotten. But don't make her see anything she doesn't want to see. Good luck! Hope all goes well :]

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Everytime i ask a question why is it always say
This question was deleted by an administrator it getting me really pisseed help me ??

Either it was an inappropriate question, the question was in all CAPITAL LETTERS, or the question was repeated. Type your question in the "search questions" engine and see if any questions are related to your's.

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Hello,

I am 16 years old and a female. I am 5'2 1/2 and 93 lbs. I am very thin but not sick looking. I don't really eat like I'd call normal. I eat like once or twice a day normally but sometimes three. I am just never hungry most of the time and I am typically a light eater. The odd thing is last year I was like 115-120 lbs and then a few months ago I was 98 and now I'm 93 lbs. Is there something wrong?

Sorry, but you are a little underweight. But keep in mind that this can be normal, especially if you have been growing and developing normally, have a healthy diet, and are active and energetic. Talk to your parents or doctor before jumping to conclusions about your weight.
Also, try getting into the habit of eating 3 square meals a day.

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15/F/F
okay so i was going out with this guy and he was a year older then me and we live in the same neighborhood but go to diff schools and we were sooo perfect for each other...but then he cheated on me soo i broke up with him even tho i liked himmm sooooo much and he still liked me a lot to ..((he didnt wanna break up i did ))soo then after we broke up he tryed to ask me out again but i said no cause it would be way to weird so we stoped talking and now about 2 months later he likes me again and today he said he wnats to tlak to me about sumthing and i havent talked to him in like 1 or 2 months soo im guessing he likes me again soo what should i do bacuse i still really like him but all my friends will get mad at me that i took him back i dont know what to do ..help ..thanks6

Talk to your ex-boyfriend. Pretend you were in his shoes. Pretend you are him: You're going out with this awesome girl (AKA you) and then a "seemingly better" offer comes along. (You have to remember that boys can be pretty curious sometimes :]). Anyway, you give the other girl a go and she ends up being not as pretty, kind, caring, or loyal as your ex girlfriend you cheated on (a.k.a. you again lol). So when you try to apologize from the depths of your heart, she turns away. You feel so torn inside and all you want is your old girl back again. Okay, back to you as you now haha. Confront your ex again. Say, "I really really liked you before, (name), but I was really disappointed when you broke things off with me. I'd like to go out with you again, but I don't want to be hurt again." If he seems genuinely sorry, then say you will give him ONE more chance. If he 2-times you again, then don't trust him a third time.



As for your friends, tell them: "Look, I'm giving (name) another chance with our relationship. I really like him, and he's really really sorry, but I am going to keep an eye on him. Please tell me if you find out he's cheating on me again. You all know that I can trust you girls, since you all are my best friends." They can't decide for you do date or not date him, so don't let them make up YOUR mind.



Hope all goes well!! :-)

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heyy some of my friends say im skinny and so do alot of guys n some ppl say im aneroxic im 13 and i weigh around 94lbs but im only 5' am i too skinny??

tnxs

((i rate high))

If you are 13, 94lbs, and 5', you are at a healthy weight. You have a Body Mass Index (BMI) of 18.4, which is at the 45th percentile . You are underweight if your BMI is under the 5th percentile of your age. A healthy adolescent has a BMI between the 5th and 85th percentile. Keep in mind that being at a healthy weight does not mean you are skinny, but because of healthy eating habits. When guys say you're anorexic, just say something snappy back to them "I'm not obsessing with my weight, so WHY are YOU?" Pack a lot of venom into the last bit so they feel crummy for saying that. Then act like it doesn't bug you, so you won't be as prone to teasing. Also, eat 2-3 servings of meat each day and drink 3 glasses of milk per day (If you don't like white milk, which is my case, I get Ovaltine, add 4 spoonfuls of the powder to the milk and put like 4 teaspoons of chocolate syrup in the milk and stir, then it tastes really good!).

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Okay, I know that when your pregnant you can not take any medications other than Tylenol. I also know, you can't get any work done on your teeth because you can't receive x-rays or novacaine either. The problem is some of my teeth, in teh back on the left side, hurt really bad. I don't know if it hurts from lack of calcium or becasue I have cavities. When I ever I drink something cold, it hurts even worst. Does anyone know anything I can do to make the pain stop?

Sometimes it's because you ate foods that were too sugary and the plaque is affecting you teeth, or because you are lacking calcium, as you said. Drink some tea, but instead of boiling water, boil milk and add a teabag. Then add some honey and stir up and drink. I recommend Lipton Lemon Tea. Or you can drink Hot Chocolate with milk (substitute boiling water for boiling milk). But if it is because of plaque buildup, then brush your teeth with tootpaste for 2 minutes then gargle mouthwash (I recommend Listerine).

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alrite..i`m gonna be gettin my braces off soon, and i really don't want yellowish teeth with white spots, so im gonna use whitening stuff. But i dont kno what works the best, does anybody use some that works really good?

Okay, Crest Whitening Strips are awesome and they really work! You will have whiter teeth in seven days and you will start to see whitening progress in 3 days! But Crest Whitening strips are very pricy, so you could use Crest (or maybe Colgate? I can't remember) Simply White whitening toothpaste and you'll have whiter teeth in 1 to 2 weeks!

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13/f

okay i really like this guy i've liked him for such a long time gosh like 3 years almost i'd say and his birthday is coming up in 20 days i want to buy him something cuz he's my best guy friend.. but i dont know what to buy i dont wanna buy him somethin that also gives clues of me liking him or anything because i dont want him to no .. i told him the 1st time i liked him which made 1 year of our friendship like hell n its our 2nd year of our friendship and i rather be friends w. him than nuttin at all but yet i rather be his gf than his friend but anyways wut can i buy him??
oo btw he's turning 14

tnxss

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Buy him a video game, or a $50 dollar gift certificate to a bookstore, or a sports equipment store, depending on his interests.

He needs some new goalie pads? Go to a sports equipment store and ask an employee to help you choose.

He has beaten-up basketball shoes? Go to a sports shoe store and ask an employee for all the different types you could look through.

He's craving a great book? Get him a mystery novel, or that new Harry Potter book.

And for your card, or his entire present if you can't find anything else, get these supplies and do the thing I suggested:

Markers, a 100 GRAND candy bar, a CRUNCH candy bar, a large box of NERDS candies, a MILKY WAY candy bar, and a medium-sized posterboard.

Then write him out a friendship note in markers on the posterboard, using the candy bars as part of your sentence replacing real words:

Dear (NAME OF FRIEND)
You are such a good friend, I wouldn't give up our friendship for anything else, not even (PASTE OR TAPE THE 100 GRAND CANDY BAR RIGHT HERE)! I would still be your friend even if you were one of the (PASTE OR TAPE THE BOX OF NERDS CANDY HERE)! You are such a cool person, I would give you some stars from the (PASTE OR TAPE THE MILKY WAY CANDY BAR HERE) if I could. I know we've had our ups and downs, but you're a great guy and I would never want our friendship to feel a (PASTE OR TAPE THE CRUNCH CANDY BAR HERE). So have a Happy 14th Birthday! Your pal, (your name)

Hope that I helped! Good luck :-]

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This is a question for guys..im not redheaded but my friend is..and it seems like she cant get ne guys. Shes real pretty in the face but i was jw..do guys not like red hair or somethin?

Guys don't discriminate against redheads, because, I mean, do you really think a guy would be all "Hey, that girl is so pretty, I would totally date her if it wasn't for the color of her hair"? I'm a redhead, and I've gotten compliments about my hair, not criticisms. I think as guys get older like in high school they take more notice but I don't think that it's because of your friend's hair... so don't let her dye her hair, because red hair is really unique (I dunno about your friend, but I love being a redhead!).

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i'm moving... my room has white walls and a tan carpet. any cool color schemes?? i want it to be really awesome with a whole bunch of different colors.

also, where can i get cheap bedspreads and things like that??

Well, I'm not sure if you're a girl or boy?? But I'm guessing that since you care about your room then you're def. a girl lol.

If you have a four wall bedroom:
I suggest that you leave 2 parallel walls white and the other 2 parallel walls you can paint red. Then get a long mirror to put on a red wall and put your dresser underneath it (get a black, low but wide dresser, not made of wood but of some plastic / metal material?). Then get a red comforter with some red or white pillows and get some cool dangle beads to hang from your doorway

Go to www.delias.com or to www.wakeupfrankie.com for some really cool bedspreads, pillows, curtains, floor mats, hampers, etc.

Good luck! :]

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I blow dry and straighten my hair every day and it's really beginning to show! I was thinking of getting a leave-in conditioner or deep conditioner today but I don't know what kind to get! Or does any one know nething else that works to get ur hair looking super-good? Thanks so much! I RATE!

Okay, I tried this method on my hair and it's awesome! Okay take a banana and some honey and mash them together in a bowl (make sure that there is as much honey as mashed banana). Then take your electric beaters and beat the honey/banana mixture in the bowl on HIGH power until there are no more lumps. That part is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT as you don't want banana bits in your hair for a week (that's what happened to me no lie :]) Okay, it looks and smells like puke, but this makes your hair SO much healthier. Apply the mixture to your hair and run it through all your layers and try to get it all over your head. Then cover your head with a shower cap and towel and leave in the mixture for 20-30 minutes (The longer, the better). Then rinse it out and your hair is shiny and healthy!


Or you can mash half of an avocado in a bowl and add 1 and 1/2 teaspoons of olive oil and blend them together with an electric beater, making sure there is no lumps. Then apply to hair, cover with shower cap and towel and leave in for 20-30 minutes. Then rinse out and you have great, shiny and healthy hair!


Hope all goes well! :]

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ok well theres this new girl in our school and me and my best friend have known her sence we were in third grade and now we're in 7th and like shes a really big flirt and shes really annoying and like everyone talks about her and pretends to like her..and she flirts with everyone! like my boyfriend plays football..and everyday he has practice right after school cept on Fridays and like she'll walk home with him and shes been over his house and stuff and I'm afraid she is like gonna try to do something with him..like I've talked to her about it and stuff and I trust my boyfriend..(-she has a boyfriend to and I dont think he would like her over my boyfriends house-)am I just paronode or should I worry about it..please help!

No, you are not being paranoid. Your boyfriend is in a commitment with you, and if he was really doing something with that lil' slut, he would be avoiding you or talking nonstop about her, or simply dump you. Boys who are worth your time usually aren't into girls who sound that skanky. Just walk up to that girl and be like "Hey, back off. (Name of B/F) is MY boyfriend, and NOT yours. So stop trying to flirt with him, he's not interested." No need to be polite, since she's already being extremely bitchy. Good luck with all you do :)

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I'v always kinda knew that i was a lil distured inside cuz im usually always sad and never happy. I juss try to put on a happy face when im not home juss when im out or around my friends cuz no1 wants 2 hang around sum1 who's depressed all the time. But im so tired of being sad and feeling this way. I finally knew that i had sum serious issues today. There was a football game at my school but me and my two friends left during it cuz it was boring so we went to the mall. My mom picked me up 20 minutes late so i was standing there by myself but we got the exits confused. But when i was standing there i had a breakdown i juss wanted to cry. So instead i started punching the granet pillars infront of the mall to hold in my tears. Kinda self mutilation i guess. I dont wanna go to a therapist cuz every1 will think im crazy and i wanna kill myslef. Im juss tired of being so sad all the time. It juss seems lyk god put me on this earth to be miserable and to see how much i could take. Im tired of it...what should i do?

Okay, for one, God did not put you on this earth to make you miserable. Don't worry, hunny, just look at the world around you. Think of how lucky you really are. I mean, you have a loving, understanding family, three square meals a day, and you have a warm and safe home and cool friends. People on the other side of the world aren't as lucky as you. They are getting killed for standing up for their beliefs, their homes are being destroyed in the war, and some people must sleep on the streets and go to bed without a meal.

Think of all your blessings you have, and think of all the people that love you and deeply care about you. They want to help you out, because they want you to be happy.

During this time talk to family and trustworthy friends. Please don't take Zoloft or any other anti-depressants, especially if you are under 18. These pills could have nasty side effects.

I suggest you to go to a therapist or counselor. You don't have to let people find out, just tell them that you have a Doctor's appointment, because therapists and counselors really are doctors. Good luck sweetie! Hope all goes well :)

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my nails dont grow, how can i make them grow fast?

Get that Sally Hansen stuff. The company sells this product called Maximum Growth or something like that, and it really works! You can get it in clear or in colors. Also, there's this nail protein that looks like clear nail polish except it contains proteins, which are the nutrients that help your nails grow and stay healthy. Also, I know that your nails grow more after you take showers (weird, isn't it?). Well, when I take showers that happens.

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ok i met this guy joey @ the mall in januray..i really liked him n we hav been seeing eachother for a while...now on sept 25 he officially asked me out...so we go out now....well my mom doesnt know bout him...and he always wants me to go places with him and stuff...and usuaully im able to bc my friend lives around hte block from him so i tell my mom to take me over there to her house...and we go to his...im really close with my mom but ive never told her about ne of my bf's...ive never even been close to my bf's in the past..im really close with joey n i want him to b able to come places with me too...but im scared to tell my mom we go out...his parents know me n stuff but im jsut embarased to talk bout this stuff with my mom bc she will ask soo much ??'s n im afraid she wont let me see him bc shell think we cant be alone or watever or shell wanna meet his parents...in other words shelll act lyke wer getting married or something....i just want her to know so i can b like hey mom can joey come with us or watever!!....she sed i could hav a bf and stuff but ive never told her i had one....im so sick of lying to her bc shes starting to get suspicious...i wanna tell her this wekeend....how shuld i bring it up n tell her? wat do i say?? also, joey n my friend are going to a skatepark saturday and joeys neighbor is taking them and they wanna swing by my house n pick me up so i can go...im scared my mom wont let me if she knows wer going with him but i dont want to lie again....wat do i say?? plz help...

I think that you should really tell your mom. If she did find out, she'd be very hurt and insulted that you didn't trust her enough to tell her. I mean, she went through several hours of pain, and she brought you up to be a wonderful girl. Anyway, just say, "Hey mom, I love you very much, and I think that we can really talk about anything with each other. So I want to say that I've met this really great boy, Joey. I really like him, and he really likes me. He asked me out, and I said yes. But mom, remember, it's just a fling. Joey and I are not going to marry or anything. It's just that... well, I don't want you making a huge deal out of it, like, getting together with his parents or anything. But when you meet each other eventually, please do make an effort to get acquainted with them. Really, I just want to get to know Joey better. Please don't make a big deal of it." Then hug her and tell her that you love her. It should all work out.

Hope I helped. If I didn't sorry, I truly did try :)

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Hey, theres this girl in my pe class and I think she might like me. Well, I kinda like her too though. She acts kinda like it and gives me hugs sometimes and stuff and jokes around with me and stuff, and she seems like she always brings the topic of Homecomming up to her friend, lets call her Jenny. Anyways so she always says to Jenny that sits next to her when we sit on numbers for role call that she needs a date for Homecomming. But... I'm kinda scared to ask her to Homecomming because I don't know what to do.. I mean I know you go out to dinner and stuff and the guy drives the girl... but I don't have a car yet do I have my dad or mom drive us to the restaurant and then to the dance? I know to get her flowers or a corsage... ugh I don't know what to do! Someone tell me what to do about this and what should I get her and pretty much walk me thru the date! I mean like I could go with my friends or her friends because she says to her friend that all her friends are going to this fancy restauraunt with their dates and she wont get to go unless she has a date... so who drives and stuff? What do I do.... Help, I'm 14/m.
Sorry if this was a little long.

Definately ask her to the dance! You have nothing to lose. If you are too shy, ask her friends if she was interested in going with you. If signs point to yes, then go for it! Since you really like her, why miss out on an opportunity to ask her to the dance? If she even likes you the tiniest bit, then she would never say no :) Say, "Hey, I don't have a date to the Homecoming yet. Wanna go to the dance with me?" when she says yes, say "Okay, cool (smile). Maybe we could grab a bite to eat beforehand. How does that sound?" when she says that it sounds cool, say "Any suggestions on where we could go?" That's when she should bring up the the fancy restaurant her other friends are going to. When you go there, bring at least $120.00 to pay for you and her. Really, it depends on how much dinner costs. Ask your mom and/or dad if you can borrow that much money, and promise that you will do housework to pay off the debts. Unless you have the money to pay for it yourself. Anyway, tell her to come around your house at maybe, half an hour before you, her and her friends with their dates plan to meet for dinner. When she arrives, tell her how beautiful she looks, and pin the corsage on her or, if it has an elastic band, hold her hand and put it around her wrist. Your parents are going to want to take pictures, I can almost guarantee. When that's all over, say, "Shall we go?" and lead her out to the car. Open the door for her and let her into the car first Anyway, have you and your parents pick her up to go to the restaurant (Clean out your car really good and spray it with Febreeze. Oh, and remind your parents beforehand to not make any remarks about you and your date). Make small talk on the way there and at the restaurant ("I've never been to this restaurant. Is it good? I heard it has good food." or something along those lines). When you get there politely introduce yourself to the other girls and their dates (Hello, I'm (your name). I'm (girl's name)'s date.") Throughtout the dinner, keep an eye on your money. Ask her what she's ordering first, then see the price of it. Try to order something not too more expensive than that. When you pay at the end, it'd be pretty embarassing if you couldn't afford the dinner. Anyways, smile at her and offer her a bite of your food (don't be offended if she says no, she might not like what you ordered). At the end, say, "Oh, don't worry, (name), I'll pay for your dinner (and dessert, if she orders some)." When she thanks you, say "Oh, it's no problem at all." then smile. As for the dance, you should definately ask her to dance every slow dance (she might fast dance with her friends). When the last slow dance comes around, ask her once more, then say after about 30 seconds of dancing, "You know, (name), I really like you. Would you like to go out with me again sometime?"

I definately think you have a chance with her...since she sounds like she's been droppin' a lot of hints.

Good luck with all you do! I really hope you have good luck! :)

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When I was 13 I found out that I have a sister that had been put up for adoption. I had grown up thinking that I had two sisters and it was devistating to think that I had another one that I may never know and be able to love. So, I swore that one day I would find her. Back in March I did find her. I had searched for so long that I really felt that I would never find her and when I did I was afraid that since I grea up in a dysfunctional family and we weren't wealthy or anything that we wouldn't be good enough for her. Well, she is wonderful. We went through the DNA testing and when we found out it was just amazing. She came out for a visit in April and since then I have gone to see her twice. We live in seperate states. The two sisters and I that grew up together have the same father but she (2nd to the oldest) has a different father. My father is dead now (long story) but our mother is still living. Mom has a long history of drug abuse and she does not want my Sister to know about it.

This is my question. I think that she is noticing that Mom isn't as close to her as she is our oldest and youngest sisters. They e-mail and Mom calls about once a month or so but she and I talk weekly and on the internet every night. The other two sisters rarely e-mail her and they don't call her. I know that she doesn't feel as connected to the family as she would like to and I feel responsible because I was the one that went looking for her. There are times that she tells me that it really hurts her feelings and I am not sure what to say.

I love her so much, she is just fantastic and had a terrible life growing up. Her adopted Dad wound up in prison and her adopted Mom comitted suicide when she was a teenager. I know that she has abandonment issues because of all of that and now I am scared that meeting her bio family is just adding to those issues because of their distance. I wouldn't take for knowing and having the chance to be in my sister's life and her in mine but sometimes I feel so guilty for causing her even more grief.

Did I do the right thing by finding her or was I just being selfish because I missed her so much being in my life? I am just afraid that my love for her just isn't enough to make up for all of the time that she has done without and now that she has found her bio family that maybe the dream of what they were was better than what we are.

Confusing and long I know but anyone with input would be appreciated.

In my opinion, you did the right thing. Sounds like your sister had such a rough life, dealing with her adopted mom's death and her father's criminal record. She was probably really sad, but when you found her, it sounds like you really helped her out. You were so considerate and so loving of a sister that you cared so much to find her. She seems like she was (and still is) going through a rough time, and all she really needs is someone who really and truly loves her. Try inviting her and the rest of your family out for a nice dinner. Have your sister stay over one night, or go to a day at the spa together. Whatever you do, be there for her, and love her. You sound like a really sweet person.

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Me and this guy..let's call him Kyle. Ok well me and Kyle knew eachother for a long time but we didn't talk to eachother a lot. Then we started talking and he asked me out and we went out but it didn't go that great so we tried again a little bit later and that didnt go very well either but it worked a little more, there was more communication. Well we have taken a break for a while and dated other people but we only like dated 1 other person but now, almost a year since we've went out we are back fooling around and stuff. We went on and off during that time like majorly flirting and stuff but now we like makeout and feel and stuff and he always talks about doing stuff with me lol We talk on the phone like every day now and he tells me that he loves me and stuff but it's flirty. Well i've heard stuff from his friends that he's going to ask me back out and stuff but then he starts acting weird, like he doesn't like me in school and that we are just friends and then like on the phone we plan all this stuff we are going to do with eachother and we chill and everything goes back to the making out and stuff like that. I really like him and i don't want to keep playing these games but I don't what i should do or like say to him because I don't wanna ask him out just in case, you know. I want him to do that stuff but I don't know what to do because I want a relationship with him and it seems like he does also i'm just not to sure!!

Sorry it's so long I just needed to get the whole story down lol thanx -ill rate high-

Patiently wait. Kyle may be confused and all, and when you are at school together, it may be a little awkward. If you are really confused, confront him about it. When you two have time alone (not with friends), Casually say, "I'm very confused about something. Can you explain something to me? You always seem so distracted during school and never really talk to me. I'm not mad, but I just wanted to clear things up." Say something along those lines. If Kyle really likes you, then he'll understand and explain. If he acts all stupid and unfriendly, then he is NOT worth your time. Good luck! :) hope everything goes well!

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