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okay so i was going out with this guy and he was a year older then me and we live in the same neighborhood but go to diff schools and we were sooo perfect for each other...but then he cheated on me soo i broke up with him even tho i liked himmm sooooo much and he still liked me a lot to ..((he didnt wanna break up i did ))soo then after we broke up he tryed to ask me out again but i said no cause it would be way to weird so we stoped talking and now about 2 months later he likes me again and today he said he wnats to tlak to me about sumthing and i havent talked to him in like 1 or 2 months soo im guessing he likes me again soo what should i do bacuse i still really like him but all my friends will get mad at me that i took him back i dont know what to do ..help ..thanks6
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well luckily i've never had a boyfriend that was unfaithful.. but if i were you... :
i'd talk to the guy deeply and make sure he knows that you still like him and that it really really REALLY hurt you when he did that. And tell him that if he ever does it again then it's 100% over no more chances bye bye don't forget to close the door on your way out; no matter how much it hurts or how uch you like him. Secondly.. tell your friends thta you may be setting yourself up for something kinda stupid and it may end up hurting you in the end.. BUT they've got to accept things. you can't help who you like and you respect the fact that they're looking out for you.
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Your friends would be angry because they care about you. I mean, let's look at the facts.
Aside from wondering if this guy would ever cheat on you again, you can't erase that he already did. He did not care about you or respect you enough to be faithful to you. Is someone who does not truly care about you really your idea of 'perfect'? I would think not, since you dumped him.
You made the right choice. Of course as time dulls the hurt and you start to miss him you'll think about taking him back - but just because you're thinking about it doesn't mean it's a good idea.
It would be like saying, 'Yes, I'm totally okay with you cheating on me.' Because if someone cheats on you and you take them back, that is EXACTLY what you have said. It's a lose-lose situation.
I suggest you cut your losses, spend some time with your perceptive and supportive friends, and then make yourself available for a more mature, committed guy.
Good luck.
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Talk to your ex-boyfriend. Pretend you were in his shoes. Pretend you are him: You're going out with this awesome girl (AKA you) and then a "seemingly better" offer comes along. (You have to remember that boys can be pretty curious sometimes :]). Anyway, you give the other girl a go and she ends up being not as pretty, kind, caring, or loyal as your ex girlfriend you cheated on (a.k.a. you again lol). So when you try to apologize from the depths of your heart, she turns away. You feel so torn inside and all you want is your old girl back again. Okay, back to you as you now haha. Confront your ex again. Say, "I really really liked you before, (name), but I was really disappointed when you broke things off with me. I'd like to go out with you again, but I don't want to be hurt again." If he seems genuinely sorry, then say you will give him ONE more chance. If he 2-times you again, then don't trust him a third time.
As for your friends, tell them: "Look, I'm giving (name) another chance with our relationship. I really like him, and he's really really sorry, but I am going to keep an eye on him. Please tell me if you find out he's cheating on me again. You all know that I can trust you girls, since you all are my best friends." They can't decide for you do date or not date him, so don't let them make up YOUR mind.
Hope all goes well!! :-)
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You know, first of all, the majority is that most people say, " Once a cheater always a cheater" or something like that. Something about "guys will never change" and all that crap.Well, I don't think that's true. People DO change.(including guys who cheat) And does it really matter what your friends say if you end up going back out with him? It really matters if you like him. It's not up to your friends to decide who you should like or dislike, or go out with or not. I say..give him another chance if you still really like him. Good luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori
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Well I think that you shouldn't go back out with him because he cheated him. But that's your choice. And if you want to then do it you shouldn't not go back out with him just because your friends tell you not to!~Hope I helped!
-Ems
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A leopard never changes its spots. People don't change so quickly. There is a good chance this guy will cheat on you again. I don't recommend you give him another chance to do so.
If you really feel like you want to be with him, just remember why you broke up with him in the first place.
Good Luck
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Dont go out with him. You need to move on..find new guys. He cheated on you once, theres a chance he'll cheat on you again. No girl deserves to be cheated on..and you taking him back will make him think like "Oh I'll cheat on her again, and then everything will be fine because she took me back last time" you know? dont do it..just be friends!
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