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Hey, I'm Elana... I'm 15 years old and I love to help people.. I know I know, everyone says that on this site, but I can be pretty good at giving advice sometimes. I'm into lots of sports, tennis, softball, and my new thing... Track, haha... I also dance, play piano (obviously) my saxophone (love it) and go online... A LOT! lol

Random stuff about me: I'm 5'1 and a 1/2".. I LOVE music..favorite bands are: switchfoot, green day, rooney, foo fighters, stone temple pilots, and any jazz music, my friends and family mean so much to me, things don't always go the way I want them to..(when does it ever work like that?) bowling rocks my world!! haha even if I suck! :) I'm extremely energetic and bouncy as my friends know, and I like to laugh, at anything...

If you need any advice at all just drop a question for me or IM me and I'll try to answer as best I can... thanks!




~Lana

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hey. thanks alot for your help. your really good. you have no idea how much i appreciate it! you were right. i talked to her alone, and told her how much she was hurting me, and she told me that she was sorry, and trying to fit in more at our school. (she said that she wanted more friends) lol. thanks a bunch! *Katie

Hey no problem! :) I'm really glad I helped! And it's really good you have your friend back.. IM me or leave me one in my inbox if you need anymore advice on anything..
~Lana

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okay so me nd my boyfriend have been dating for like 2 months but there is this one boy that i went out with last year..we went out for like a year and i still really like him..i like cant stop thinkin about him and he asked me back out but i really like me boyfriend now and i dont know what to do..the boy i like is movin somewhere far away and i will probly never see him again(hes movin over the summer) and i reallllyy like him but if i dump the boy i am with now that i really like too he will probly never go back out with me but i dont wanna miss my chance with the boy that is moving

Stay with your boyfriend.. I know it's your last chance with your ex, but ex relationships never work out and he's going to be leaving really soon... Plus you wouldn't want to break your boyfriends heart now.. good luck!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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hey. i hope that you can help me. one of my best friends and i have been in an on-going fight for more than 2 weeks. ive been apologizing, and it doesnt seem to be changing anything. she always finds a reason to be mad at me. idk whats going on. shes been spreading rumors about me, too. and threatened to have people jump me! weve been best friends for almost 9 years. should i just forget that she ever existed, or should i keep begging for her forgiveness?
*Katie

I agree with what most of these people have said already.. Talk to her one more time.. tell her it's really hurting you that she's so mad at you for no apparent reason. If this doesn't work.. honestly? I'd give up on her. She's not much of a friend if she spreads rumors and threatens you.. Sorry hun! good luck though and if you need anything IM me..

Hope I helped!
~Lana
*congratulations! you're my hundredth question!!*

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i had this amazing conversation with the guy i like online last night. we left on really good terms, and i was really happy. now we're both online again, and i wanna talk to him but i kinda wanna leave it being really good until i see him tomorrow. should i im him?

Yeah you should definitely IM him.. just make it a casual conversation though.. don't be shy just come right out and say you really enjoyed your conversation with him last night.. good luck! :)

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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I am a girl and 13 and i'm obsessed with a 41 year old actor, (Johnny Depp). Is this a bad thing to want to be with a man that much older than I am?

No no no! there's nothing wrong with that! I'm 15 and I love Johnny Depp too, and he really doesn't look 41! Plus you'll probably never meet him so it's not hurting anyone to be a little obsessed with him..

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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Well i was on the computer and i met this guy and we talked for a while and now we are going out but i have not even seen him in person and we both know we are the one for eachother but will this work out not seeing eachother for a while??? and will it work if you talk everynite 2 eachother and stuff ????? NEED HELP FAST !!! THANX

Sorry to break it to you hun, but not knowing who this guy is, or never having actually met him before, I don't think this is going to work out. Plus if you've never met him how do you know he is who he says he is? You can keep talking to him and if you want to, keep going out with him, but don't count on him being "the one." And don't go meet him anywhere alone! Be careful! And good luck!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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I didn't know what to put this under. My mom and I want to help out with the tsunami disaster by sending $, but my mom doesn't think it'll help. Like it won't be enough. What do you think? Should we send the money or no?
Thanks

Yes! definitely send money... that's a really sweet thing you're doing..Just donate it to the Red Cross. Even if all it does is get food to one person, imagine how great that is for that one person. You'd save a life! Good luck with that!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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On New Years Eve im going to my boyfriends house. I'm a virgin but that night i think i want to lose my virginity with him. I'm 14 almost 15 i know i'm young but i'm tired of being a virgin. We've only been going out for a week today but we went out for 7 months a while back. Please don't reply if your just going to call me a hoe or yell at me because i don't need that. Would i be making the wrong choice if i do? I already know about the whole getting pregnant thing im not stupid..but other than that am i making the right choice? thanks..

Hmm.. This is a tough question.. but honestly hun if you're asking us on this site if you're making the right choice.. I don't think you're ready.. You have to be comfortable with this and don't just do it cause you're tired of being a virgin.. I'm glad you know you're young so just really think about it before deciding you're ready to do this. And if you do make sure you're protected and you trust this guy... Good luck and be careful! If you need anything let me know..

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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ok i have these white dots on my nails. there in any random spot, anywhere on my nail. does anyone else have these or know what they are?? thanks

Yeah I get those too.. Basically they're just where you've hit or pinched your nail in something.. It's like a bruise only on your nail. Don't worry about it, they grow out and go away by themselves.

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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I just have a quick question, shouldn't take long.

See, I'm wanting to lose some weight in the tummy area, but... I've heard that if you work out a lot, your breast size drops. I'm a C cup, and I like it that way. Any tips on things I can do that will drop weight in the stomache and nowhere else?

Thanks!

I'm not sure where you heard that but I don't think that's true so don't worry about it... To lose fat in the stomach area do crunches. lots of crunches.. lol it'll tone your muscles up really nicely. Good luck!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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Hey, it's Siren here...my best bud and I have known each other for 13 years. We're both seniors in high school. All of a sudden, this year, I feel like we just...split. I can't talk to her about the important things in my life the way I can talk to my other friends. Like, a couple of my friends from band and I - well, I guess - bonded one night and I feel like I can talk to them more than I can talk to her, and I've only known them for 2 years. I can talk to them about things like french kissing with pop rocks (just an example, lol) and if I tried to talk to her about it, she'd just go "oh...um, okay," and change the subject or something. She's always been a little less mature than me, I suppose, even if she is a year older than me. But it's never bothered me until now. I want to be able to talk to her about these kinds of things, but I can't, and it's bothering me. Because of it, we're pretty much splitting. It really sucks because we used to be like sisters. She used to know all my secrets. Now only one person does, and it's not her. I wish it was, though. I mean, I miss being able to talk to her about anything. Help if you can?
-Siren =(

Aww.. I know how you feel! This year my best friend and I definitely started to drift too.. I really miss her but then all of a sudden- today we started hanging out again and talking, for whatever reason we kinda re-bonded.. not that i think everything's gonna change but it might be a little better now. I would talk to your friend about all this because chances are.. she's feeling the exact same way you are. A friendship goes 2 ways and I'm sure she misses you too. Don't ever let a friendship die. Good luck with that if you need anything IM me anytime!

Happy Holidays!
~Lana

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Okay well here it goes.I have a friend named Jordyn and she is a girl.Well she tells everyone everything that she hears or what you tell her.It sucks cause i really like her but i have to watch what i say around her or what happens cause she isn't also afraid to change things around and make things worse than it really is.Is this really a good friend to hang around or no?Also is this a true friend?Please help me!!
Love always,
XxshortyxX

I don't think this is a really good friend to hang out with... She doesn't really sound like a true friend either but don't judge her on just this. Sometimes friends can make mistakes. I would talk to her and find out why she does this.. is it for attention? or is she worried about people? If she doesn't change how she acts you can still stay friends but just be careful how much you tell her.

Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~Lana

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Well, my brother told me that if you put up blue christmas lights it meant that you were Jewish. So does anyone know if this is true or is my brother smoking something? Thanks!!

xo_sherry_ox
I rate 5's!

Hahaha! I've never heard that one before, so I seriously doubt it's true.. I'm Jewish just so you know. Usually if you're really Jewish you won't put up Christmas lights but I don't think blue ones symbolize that you are so don't worry about it.. lol that's great though... : )

Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~Lana

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My best friend and I like the same guy. The thing is, he is dating my best friend. But she and he both know that he likes me also. He wants to be with both of us, but I don't want to hurt my best friend so I think I should back off. What should I do?? Thanks!

Definitely back off... If they've been going out for a long time I would not try to mess things up especially if this is your best friends guy... you wouldn't want to lose a friendship over this would you? are you sure he likes both of you though? cause if that's true that's not good either... Maybe sit him down and talk to him (both you and your friend, but only if she wants to.) Nobody deserves to be lead on or used.

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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By friend at school got a boyfriend and after she got him I just started flirting with him over and over and I dont even like him not like that or anything just as a friend and my other friend lets me I really dont understand

You don't understand why you flirt with him? or why she let's you? Maybe you do like him and you don't realize it, or maybe you're jealous that she has a boyfriend. As for your friend letting you flirt with him, it could be that she's really secure with herself and she's not worried about him liking you.. or maybe she's just scared of how you'll take it if she does say something. Talk to her though and let her know you don't like her boyfriend or anything like that... That way she can't be mad at you.

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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okay, so im 13 and im really small like my body is and im only like 5"4 i weigh bout a little over 100 pounds and im not trying to be arrogant but im really fit. The only thing is my boobs are really big. I wear a D cup bra and even when i wear sports bras they like look really big anyways theres a lot of problems. Im majorly into sports and they get so much in the way and they make my back hurt really bad. Second of all I always get hit on by like way older guys and I dont want that because im a really christian person with a strong faith and its just wrong. Then theres also the problem that like a whole bunch of guys like me and the only reason is because of my boobs, and theres been like a whole bunch of rumors that i had a boob job which is NOT true at all and a lot of girls dont like me because of them because they get jealous that the guys at our school really like me even though i tell them i dont like any of them. Then i also have stretch marks and i dont know how to get rid of them??? can someone please tell me about any really good bras that will like hide them or help support them, cause ive talked to my dcotor and they just gave me this pain medicine to keep them from hurting when they put strain on my back and stuff and also to hide them from perverted guys that im tired of dealing with?? please help me

Well since you're only 13 i wouldn't suggest this yet, but in a few years, i read somewhere that people can get a breast reduction. It'll greatly help you! For the back pains maybe see a chiropractor or go talk to your doctor again... To hide them from perverted guys there's not much you can do.. except wear baggy sweatshirts and stuff.. I hope things get better for you though! and don't let those people who start rumors get you down! Hope I helped a little!

~Lana

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i think i might have breast cancer. there is a lump in my breast and i don't know how to tell my parents or my boyfriend. i dont want to go to the doctor until i am for sure that i might have it. I don't know what to do! please help me!!!

Don't wait to find out if you're sure you have it... Go get it tested right away. Wouldn't you be relieved to find out it was nothing.. (which it may be) as for telling your parents just say, you're not sure what it is but you want to have it checked out soon. They'll completely understand... but hun, go to the doctor!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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well every year i have a choice if i want to go to tennessee for christmas to visit my family. its my one chance to go 2 states away.... to get away from all my problems and to really just think. but i would be gone for 2 weeks, including christmas and new years. the problem is.... i dont want to leave my boyfriend. i love him and i have never spent new years eve with a guy and i want to spend it with him. i want to start out the new year with him. hes having a new years eve party too...and his family is having a christmas eve party and everyone brings their gfs and bfs and he wants me to go, but i cant if im in tennessee. i cant choose to go or stay. he is telling me to go so i can think and have time to myself and get away from all my problems for a while. but i would miss him SOOOO much and i dont know if i should go or stay.... what should i do?

Maybe you could go to Tennessee for one week instead of 2.. you'd miss your bf's Christmas party, but you'd get to see your family for part of the holidays, and you'd be back in time for New Years... I don't know if that will work for you but I hope I helped a little!

~Lana

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I'm a 13 grl and I'm really self concious about my body. I always think I'm fat but my friends say I'm not.. But I think they r just being nice.. I've thought about becoming anerexic. I know how it hurts ur body and stuff but I dont care. I've eaten less in tha last few days. Am i becoming anerexic? How do you know if you are?

Well the first step is that you're coming on here and asking, because you think you are... that's a sign.. I don't think there's a sure way to know if you are but I would definitely talk to a parent, counselour ,a friend, anyone! Just tell them what you said here... They'll be happy you came for help and will support you..

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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I am 14, in ninth grade, and I am female.

Okay, first I'm going to give a little backround information.

I had a boyfriend that tried to cheat on me with his ex girlfriend. I knew that I couldn't trust him ever again, so I broke up with him yesterday. Don't worry, I feel really good about it.

Well, a few days ago, I found out from one of my friends that another friend of mine, Ricky, likes me. At first, I wasn't sure I could trust the friend that told me, T.J., because T.J. is weird like that. Then, my best friend Megan told me yesterday that Ricky has liked me for a long time.

My question is, is it okay to go ahead and date Ricky so soon after dumping my previous boyfriend?

~ClarinetKtM

Yes that's awesome! Especially if you like Ricky back! go for it then.. and if anyone says anything, explain that your ex was cheating on you and you've liked Ricky for awhile so you were really happy to find out he liked you back. I wouldn't worry about it as long as you feel you're ready.

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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