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Hi I'm 13/f
Ok first i wanna say that my mom is one of those old fashioned moms and she thinks that tampons "pop your cherry". I strongly disagree with her. so i Googled it, and what do i see? A bunch of girls saying the same thing! So i guess what I'm asking is how do I tell my mom that what she thinks is not true?
Thanks to any answers in advice!
Why do you disagree? What is your definition of "popping your cherry"..? Simply means breaking your hymen.. which tampons can certainly do.
In all honesty, I wouldn't worry about tampons for a little while. You're only 13 and they can be quite tricky for first starters. Finding ones with the right absorbancy, application, the comfort side of things.. and the big deal - Toxic Shock Syndrome. You can die from TSS.
Your mother is probably trying to prevent unecessary problems.
You've got all the time in the world to try them, so don't sweat it. :)
Theres this boy in my class that is so disgusting and peverted.He is always harassing me and doesn't know how to keep his hands to himself.He would touch me wrong then say oops i'm sorry.He would say things like I know you like me becuase last night you were loving it when we had sex.I've never had sex and I dont plan to what is wrong with him and hes made cry before becuase he did something to me that I can never say.Please help.What do I do about him?
-Alexa
I'm not sure if you understand the severity of this problem. You need to tell someone immediately to put and end to it.
My boyfriend is very controlling. He is upset that i dated a lot of men in the past. He calls me all kinds of bad names, yells at me, says my children should know what kind of person i really am. I told him i do not like it at all. he's been doing this for 5 months. I am fed up, told him to get out. Now he's changed he's really nice. i keep telling him he'll go back to his old ways he says no. He has no place to go, i tell him we are over however i feel really bad if he ends up sleeping in his turck. Every time i go to kick him out he says i'm going to sleep in a park or in my truck. I feel so bad and take him back, i just can't get over all the bad names he's called me. I don't go anywere because if i do he'll ask me a 10000 questions as to what i did or where did i go.
You're in an abusive relationship hun. The longer you let this man manipulate you, the harder it gets to leave, believe me.
It's really not a healthy environment for you and your kids and you're right.. he won't get better long term without professional help. Aside from jealousy and a spiteful tongue, is he angry? Tell him to get some professional help or he can say goodbye to what he has, because quite frankly, you deserve better.
well what if a guy has the balls to go flirt with another girl and hold her hand while you were dating him and trys to ignore you , is he trying to get me to dump him! >:(
Probably. That's no way to treat a lady anyway. Dump his ass and get a decent guy.
18/f
why do i feel the need to do my hair and makeup again? i stopped when i was 16. now i see all these girls and i feel intimidated because i dont really do anything but apply a little mascara. i want to be happy when i look in the mirror, but im not. i dont understand why because i should be happy. i want to dye my hair, but i know this is just going to lead to temporarily happiness.
Never, ever be intimidated by girls plastering on their make up - once removed, they won't look anything like they do with it all on. Quite sad how people feel the need to change themselves like that, with all the fake eyelashes every day etc. Sure, it's good to dress up once in a while, but every day, all that pore clogging is doing noone any favours.
I reckon you're just bored. You're fed up of looking at yourself in the mirror every day and seeing the same old you. I do it sometimes, too.
Change something about yourself. Maybe a hair cut. You mentioned you wanted to dye your hair - do it. Change is good sometimes.
Instead of worrying about make up, why don't you buy yourself a tinted moisturiser. It makes your skin have a gorgeous, healthy, natural glow. Then apply a touch of blusher over the top. Sorted! You won't need a shovel to get it off and you'll look natural and radiant.
You need to be comfy in your own skin, hun. Not a fake mask of make up like a lot of girls out there.
Ok so like I haven't pooped in like.....4 days....is that normal and when does it become NOT good. Is that when you haven't in 8 days or something. Just curious. I know this is totally TMI and everything but uh...I usually poop 4 days apart. I just wanted to know.
Everyone is different.
Some people go once or more a day - others go a few times a week.
How is your diet? Try eating more fibre, veg and fruit if you don't already eat enough, to see if it changes anything.
It wouldn't hurt to also consult a doctor just to double check everything is in good working condition :)
i like a guy who has been in a relationship with another girl for two and half years. he says they are done but last week over fall break he went nine hours to see her, has pictures of them everywhere, constantly texting her, etc. he shows signs of liking me but i do not know how real it is because we never really hang out unless he wants me to spend the night with him (we never do anything) and seldom texting. what should i do? quit trying? give him space? keep trying?
Been there, done that.. and let me tell you, it's not pretty.
If he didn't want his girlfriend, he would just break up with her - it's that simple.
What it sounds like he's doing is having you as a back up, y'know, just incase things get messy with his own relationship - he will always have you to fall back on. You don't want that. You don't want to be someones bit on the side for when he's bored.
If he wanted you, he would be with you.
Definitely move on. Yes, it's gonna be hard if you have feellings for him, but you deserve better. You deserve a boy you can call your own.
i just found out that i am preganet my last menstrual cycle was aug 31st to sept 5. i cant remember if i slept with the other guy the week of my period or the week before my period. and i splet with my boyfriend they week i should have been ovulation confussed is there any chance the other guy can be the father i am about 8 weeks preganant
If you can't remember, how is anyone meant to give you advice?
I hate to say it hun, but there's a possibility it can be either guy.
You will need to do a test to determine who the actual father is.
Sorry no further help can be given in this situation. :(
I hope everything turns out the way you want it to.
Yesterday was my Sweet Sixteen and I was so nervous the whole day that my stomach was hurting. While I was dancing, I was sweating and felt like my underwear was wet. So I went to the bathroom and my mom asked if I peed myself and I said no! So then she said that it could have been sweat. I can't stop thinking about it. What do you think it could have been?!?!
Have you ever had a problem with urinating before? If not, you would probably notice if it was pee!
Off the top of my head, maybe it actually was sweat. What were you wearing? Certain clothing makes you sweat more.
Another thing is discharge, your vaginas natural lubrication.. depending on the times of the month, you sometimes get more than normal, which isn't anything to worry about, it's just a little uncomfortable.
I wouldn't stress about it if I were you, unless it keeps happening - then, you will need to pinpoint what it is.
Oh.. and happy belated birthday!
How do i shrink the outter lips of my vagina? I believe they are called "Labia". Is their any natural way to make them smaller or just surgery?
Why would you want to do that? They all come in different shapes and sizes, it's natural. You should learn to be happy with what you have.
but in regards to your question, the only way to "shrink" them would be to have surgery.
Why do I throw up when I'm on my period?
I've thrown up a few times, because of the pain. Luckily it's not that extreme every month!
Sadly, some people do experience this when on their period - Do you feel yours are rather heavy? Do you get other bad symptoms, such as hot flushes which can make you feel sick?
Either way, you should visit your doctor - you don't have to suffer with it. :)
15/f
I've dyed my hair a few times in the past, but I've rarely bleached it. Colour seems to show up very well despite my dark hair. Now I really want to dye it red but I'm worried about bleaching it again. Should I?
What condition is your hair in at the minute? I advise you to go to a reputable hairdressers and check. I know people who bleach their hair blonde every month and its absolutely fine.. Then again, I know people who have done it once and come out worse off.
It all depends on the condition your hair is in and what you do to it every day to style it.
Either way, consult a specialist. and have them dye it too if you go ahead with it.
If you can't decide whether you're going to like it, why don't you do it to a bit of your hair first. Like flashes. and see how it looks.
Okaaay , so i am 15 years oldd. I live in Floridaa . I have been with my Boyfriendd for a year & i cant figure out the Law for thiss. If you are Dating & both parents knoe & agree is it still consdered Illegall ?!
Both parents approving doesn't change the fact you're still a minor, so it's still considered illegal until you're of age.
can a 43 year old man turn into a woman?
If it's what you want, then yes. It's advised you talk about it with a doctor, who will guide you and tell you the pros and cons of the process of a male your age and point you in the right direction of starting the change.
what can i do to prevent my face from getting oily throughout the day? i wear a loose powder oil free foundation, but at school by around third period my face is super shiny and its AWFUL. does anyone have any ways to prevent and any quick fixes for my oily skin problem?
Next time you go shopping, look out for shine control blotting paper. You basically rub it over the oily area and it absorbs it, leaving a lovely matt finish on your skin. You can use them whenever you want and they're completely hassle/mess free.
If you have trouble finding them (they can be in the make up/skin area of the store) ask a worker!
i gave my boyfriend head he put his semen all over my chest, alot of it. i took it all with my hand and inserted the semen into my vagina, what is my chance of getting pregnant?
By you "inserting" it into your vagina, I'm assuming you want to become pregnant?.. As yes, you can become pregnant by doing so.
Sperm coming into contact with your vagina like that can always lead to pregnancy.
Do guys think about the girl they are cuddling with. Like, do they always want to have sex with the girl they cuddle with?
No two boys are ever the same.. So this question won't have a correct answer.
I've cuddled with guys just for a cuddle. (No other feelings from either party apart from good friends)
Some boys will have more feelings for the girl they are cuddling and yeah, they probably will want sex sometimes with said girl.
Don't assume that just cos they are cuddling a girl that they want sex, though.
My vagina smells disgusting. I'm clean, I shower everyday but it seems like an hour after I shower the smell just comes right back and its really strong i can smell it through my pants and it leaves my pants smelling gross and I can smell it throughout the day and it makes me feel so self-conscious. I know vaginas aren't supposed to smell like roses but mine is just out of control. I know there's douching but I heard that causes infections. Is there anything I can do?
Has it always been this way? Maybe you already have a slight infection/imbalance in your vagina. Something so simple, like using soap down there can cause it. Go to a doctor to rule out BV and other causes. Note that they won't go away on their own and will need treatment.
I'm just trying to prove a point to my boyfriend, it's NOT attractive when guys fart correct?
I understand it's natural and sometimes cannot be helped, but from a girls point of view, it's definitely not attractive and when done on purpose, really immature and down right rude!
17/f , I'm kind of a hairy girl and I have been made fun of for it almost my whole life. When I was 15, I started shaving EVERYTHING including my legs, arms, underarms, and stomach. Now, I completely regret it because it's growing back too thick and feels gross when my boyfriend touches me. I want to stop shaving my stomach, but the hairs grow back disgustingly, noticeably thick . Is there anyway i can make them thinner or less noticeable?
Shaving is a quick way to get rid of hair, but it just grows back too quick. I've never noticed mine to come back thicker though, I assumed that was an old wives tale - are you sure it's not just the way the hair is growing which is making it appear thicker? Perhaps you're shaving the wrong way?
Either way, alternatives to shaving which you'd be better off doing are waxing, bleaching, or hair removal cream.